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Eating and Exercising

Thursday, May 22, 2014

I've been visiting my daughter and granddaughters for eight days now. Before my trip, I knew that eating right and exercising was the way to lose weight. But since my visit, those things have been drilled into my head. I hope I now have good habits to take home with me.

We've been walking for 20 minutes every morning. Consistency is the key. I need to continue walking when I get home and back to my hectic life. Being retired, I know I have the time. I just need the dedication.

I've learned how to eat better: several small meals plus several between-meal snacks each day. Each meal/snack should have some protein in it to keep me full. I've learned to love steel-cut oats and whole wheat peanut butter crackers. We've gone out to dinner several times where I've learned to portion control.

None of this is new, but now it's real. I've lost almost 3 pounds during my visit. Here's to better habits and losing more weight!! emoticon

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JOANNS4 5/23/2014 9:11AM

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WILLOW49 5/22/2014 1:33PM

    You're certainly on the right track to success! Keep up the good work!

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Getting Old-er

Sunday, May 27, 2012

I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia over 8 years ago. Somewhere along the line I read that people with fibromyalgia actually feel ten years older than they chronologically are. So, that means I知 actually feeling like a 77 year old. Ten years ago having fibromyalgia wasn稚 so very bad, but now my body is beginning to feel worse. I have joint pains in most of my joints; I have memory issues and concentration issues. My knees won稚 lift me off a chair anymore.

So, what does this mean? It means adjusting. There are adjustments at every stage of life and if I知 at a new stage, it doesn稚 mean I should give up. I now use a cane and a walker is waiting in the wings. I read much more slowly and need to keep notes on the characters in the book I知 reading. I keep lists everywhere of the things I need to do and appointments I need to keep.

I visited my daughter in Arkansas a few weeks ago and the flight down knocked out all my energy. I walked between gates carrying my laptop and my CPAP machine (another adjustment). I learned from that experience and asked for a wheelchair (another adjustment) between the gates on the way home. I知 real glad I did. I arrived home with much more energy than when I arrived in Arkansas.

I知 sure there are more adjustments coming at me down the road. I need to be open and ready for them. My adult kids want me to live until I知 100 years old, especially since they lost their dad to cancer two years ago. I知 going to do my best.

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LVMAMAW 5/27/2012 11:29AM

    What a great attitude! You are so right it is just adjusting to the changes and moving forward. Not always easy, not always what we would like, but in order to continue to enjoy our life it is necessary! Thanks for pep talk! I needed that! emoticon emoticon

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WILLOW49 5/27/2012 8:34AM

    Yes, life does get harder as we get older. I am okay to walk in the house, but sometimes use a walker when going distances. We have to adjust and do the best we can to keep ourselves as healthy as we can. If it means asking for and accepting help, then do so. We must enjoy our lives as much as possible. We only pass this way but once.

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LKWQUILTER 5/27/2012 8:14AM

    Nancy, I am learning that too. Things I used to do automatically, now are really hard to do and am learning it is ok to ask for help. Our bodies tell us what we can and cannot do and if we accept it and still go on we can still be happy--it is up to us. ((HUGS))

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EMGERBER 5/27/2012 7:35AM

    Yes life is always about adjustments. If you accept the changes and make the adjustments you will be happier. Fighting them will not help but only hole you back. My parents are in their 90's and have made many adjustment and they are both going strong. Enjoy your life you only get 1 chance at it.

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Seasonal Affective Disorder

Monday, February 13, 2012

SAD (or Seasonal Affective Disorder) is defined as "A form of depression occurring at certain seasons of the year, especially when the individual has less exposure to sunlight."

I get SAD every January and February. I'm in one SAD period right now. I have no desire for activity, whether it's simply going someplace or doing something. I'd rather stay home lying down on my couch. Even my computer and the Internet hold no curiosity for me.

I eat junk food like it's the last food on earth, just shoving it into my mouth: cookies, candy, etc. and am gaining the corresponding weight. I even have a sun lamp which I put on as soon as I'm in the den - to no avail. I need the real sun.

The Mayo Clinic says that, in order to deal with SAD, I should write down:
All my symptoms (see above)
All my meds (done)
Any major stressors or life changes
Other mental or physical health problems
See your doctor (seeing therapist on a regular basis)

My self esteem is very low normally and SAD puts me into a downward spiral. I get more depressed as I eat bad carbs (You should know better by now!) and gain more weight (You know how to eat properly!)

The only life change I experience is longer and colder days. With fibromyalgia, I have to make sure that I don't get chilled, so I wrap myself in afghans when I get cold. If I run errands, I need to get my car warmed as soon as possible.

Solution? Move to a place where winter isn't so long or accept SAD and deal with its consequences when the sun comes out again. See you all in April!! emoticon

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GRAMVICKI 2/18/2012 2:12AM

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I love your new background!!!!

