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IT'S ME, THOR. I'M BACK!

Saturday, February 27, 2010

Hi there everyone. I know you all missed me over the last two weeks. Thanks for the cards and notes! emoticon I know you love me so that's cool.

Well, you guessed it. I went for a ride with Daddy last night. Mom was sneaky about getting me into my taxi this time. I didn't even see where she was carrying me too until it was too late. I'll get her later. Mom didn't go with me last week and Dad said I did well and didn't put up much of a fight and that I was quiet to and from Dr. Gail's. Of course I was quiet. I was trying to disappear. Then someone got the bright idea that maybe Mom was transferring her anxiety on to me. Humans can do that, you know. Yea, I think she does that 'cause she loves me soooo much. I'm her baby. ( I know Daddy loves me too but he doesn't baby me as much as Mom does. ) Anyway. my blood sugar last week was 345. That was my first week on the new insulin called Pro-Zinc. I was only on 2 units twice a day. So we didn't think that was too bad for me. So we upped the insulin to 3 units twice a day.

Ok, about last night's report. My sugar was 344...at least it was down a point. So we are going to 4 units twice a day. Dr. Gail wants to check me every week which in my case is on Friday's, to make sure I don't get too much of a build up of the insulin in my system all at once because this is a slow-acting insulin. I yelled this time. My friend Nick wasn't there and Dr. Gail and Louise took my blood. They sent Daddy out of the room. I missed Nick.

Oh, the other night I scared Mom real bad. I didn't know it would scare her. When she was on the other side of the living room, I began to drink from her glass of Chocolate milk that was on her table by her chair. Well, she stopped me from doing that real quick when she saw what I was doing. Darn it...it was sooo good too. But Mom said I could die from chocolate. Well, as you can see, I didn't. She said she'll be watching more carefully now when she has something on her table. Another time I sniffed at Daddy's club soda. Nothin' in it but ice. No lemon. Oh well, he didn't let me drink from his glass. Oh well. Guess I have to stick to plain water.

Well, that's all for now folks. Have a great weekend and be extra kind to your furry friends. and babies. Yes, I mean those things called DOGS too. I had one visit me not too long ago and he was really ok. He stayed in his Mommy's lap and I laid on the floor.

Love,
Thor emoticon

  
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VICKIEALEXANDER 3/5/2010 4:00PM

    Hang in there Thor, I Hope the insulin starts to help. Smokey, here, I am one rambunctious, wild eastern forest lovin' fool. Do you get snow in the winter? I do, and I really don't mind. I love being outside even if its darn cold. Vickie can't keep me inside in fact, because I insist. I go in and out the living room window. I guess I am looking for my buddies outsides sometimes. They come in all sizes and shapes around here. Including coyotes and bears and hungry racoons... I have had a couple scrapes or two but I have recovered. Vickie can't keep a collar on me cause I figured out how to get out of them . Number three collar is gone already, LOL. Hehehe, well I admit, its tough outside with bears and mountain lions, bobcats and ornery raccoons, but I will not let that stop me. Sometimes I come back abit tore up and although Momma Vickie would insist, I make horrendous yowls and drive her nuts. I am too hyper to just be a housecat. I love it..... outside and inside she is there when I want to be at home..... I know, I know, I am a rascal, but she loves me even if she has to tell me to shut up sometimes when SHE knows I better stay inside for a couple days, and I try to win her over, being as annoying as possible. She shares her yogurt with me and her eggs. I like that. She knows I have no problem crossing the cold creeks, its just went things start melting and the warmer air calls all bears and coyotes and wolves to start moving again that I really worry her. Guess you can call me Crazy.... you can't keep me inside.
Well, I don't like big trucks I can tell ya that, last year, early spring, I crawled in to the engine of one and ended up taking a ride down the highway. Momma Vickie thought I was dead and gone that time. I managed to walk home, it took 4 months, and I was eating everything and hunting and killing and eating raw meat on that journey. I saw her jaw dropped to the floor when she spotted me sittin on the window sill. I was home. Don't ever crawl into an engine to get warm, or you might take an unwanted trip too. ( It had been warm and everything was smelling like spring when I went out that day, but the night time temps dropped like a rock, so I found a truck that was resting on the side of the road..............oops!!!!)
I was pretty lean and mean when I got back, it took a few weeks to trust Vickies hands and kindness again, but ohhhh I was glad to be home. I still go outside, but I stay away from the trucks now..... just hearing them gives me the shivers now.
Just don't put your chef salad down, its fair game I say!
( Never tried chocolate milk, but my mom agrees, its not good for me. )
I may sure and show up for good cat food, I love egg powder or real egg mixed in some canned food. I can't wait til mom is catching fish again. I do plan to get my share, I can tell you that, and I promise to make sure Mom knows I am ok pretty regularly now. She does worry but she understands, I am like Daniel Boone and I love the wilderness outside. I will never be just a housecat.


