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FEELING STAGNANT

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

I'm feeling stagnant, just don't feel like eating right, weighing in, exercising. Bored with it I guess. Bored with the effort I made last year and not losing. This weekend we are flying off to Niagara Falls to freeze to death. Actually I am looking forward to it, to experience the cold, briefly, see the falls in their frozen glory, walk on ice. Maybe it will snow a bit and then I'll return to sunny Florida where each day is a different gift, one cold, one warm, one sunny, one rainy, never snowy.

I know what' s wrong with me. It's worry over my oldest son. He takes after his mom and doesn't want to talk about his problems. He has depression also and periodically goes on and off medication. He's a good worker, always has a job but struggles with finding himself and getting the job of his dreams. Now, he has a good job on the local Air Force Base but he is totally burned out and fed up with it. He has decided to leave it (5 years) and go to EMS school and then to EMT school. He has a friend who did that and evidently is happy in his job. On the one hand, I am happy he has made this decision to go into a career he has aspired to. But I worry in this economy, in this job environment, if there will be a job waiting for him when he finishes his schooling. I ask him and all he says is they have a job placement program at the school. He will stay at his job until June but I will worry until then. He is 35.

I think they will be okay money wise as they are due to get an insurance settlement from auto accidents last year. If they manage wisely, they will have the money to get through this training period. In the past they haven't been known to be wise in their money situation. And he doesn't want to talk about it. Takes after his Mom in that sense. A lot of times my husband will ask me about things and I just don't want to rehash it or talk about it. Makes him mad.

On the other hand, they have beautiful children. His son is walking or teetering across the room and is really happy with himself. And my granddaughter is beautiful. I hope things work out for them. Last year, my youngest son lost his job and I prayed really hard for weeks for him to get another, and he did. A good job in sales and he likes it. Now, I guess I will have to start praying on the other side for things to work out for my oldest and his family.

I hope I get out of this stagnant feeling soon.

  
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PRAIRIECROCUS 1/25/2011 5:45PM

    I hope the beauty of the Niagara Falls area, with its friendly people. will
cheer you up ! I hope that everything will turn out fine, for you and yours !

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ANDI571 1/25/2011 10:25AM

    I am at the same point you are. I am so sick of tracking food and worrying about what to eat. I decided to pull out my book the Weigh Down Diet by Gwen Shamblin. The whole concept is letting God help us through those emotional times. Going to Him instead of food. I haven't tracked anything for 2 days now, and I just keep praying for God to help me not to eat outside the perimeters of hungry and full. I won't weigh again until next Monday, but I feel the past 2 days I have eaten pretty good.

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KASEYCOFF 1/25/2011 10:01AM

    Dunno what to tell you about the stagnation: I was just emailing to someone that these winter doldrums seem to be lasting 'forEVer,' which they do. Regardless of the weather outside (rainy here, rather than snowy, but 'sokay by me, lol) there's something about this mid-winter season that drags. Eh.

Re your son going back to school: both of my kids are in school. They were both working full-time, tho she's down to part-time as she's hoping to get the degree finished up this semester. Although it's scary in some ways given today's economic climate, there's a lot to be said for changing careers and direction and doing something that feels more rewarding. Sounds as tho your son is thinking along those lines. All you can do as a parent is be supportive and encouraging - could be the accidents last year were a wake-up call for him to find something he wanted to do that would be more meaningful.

I used to have this idea (years ago, when I was young and foolish, lol) that the hardest part of raising kids was letting go of their hands when they learned to walk and letting go of the two-wheeler when they learned to ride a bike. Then came the 'turrible teens,' and I realized that steering them thru all the potential problems there was the scariest part. Then they grew up. Now it's scary because they are trying to navigate their own crafts. Which gives credence to that old saw about 'Having a child is like having your heart walking around outside your body, forever.' That it is. :-)

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BENCHED 1/25/2011 9:42AM

    I feel bored and stagnant too, and I think it stems from my recent job and wedding stress. With everything occupying my mental space, it's hard to want to be physical. It's a different level of exhaution, so I hear you.

You're a good mommy to be concerned, and I'm not going to tell you to relax or not worry. All I will say is to trust his judgement and support him. That's what he needs more than anything. You might need to mention to him that you love him and that you're available to talk, just to open the gates a little bit. If he needs you, he'll come to you.

