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Relaxed and going forward

Tuesday, February 05, 2013

So here I still am Ė not following any extreme plan or putting myself through any pressure Ė I pretty well know by now what to do and what suits me. Guess that if I consider the knowledge Iíve accumulated here re food consumption and exercise Iíve not been wasting either time or effort over the past few years - nor encouragement received - thank you Spark and Sparkers! It would just be great for this finally to be the moment when I put it all into practice and become fitter and healthier - not only lose some pounds but keep them off in a controlled and less frenetic way than I usually go about things.
Iím not actually weighing-in yet because weekly weighing can turn me into that lunatic that I donít want to be. So Ė no obsession - no urgency right now and it seems to suit me. Iím happy with how I feel - healthier and more energetic - jeans fitting me comfortably - regular exercise - healthy food NOT accompanied by gallons of wine. Thatíll do nicely for now.

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TRENTDREAMER 2/7/2013 9:10AM

    "Iím not actually weighing-in yet because weekly weighing can turn me into that lunatic that I donít want to be. So Ė no obsession - no urgency right now and it seems to suit me. Iím happy with how I feel - healthier and more energetic "
* I haven't weighed myself in 5 weeks. I know the feeling. I've been exercising and eating better. Clothes fit better. I totally hear what you're saying.

Major congrats on your progress!

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MARTY728 2/6/2013 2:54PM

    I like your attitude and plan.

Remember that there are benefits to drinking red wine. I also must share with you that simply the thought of comsuming "gallons of wine" caused me to emoticon

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CATLADY52 2/5/2013 6:42PM

    I don't think that anyone but you can really say what will work for you. We each have our own tricks and traps that we use. Some will work all the time and some only work when we let them. Do what works for you.

Best of luck. emoticon

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NEW-CAZ 2/5/2013 12:34PM

    all things in moderation Sonia, that truly is the way to go.
We're not here to enter muscle competitions or get ready for marathons (Although I admire those that do) my aim- as yours is-is to eat healthy keep a healthy weight and basicallu be supple enough to bend and tie me shoe laces
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I'm hitting your page with another goodie in a min! emoticon

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PINKANGEL73 2/5/2013 9:10AM

    Sounds like you've got it spot on to me - healthy eating, exercise, not too much wine. Slow but sure, one day at a time, one choice at a time. emoticon

The all or nothing approach usually burns out to nothing pretty quickly.! My OH is a typical Scorpio - everything to extremes. Left to his own devices to lose weight he cuts out everything slightly fatty, skips meals and misses out food groups and expects to lose several pounds a week. Then he wonders why he is irritable, tired and under the weather! emoticon 2 or 3 weeks and he's had enough and goes back to normal.

Since being on Spark I've had him on slightly larger portions but the same as me and he has lost 2 stones and is keeping it off for the first time in 10+ years. Yay! emoticon emoticon

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Keeping on . . .

Monday, January 21, 2013

. . . and very happy to find myself doing so. Dunno where my oomph went but itís certainly been in hiding for a long while. I started entering food and movement into my trackers after New Year without actually worrying about cals in and out, just to get back into the habit. Iíve been walking - thanks to Coach Nicoleís blog detailing walking plans to follow and collected other recent articles, trawled Secrets to Success and other Sparklersí blogs. As always the motivation is here now I have come to look. Just remains for me to act on it. So now Iím taking more serious notice of what I consume and getting back into some sort of exercise Ė nothing drastic, just gentle and regular.
I have to say that a few days of an acute kidney infection has got me on track in ways that I would never have imagined. Somehow, my body knew what it SHOULDNíT have Ė very little meat or strong cheese Ė no coffee or alcohol Ė nothing sweet - and what it SHOULD have - loads and loads of water which I normally find quite hard. Currently itís my beverage of choice. Much better portion control and I havenít had a glass of wine for over a week. So Iím looking after myself and NONE of itís an effort right now. Long may it last! Iím clinging by my fingernails to the new and better preferences and hoping for them to become entrenched habits - finally.

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MARTY728 1/22/2013 3:20PM

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APPLEADAY2010 1/21/2013 7:32AM

    harsh you had a kidney infection - sounds nasty but well done for being on tack. Sounds like your doing really well. Keep up the good work! xx

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PINKANGEL73 1/21/2013 7:26AM

    Hun, hope you are soon recovered from the infection but every cloud eh? How many repetitions does it take to form or reform a habit?

