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So as per my last blog, we're not going to Jamaica. So now I have 6 weeks until our new wedding date! Jeremy wanted to go to the courthouse, but we've gotten it worked out that we can get married at the banquet room of the restaurant he works at and only have to pay for the cost of food. And as you probably recall, we're pretty much broke, not as broke as I expected but pretty bad. We finished up shopping for the boys Christmas and bought heartfelt, yet cheap gifts for family, and cut our all unnecessary gift giving that we usually do for this year. My challenge is to do this whole wedding for under $350 (excluding the dress and my engagement ring) 
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EMMAVSMART
11/18/2011 5:40AM
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Sounds like you have it all in hand. I got married in Feb and managed to keep to a really low budget but had a wonderful day. I struggled with looking for favours since everything was either pointless or stupidly expensive or both. In the end we donated money to charity, it was only £1 pp and they sent us a pin badge for everyone and I printed out a little card (similar to name cards) that said we had donated on their behalf to say thankyou for coming to our wedding (the charity also sent us the template for this). We chose a cancer charity because my husbands grandma had passed away from leukaemia the year before. I had so many ppl comment on what a lovely idea it was. I think lots of big charities have got on board with this idea so have a look online. The winter wedding is fantastic for being more creative. I used loads of fairy lights and hung hundreds of silver baubles from the ceiling in groups of 3 or four (I got loads in the sales), I know it sounds a bit tacky but it wasn't, the overall effect was magical and people couldn't believe how amazing it looked. Good luck, I'm sure it will be wonderful. Report Inappropriate Comment |
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THE_SHAKESHAFT
11/18/2011 3:41AM
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I really hope it all goes well for you :) All the best
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So we've lost a decent portion of our monthly income, and have no idea when/if it will resume. I've been emotional eating yesterday (I had 5 reduced fat cinnamon rolls instead of a healthy lunch and snacks, though I was still in calorie range) and fighting the emotions today! My mom has decided she won't keep the kids for our Jamaica trip in June, so paired with a reduction of income, we're not going.
Not only is it crappy that once again we've had to give up on our hopes for our dream wedding (we didn't do it this year because my mom had surgery to remove tumors from her stomach when we we were supposed to go) but Jeremy doesn't want to wait any longer (we've been together for 5 years already afterall) and wants to do a courthouse wedding in a few weeks. He's too shy and socially awkward so he doesn't want to have a "real" wedding with guests. I called today to find out what to do about my dress, since I picked it out of store stock and put it on a payment plan at my local bridal salon and she said she will only give me a store credit. Since I didn't sign a contract with her, I'm going to try to fight it, although I doubt I'll get very far.
To top it off, the reduction of income and losing the $150 we've already paid on my dress means no Christmas for my kids. Seriously they may get like 1 gift each this year, because we are down to literally cutting out every non-necessity just to get groceries. It sucks so bad, I'm so stressed and just ready to give up. It just seems that nothing I do/hope for goes right, so why friggin try?
Okay, sorry for the rant, thanks for reading.
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ASHIKIME
11/9/2011 10:16PM
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oh my... I'm SO SORRY to hear all this. I've been in tough situations like that before. It doesn't last forever, but it certainly feels like it. I'm sure you'll pull through! You have a wonderful fiance (by the sounds of it =)), beautiful children who will understand (I know I did when I was little... more then my parents realized) and you have some fantastic friends here on SP who will always be willing to listen! I hope its only a short tough time!
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GINAV2
11/9/2011 9:30PM
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Oh sweetie, that is a really tough situation you are in.  Please rant away, no apologies needed - you definitely don't want to hold all that inside! I don't have anything terribly insightful to offer but I am sending you the very best of good wishes for things turning around for you soon. And please don't give up - YOU ARE WORTH IT, even if everything feels cruddy. And at the end of the day, even if you don't have any of the material things, you still have your family - and you all deserve to be as happy, and as healthy, as you can be. 
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MRSB929
11/9/2011 1:06PM
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Hope things get better. I know you don't want to hear it right now, but I always feel like everything happens for a reason. Maybe there is some weird reason you can't go on your trip. Something better will come along. I know this because a couple years ago I was forced to leave school because of mental health problems. When I came home after 3 years of being away, I met my fiance for the first time. We are getting married next year. When I left school I felt like I was at my lowest of lows. And now I am happier than I have ever been. I hope this helps a little. I know there will be a light at the end of the tunnel. You just to wait for it to happen.
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THATGIRL7
11/9/2011 1:05PM
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Oh girl, I am so sorry to hear all of that! Yes, that sucks! I know it may be hard for you, but try to look at the optimistic side. You have less money and you are struggling, right. But after all, you and your fiancee are still together and in good health, right? And you have beautiful kids, I'm pretty sure of that. Yes, there are up and downs, but there is a fact that you shouldn't ignore: Everything could be worse. When your things will be settled, even if it takes some time, you'll be able to go to a trip with your future husband, even if it's not about the wedding. When you tell "why try?"... Well, I have the answer for you. Because it worth it. Yeah, it's friggin hard and it's normal that we want to give up. But giving up means thwrowing up all your work and your dreams in the garbage. There are things on which you can't do anything, like money problem. But there are other things like your health, that is very important, that you can work for it and it worth it! I'm repeating myself but I think it's very important. You don't have to be sorry for your rant, it's pretty normal. But if you need to talk a bit more, remember that I'm here.
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I'm also hoping to order some black and white decorations from Oriental Trading or other party store, but nothing cheesy. Atop the rose petals I'm going to scatter little clear crystals, hopefully it will be pretty and not tacky. 