Wednesday, July 02, 2014
You can't control people or situations,
you can only control how you respond to them.
In this journey, I am becoming more comfortable
with just watching things unfold.
Often times when I am in a situation it is like
I am watching a movie. The various people are,
what I call, 'manifesting their own issues'.
It is as if they are stuck in this pattern of 'manifesting'
and I am there to watch and I observe.
Sometimes they are twisting what other people have said,
and they are 'reacting' to that in an unhealthy,
I am watching this unfold before me over and over again.
It is interesting, yet it can be painful if their 'manifesting'
is directed towards you and they lash out.
It is interesting that these days I am remaining very calm as
I see these things unfold before me.
It can be in many different locations, a vast variety of people,
and with people that you think should definitely know better.
I am usually quite shocked at the amount of people that are manifesting.
I am now trying to live in a constant state of what I call 'professionalism'.
It is like when you are a counsellor, the client should not be able to get you
upset in any way because then the counsellor would cease in acting in a
professional manner and would not benefit the client.
The counsellor must not have 'any buttons to push'.
The counsellor must always act above the foray.
I have been learning to separate myself from people and their inappropriate,
and most of the times, damaging way of relating to others, and just watch and observe.
I am able only, with the help of God, to watch and observe these things going on
before me like a play that I am not a part of, even if they lash out at me.
It is really empowering and interesting,
but often times I do feel sad and alone.
Hard to be close to people when they allow their issues so determine their outcomes.
They are kind of ruled by these issues, and can't, perhaps, see their issues to
rise above them.
But in thinking a lot about these things, I think that the bottom line is that
there really is only one acceptable way in which we need to act towards others.
And this is the way of love and respect, even if the other is 'striking a chord',
or 'pushing a button', or even if the other person is flat it wrong.
I really don't see any other acceptable way of responding but in
a civil tone and way.
If individuals and society would get this right, then we would be so much closer
to experiencing peace on earth.
It is the way of Love and respect one towards each other,
demonstrating love towards our fellow man.