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Wonder how many have me as a sparkfriend that I've failed to notice?

Wednesday, December 05, 2012

Thought comes of inadvertently landing on someone's spark page and deciding to befriend them on musical tastes alone. Did let the person know I'd done so, and gave the option of reciprocating, or simply telling me to go away. But I suppose there's the third option, of being unaware of the request. After a year plus on spark, I've probably done the same at some point. So, I'm curious to know if there's a way to look at mutual friends versus the one way streets. Might also tell me how many true (reciprocating) friends I have on here, and who I should jettison for not being aware of my existence. OK, so that's overstating things by a quantum leap, but it's where my brain is.

As said brain really should be sleeping, I think I'll try to see if I can't make that my reality.

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IRONBLOSSOM 12/5/2012 6:08PM

    I think I always get a notification and I almost always add back. I don't remember/haven't correlated if others do though...I like Punky's info!

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3016DEBRA 12/5/2012 3:55PM

  You're worrying too much....take a rest emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 12/5/2012 2:13PM

    I think we've probably all done this!

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SEXBOBOMB 12/5/2012 9:55AM

    I've wondered this myself, Ahtrap -- and had that awkward moment when you discover, just by chance, that someone has friended you that you hadn't thought to friend.

Maybe it's because I, like you, tend to announce my friending to the friend-to-be as I'm doing it. I don't expect anyone to friend me back, but I just think it's polite to "let them know I'm there".

Let me explain: I'm an avid blog reader, and if I'm your friend, I've likely read all your latest blogs and made a good dent in your old ones. When I let someone know I'm friending them, it's to give them a heads-up that I'll soon be rifling through your closets and going through the medicine cabinets of your bloggity-blog life.

Now, I'm a writer-monkey-whore, so when I do happen upon people who have friended me without giving me the polite heads-up, I'm definitely not "mad" or anything. I just assume they like my words and want to "bookmark" me to read more. And I *do* like to be read, it's a damn compliment!

So, the way I see it, alerting someone that you are friending them is polite, but let's not quibble over formalities: you're welcome to have at my closets and cabinets, Dear Readers, and etiquette be damned!

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GOPINTOS 12/5/2012 7:22AM

    OH gosh, glad to see this post and the info provided by Punky, as I have been on Spark for about a year, and just recently learned how to set my email to receive such notifications!


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GARDENCHRIS 12/5/2012 7:18AM

    put that brain to bed!

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PUNKY100 12/5/2012 6:30AM

    Hahaha of course there is!! If you are looking at your full friend feed (on the bottom right of your start page) there is a little link hidden in that first paragraph. You can click on the words Click here which then takes you to a page where you can see 3 sets of friends: The ones who have added you but you haven't added back, your mutual friends, and then at the bottom, the ones you have added but haven't added you back.

It may be a real eye opener haha, I know I look at mine once in a while just to see what's up in my friend world. :-)

I hope you got some sleep!

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swinging on the spiral

Monday, December 03, 2012

Lately, I've been listening to a lot of music that has an introspective, perhaps gloomy sound to it, like Tool (subject is a reference to that band), Porcupine Tree, Opeth, Antimatter, Anathema, etc. The first three bands are outfits I listen to often, so they're not a surprise. The latter two are related, so, again, perhaps not a surprise, but I enjoyed listening to those bands this time around in a way I hadn't appreciated them before. Not sure if that's a product of mindset, or a slight shift in taste, or something else.

Only 1:30 AM tonight. This one is pure insomnia, as I was half asleep watching the Grinch Who Stole Christmas many hours ago, perked up watching the end of Raiders of the Lost Ark, really was awake for the end of High Fidelity, for which I would have changed from Raiders if only I'd noticed it was on. And now it's a couple of hours on, and sleep is but a stranger on the train going the other way.

Made it back to the gym today, intending to stick to lower body stuff. So, naturally, I used the rowing machine and found myself beating on the punching bag. Guess I'll see in the morning if I pay for that call. It was fun, though. I was oddly off balance though, bailing on attempts at squats with the 25 lb kettle bell, something I've done a few of (on the order of 2x5 reps) the last few times at the gym. Knees were extending towards and over the toes, and I couldn't correct that for some unfathomable reason. (To be slightly fair to myself, I've been doing these on the back of a balance bubble (those quarter moon doohickeys), where doing a squat without weights results in hilariously wobbly knees, and I've been trying to make it harder by moving my feet closer together, so that might play a role in the balance issue, rather than the neck thing.)

And, oh by the way, I just yawned. Given the hour of the night, that's not out of the ordinary...but, get this...it didn't hurt! Nice change from the last 4 nights!

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QUEENREAP12409 12/4/2012 4:34PM

    When I can't sleep I watch heavy metal music videos. You know the low gutteral grunting ones? Yeah those. It works every time.

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SIRENSONGS 12/3/2012 10:39AM

    I love blogs that mention music, especially if I'm partial to the artists mentioned. Opeth, Anathema, and Antimatter: hooray! And the others aren't half bad either!

Hope you're not too sore today from your workout, and that you managed to get some sleep!

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1CRAZYDOG 12/3/2012 9:09AM

    I'd be non-functional without sleep! But then again . . . guess I'm O-L-D by some standards! LOLOL

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BEECHNUT13 12/3/2012 8:01AM

    You'll be too tired to notice if you're sore, at this rate...

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GARDENCHRIS 12/3/2012 7:26AM

    GET some Sleep! Thant is an order! LOLOLOL

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    Good job on making it to the gym!

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SCRAPPINPOLLY 12/3/2012 3:00AM

    Keep your chin up!! You're doing great!