Sounds like you are back in the zone - good for you. If we all really listened to our bodies all the time we wouldn't need to be on here!! I'm kind of in the healthy eating zone but keep stepping out of it - done no harm yet.

Need to take a leaf out of your book and get walking - current excuse is the snow and ice.

You are doing great - got my eye on you so keep at it emoticon emoticon xxx

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NEW-CAZ 1/21/2013 4:39AM

    Morning Sonia
WTG for getting back on track and listening to your body- always an excellent barometer of what is right for YOU

You're right to take it slow and I hope that infection is soon a thing of the past and you're back to your ole self -not so much of the ole emoticon emoticon

Have a great week hun, just going to check my appt is still on- then getting ready to go. Speak laters emoticon

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NCSUE0514 1/21/2013 4:31AM

    I hope that your infection is soon over & the changes it has brought on will linger.

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HANDYV 1/21/2013 3:56AM

    Sounds like you are on your way. Keep your attitude positive and you will make it. emoticon

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2013 - belatedly

Monday, January 14, 2013

Iím finding it hard to get going here again and I had promised myself January would be the month when I started to re-group and lose some of my regained pounds. I know Iím too easily diverted and de-focused and the work involved in having fun over the Christmas/New Year period , plus the family rows that came from nowhere (which have really brought me down) and working away from home for the first week of January followed by a kidney infection that was a lot worse than it needed to be because I ignored it in favour of all the above have combined to set me back before Iíve even got going.
I have to make a decision about all this Ė certainly thatís whatís needed if Iím ever to achieve a healthier state of both mind and body. So, regardless of the fact that Iím not really ready, Iím going for it Ė just have to see what happens Ė no real plan although Iíve been searching around for the inspiration that is always available here if I just look for it and beginning to formulate a way forward. Iíve been around on Spark long enough to know the HOW of doing it Ė I just need to find the positivity Ė and gumption - to follow that through. Truly hoping that this will be the year.

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MEDDYPEDDY 1/21/2013 2:44AM

    Sometimes I find it really depressing that I really donīt have an alternative...either I try or I give up and giving up leads to such a misery that it is not an option...

Sometimes reluctant and sometimes enthusiastic I will keep trying and hope that 2013 will be the year which ends with me weighing less than when it started.... emoticon emoticon

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PATIPAJ 1/20/2013 9:52PM

    In an effort to give you some comforting and support, I am struggling to say something that will give you the strength to get on that path again, or at long last...to find it.
I bet you could agree with yourself right now, that you know exactly what you need to do.
But there is the "other you" that fights that, and wins...so far.

Which "YOU" has the most peace? That's the one to follow.

You think..."but I will miss out on so much...." well, that is a lie. So who is your friend, your better self that knows exactly what to do, but you choose not to do it. Or, the other "you" that keeps you stuck in this awful pergatory of knowing, suffering, and doing nothing. ? I have no answers for you....you have them all stuck down tight in your heart. You must dig down and get them, and don't listen to any other voice but the one that tells you what you know you must do.

I don't know if this will help, but it's where I was, and God willing, I will never go back there again.

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SPARKLEIIGHGAL 1/19/2013 11:12AM

    I know exactly how you feel. Getting fit and losing weight are completely the last things on my mind.
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CATLADY52 1/14/2013 6:53PM

    You are not alone in trying to get things under control. There are a lot of us who are in the same boat. I guess we should all paddle. emoticon

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MARTY728 1/14/2013 2:04PM

    Sorry about the family rows! I always try to speak to both sides in family disagreements. Even if I am directly involved in the arguement. If I am a bystander, then I try to help negotiate a common ground between the combantants. Don't let the stress get to you. Family, can't live with them at times and can't disown them. emoticon emoticon

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TOPS-TORTOISE 1/14/2013 1:57PM

    You're not alone. I'm finding it hard to get going again too. I'm tracking calories and I'm doing a little better, but there i still room for lot of improvement.

My knee has been bothering me lately. I slipped and fell stepping out of the shower a few weeks ago and tweaked my knee a little bit. I didn't think think anything of it at the time because it didn't really hurt much. It hasn't gotten any better since then, it's only gotten worse.

