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Wednesday, May 04, 2011

The long weekend here in the UK (thanks to the Royal Wedding ) brought a Festival for Foodies to Brighton sea front. Everyone had a great time in the sunshine sampling good organic food – watching cookery demos and – in my case – spending time drinking on the top of an open double decker London bus ‘The Bus Bar’. GREAT! But a habit of mine that just has to stop. All those empty calories make me eat more food than I otherwise would.
All this coincided with the ‘Spring into Shape Bootcamp Challenge’. Great workouts from Coach Nicole and other hints, tips and encouragement. Better by far, in some ways at least, than Pimms on top of a bus! I always join these bootcamps because I learn new ways to exercise and am motivated to complete the workouts every day and to walk or cycle a lot. So that is going well and after far too long in the doldrums here on Spark I am inspired by Spark itself and by my various wonderful friends here to ‘get to it.’
On top of that two blogs caught my eye yesterday that have completed the job of getting me back on track. One friend talked about how discipline and structured routines are a part of the blend needed to help balance our lives and create happiness. I know this is true and the reminder has gone to my heart.

Another friend spoke of not being in too much of a hurry on this journey of ours and of the need to avoid shortcuts – however tempting - and I am VERY tempted by shortcuts. We all need our good results to establish themselves firmly as habits that will last after all the effort we put in. I paraphrase but her reminder to ignore the numbers on the scale and design a lifestyle that will lead to long lasting happiness and health was timely.
There are many wonderful and inspiring blogs here on Spark everyday but these two just ‘fell right’ for me this week. I thank these two friends (you know who you are) and everyone else who encourages me in so many ways to keep going until I get there. That’s what Spark is all about and I truly hope that I occasionally can help others to stick with it in the same way.

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APPLEADAY2010 5/5/2011 4:45AM

    Yay you sound really positive and a true spark hero. You are doing really well and I am learning from your motivation. I think I may look at that botcamp page! xx emoticon emoticon

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MEDDYPEDDY 5/5/2011 2:33AM

    oooo - those shortcuts! I have such a hard time to let go of those dreams. I want results now! Preferably yesterday!

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NPDSLEUTH 5/4/2011 11:03PM

    Hi Sonia,

I love this blog. What a great reminder the shortcuts part is, too. I have had people tell me they didn't want to do SP because it takes so long. As we all know, the "shortcuts" of other diets don't work.

So glad you're well. It's amazing how much we all learn on this, isn't it?

Thanks for sharing this. Love, Nikki


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NEW-CAZ 5/4/2011 2:15PM

    Great blog Sonia and I love seeing you so positive about your journey.
There is never a problem with the occasional venture into treats and Pimms- Lord knows we all need some fun and games at times and I'm glad you enjoyed yourself.
A healthy lifestyle does not have to exclude these; merely keep them in perspective.
Good luck with the bootcamp hun

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KERSTIN814 5/4/2011 8:47AM

    Thanks for your timely reminder. I have been avoiding the healthclub because that is where I weigh in. I am afraid what the bleeping scale will say and that it will push meoff my path. I need to focus on the healthy life style rather than the hateful scale. I have no problem with the food, but I like my wine a little too much. Sounds like you had a riot though. Life is life. Sometimes we just have to kick up our heels. I could be drinking wine and eating fast food all the time, so I am better in that respect.

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DOWNTOWNJEN 5/4/2011 8:29AM

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Hey - I would have LOVED to have been on top of that bus!!! Sometimes you just have to live for the moment!

We'll all get there - we will. I think what I never realized is that I thought of this as a "physical" journey not so much of a mental or spiritual one. What I've come to realize is that it is so much more than a "physical" journey.

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One of the more bizarre Royal Wedding souvenirs

Friday, April 29, 2011

Hope the happy couple would find this amusing and not offensive


(Sorry folk - don't know why this isn't a live link - you'll need to copy and paste)

A friend of mine actually has one of these kits and is spending the day in front of the TV knitting a corgi!!!

(You'll need to follow the link to understand)

Enjoy the day everyone
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THEWINNER33 4/29/2011 10:22AM

    The most bizarre thing I saw in the media coverage was profiles of the new Duke and Dutchess of Cambridge on someone's two front teeth. Hope all keep smiling. Looked for you in the crowd but must have missed you.

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41SUSAN14 4/29/2011 10:17AM

    Can't see it...

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MARTY728 4/29/2011 10:14AM

    Thanks for sending it. emoticon

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    Is this the knitted royal family that I have as my profile. It has been advertised in UK to buy. I can't open your link.