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KITTYSPARK 2/28/2010 11:57PM

    Thor I hope your insulin works for you, Miss Kitty and I will prayer for you that it will work. Liz

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LINDAGRAVEL 2/28/2010 8:18PM

    Thor I hope your insulin works for you. emoticon

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TEDDYBEARGIRL 2/28/2010 7:44PM

    Hi Thor, I hope your new insuline begins to work for you!!!!

I see you have been pretty sneaky as well....good boy keeping your mom on her toes LOL

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GRASSHOPPAHHH 2/28/2010 4:12PM

    Hi Thor! Hugs to you from Chauncey and Sis!

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NEWLIBRARIAN 2/28/2010 8:21AM

    Hey Thor. Hadn't heard from you for a while. Glad to hear things are going good. I hope that pesky blood sugar is in good control soon. I am still on an other induced diet and it makes me crabby sometimes. I bit moms foot the other morning and she was angry so I have laid off that. I didn't bite her hard just was telling her to hurry up and feed me.
I think I have some more energy now and I can go up in the high window and look out. Maybe I have lost weight and maybe it's ok.
Your friend, Abby Cat emoticon

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WINDSONG~ 2/28/2010 5:13AM

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MOMMA_BEAR_69 2/28/2010 2:51AM

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Was happy to hear from you Thor. Continue drinking that fresh water...leave the chocolate milk to mommy and me. I sure hope the new insulin works for you.
Blessings and hugs,
Helen

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ANGELBELIEVER 2/27/2010 11:32PM

    Thor thanks everyone for your comments and encouragement. He loves all of you very meowy much.

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2CATS2LOVE1 2/27/2010 11:13PM

    So good hearing from you Thor and that you are so dearly loved!! Ebony gets spoiled a lot too; I think he expects it now. Lol. He likes half 'n half. Imagine! Timon will drink milk sometimes but he doesn't like it all that much. Hugs to you!!
Diane,
Timon &
Ebony emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MILLISMA 2/27/2010 10:38PM

    Poor Thor. Ms Molly and PolyDactyl are sending you hugs. They wanted to send the message but PolyD has big feet from all those toes and Ms Molly just can't type. Hope that things settle down for you. Ms Molly has been on PZI and I couldn't tell you what the difference is in insulin.

By the way....no more chocolate milk!

purrs and meows

Ms Molly and PolyD emoticon emoticon

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SLENDERELLA61 2/27/2010 8:25PM

    Thor is just adorable. So good of him to share his story. He's lucky to have concerned human parents to care for him. Sure hope his sugar comes down. Take care of yourself as well as Thor. Regards, Marsha

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PEPPERLEAH 2/27/2010 8:17PM

    Thor, I am glad that you are doing so well. I know how disappointing it was for you not to have that chocolate milk, or club soda. Sometimes things just don't seem fair, do they? Well, I know that YOU know that your Mom and Dad are just being so protective of you because you are their baby, and they love you.

Sorry Nick wasn't there; hopefully he will be waiting for you next time.

Take good care of yourself, and be sure to tell your Mom hello from me!

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MARIADALE 2/27/2010 8:08PM

    hor tell mommy that chocolate milk is not good for any of us!

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STARKCOUNTYGAL 2/27/2010 3:10PM

    Hi Thor, this is Mollie emoticon and Sam emoticon is here too,we are so glad you are feline (feeling) better!!

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LACEEJO11 2/27/2010 1:52PM

   

Hi there our fur buddy, from across the miles!! We have missed you fellow, and are so happy to see you are still in the battle!! Never give up big fellow, we love you MEOWY much, and you have a lot of fans who are pulling for you!! Hey, stay in touch and keep your paws busy, as they tell us that is how to keep fit and trim!!
WE LOVE YA...

