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Tuesday, December 14, 2010

I feel I've been neglecting most of my Spark friends recently and I can't see that changing before next year. I have too much to do - and too many family problems - to give much time here at the moment. I regret that and I hope everyone will forgive me. .

I wish you all a Happy Christmas and New Year - have a great time - see you after - I hope. emoticon emoticon

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ROSEWCI 12/22/2010 7:19AM

    I hope all problems resolve soon! Until then, you take care of what you need to & don't worry! We'll all be here for you when you return! Until then...

Take special care! emoticon Rose

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APPLEADAY2010 12/15/2010 11:53AM

    Sending hugs and defo no apologies needed. xxxxxxxxxx

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NEW-CAZ 12/14/2010 10:37AM

    Apologies aren't necessary Sonia, it's hard juggling everything and I know how busy you've been hun.
We'll all be hear as and when you can touch base or if you need us.
Have an amazing Crimbo and New Year with your family and friends.
Stay safe emoticon emoticon

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LKWQUILTER 12/14/2010 9:54AM

    That is all right. I feel that everyone knows that life happens and we can't always have "computer time." Take care of yourself and try to stay on track.

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THEWINNER33 12/14/2010 9:19AM

    Have a Blessed Christmas. I will miss you but I will be here for you when you return in the New Year. Blessings, Peace to you and yours. Hugs, Marcia emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MANDERSON19 12/14/2010 9:07AM

    You DO NOT have to feel bad about neglecting anything here! Your SparkFriends will be here for you any time you need us. I do hope for your sake that everyone can get their issues worked out and that you can enjoy a very Merry Christmas!
With Love and Blessings,

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TWOTIMESS 12/14/2010 9:06AM

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We all understand. You do what you have to do... we'll be here, waiting for you!

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CIVIAV 12/14/2010 9:05AM

    You know there are times when this happens and you can come to Spark People if you need something. We have big shoulders and from your note I can see you will return the favor.

Come here when you need the strength for what you are living. It doesn't tend to be that time of the year!


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Friday, December 03, 2010

It’s been extremely pretty here in Brighton (UK) by the sea in the snow. It is lethally icy on pavements and roads but it looks beautiful. emoticon
The schools and universities are all closed and it's hard to travel to work which has brought people out to have fun. emoticonParents and children with sledges or playing snowballs emoticon emoticon and students being creative with snow sculptures emoticon – particularly from the Art Departments it seems.

Everyone is smiling and happy – a real holiday atmosphere – disregarding the cold and making the most of freedom from work or study. I’ve had a really nice two days tramping about in the snow with some of my students and taking pictures of everything. And the added bonus is all that extra exercise – hoorah!

Children playing in the square where I live

Has he climbed out of the sea?

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APPLEADAY2010 12/8/2010 8:46AM

    Loved your pictures! Looks beautiful and I am glad you had fun and the added bonus like you said - exercise! We haven't had much up this end yet. I think we must be the only place. Hope your happy, smiley and feeling festive. Hugs xx emoticon

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MANDERSON19 12/6/2010 5:16PM

    What a great way to get your exercise in!

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MEDDYPEDDY 12/6/2010 4:53AM

    We had a decimeter falling yesterday night, it is beatiful! Today the ploughs starts working...

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NEW-CAZ 12/4/2010 3:13AM

    emoticon loving the snowman-someone has a great sense of humour!

Great pics Sonia- lucky girl to live somewhere so beautiful emoticon

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TWOTIMESS 12/4/2010 2:07AM

    The Snow Monster from the Deep Sea... LOL! Enjoy!

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TRIGFROST 12/3/2010 7:09PM

    I love snow...lucky you!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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NPDSLEUTH 12/3/2010 6:35PM

    WOW -- Love the photos. They're gorgeous. Stay warm there....brrrrr

I'm in Washington, D.C. and snow is predicted for this weekend. I grew up in New York state, close to Canada, so I actually like the cold weather! Here's hoping.

Have a super weekend!

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It's an ill wind . . .

Tuesday, November 30, 2010

I've had a great succession of weekends with my younger son, his wife and their sons celebrating both their birthdays - 9 days apart. This weekend the parents have had a great time out and about giving each other small treats and personal time whilst I’ve been entertaining their children. They are, of course, delightful and ultra-energetic. emoticon emoticon emoticon
Most likely it's that I don't have the energy I used to have. I kept thinking as I ran hither and thither for one or the other 'how did I ever do this' and 'it's only TWO' how do other mothers/grandmothers manage? I know they do and I also know that we all expand ourselves to meet current needs.