Maybe Greenie will take us all in for the winter!!!

Love you lady, Vicki

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YANKEEBELLA 2/16/2012 10:35AM


I am sending positive and healing thoughts your way. I am sad to think that you will miss out on love and laughter and friends until April.....

You sent me an Exercise Ball goodie...do you have one that you can bounce around on while listening to some energizing music with your sunlight on?

how about watching those movies like Blue Hawaii and Beach Blanket Bingo???? LOL

Take good care, my dear friend. Hugs across the miles.


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RNANGEL13 2/15/2012 6:42PM

    Have you ever had a Thyroid Panel (Blood Test) done??? Have you thought of the tanning bed for you SAD/Fibro/thyroid, but use sunscreen... emoticon

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ABERLAINE 2/15/2012 6:25PM

    Kaye, I took your advice and changed my background to the desert - colorful and warm.

Margie, I take 2,000 iu of vitamin D3 each day for my fibromyalgia. Apparently it doesn't help my SAD.

Thanks all for your comments and support! emoticon

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MARGIE100%PURE 2/13/2012 5:34PM

    Aberlaine- You may want to ask a doctor about vitamin 泥3 supplements (see my blog for more details). And trace sugars as replacements to empty calorie cane and corn sugars can reduce that sugar spike to deep lows. More fiber can also help with blood sugar leveling to remove those mean drops. The vitamin 泥3 can improve overall health so you become more willing to move. And the trace sugars can actually help healing and cell resistance to bacteria, fungal infections, and viral invasions. These are over-the-counter products with cell loving goodness. The fruits and vegetables in 5to9 per day have happiness value, too. They possess these trace sugars. You may want to find hobbies to encourage laughing and confidence increasing skills.

These tips have been helping me and in 2011 I took in no more than シ cup of cane and corn sugar combined total!

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WILLOW49 2/13/2012 4:07PM

    I suffer with SAD, too, but this year hasn't been too bad for me. Other winters have been much worse. I do force myself to get out at least 3-4 times a week; it does make a difference.

My son is in Atlanta. I can't wait for hubby to retire (5 years) so we can go south!

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ALASKASKY 2/13/2012 12:42PM

    I am with you o moving to a warmer climate. I suffer from both and can't wait until my son is finished school(still have 5 years) I plan on leaving the cold behind forever.

One thing I've found that helps somewhat is Day Light light bulbs.I can't afford the lamp but the bulbs are pretty good. emoticon

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KAYECAN 2/13/2012 9:19AM

    Well I guess Mayo Clinic has good advice, but I'm going to throw one in there too. I do love your background wallpaper, it's pretty, but why not change it to something warm and bright and cheerful so that every day when you log on....it will put a warm smile on your face. Don't wait till April to come out of your cave....find the positives in today. Hey, I'm from Montana and we know what SAD is here too. But above all those dark clouds the sun is shining. Live April in February!!!!
Have a healthy day and set a mini-goal to just make healthy choices all day long.

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Thanksgiving Meltdown

Saturday, November 26, 2011

Let me start by saying, I hate this time of the year. I wish I could make the days between October 31st and January 1st disappear from the calendar.

I'm a compulsive person who wishes to please everyone. That way I get some positive vibes back which I need desperately. I'm an adult without an ego, without a good self-image, so I need to get it from others. This becomes very stressful and I get very angry with myself. So goes the vicious cycle.

A month ago, in an attempt to get my weight under control, I joined Curves. The membership is being paid for by my senior health insurance plan. I can come and go at my own time, work at my own pace and meet others like me who are trying their best to stay healthy while facing their senior years.

Last Tuesday I weighed myself to find that I had gained 5 (FIVE) pounds in one week! I collapsed mentally. I forgot that I was creating muscle which weighs more than fat.

For days, I believed I was a failure, the worst person in the world. I wanted to crawl into a cave and disappear. Instead, I had to go to dinner with my daughter and her family who had just arrived from Arkansas for Thanksgiving. I had to go to Thanksgiving dinner (w/o my partner who won't go anywhere there are crowds or kids - even though I needed him with me).

Finally, Thanksgiving was over and things calmed down for a day. My daughter and family are visiting others and will return tonight. In the meantime, something "clicked" in me and I decided I didn't have to do anything I didn't want to do. Yesterday was a blessing: calm, peaceful and relaxing.

Next Sunday I leave for my third Caribbean cruise with my best fibro friend. I had been dreading that, too. But not anymore. We're going to spend 12 days together doing whatever we want. Christmas shopping is over so there won't be a frenzy of purchasing when I return. And, no one is getting Christmas cards this year. Most of those I send out are to people I've never even met. How ridiculous is that!