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F8CONE8 2/27/2010 12:21PM

    Glad to see you are back and doing OK. Hugs to your mom.

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UGOGIRL51 2/27/2010 11:25AM

    Bradley here Thor emoticon

emoticon....We just love our mommies so much because they are so soft, warm, cuddling and give us special treats..... emoticon

I'm going to the groomers today to get the full works....I just hate it when all my hair just grows up in between my toes... emoticon And because I'm so special, ms kathy is giving my mommy a 25% off coupon too... emoticon

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SUSMAX 2/27/2010 11:16AM

    Glad you are back thor.

Ravioli had to take one of those rides a little bit ago. He has an auricular hematoma...which means his ear looks like a balloon! The dr. gave him medicine, and he will be ok, but his ear is going to be what they call a cauliflower ear. We told him he will still be handsome to us!

Keep doing well and giving us reports!

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Quote Of The Week

Monday, February 22, 2010

I get these weekly and thought this was very good this week. It can work for anyone..whether in a 12-Step program or not. Many of us reach our " bottoms" when we decide it's time to lose weight and get healthy. Hope you enjoy this.

February 22, 2010

Quote of the Week From 12 Step Rooms.

"When you get to your wit's end, you'll find that God lives there."

Before recovery, when I got to the bottom I just moved over and started digging another hole. I would leave jobs, relationships, and even states looking for a different solution. I didn't have a God in my life, so there was no turning it over. It wasn't until I had broken my shovel and hit my final bottom that I was ready to admit complete defeat.

When I came into the rooms, I heard a lot about God. I didn't like it. I had given up on Him a long time ago, and I was sure He had deserted me. What I came to find out was that God was always there to help me when I hit bottom. What I also learned, years later, was that He was there for me all along - I just had to ask for help sooner.

What I now know is that I don't have to wait until I'm at my wit's end to reach out and get help from God. He lives in me and is with me every step of the way. The key that opens the lock is and always has been willingness. And today, I'm much more willing to be willing.

Today, I know I don't have to reach my wit's end to find out where God lives.

  
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NEXTYEAR 2/25/2010 4:03PM

    Lovely post! emoticon emoticon

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GGMOM06 2/24/2010 8:11PM

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SANNJI 2/24/2010 4:38PM

    Thanks Elayne...our God is truly GREAT!

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UGOGIRL51 2/24/2010 10:35AM

    emoticon Elayne for reminding us of this... emoticon

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SILVERUNICORN15 2/23/2010 9:57AM

    Aren't we so lucky that God is willing to wait for us to understand the need for him in our lives?

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PEPPERLEAH 2/23/2010 12:45AM

    This is beautiful. Thank you so much for posting it.

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TEDDYBEARGIRL 2/23/2010 12:12AM

    Thanks for this! I know God is there at the bottom with me but my problem is I keep picking up the shovel again to dig that pit a bit deeper....I wish God would take that shovel from my hands once and for all but I know He cant take it, it is I who has to hand it to Him.

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NEWLIBRARIAN 2/22/2010 10:40PM

    Nice Thank you!

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YAFENELRA 2/22/2010 7:57PM

    God was there all along!!

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LINDAGRAVEL 2/22/2010 7:30PM

    Very inspirational. emoticon

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SUNNYARIZONA 2/22/2010 6:05PM

    God IS ALWAYS there, always caring, always loving us. WE are His KIDS!!!!!

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LADYNETTIE 2/22/2010 5:41PM

    I had never heard this one before. Thanks for sharing and hugs to you for pulling yourself up out of those darn holes emoticon emoticon

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WILLOW49 2/22/2010 5:25PM

    I love this! Thanks so much for sharing :)

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SLENDERELLA61 2/22/2010 5:15PM

    Very appropriate. Inspirational! Best to you. -Marsha

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MILLISMA 2/22/2010 5:00PM

    You are such an inspiration! Thank you for sharing.

Mary Anne emoticon

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I HAVE OLYMPIC FEVER!