The bonus is that I have been so busy running around with no time to eat more than basic meals with the children - therefore healthy and small emoticonand tramping them along the beach - well-wrapped up - to get rid of some of that awesome energy that kids have in abundance. So - 2.5 of the 5 pounds I had gained are gone in no time. emoticon
A bit of a false situation of course but I am grateful for that quick loss and hope to keep those pounds off and rid myself of the other 2.5 in a more realistic and less exhausting way.

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APPLEADAY2010 12/3/2010 8:44AM

    Yay well done on the weight loss xx Really pleased for you and glad you have been having fun with the kids. xx emoticon

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MEDDYPEDDY 12/1/2010 1:03AM

    What do you mean "a false situation"? Whatever the situation it is a loss and I congratulate you for it!
It´s interesting that you say this, because I do the same, if I lose weight for any other reason than dieting and exercising... it´s a bit of a "false" loss and not as good as one that has been achieved when I have focused on achieving that goal. This has to be changed in my head – thanks for inspiring me!

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TRENTDREAMER 11/30/2010 7:34PM

    "So - 2.5 of the 5 pounds I had gained are gone in no time."

* Yay!! Glad to hear. Continued success with the next 2.5 pounds. you can totally do this.

I'm proud of you!

Thank you for your comment on my blog.

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NEW-CAZ 11/30/2010 6:42AM

    emoticonthey've given you a jump start Sonia...now if you figure a way of keeping that energy going......................
Can you have the kids again this weekend emoticon emoticon emoticon

Have a good week hun
Laters emoticon emoticon

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TWOTIMESS 11/30/2010 6:34AM

Yay for grandchildren! You'll keep it off, it was gained suddenly, so no harm it losing it just as suddenly! Now if the kids can stick around for the other 2.5....

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YO-YO-ing. What shall I do NOW?

Friday, November 26, 2010

My younger son was forty recently and we seem to have been celebrating forever- in one family house or another. I’ve had a great time seeing family that I don’t normally see and even having a conversation with my ex-husband which doesn’t happen often – it was stilted but at least we spoke. Unfortunately it has all involved mountains of food and drink. emoticon emoticon


NOW I’m not. emoticon

I’ve gained back 5 pounds in the last two and a half weeks – pounds that I had lost since being with Spark - regained – and had struggled to lose again.

NOW they’re back for the second time. emoticon

I can’t blame the birthday celebrations – particularly that I have great support from my sons who want me to be healthy and energetic for as long as possible. No one force feeds me too much food or drip feeds me wine – I do that all by myself. emoticon

NOW I have to get rid of those pounds all over again. emoticon

What a waste of time and effort!! I can’t believe I’ve done this AGAIN! I should know better – it just shouldn’t be like this. emoticon

NOW what shall I do? emoticon

Well - without Spark teaching me so much about establishing new habits and how to stick to them - without accountability to all my Sparkfriends I would probably be in despair. However, with all this support here, I’ve just about learned to be calmer in these situations and just get on and deal with it. SO – quite simply - MORE water and exercise – LESS food and NO-O alcohol. emoticon

NOW I know what to do. emoticon emoticon

Me and my 'Baby' on his birthday,

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J-ALEXIS 12/1/2010 9:17AM

    Happy Birthday to your baby!

Now that the celebrating is over, smile and think about all the fun and the major milestone this is for your son. Then, stop for a moment and look ahead to a fabulous healthy body for yourself..

Sending you tons of motivation and huge warm smiles,


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MEDDYPEDDY 12/1/2010 1:08AM

    You don´t seem that fat to me so I guess five pounds is a lot then...too me (that is heavily overweight) five pounds is not something to bother that much about in either direction. Well I am lying there, I would be discouraged if I gained but it´s not "well I am hopeless"...

I think you look amazing and it seems to me that you are mainly on the right track with a little slipping here and there... stay tuned and keep sparking and it will be well in the long run (I think I said that to myself...)

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MARTY728 11/26/2010 1:41PM

    First of all remember life is a yo-yo with ups and downs and when the yo-yo string breaks all we need to do is get a new string. You are on the upswing, so go with it. You have caught yourself, so simply get back on the plan and celebrate the fact that you were able to celebrate and then get back on track!

Remember my fact concerning children and age. Since the percentages are not questionable, it is a fact and not a theory as my children prefer to say. Plus your picture above proves my fact concerning the age of our children compared to our age. Soon your son will look older than Mom. You look great, in fact too great to have a 40 year old son!

Also remember that few women admit their age and even fewer men act their age!