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EFFECTS OF THE BP OIL SPILL

Friday, January 21, 2011

All the news is about snow now and boy is it ever snowing! However, I live in NW Florida on the Gulf Coast and we don't have any, just beautiful white sand and blue water.
Last April the oil spill hit the Gulf Coast from Louisiana to Florida. I've been fortunate that I have a long standing business and prior clients and referrals so I was okay. I also started collecting social security this year so that helped. However, Wed morning there was a meeting at the convention center for those with claims. Mr. Feingold was there to speak and the room was packed with 600 or more people. Let me tell you, it is a sad situation and it is not going away for a long while.

There was an established Contractor who spoke about cancelled contracts for construction right after the explosion. He has been unable to find work and is about to face foreclosure. The claims process is difficult and stagnant. Another business owner with 4 locations, is about to go under as well. Story after story from fishermen, waitresses, workers in the tourist industry, realtors, etc. etc. were heard. MAny are desperate and about to lose their homes, while others can't seem to get a payment. The man next to me said there were 4 people where his wife worked, 2 got payments, 2 did not. Doing the same job?

It's not only claims for last work for 2010, but the lost work will continue into this year. Our Real Estate market was heavily reliant on condominiums and second homes. That segment is dormant. It has led me to think that I will review my situation and be ever so grateful for what comes in. I will also think about the others that I work with. One woman who makes draperies for me is really in a bad situation. I told her I would help her fill out her paperwork when she comes to having to write up the situation. I believe that many who have not been paid, do not have good records or are not skilled in writing and describing their situation. I almost wanted to put out a notice that I would help those in need. I will help this woman and I hope she gets some money soon. And others too.

The economy in the whole country is suffering and it is hard when you see people you know in that situation. I've got a lot to do. Later.

  
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PRAIRIECROCUS 1/22/2011 4:28PM

    I am sorry to hear of all that economic hardship !
My prayers and good wishes to all !

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CARLANNIE 1/21/2011 3:28PM

    The commentary has disappeared from the national nightly news, but I had wondered if the local economies around the gulf had snapped back yet. Sounds like not. Hopefully 2011 will turn around for many people!

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ANDI571 1/21/2011 12:09PM

    It is so sad at what our country is going through. I am afraid we are all one paycheck away from going under. It's not a good thought.

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SBILLIAN 1/21/2011 9:48AM

    So sad - best wishes to all on the gulf.

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BACK FROM MARKET!

Monday, January 17, 2011

I am back from the Atlanta Merchandise Mart and I had a fabulous time! A lot of walking around the showrooms. This is the place designer's go to see what is new in the market place and place orders for new products. I will be writing a blog about the new trends and will post it here. But in the meantime, the buzz words are neutrals, birds, washed grey furniture, and unfinished but polished furnitiure!

Small birds were everywhere, on candlesticks, mirrors, lamps, pictures etc. And I mean sparrows and chickadee small birds. You could see the emphasis from the green movement in the natural linens and colors shown. I'm very excited about it but most regular people, like my clients and those of you who are reading this, will never see the washed greys in furniture as it will be a high end look. Painted furniture is still very big, a lot of distressing and soft colors! The greys and beiges were accented with a new color called plum raisin which is a soft purply plum and was often mixed with teal. Later.

  
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MARSHASTAR 1/19/2011 12:33PM

    I envy your getting to see that Atlanta showroom. I really love looking at designer stuff. My FAV. mag. is Architectural Digest.


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PRAIRIECROCUS 1/19/2011 1:47AM

    I'm looking forward to your future blog, about the plum raisin/teal
trend in home decor !

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KASEYCOFF 1/18/2011 12:58PM

    I'm looking forward to your trends update. I have a friend who will be VERY interested in the plum raisin / teal look, I can see it coming! :-D

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DONNAEDA 1/17/2011 10:58AM

    I love the new coming look.

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DR1939 1/17/2011 10:14AM

    Like the plum raisin/teal combination. Sounds like a good year to come in home decor.

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BE CALM, BE HAPPY!

Thursday, January 13, 2011

LEARN TO BE CALM AND YOU WILL ALWAYS BE HAPPY!

I struggled with a blog title today and finally ended up with the above, because today I am calm and happy! It is good to read other peoples blogs, how frustrated they are, how happy they are, disappointed, struggling, whatever is going on. Some things you can relate to, others not. I read a blog today from a young woman who is extreme in her low opinion of herself. So sad. At 62, if I could only redo parts of my mind throughout my life, I would have been a lot less stressed. But now, at 62, I'm happier than I have ever been.

