Saturday, October 08, 2011
I would put decluttering up there with exercise and weight loss. If you do anything for a month, it becomes a habit. First you have to make up your mind to do it! I think I've decided to attack the clutter in my home but it is a constant effort to remind myself not to put something down to deal with later. To keep my piles under control, I need to put it away NOW!
Kaseycoff was my first friend here on Spark and she's had to hear me grouse about not being organized, not losing weight, not sleeping, and not exercising. That would have to be a good friend to listen to all of that grousing.
I've always said that I am organized out of disorder, able to juggle many things and still have a mess to plow through. But as I age, I find that this disorder is making me crazy and it is harder to plow through. Case in point, I've been talking about cleaning off my desk in my office but it is still not done. And yesterday, while I was dealing with the wrong cushion cover for the chaise lounge, I drove myself crazy looking for my client's folder and trying to determine what the solution was. I just had that folder in my hands but it disappeared somehow. That effort was so frustrating that it convinced me that I have to do something about it, finally!
I think it is time to call in the refinforcements for help! I'll have to schedule a time for Cassandra, my organizing friend, to come over and help me with this filing. I just can't go through another year like this, or month, or day or week. Next Friday we are going away for 4 days to see our youngest son and his family so this is a busy week. But I'm going to schedule a date with her before the end of October. See, I'm giving myself at least 3 weeks to get this done! Cassandra can you hear me?
The good part of this is that it has taken the emphasis on food and dieting away. What a relief! This doesn't mean I'm chowing down. It means I've got other things to tackle first. And if I relieve the clutter, the diet will follow! Right? And the exercise too! Right? Later.
Friday, October 07, 2011
I reread my blog from yesterday and it was so petty. Bummed out over a cushion cover that didn't fit. It was partially my fault so I was more than a little mad at myself as well. And like I said, it wasn't brain surgery, just an embarrassment. Now, brain surgery is a bummer of a day. I use that term because I have a friend in my company who uses it to emphasis the silliness of some of our problems that we get so uptight about.
Many times when our attitudes stink its because we are mad at ourselves or have some issue with insecurities. We are avid church goers and there is much talk about forgiving others in the sermon content. This is so important for your health and well being but we must also learn to forgive ourselves for our shortcomings and indiscretions. That's not easy sometimes and our minds will race with talk about how bad we are or how fat or lazy.
Forgive ourselves for being fat? Now that's an issue that hasn't come up. Why are we fat? The answer is within us but we dont' want to see the real reasons. Mostly its because we eat too much. And stress causes us to eat too much. Does it? Eating too much is a personal responsibility and only we, ourselves, can control it.
I was seeing a therapist back in the 90's when I was wrestling with full blown depression. I was talking about how this person or that person affected me. She said, "We can't control other people. We can only control the way we deal with them." That was a very good lesson to learn. So if we get stressed out by another person and choose to eat to relieve the stress, we have chosen to deal with that issue with food. It's our choice. One of my favorite bible verses is Philippians 4:1-9. "Do not worry about anything but in ...prayer...let your requests be made known to god." I pray a lot when something is bothering me and it helps me to dump it out of my thoughts. It doesn't help though, if we pray to God for help and then pick up our pile of prayers and take them back. We have to give them up and mean it.
Life is so complicated isn't it? And at 63, I am still learning. I challenge you to pick something about yourself that has become an annoying pile of stuff and figure a way to dump it. You'll be much lighter! LAter.
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