Have fun! emoticon emoticon


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AUNTB63 11/26/2010 9:59AM

    Job well done, in working through the problem and coming away knowing what needs to be done.........you are never alone on this journey to a healthier lifestyle............ emoticon

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MANDERSON19 11/26/2010 8:51AM

    The important thing is you've caught yourself before it turned into 15 or 20!! You are an amazing woman...you CAN and WILL do this. With you every step of the way!

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APPLEADAY2010 11/26/2010 6:15AM

    Hiya xx Sending hugs xx Lovely pic of you and your son! I think dieting is up and down. I am trying to teach myself at the min that it is ok to have a lapse at times and brush myself down and start again. It is much better than a relapse where we completely go back to old habits and destroy all the hard work we have achieved. You have been doing really well on spark. You have lost weight once and you know you can lose it again - that is the main thing. I think it would be impossible to be a compete spark hero every day. I would pat yourself on the back for blogging about this and I am sure you will get back on track and feel happier asap. It is difficult, but we will get there! xx emoticon emoticon

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TWOTIMESS 11/26/2010 4:24AM

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REJ7777 11/26/2010 4:06AM

    You seem to have a good plan for getting right back on track. emoticon That's the secret.

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NEW-CAZ 11/26/2010 3:32AM

    Sonia hun panic ye not!
It's only right and proper you should enjoy the celebrations! You would not be human not to let lose but you have the tools to undo the "damage"!
No knee jerk reaction is needed just apply your common sense and eat sensibly, water and move that body and those pounds WILL fall away again.

No point in beating yourself up over having a good time on what was a momentous family occasion. Put it behind you and start a fresh page today emoticon

Luv the pic

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MOONSTORMER 11/26/2010 3:10AM

    don't worry, we all have times in our life like this! at least it's new weight and should come off quickly. at least you enjoyed the celebrations! you'll get back on track and lose the weight again! today is a new day!

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Is it a solution? ;-)

Thursday, November 18, 2010

My elder son has become increasingly perturbed lately about my weight and shape (‘don’t want to lose you sooner than I have to, Ma’ Aaww!) He and I both know that now, after 18 months on Spark, I am down to approximately 30 pounds overweight, and about halfway down the ‘overweight’ scale on the BMI tables – not too bad, I told myself. However I used the Waist to Hip Ratio Calculator here on Spark today (in an attempt to put my son’s mind at rest, I have to say) and the result is ‘high risk’ of health problems I find. I guess I’m lucky thus far in not having any real health problems. However – attention does need to be paid.
A Spark friend said to me yesterday: ‘be good and if you can’t be good, be careful’. A semi-joke I think – but it made me think that ‘good’ and ‘careful’ have not really figured large in my life – hence the poor food and exercise habits which have led to my having to undo a lifetime of indulgences. I am finding it hard.
This afternoon the elder son is threatening to lock me in a room in his flat, feed me daily through the door with healthy food at appropriate intervals, let me out 3 times a day to march me round The Old Deer Park where he lives and put me through my paces on his home gym. He would then return me to my ‘cell'. All this until I am at goal. ‘HA! HA!’ I said, knowing how unrealistic that is, but wondering at the same time if it would work!
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MEDDYPEDDY 11/23/2010 1:10AM

    Ooooo, send that son to me! This is exactly what I would wish for myself although I do know that it is a quick fix and would not help if I did not change my behaviours in the longrun.

I do know that my behaviour stems from not standing up for myself and my needs. It is SO hard!

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NPDSLEUTH 11/21/2010 11:23PM

    I'm proud of you for taking the comments in stride. I must say, though, you really are doing well and doing it right which means the weight will stay off!

After the years I've struggled, I can vouch that the deprivation, starvation route does NOT work. Slow and steady is the way to success and that's where you're headed.

Your sons are lucky that you are working so hard at this -- I know they want this for you, but I hope they let you do this YOUR way --

Hang in there. I believe in you! Nikki


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NEW-CAZ 11/18/2010 1:11PM

    OMG Sonia- tough love or parental abuse emoticon emoticon

Now I know I said I'd emoticon but he's taking it all to another level entirely!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I think it's great that he cares for you and wants you fit and healthy and YOU ARE GETTING THERE SONIA me ole fruit.

And you will get to your goal- just be GOOD AND CAREFUL emoticon emoticon emoticon

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THEWINNER33 11/18/2010 11:27AM

    I t would work only if you maintain that regime after you reach goal. emoticon Isn't it wonderful that your sons care for you soo much. You don't need to be imprisoned to reach goal. You will get there my friend. I continue to believe that you and I should crash the wedding. Think about it !! emoticon emoticon emoticon Marcia

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