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YO-YO-ing. What shall I do NOW?

Friday, November 26, 2010

My younger son was forty recently and we seem to have been celebrating forever- in one family house or another. I’ve had a great time seeing family that I don’t normally see and even having a conversation with my ex-husband which doesn’t happen often – it was stilted but at least we spoke. Unfortunately it has all involved mountains of food and drink. emoticon emoticon


NOW I’m not. emoticon

I’ve gained back 5 pounds in the last two and a half weeks – pounds that I had lost since being with Spark - regained – and had struggled to lose again.

NOW they’re back for the second time. emoticon

I can’t blame the birthday celebrations – particularly that I have great support from my sons who want me to be healthy and energetic for as long as possible. No one force feeds me too much food or drip feeds me wine – I do that all by myself. emoticon

NOW I have to get rid of those pounds all over again. emoticon

What a waste of time and effort!! I can’t believe I’ve done this AGAIN! I should know better – it just shouldn’t be like this. emoticon

NOW what shall I do? emoticon

Well - without Spark teaching me so much about establishing new habits and how to stick to them - without accountability to all my Sparkfriends I would probably be in despair. However, with all this support here, I’ve just about learned to be calmer in these situations and just get on and deal with it. SO – quite simply - MORE water and exercise – LESS food and NO-O alcohol. emoticon

NOW I know what to do. emoticon emoticon

Me and my 'Baby' on his birthday,

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J-ALEXIS 12/1/2010 9:17AM

    Happy Birthday to your baby!

Now that the celebrating is over, smile and think about all the fun and the major milestone this is for your son. Then, stop for a moment and look ahead to a fabulous healthy body for yourself..

Sending you tons of motivation and huge warm smiles,


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MEDDYPEDDY 12/1/2010 1:08AM

    You don´t seem that fat to me so I guess five pounds is a lot then...too me (that is heavily overweight) five pounds is not something to bother that much about in either direction. Well I am lying there, I would be discouraged if I gained but it´s not "well I am hopeless"...

I think you look amazing and it seems to me that you are mainly on the right track with a little slipping here and there... stay tuned and keep sparking and it will be well in the long run (I think I said that to myself...)

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MARTY728 11/26/2010 1:41PM

    First of all remember life is a yo-yo with ups and downs and when the yo-yo string breaks all we need to do is get a new string. You are on the upswing, so go with it. You have caught yourself, so simply get back on the plan and celebrate the fact that you were able to celebrate and then get back on track!

Remember my fact concerning children and age. Since the percentages are not questionable, it is a fact and not a theory as my children prefer to say. Plus your picture above proves my fact concerning the age of our children compared to our age. Soon your son will look older than Mom. You look great, in fact too great to have a 40 year old son!

Also remember that few women admit their age and even fewer men act their age!

Have fun! emoticon emoticon


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AUNTB63 11/26/2010 9:59AM

    Job well done, in working through the problem and coming away knowing what needs to be done.........you are never alone on this journey to a healthier lifestyle............ emoticon

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MANDERSON19 11/26/2010 8:51AM

    The important thing is you've caught yourself before it turned into 15 or 20!! You are an amazing woman...you CAN and WILL do this. With you every step of the way!

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APPLEADAY2010 11/26/2010 6:15AM

    Hiya xx Sending hugs xx Lovely pic of you and your son! I think dieting is up and down. I am trying to teach myself at the min that it is ok to have a lapse at times and brush myself down and start again. It is much better than a relapse where we completely go back to old habits and destroy all the hard work we have achieved. You have been doing really well on spark. You have lost weight once and you know you can lose it again - that is the main thing. I think it would be impossible to be a compete spark hero every day. I would pat yourself on the back for blogging about this and I am sure you will get back on track and feel happier asap. It is difficult, but we will get there! xx emoticon emoticon

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TWOTIMESS 11/26/2010 4:24AM

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REJ7777 11/26/2010 4:06AM

    You seem to have a good plan for getting right back on track. emoticon That's the secret.

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NEW-CAZ 11/26/2010 3:32AM

    Sonia hun panic ye not!
It's only right and proper you should enjoy the celebrations! You would not be human not to let lose but you have the tools to undo the "damage"!
No knee jerk reaction is needed just apply your common sense and eat sensibly, water and move that body and those pounds WILL fall away again.

No point in beating yourself up over having a good time on what was a momentous family occasion. Put it behind you and start a fresh page today emoticon

Luv the pic

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MOONSTORMER 11/26/2010 3:10AM

    don't worry, we all have times in our life like this! at least it's new weight and should come off quickly. at least you enjoyed the celebrations! you'll get back on track and lose the weight again! today is a new day!