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Hi everyone. I don't know about you, but I have Olympic Fever! I am told this fever lasts almost 2 weeks. There is no cure for it until the day after Feb. 21 when the closing ceremony is over. The treatment is painless though. I have to submerge myself into the activities and games all afternoon and again in Prime Time at night from 8 pm to 11:30 and sometimes later. I seem to catch this Fever every two years without fail. It happens for both the Winter games and the Summer games. I hope they never find a cure for it because this is one Fever I don't mind catching at all.

Why am I telling you this? Because my time on the computer goes down considerable. I just wanted you to know why I'm not quite as active. I try and get the posts I post daily done on my teams, but depending on what else is going in my life and what I have to get done in the mornings, I sometimes don't make it on at all. Please forgive me for my obsession and lympic Fever. It won't last forever! emoticon

  
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LADYNETTIE 2/22/2010 7:34PM

    I have it too! I park myself on my bed at 8pm and watch until I fall asleep every night. It doesn't matter which events are on, I am fascinated by all of them! I have a laptop so can keep up with SP at the same time emoticon

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SZNN4570 2/18/2010 9:38AM

    Enjoy the Games! I prefer the Winter Games to the summer events.

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FIGHT2SURVIVE 2/18/2010 2:35AM

    I like the winter games. I especially like to watch Shawn White on snowboarding. Our 9 year old great niece has a serious crush on him. I like ski jumping and the down hill and of course, ice skating. I don't follow the summer Olympics as much since it's also baseball season.
Erin

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KBUCKMASH 2/17/2010 4:18PM

    I have the fever too but this year I have had to ignore it. Have had too many scheduling conflicts. Most of the time when I can watch, the TV that can be seen from the computer is being controlled by the hubby and he does not have the fever.

Think I just created a parallel between wanting to watch the Olympics and us eating what we want and what we should eat! Just a manner of setting priorities.
emoticon emoticon emoticonwhere are the ice skates!

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SJG1953 2/16/2010 11:28PM

    Enjoy yourself Elayne.

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NEWLIBRARIAN 2/16/2010 10:20PM

    Enjoy the olympics but we will be missing you and Thor

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GABY1948 2/16/2010 9:39PM

    You're right...it won't last forever...so definitely enjoy it!
Gaye

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PEPPERLEAH 2/16/2010 9:29PM

    Enjoy! You deserve it!

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LINDAGRAVEL 2/16/2010 9:17PM

    I love to watch the olympics the only trouble is they are on 3 or 4 channels at a time.

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MKROSSMAN78 2/16/2010 7:59PM

    My sleep time keeps getting less & less these last few nights. Seems like I keep wanting to just see the end of the next race or next performance. Really not good that the late night coverage lasts til 3am here in MN, but its only another 12 days so I should make it.

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GGMOM06 2/16/2010 6:46PM

    My tv is next to my pc/but i do watch other stuff too,then check in to see who won.

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GRANDMA442 2/16/2010 4:45PM

    I have it too! But I am not getting enough sleep!

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GOSPELCLOWN 2/16/2010 2:45PM

    Oh that Olympic fever! It can get into your bones and keep you up too late at night.
Watch out for the second wave of that fever. Just when you think you are over it, there is the second incubation that can catch you totally off guard...

The 2010 Winter Paralympics, officially known as the X Paralympic Winter Games, will be celebrated in Vancouver and Whistler, British Columbia between March 12 to March 21, 2010. The Opening Ceremony will take place in BC Place Stadium, Vancouver, British Columbia.

2010 will be the second time Canada has hosted the Paralympic Games, following the 1976 Summer Paralympics in Toronto.

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MARIADALE 2/16/2010 12:38PM

    Enjoy, it is history in the making

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TEDDYBEARGIRL 2/16/2010 12:38PM

    I too have the Olympic feaver!

I need to go back and read your past blogs as Sparks stoped sending me emails when you post a blog....I see Sparks has stopped sending me many of my subscribed to blogs from several people and when they do this it frustrates me as I now have to spend alot of time searching for missed blogs from people I read all the time and with the Olympics on my computer time is way down too LOL

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UGOGIRL51 2/16/2010 11:41AM

    Forgiven... emoticon Now for give me for I have the same thing... emoticon

Annette emoticon

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WILLOW49 2/16/2010 11:32AM

    I'm right there with you! Love the Winter Olympics and catch as much as possible. I still get my exercise in...while watching the Olympics!