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NEW-CAZ 4/29/2011 8:19AM

    couldn't view it Sonia.....was it the corgi advert that's been on recently emoticon

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KMICHA 4/29/2011 6:42AM

    ok . . . now that is just taking it a bit too far!

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AGASSIFAN 4/29/2011 5:54AM


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Coming out of hiding

Sunday, April 17, 2011

Yup - I've been in hiding from everything and everybody.

Family stuff meant I had already put back some of the pounds I lost here on Spark and then I went away working in Spain where I added yet more pounds during a very stressful trip. I thought at one point I'd never be back here on Spark - if I'm sick of seeing myself complain about my weight gains/life etc why should you not all be the same?
However - I couldn't resist a quick sneak about the site and found some comments and messages that lifted my heart. So - I hopped on the scales and found that with only a modicum of discipline (and a distinct lack of wine drinking!) in the 4 days back in the UK I had lost 3 of the pounds gained in Spain. I don't understand how that works but I'm sure glad it did.
My partner has recovered his health and general cheeriness and my younger son and his family are finally regaining their equilibrium after a tragedy with one of their babies so I feel freer to concentrate on myself and on my own life than I have in a very long time.
In short - life is looking up and I just have to repair the damage that I have allowed to happen whilst attending to other things.
The sun is shining today and I feel very hopeful of better things to come.

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MANDERSON19 4/28/2011 8:59AM

    You are such a fighter!! I'm so glad to see you again!

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MARTY728 4/28/2011 8:30AM

    Happy to see you back and I apologize for not posting sooner. I kept forgetting to. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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IAMANDARAMA 4/21/2011 9:09AM

    Hope the sunshine is helping you to enjoy life too. Some early morning gardening sounds like a good idea and then there's always the beach, of course.

Happy days
(even without the wine - I have to resist too)


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TRENTDREAMER 4/20/2011 1:00PM

    "In short - life is looking up and I just have to repair the damage that I have allowed to happen whilst attending to other things.
The sun is shining today and I feel very hopeful of better things to come. "

* emoticon emoticon Glad you're back :)

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APPLEADAY2010 4/19/2011 5:26AM

    Glad you came back on here xx SEnding you hugs xx

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DOWNTOWNJEN 4/17/2011 6:59PM

    Glad you're back. I had no idea you were going through these rough times as I've been absentee for a bit myself. There are rhythms to life, it seems. As long as the general movement is ultimately forward, we've come out ahead. I doubt you ever stopped moving forward (or you wouldn't be here now). And way to go for losing those "Spain pounds"! LOL. Dang Spain anyway!

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MEDDYPEDDY 4/17/2011 11:20AM

    Wonderful to have you back among us again - keep on sparking whatever the scale says!

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KERSTIN814 4/17/2011 9:08AM

    I am glad for you, and you lifted my spirits already this morning! I know what you mean about that darn wine. I went way over my limit yesterday, but, today is a new day!

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NEW-CAZ 4/17/2011 4:05AM

    emoticon nice to see you back blogging Sonia.
It's time to get back into gear hun and after our "chat" this morning I know you're more than ready to kick butt emoticon
So pleased all is much improved in your life and that your family are in fine fettle once more. Such a stressful time, but you've all come through it and now you can take care of you!
Have fun with your walking today and soaking up some rays, makes one feel so much better.
Take care hun and keep on Sparking emoticon
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Oh dear - AGAIN!

Monday, March 28, 2011

Well – I’ve dragged my partner kicking and screaming into a more confident state of mind. His extreme worry over his angina diagnosis was due to winter blues, as far as I can see, which he suffers from really badly, exaggerating his fears about his condition. The specialist has told him, after considerable testing, that he is not even in need of a stent as yet – so that’s made us both happy.

I have also attended to various family commitments and responsibilities that took up a lot more time and energy than I expected.

I feared I hadn’t been looking after myself properly - Sparkwise that is - I have certainly exercised – cardio and strength - pretty well every day because now I miss it if I don’t do it. Foodwise hasn’t been so good. It’s always been a problem for me to eat right unless I am completely focused on my diet. Now I’ve faced ‘that moment’ – i.e. getting on the scales again - I find that I have gained back seven pounds – not a small amount and I’m ashamed. I would like to have clung more limpet-like than I have to the improved habits Spark had instilled.
However, I don’t intend to waste the effort that has led to this point. A friend blogged about ‘strugglers and motivators’ a while ago - a blog that really went to my heart. I certainly can’t claim to be a motivator but SHE motivated ME to focus on putting a stop to the struggling and yo-yo-ing that have characterised my journey here and to strive for more consistency. I really need to stop letting things get in my way and make getting healthier no-matter-what a priority.
So here I am – yet another fresh start with yet more resolutions. I just hope I make a better job of it this time despite the fact that I am away on and off working for several weeks to come.