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Is it a solution? ;-)

Thursday, November 18, 2010

My elder son has become increasingly perturbed lately about my weight and shape (‘don’t want to lose you sooner than I have to, Ma’ Aaww!) He and I both know that now, after 18 months on Spark, I am down to approximately 30 pounds overweight, and about halfway down the ‘overweight’ scale on the BMI tables – not too bad, I told myself. However I used the Waist to Hip Ratio Calculator here on Spark today (in an attempt to put my son’s mind at rest, I have to say) and the result is ‘high risk’ of health problems I find. I guess I’m lucky thus far in not having any real health problems. However – attention does need to be paid.
A Spark friend said to me yesterday: ‘be good and if you can’t be good, be careful’. A semi-joke I think – but it made me think that ‘good’ and ‘careful’ have not really figured large in my life – hence the poor food and exercise habits which have led to my having to undo a lifetime of indulgences. I am finding it hard.
This afternoon the elder son is threatening to lock me in a room in his flat, feed me daily through the door with healthy food at appropriate intervals, let me out 3 times a day to march me round The Old Deer Park where he lives and put me through my paces on his home gym. He would then return me to my ‘cell'. All this until I am at goal. ‘HA! HA!’ I said, knowing how unrealistic that is, but wondering at the same time if it would work!
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MEDDYPEDDY 11/23/2010 1:10AM

    Ooooo, send that son to me! This is exactly what I would wish for myself although I do know that it is a quick fix and would not help if I did not change my behaviours in the longrun.

I do know that my behaviour stems from not standing up for myself and my needs. It is SO hard!

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NPDSLEUTH 11/21/2010 11:23PM

    I'm proud of you for taking the comments in stride. I must say, though, you really are doing well and doing it right which means the weight will stay off!

After the years I've struggled, I can vouch that the deprivation, starvation route does NOT work. Slow and steady is the way to success and that's where you're headed.

Your sons are lucky that you are working so hard at this -- I know they want this for you, but I hope they let you do this YOUR way --

Hang in there. I believe in you! Nikki


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NEW-CAZ 11/18/2010 1:11PM

    OMG Sonia- tough love or parental abuse emoticon emoticon

Now I know I said I'd emoticon but he's taking it all to another level entirely!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I think it's great that he cares for you and wants you fit and healthy and YOU ARE GETTING THERE SONIA me ole fruit.

And you will get to your goal- just be GOOD AND CAREFUL emoticon emoticon emoticon

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THEWINNER33 11/18/2010 11:27AM

    I t would work only if you maintain that regime after you reach goal. emoticon Isn't it wonderful that your sons care for you soo much. You don't need to be imprisoned to reach goal. You will get there my friend. I continue to believe that you and I should crash the wedding. Think about it !! emoticon emoticon emoticon Marcia

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Keeping going no matter what . . .

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

‘committed to keep on keeping on’ – words I read in a new friend’s blog yesterday – not a new concept here but they certainly spoke to me yesterday.

Just wonder how many new starts a person can make? Guess I’m about to find out emoticon

I know the Spark habits are with me – even if they've been hiding . Despite more or less slipping beneath the radar, I have been doing a few strength exercises each day emoticon and walked a bit every day emoticon – thanks Spark. None of it as much as I should but more than I would have before SP principles sneaked in and established themselves almost without my noticing. I’ve also paid more attention to food – again, not as much as I should but the basic principles are in place – it’s been more portion sizes that were the problem. So even in an off-time Spark has helped subliminally. emoticon

Apparently I’ve changed enough for ‘that thing’ to have started – the ‘thing’ that goes: ‘You won’t lose too much will you? You don’t want to get too thin.’ This from folk who weigh considerably less than I do! Why do people do that? If we want to talk BMI – then I am officially well into ‘overweight’ range still and need to lose another 30ish pounds. So – NO – I don’t want to get too thin but I DO want to get to a healthy weight and I’m ignoring all of ‘THEM’ until I get there. And I AM going to do that - and then I really won’t care what anyone says! emoticon

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TRENTDREAMER 11/11/2010 8:50PM

    "Apparently I�ve changed enough for �that thing� to have started � the �thing� that goes: �You won�t lose too much will you? You don�t want to get too thin.� This from folk who weigh considerably less than I do! Why do people do that? I"

* People hate/are scared by change. People project their own insecurities onto others.

Continued success to you. You can totally do this!!