Happy holidays to all - and please, for your sake, make them truly happy! Do what you want to do, not what's expected of you.

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TRY2KEEPGOING 11/30/2011 9:41PM

    I am so happy that you are feeling better and still going on your trip. It was a lousy week for you but here you are pulling yourself up by your bootstraps!!!! Way to go my friend!!! Please do enjoy your cruise and make lots of memories. Schedule time to rest--your fibro friend will understand and probably appreciate it too! I am glad that you are feeling ready for the holidays so you don't get too overwhelmed.

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RAINBOWFALLS 11/29/2011 7:25PM

    I'm glad you are in better spirits. I am sure you will have a wonderful time on your cruise! emoticon

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ABERLAINE 11/29/2011 5:47PM

    Just found out that extreme anger and rage can be caused by fibromyalgia. Let's see, what else can I blame on fibromyalgia: a hangnail, thinning hair, fungal toenails, losing height.

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ALTORECORDER 11/27/2011 5:13PM

    Hey! WEIGHT isn't what we're trying to lose! Let's say it straight out, it's FAT we want to shed! I'm doing my best to gain bone weight and muscle weight, and if that means the scale doesn't say nice things to me, well I know better than it does! (Then there's water weight from all that salt too....)

Thanksgiving is a sweet time of year, time to gather the fruits of our long term efforts in pursuing good health. (Are you stronger for going to Curves?)

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MARTHASPARKS 11/26/2011 7:25PM

    Nancy, I am glad that the sunshine has come back out for you. Enjoy that cruise and indulge yourself! Your friend will understand the importance of rest and the sunshine. Don't forget to make allowances for the delayed onset travel fatigue. It always hits me on the second day of travel and the day after I get home.

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GRAMVICKI 11/26/2011 3:20PM

    Nancy, so sorry you hada bad week but that things have gotten better. We have been missing you. Have a very wonderful cruise and relax and enjoy your friend.

Hugs and Prayers, Vicki

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Trust, Once Lost, is Hard to Get Back

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

My DP has been gone for five days at a family reunion. I stayed home to watch our two dogs (one of whom is a "fearful dog.. Yesterday, I went to pick him up - without the dogs.

I turned on the AC in the den, brought in their water dish and closed the door. I knew our bigger dog was comfortable with doors, so she could get outside to do her "business" and out to the kitchen to wait for us to return.

Our little dog hasn't learned about doors yet, so I knew he couldn't get out and get into trouble.

Well, when I got home and let him out, he was timid and shaking. I blamed it on my DP who stormed into the house like a whirlwind. It wasn't his fault. As our dog cringed behind his chair and allowed my DP to pet him, I realized it was me he was afraid of now.

Whenever I approached, he ran. When he looked at me his tail was between his legs. I had lost his trust by locking him into a cage again. Yes it was a larger cage this time, but still a cage where he couldn't escape.

I can barely see these words through my tears. I never meant to hurt him. I told my DP that we needed to be home by 4:00 p.m. to feed the dogs. He said it wouldn't matter if we got home by 5:00 p.m. Turns out it was 5:30 p.m.

It took two months to earn his trust. Now I must start all over again. I feel like a bad "mommy".

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PEPPERCORN2 10/19/2011 9:40AM

    Hi there, Oh don't feel bad, maybe next time you could put one of your shirts in there with him and a toy. I don't think you were bad. An he will come around and understand. Good luck and keep on smiling they know. emoticon emoticonP.S. I have a scared cat even after 2 years.lol she will run from me for no reason.

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PICKIE98 8/6/2011 5:30AM

    Just like Pavlov's dog, she will learn, gradually, that Mommy WILL let her out, that Mommy will not ignore her,, that being part of this household means rules and respect from pack leaders.
Tough, but it works,, by putting her back in, gradually leaving her in longer,even when you are home, letting her know that she Will be let out,, when pack leader says so..
still loved, but pack leader dictates..

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CUPBUTTER 7/21/2011 2:49PM

    Nancy your little dog will come around again. All he wants is your love. I know you have gave him plenty. He wil be ok. Just wait. You are not a bag Mommy. Hugs Barbara

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GRAMVICKI 7/20/2011 1:41PM

    Nancy, you are a good "mommy". You have done an amazing job with a dog who was caged up for over a year. The day may have set him back a little but I am sure he will come around.

Hugs and Prayers, Vicki

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RAINBOWFALLS 7/20/2011 7:50AM

    I hope he comes back around soon. We cage trained our Huskey when we got her as a pup. It took a long time before we could truse her out of her cage during the day because of a smaller dog we had that she would torment. Her cage is her safe place, but we hardly ever have to close the door anymore. Only when visitors come because she is so hyper. emoticon

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