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MILLISMA 2/16/2010 10:59AM

    I totally understand!

Mary Anne emoticon emoticon

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MOMMA_BEAR_69 2/16/2010 10:29AM

    I love the Winter Olympics but don't have a lot of time to watch them, so I catch what I can. ENJOY them!!
Blessings and hugs,
Helen

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SUNNYARIZONA 2/16/2010 10:22AM

    I am not sure what Olympic fever is....I assume, you are hooked on the games. I do not have time to be into that. I love skating, and will watch that, but all the rest...I would rather be out hiking!

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NEXTYEAR 2/16/2010 9:56AM

    I love the Winter Olympics especially!

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THE YEAR 1909

Saturday, February 13, 2010

This is so interesting. My Mom sent it to me. Enjoy--Elayne

This will boggle your mind, I know it did mine!
The year is 1909.
What a difference a century makes!
Here are some statistics for the Year 1909 :
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The average life expectancy was 47 years.
Fuel for the 1090 Ford car was sold in drug stores only
Only 14 percent of the homes had a bathtub.
Only 8 percent of the homes had a telephone.
There were only 8,000 cars and only 144 miles
Of paved roads.
The maximum speed limit in most cities was 10 mph.
The tallest structure in the world was the Eiffel Tower!
The average wage in 1909 was 22 cents per hour.
The average worker made between $200 and $400 per year ..
A competent accountant could expect to earn $2000 per year,
A dentist $2,500 per year, a veterinarian between $1,500 and $4,000 per year, and a mechanical engineer about $5,000 per year.
More than 95 percent of all births took place at HOME .
Ninety percent of all doctors had NO COLLEGE EDUCATION!
Instead, they attended so-called medical schools, many of which
Were condemned in the press AND the government as 'substandard. '
Sugar cost four cents a pound.
Eggs were fourteen cents a dozen.
Coffee was fifteen cents a pound.
Most women only washed their hair once a month, and used
Borax or egg yolks for shampoo.
Canada passed a law that prohibited poor people from
Entering into their country for any reason.
Five leading causes of death were:
1. Pneumonia and influenza
2. Tuberculosis
3. Diarrhea
4. Heart disease
5. Stroke
The American flag had 45 stars.
The population of Las Vegas, Nevada, was only 30!!!!
Crossword puzzles, canned beer, and iced tea Hadn't been invented yet.
There was no Mother's Day or Father's Day.
Two out of every 10 adults couldn't read or write and
Only 6 percent of all Americans had graduated from high school..
Marijuana, heroin, and morphine were all available over the counter at the local corner drugstores. Back then pharmacists said, 'Heroin clears the complexion, gives buoyancy to the mind,regulates the stomach and bowels, and is, in fact, a perfect guardian of health'
( Shocking? DUH! )
Eighteen percent of households had at least one full-time servant or domestic help..
There were about 230 reported murders in the ENTIRE ! U.S.A.!
Plus one more sad thought; 95 percent of the taxes we have now did not exist in 1909
I am now going to forward this to someone else
without typing it myself.
From there, it will be sent to others
all over the WORLD - all in a matter of seconds!
Try to imagine what it may be like in another 100 years.

  
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POOH_BEAR_69 2/14/2010 7:59PM

    VERY interesting... I would not have survived without ICED TEA!!! Of course... If you didn't know that you were missing something, then maybe you wouldn't miss it... Worth pondering...

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SJG1953 2/14/2010 12:34AM

    I enjoyed reading this. Thank you for sharing. It is very interesting.

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LINDAGRAVEL 2/13/2010 6:07PM

    Thanks for sharing

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WILLOW49 2/13/2010 2:52PM

    So interesting! Thanks for posting ;)

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GRANDMA442 2/13/2010 1:57PM

    I love reading stuff like this! I remember when we were first married I thought that is we had $10000 a year we would be all set! I sure am old! Tahnks for sharing! emoticon

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NEXTYEAR 2/13/2010 12:58PM

    Thanks for the interesting facts.