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DOWNTOWNJEN 11/11/2010 12:08PM

    Your post made me smile. And the comment about "getting too thin". I think this is more about others insecurities than anything else. I LOVED, LOVED, LOVED reading about how you chose to disregard all that "noise" and set yourself a goal of where you feel healthy, happy and comfortable. emoticon emoticon emoticon

SP is pretty darn sneaky with those habits. I think the fact that you find yourself practicing these habits - even a little bit - just "because" speaks volumes about how effective your lifestyle change is! You are BEING that person you want to be. emoticon You have inspired me! emoticon

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APPLEADAY2010 11/10/2010 11:59AM

    Well done on your positive attitude! Sounds like you have learned well from Spark and even though you havn't been on it as much lately you have still made good choices every day such as choosing to do some toning etc. I think you are ready to go full pelt now so good luck with that and keep us posted! xx emoticon

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NEW-CAZ 11/10/2010 11:21AM

    Love your attitude Sonia!
You want to be fit and healthy and there's no stopping you emoticon.
It is strange how quickly healthy habits form and become second nature and we can all build on that emoticon and all it's done for me.
And I just know with your determination you'll get to a healthly BMI and your goal weight.. and blow your friends socks off with the new you emoticon emoticon

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Gains and Losses

Tuesday, November 09, 2010

It's a very long time since I blogged but I have to start back sometime. So here I am.
The last blog I posted was entitled 'Back on Board' I see. Well - cancel that! Sadly it was wishful thinking.
I've been in a bad space due to various upsets in my life and eating too much - not unhealthily - just consistently over my calories. Minimal exercise too. I have had to spend some time getting back on track and losing what I regained. So silly - hard lost pounds should be taken care of and not enticed back. At least I'm back where I was - indeed minus one :-) I would like to think the gain and loss is a lesson learned - but I can never be sure unfortunately.

For now - though - things are going well . . .

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WESLEYV 11/9/2010 8:18AM

    Welcome back

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NEW-CAZ 11/9/2010 7:58AM

    Heu Sonia you're back on the ball now, that's what matters.
We all have slide backs at times for whatever reason- the trick is to put it behind you and go forward.
With you all the way my friend
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LINDYPAINTS 11/9/2010 7:57AM

    Good for you,back to blogging and for thinking positively! Good luck! emoticon

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DOWNTOWNJEN 11/9/2010 7:40AM

    Kudos for eating healthy during trying times and getting back on track!

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MISSFORTE 11/9/2010 7:35AM

    yeah me too 2 weeks I have been off the wagon too many calories not bad food just too many calories. not enough excercise either


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Back on board . . .

Saturday, September 25, 2010

Afraid my resolution to blog every day this month has failed. I have found it really useful for my motivation and certainly found the supportive responses most helpful. I've been busier than I expected to be with non-stop appointments with students or working away. Plenty of walking time in the course of my duties but no strength exercises to speak of. Some questionable food choices. Time to correct all that and get back on the wagon although there is potentially one more week before the students settle down to their serious course work and leave me free to get on with my own life.

I returned from work in the West Country yesterday morning because I wanted to attend the funeral of the son of friends who died instantly, aged 41, in a ridiculous domestic electrical accident. There had to be a post mortem and various tests so the funeral was delayed and then happened rather quickly. It was really harrowing - he was the sort of guy that burned bright, inspired everyone he had contact with and has left a huge gap in many lives. Too young to go and with so much left to achieve. Certainly stopped my personal self-pity in it's tracks.

So - today's the new start - good food - decent strength exercises and walking a lot are on my menu again - come what may!

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    I love new days, weeks and months. It's so great that we can start again and again. Good for you! Your on the right track. Have a great weekend.

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ROSEWCI 9/26/2010 8:09PM

    Nice recover! Keep up the good work!

How sad about your friend's son. Life is fragile...we must handle w/care!

Rose emoticon

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AMBERZADE 9/25/2010 6:22AM

    I find it useful to write everyday too but I sometimes lose a day here and there. It's sometimes hard to find things to write about. But since the point is not to let things build up, I usually will post a blog anyway.

I am very sorry to hear about your friend.

I know you'll do great with your fresh start! Everyday is a new day and we can make out of it whatever we want to.


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MEDDYPEDDY 9/25/2010 5:43AM

    You obviously write a time of day when I have allready done my sparking and the next day you have already disappeared from m friend feed... I will go back and read september blogs and I am glad that you have found it useful to write as often as possible - I need to do the same thing but there is too much going on...

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NEW-CAZ 9/25/2010 5:36AM

    Hi Sonia, you have had a busy month and your resolution had to take a back seat is all but I'm glad you've found the responses encouraging.

I'm sorry to hear about your son's friend that is so tragic, certainly makes you count your blessings.

Have a great weekend hun, I'm off to workout while Pete watches F1 qualifying. emoticon

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