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MEDDYPEDDY 4/17/2011 1:50AM

    I hope it is still going better than when you where down... miss you around!

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TWOTIMESS 3/29/2011 4:57PM

    Sonia, I echo the other's sentiments, and feel I need to add just a little bit to it - when are you going to start being more selfish and say "No, sorry, you've got to sort out your own problem this time?" and focus on yourself? I know you love your kids, but enough is enough. You do so well, then the family needs you and you drop eveything to help them out, neglecting yourself inn the process. Say NO.

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NEW-CAZ 3/28/2011 3:34PM

    Hi Sonia
All that's happened is your priorites shifted for a while and you put others b4 you which is so typical of your good nature emoticon emoticon.

Okay so it's time to refocus and not have a kneejerk reaction and take drastic action. Track, keep active, healthly foods and meals and water and some down time and those 7 pounds will be gone again b4 you know it.

For all that is going on here, remember I am here for you babes.
One step at a time......keep sparking and you'll do it! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MARTY728 3/28/2011 2:09PM

    Everyone (including those DARN skinny I eat whatever I want people) slip and fall. The key is to get up and get back on course. Sliping and falling and NOT getting back on course is what causes all human beings to gain and keep weight.

You are winning because you have gotten back on course. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Wednesday, February 02, 2011

I haven’t blogged for a while and don’t see that changing soon. My partner is having a hard time and I am much pre-occupied with him. He’s been diagnosed with angina – not serious in itself of course – but he’s taken it badly because he’s just not used to being ill in any way and feels his life is changing which I guess it is, though not yet in the big way he fears. All this has coincided with the ‘winter blues’ which affect him very badly. I bought him a daylight lamp a few years ago but as he claims to be too depressed to switch it on (WHAT?!) I have put it on a timer so he’s ‘hit’ by it every day now – presumably too depressed to turn it off again – or so I hope! Anyway – exaggerated though his feelings may be at the moment they are nonetheless valid and I am giving him all of my time in the hopes that all this will pass and he will stop needing me around him so much – time I spend on the laptop - or indeed the phone - just really upsets him. Have to add that this is not the person that I know him to be so I’m doing all I can to help him out of this.
This blog is just to say a quick ‘hallo’ to everyone and a general thank you for comments on my page and for goodies – they are much appreciated but I have little time in my quick sallies round the site to acknowledge them individually.
Guess I don’t have to add that my weight-loss has stalled as it always does when I’m not paying myself as much attention as I need to. Plainly I need better and more entrenched habits – something that I still need to work on. This will all change soon – at least I very much hope so. In the meantime – forgive me until I’m back?

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MARTY728 2/9/2011 1:18PM

    I hope your partner gets better as the winter comes to an end. Your partner is lucky to have a partner like you.

Whenever I am depressed, unmotivated on just plain blue, I always repeat 3 lines from a song by Chumbawamba, "I Get Knocked Down (Tubthumping)":

"I get knocked down
But I get up again
You're never going to keep me down"

Sometimes I have to repeat the lines a number of times, however, eventually they sink in and I move on.

In fact, to me the song has always reminded me of a British drinking song, so there is another tie-in.

I believe that the British have the BEST drinking and soccer songs!

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NEW-CAZ 2/5/2011 4:21AM

    Hi Sonia
I am really sorry to Gerry is going through it right now and how this is impacting on you. A stressful time I understand.
You're being supportive of him as always and doing what you can but remember you have to take care of you too. You are important hun.

Totally understand you MIA and don't worry your friends on here will be thinking of you and sending positive vibes.
You know where I am if you need to vent/talk emoticon emoticon emoticon

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TRENTDREAMER 2/3/2011 6:47PM

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* Really sorry to hear. Will miss you much.

Hang in as best you can.

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KERSTIN814 2/2/2011 12:19PM

    You are doing the right thing. Angina is serious in that it signals blockages in his coronary arteries, and the pain is usually brought on by activity, when the heart has to work harder. There is some evidence that you can reverse these blockages with a very strict diet, though I am not sure. Send him lots of spark love. There may be a spark team you can join too. I joined a team of people who take care of parents with dementia, Children Caregivers. Good Luck! emoticon

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DRAGONFLYBETH 2/2/2011 11:35AM

    Take care of him and yourself. We'll be here when you return!

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APPLEADAY2010 2/2/2011 8:30AM

    SEnding lots of hugs, take care my spark freind. I will be thinking of you xx emoticon

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TWOTIMESS 2/2/2011 5:54AM

You go do what you have to do - we'll be here, as always! Don't neglect yourself!

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