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UGOGIRL51 2/13/2010 11:19AM

    emoticon FOR SHARING THAT emoticon INFORMATION WITH US. IT WAS emoticon emoticon

OH...ALSO THANK YOUR MOM FOR SHARING IT WITH YOU FOR ME... emoticon

ANNETTE emoticon

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MARIADALE 2/13/2010 10:55AM

    thanks for sharing

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FLMOMX2 2/13/2010 10:49AM

    Fascinating. Thanks for sharing

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SUNNYARIZONA 2/13/2010 10:46AM

    The bit about Pharmacist promoting Heroin then, does not surprise me, in the fact, if a Dr. had only gone to a SUB standard medical school....you wonder what the Pharmicist schooling was. TODAY, THEY have the education of a medical Dr.!!!

As for Taxes....one thing we came to this country to escape was being taxed to death. Interesting, how Man never learns!!!

One thing left out, was the fact that NONE OF US could pass the TESTING they gave kids to graduate from GRAMMAR school!!! THEY were NOT as hard for them as for us!!!!

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BONNIE627 2/13/2010 10:38AM

    I always find these things interesting.. only thing was it was just as hard on them to survive then as it is now on the money front.. LOL my mom always said if dad made 50 cents an hour then that is what it took to live and if he made 3.00 an hour that is what it took to live..seems you live on what is available no matter how much it is..
the average speed of 10 miles per hour was much safer though.. LOL

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PEPPERLEAH 2/13/2010 10:37AM

    I love reading facts like this! What changes we have gone through in a hundred years.

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LADYIRISH317 2/13/2010 10:17AM

    My guess would be that there were 230 murders that were discovered. Detection and crime fighting have come a long way, too.

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JENN21404 2/13/2010 9:52AM

    This really opens your eyes doesn't it?!? Thanks for sharing!

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A GOOD VALENTINE MESSAGE

Friday, February 12, 2010

When Your Heart Longs to be Romanced
Cindi McMenamin

Let me guess. You are a woman who doesn't look forward to Valentine's Day! Whether you are single and without a special someone in your life, or married and tired of being disappointed from unmet expectations on the "Day of Romance," you are not alone.

Surveys show that countless women feel frustrated every year and let down on February 14th primarily because of unmet expectations. Women look for expressions of love that will meet their preconceived romantic notions. And many times, even well-intentioned men can't possibly compete.

In a recent study of what makes married women happy, it was found that the biggest predictor of women's happiness is their husband's emotional engagement. The extent to which he is affectionate, to which he is empathetic, to which he is basically tuned into his wife was the most important factor in predicting the wife's happiness. The study also found "if the wife had to choose between having a husband who is taking half the housework and having a husband who is really making a conscious, deliberate effort to focus emotionally on his wife, the emotional focus is much more likely to be a paramount concern."

That speaks volumes of what women want and expect. And men, who tend to be more action-oriented in how they show their love (by helping with the chores, repairing the garage door, and bringing home a paycheck) can miss the mark with us when it comes to trying to express their affections on Valentine's Day, or any time, for that matter.

That said, fulfilling a woman's idea of romance is not something most men, in particular, specialize in. In fact, many men struggle with how to convey their feelings in a way that their wives or girlfriends will understand and appreciate. And often times, what they think will impress you, doesn't.

But what if this year you took the man in your life off the hook? What if this year you focused not on your expectations or the disappointment that the "Day of Romance" tends to bring, but on the Author of Romance, Himself, and what He's been trying to show you day in and day out about how cherished you are in His sight? In other words, what if this year you looked to God to meet your expectations first and then let the man in your life (if you have one) do what he can and see it as an added bonus?

For instance, look at the tender words God says, in His Word, to and about His people:

• He calls you unforgettable: "Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! (Isaiah 49:15).

• He says He has always loved you and always will: "...I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving-kindness" (Jeremiah 31:3).

• He calls Himself your Husband: "For your Maker is your husband - the Lord Almighty is his name - the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth. The Lord will call you back as if you were a wife deserted and distressed in spirit..." (Isaiah 54:5-6a).

• He says His love for you is greater than anything you'll ever find on this earth: "Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends" (John 15:13). And then Jesus did just that -- He laid down His life for you...one He calls "friend."

• He promises He'll never leave you: "...Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you" (Hebrews 13:5b).

• He assures you in His Word that He has chosen you as His own: "For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight..." (Ephesians 1:4).

• He assures you in His Word that nothing will be able to separate you from His ever-pursuing love: "... neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord" (Romans 8:39).