I don't like going to the doctor for every little ache or pain, but I suppose I should go just to make sure I didn't pull a tendon or crack something. That doesn't do anything to improve my motivation when I'm trying to get back into the habit of exercising again. At least I can still do deep water exercise since there is no stress on my knee in the water. Maybe I just need to focus on what I can do instead of what I can't do.

I have to start somewhere making small changes one step at a time. Those small changes will add up to big success. If I just keep doing what I'm doing I'll slide back into he groove again and get going.

I don't think anyone can tell us anything we don't already know about losing weight. We all know the HOW part. It's the DO part that we seem to have trouble with. We can do this. Let's break the curse and make 13 a lucky number.

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NEW-CAZ 1/14/2013 12:50PM

    Sonia you have had it tough recently and I know your mind is elsewhere right now
but if you at least eat sensibly, and once you're feeling well enough again, getting some walking in, your MOJO will show up again.
Spring is around the corner, you can get into the garden more, enjoy the seafront walks more. Ark at me, getting you out of a depressive state emoticon

Baby steps...one after the other will get you to the finish line.
Don't be so hard on yourself, I know what's going on and know that once this "incident" is put to bed you'll be your old self (I hear you...*not so much of the old*)

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PINKANGEL73 1/14/2013 12:09PM

    Hey hun, I'm not really in the mood for it either but we're in this for life right? Life always has ups and downs and the downs make it harder but that is just part of it. We can't wait for the good times - got to keep at it all the time and try to stop and think and make good choices emoticon more often than bad ones. emoticon

I ate and drank two days' worth of calories on Saturday when we had some family over for a meal!! emoticon emoticon But that is no reason to stop trying to do better and I have done better since.

Sorry if I sound preachy - you are far more experienced on here than me! Just want to encourage you because I know you will feel better when you're back in the zone emoticon

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Friday, October 19, 2012

There was quite a lot on Spark yesterday about the support, encouragement and understanding that all of us give each other. Where Ė as someone asked Ė would we all be without each other? Indeed! I - for one - would be long gone. As it is, I simply canít bring myself to let down all of those who have kept me going Ė all of them with far too generous souls to hold departure against me but still I just canít do that. For me that kind of friendship is the essence of Spark.

Itís a while since I blogged. I have not given up, but have been focusing on other things. Iíve been in Dorset finishing the renovation of my tiny country cottage. It went well Ė and there are only a few final things to do. It has taken the best part of five years but I wanted a project and have done most of it myself Ė tiling floors and walls, painting everywhere, putting up shelves and making curtains and lose covers. Oh Ė and digging most of the garden over. Of course Iíve had help with the technical or really heavy stuff Ė some paid Ė a lot from my sons. The work has certainly been good for calorie burning but even so Ė in these last few weeks I totally lost focus and ate (and drank!) what was easy. I tried to plan but not enough Iím afraid. I tracked nothing. Typical!! And frightening that habits that I thought I had put in place forever just slithered out of my grasp. *TRY HARDER* as my school reports used to say.

I am actually slightly horrified at how close I am to the end of all my renovations. What am I going to do with myself NOW? Iím a person who needs to have a project on the go. SO Ė my next project is going to be - - - ME!! I donít weigh more than once a month Ė on the 25th - so I donít actually know for certain at the moment, but Iím more likely to have gained rather than lost this month despite all the hard work I have put into the house. What Iím really doing here is owning up to the fact that Iíve been B-A-AD Ė big-time. Having no time is my excuse but I could have been better if Iíd wanted to Ė there was a great blog to this effect recently Ė Ďif you truly want to then you can find the the timeí was the message. Iím engraving that on my brain! What I really need to do is get back the discipline that I had acquired and that was really helping me to shed pounds Ė FINALLY - after several years of stop-start here on Spark.
So thatís my aim for the next six weeks Ė eat better Ė certainly drink less wine Ė and re-launch some formal exercise Ė before my most recent efforts are wasted. It would be terrible to let go of the progress I have made. l have to REALLY train my bad habits out of myself so I donít fall back on them when stress or other things occur in my lifeĖ but itís harder than I expected. Shouldnít they have gone by now? Well Ė apparently not. Today I read another blog by another Sparker Ė the essence of which was Ė when tempted in whatever way Ė take deep breaths and think it out rather than giving in..
So many words of wisdom here on Spark which I store in an ĎInspirationí file on my laptop.