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bloggin after midnight, rockin til the dawn

Sunday, December 02, 2012

Getting to be a (bad?) habit, scribbling and posting on towards 3 am. Unlike the first such item a couple of days ago, this is not born of neck discomfort, as that issue is receding after a few painful days. It did affect my activities, as I haven't been to the gym since Wednesday. Need to make it 8 times in 13 days for the ugly t shirt. I also decided against making a trip to Milwaukee to see some friends play a show, which is unfortunate because it was the last such opportunity I had to do so before moving. Hopefully they can make a trek out Michigan way sometime.

Instead, I stayed in Madison Saturday night. And even there, there were a couple crossed wires, leaving me to my own devices. So I went and watched some football and breakdancing. The football was the Big Ten Championship game, of interest due to Wisconsin's participation. The Badgers did not disappoint (unlike their performances for much of the season), rolling over Nebraska 70-31. No, that's not a basketball score.

As for the breakdancing...a former coworker is a performer, or b-girl, and she posted about the event. Just watching the competitors/performers made my abs hurt.

Weird moment at the end of the night, when I went to greet my acquaintance, and quite naturally left off saying, "I'll see you around." It wasn't until a minute later as I was exiting the building that I realized that this was a person I'm unlikely to perhaps ever meet again.

My mind's just shot off on an age old tangent of, "where's that border between 'friends' and mere 'acquaintances'?" But, then again, I've probably been exploring that tangent a good bit lately, trying to decide who to spend time with, or to inform about leaving, before actually doing so. I called someone today, to see if she'd be around over the next two weeks, as she travels a fair deal for work. Being the perceptive type, she figured out something was up, and I told her why The two week timeline. Felt a little bad when she said I ruined her Saturday...but that I felt the need to get in touch, that puts this person in the friend category.

On the other hand, there are others to whom I am closer, and spend more time with, who I am reluctant to let know...and I'm not sure why...regardless, I have a couple of phone calls to make tomorrow.

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1CRAZYDOG 12/2/2012 10:29AM

    It isn't easy to say good-byes! When I left to move from IL to CO years ago, I went thru that process, and it was @ times painful! As it went, I only lived there for 10 months before a better opportunity came up back home in IL! As luck would have it though ANOTHER opportunity happened in WI, so had to leave IL again, and this time it's been 5 yrs. (and 4 mths. but I won't split hairs! LOL) I've learned that home is where the heart is and right now, this feels like home, so that's a good thing.

Wishing you all the best on your relocation to MI.

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I was just asking for it

Saturday, December 01, 2012

I crowed the other day in this space about weighing less than my brother. The scale gods didn't take kindly to the bragging, and have nailed me with a sharp climb in the digital readout. Now, it could be sodium weight, or it might be cookies and Doritos and barbecue and beer weight. Probably the latter.

Feeling the teensiest sorry for myself, what with the (literal) pain in the neck, I hit the grocery store yesterday before having eaten dinner. Snackages happened. And later, at night, snackaging occurred. And today, a night out with friends. There will be more of those over the next two weeks as I prepare to leave a place I've called home the past 9 years.

So, I'm OK with a moderate increase in short term weight. If it turns out to be real, that is. And if not, I'm down with that, too. I'll get back to the gym when it stops hurting to yawn, hopefully with enough days left to get that ugly t shirt.

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GARDENCHRIS 12/1/2012 10:01AM

    only way to beat it, is to KILL the snackages before they take over! Take no prisoners!!!

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1CRAZYDOG 12/1/2012 9:23AM

    Uh boy. The scale gods can be so vengeful sometimes!

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I suppose whiplash beats a concussion

Friday, November 30, 2012

Of course, these are all self-diagnoses, but I'm pretty well convinced that I did not get concussed Wednesday, but instead seem to have suffered a bit of whiplash. There was a headache that went and came in a desultory fashion, but it was of the sort that could be explained by the fact that the right sternoclaidomastoid was feeling a bit puffy and sore, and the upper trapezius over there was sore, too. The left side counterparts weren't as bad off but make their presence felt when I sneeze or yawn.

And yes, I had to look up the sternoclaidomastoid, couldn't recall what that was extending down from below the ear and flanking the throat. Although, with this slight swelling, I'm guessing it's more than just the muscle involved.

And yes, I am awake at 3:30 am, but in my defense, I was asleep for about 4 hours prior to waking and being unable to fall back asleep. My usually comfortable memory foam pillows aren't quite up to the challenge of my torqued neck.

Of course, I'm thinking it's whiplash, I'm also cognizant that it's not particularly severe, as I was largely able to go out and do whatever I needed. stayed away from the gym, but I might try some lower body stuff there tomorrow. Probably best to stay away from the rowing machine for a few days.

Then again, probably best to avoid the gym, but I've got an increasingly short time to get that ugly t shirt...hmmm...suppose it depends on how it's feeling the next few mornings. I know all too well the joys of a screwed up neck, so I'd rather it resolve itself sooner rather than later.

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1CRAZYDOG 11/30/2012 9:40AM

    Might be a good idea to get checked out. But you're right . . . could be whiplash. None-the-less, better to know what's what.

Have a great weekend.

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GARDENCHRIS 11/30/2012 7:36AM

    perhaps you should get checked out...

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COCOONGIRL 11/30/2012 5:32AM

    Good point NCSUE! The only thing is that even if it is a concussion there is nothing to do....but seriously if you are not feeling better you really should go and have someone look at it...I am an ER nurse and I have had PLENTY of people come in saying that they JUST had this pain or that pain and it turns out it is something more serious...So please if you are not feeling better within the next 24 hours go to the ER...we aren't that bad to hang out with for a few hours!! emoticon

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NCSUE0514 11/30/2012 4:48AM

    Uh... don't mean to be presumptuous... but do you think you might want to confirm your diagnosis, doc?

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