Reading verses like that, over and over, is like re-reading portions of a love letter that resonates with our hearts. And when our emotional tank is filled - by recognizing that we are valuable, loved and pursued in the sight of an all-knowing, all-loving God - we can then receive whatever our husband or boyfriend has to offer as the "cherry on top." Or, if nothing else is offered us, we still know we are loved and we are more able and stable to deal with whatever does - or does not - come our way.

So go boldly into Valentine's Day this year, my friend, and celebrate it because of how loved and cherished you are in the eyes of the Living God. And if you have a husband or boyfriend who makes an attempt that isn't quite to your expectations, thank God for him and bless him anyway. Your "True Husband" will be watching!

February 9, 2010

Cindi McMenamin is a national speaker and the author of several books, including 'Letting God Meet Your Emotional Needs' and 'When Women Walk Alone.' For more on her Southern California-based ministry, see her website: www.StrengthForThe Soul.com

  
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TEDDYBEARGIRL 2/16/2010 12:51PM

    Amen!!!!!

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HICALGAL 2/14/2010 3:49AM

    thanks for sharing! happy valentine's day! emoticon emoticon

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SZNN4570 2/13/2010 8:56AM

    Thanks for sharing!

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GABY1948 2/13/2010 7:57AM

    A beautiful and totally true blog. I could go on and on about it but I would be repeating what LaceEjo11 said. We are NEVER alone if Jesus is our Lord and Savior!
Thanks for this blog.
Gaye

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SJG1953 2/12/2010 9:46PM

    This is awesome! .... and heart warming!

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WILLOW49 2/12/2010 6:53PM

    What a wonderful blog! Thanks! emoticon

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GOSPELCLOWN 2/12/2010 5:46PM

    Thank you for sharing!
How timely....

K

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BONNIE627 2/12/2010 4:39PM

    great post, but I also agree that it is how your are treated the rest of the year that counts not just one day..thanks for sharing this.. you post some really good things..

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UGOGIRL51 2/12/2010 1:26PM

    ONCE AGAIN...EXCELLENT BLOG ELAYNE AND SO RIGHT ON TIME. emoticon emoticon

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LACEEJO11 2/12/2010 12:45PM

    I think our "world" has placed a big MYTH...about men & women in our heads!!! Many of us have the idea that people are not complete.... if not in a relationship with the opposite sex...well that is so not true!!

I love romance and all it has to offer, don't get me wrong...LOL...I have been alone (as far as a relationship with a man goes) for a long time. I have given my heart to JESUS, and HE constantly shows me am loved, cared for, and worthwhile!

I refuse to go around all down and out because I am not involved with a significant other...I am significant either way!! By myself...or with someone...I am still who I am in CHRIST!!

I do all the things I want to do.... I even go out to eat alone. I invite JESUS to be my guest, and I enjoy the company of all who are around me! It is a beautiful world, no matter if you are alone of not!!

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MARIADALE 2/12/2010 10:31AM

    It is not what the man does (or does not do) on that one (commercial) day, Feb 14... but rather his actions the other 364 days that count the most.

Men may not be as romantic as we would like in our fantasy worlds but a solid rock that can be relied in day in and day out is worth their weight in gold.

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MILLISMA 2/12/2010 9:58AM

    Thanks for sharing. I want to check our her website. This was beautiful!

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DAISES2 2/12/2010 8:16AM

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PEPPERLEAH 2/12/2010 8:12AM

    What a wonderful blog! Thank you for sharing this today; this is a message that people should read every single day.

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SUNNYARIZONA 2/12/2010 1:22AM

    This made me cry a bit.....I have never had a meaningful valentine....my ex, was never into that at all....so to say that GOD IS MY VALENTINE....brings joy, a smile, a tear, and a song....

He knows my name:

I have a Maker
He formed my heart
Before even time began
My life was in his hands

I have a Father
He calls me His own
He'll never leave me
No matter where I go

He knows my name
He knows my every thought
He sees each tear that falls
And He hears me when I call

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SUGARPUNK52 2/12/2010 1:09AM

  Thank you.This is a good message for anttime of the year.GOD bless.

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KBUCKMASH 2/12/2010 12:43AM

    Thank you for sharing this with us. I am going to check out that website. Maybe I will find some extra stength to get me moving faster on the changes I want to make.

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