So dear Spark friends Ė I thank you for all the times you have inspired me and even emoticon me. I will happily do the same for you

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CATLADY52 10/20/2012 4:34PM

    "Life got in the way" while you were getting your self in order. emoticon can be your motto for now. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SPARKLEIIGHGAL 10/20/2012 11:15AM

    Don't beat yourself up. You have been busy busy and needing some sustenance to keep your pecker up. Well done you on completing your little house. Wonderful. Now concentrate on yourself for a change. WTG emoticon xx

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TRENTDREAMER 10/20/2012 7:59AM

    Hay there! Thank you for your recent comment on my blog this week. It's really good to see you again. Congrats on the near completion of the house.

If I haven't said it enough (or even if i have), "Thank you for your friendship"

"What Iím really doing here is owning up to the fact that Iíve been B-A-AD Ė big-time. Having no time is my excuse but I could have been better if Iíd wanted to "
* You use very judgmental (almost morally so) phraseology here and in other places in your blog.

I have gained 10 pounds in the last few months and I have not used the terms "bad" or "need to do better". If you consider your current state to be problematic, then treat what's causing it as a problem (not a moral indictment or reason to self-judge)

Below is a blog I wrote a while back. It's verbose, but I mean what I say in it.

Much Love emoticon emoticon

- Trent

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PINKANGEL73 10/19/2012 6:57AM

    Lovely to see you blogging again Sonia. Ditch the guilt hun. You've not been BAD, just HUMAN. If you could repeat the same actions perfectly week after week without ever slipping up you would be a ROBOT! And who wants that?

SUCCESS is not about never falling down. It is about always picking yourself up again and again - keeping on going regardless.

FAILURE is when you fall down and stay down. That is not you, Sonia x


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NEW-CAZ 10/19/2012 6:11AM

    Sonia everyone's priorities change from time to time and it's so easy to feel you've slipped off track.
Just stop and think for a minute.
It's because you've been so active that you've not tracked- BUT you HAVE been more active.
You've had the occasional foray into bad eating- BUT you've probably needed those extra calories to get you through your busy days.

And who can blame you for winding down from all your toil and taking time out with an ikkle drinkie poo..
I reckon come the 25th you'll be pleasantly surprised when you face the dreaded scale emoticon so don't diss yourself so much. You've been on the go for weeks now-major calorie burning!!!

Nice to hear you are concentrating on you now though, especially since your recent emails. Gotta take care of Numero Uno hun emoticon

Have a good weekend emoticon emoticon

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For the Grannies amongst us . . .

Thursday, September 27, 2012

My younger grandson has just reached three years old almost without my noticing - time flies when you're having fun!
He went to his Pre-school for the first time this week having been prepared by his parents plus a home visit from his teacher AND a preparatory visit to the nursery where he spent an hour without his Mother.
Despite all he was apparently OK but quiet whilst he was there for his first 'proper' morning and had a rather puzzled look.
When my daughter-in-law arrived to pick him up his face lit up and he squealed: 'Mummy!!! You found me! Well done!'

Brought a tear to my eye when my son recounted it!

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GGCHET 2/23/2013 10:57AM

    Precious,...Out of the mouths of babes!!!!

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MARTY728 10/17/2012 11:50AM

    Funny! I enjoyed it. emoticon

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CATLADY52 9/28/2012 3:24PM

    That's funny. emoticon

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DANCINGGRAM 9/27/2012 9:23AM

    emoticon As Art Linkletter would say,"Kids say the darnest things"

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CATHGREEN8 9/27/2012 8:44AM

    Awwww, sweet baby!

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RECMAJOR 9/27/2012 8:07AM

    So precious! And, yes, our little ones grow up way too fast! emoticon

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MARYJOANNA 9/27/2012 6:44AM

  How cute! They are precious!

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NEW-CAZ 9/27/2012 6:11AM

    Hi Sonia
aww bless, how cute!Loved it, thanks for sharing such a golden moment emoticon

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