I have learned not to worry but to give my worries over to God. Let him handle them. My oldest son has decided to leave his job in food service and get training as an EMT. It is very worrying in this economic client but I am happy that he has a goal and is striving for it. This doesn't happen until the summer so I have a lot of praying to do so that God can handle it. I just hope we don't have to contribute to the education. We did that already.

I'm not going to worry about losing weight. I am going to apply what I know about healthy eating to each meal and try to make the best choices available. I've learned a lot in the past year with sparking and I will continue to learn from all my friends.

I'm going to crank up the Wii fit as often as I can. In fact, after I finish here I'll go do a few. When the weather gets better, I will walk outside and take the dog. When things settle down and I have more time to make the effort, I might resume my WW efforts. Right now, I have too much other stuff on my plate, like clients needs, going to market in Atlanta tomorrow and Niagara Falls at the end of the month. Filling Mom-in-laws pill boxes, taking her for a hair cut, keeping up with kids and grandchildren, etc. etc.

Social activities get in the way but like I said, I'm having more fun than ever. My sister wanted me to join the Yacht Club for years and we finally decided to do so this summer. ANd we have had a great time! Last night we went to game night with them. They are trying to get more people to come out during the week. So we played pinochle, had 3 beers and pizza. The pizza was homemade and delicious. Very thin crust and fresh veggies. WE talked about our upcoming trip to Niagara Falls and we are all looking forward to it! I'll tell you about that when it happens! Later. Got to get going!

  
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PRAIRIECROCUS 1/14/2011 5:04PM

    What a lovely blog !
You've made ME feel calm and happy, too !
Thanks !

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MARSHASTAR 1/14/2011 12:04PM

    I know I say this all the time, but here goes again. ."""I live vicariously through you""!!..
Your busy schedule keeps me thinking about all the stuff I haven't done.
(so i sit here still not doing anything)
I admire your zest for life, and you are so correct to just keep going, being busy.
DOING stuff instead of sitting in front of the computer THINKING about doing stuff.
Thank you for sharing your interesting life with us.
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Comment edited on: 1/14/2011 12:05:00 PM

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KASEYCOFF 1/14/2011 6:10AM

    Yep, sounds like you're really getting things in perspective. Diet and exercise and so on are a part of life, and important part, but (IMHO) not the main focus of life. The real priority is your own contentment and enjoyment of life, and if you've got that, you've got the world on a string, kiddo. Thinks me. emoticon

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SNOWLESS IN FLORIDA!

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Just imagine, we are the only state in the nation with no snow! Even Hawaii has snow according to George Stephanopoulis on GMA! It's cold enough here for snow so I'll bundle up anyway. Would love to just stay home but not to be. I've been going back and rereading my blogs from last year at this time. I had just returned from DIsney and while writing, this came out of my fingers:


"YOU CANNOT LOSE WEIGHT AND KEEP IT OFF WITHOUT CHANGING YOURSELF! "
Whoa, did I really say that? You cannot lose weight and keep it off without changing yourself!! It just rolled off the keyboard and it's my new mantra!!!!!!!! I believe it!! For the first time in my life, I KNOW I have to change to be thin! I understand, I get it!
Losing weight is not depriving myself of the pleasure of eating anything I want. If I want to lose weight, I have to give up some foods temporarily and then learn to eat them in moderation, for the rest of my life! "

Okay, I still believe it but I guess I haven't decided to change myself enough to lose the weight. Or I am too busy with extracurricular activities to give it the time. I did set up my Wii fit yesterday and I did 35 min and I was told I was in pretty good shape, even though obese! Looking at my picture, do you think I am obese? I said yesterday that I would devote more of my time to exercise and still try to eat healthier and make good choices. This past year I've done little to increase the exercise while trying to stick to some sort of diet. Maybe if I concentrate on more exercise, the weight loss will happen. I'll try it.

At least I am still here. And cold! Later

  
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MAIDFRANMARY 1/12/2011 10:00PM

    You can come up here in Minnesota. We are going down below zero tonight. We have 20inches of snow or better on the ground right now. It's hard to want to exercise when it's that cold.
We all need to change at least something. Exercising is my toughest area. Good luck to you.

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ELSEEBEE 1/12/2011 12:41PM

    I have about 10 inches of snow in my yard- how much should I send you? I lived in Florida all my life until a few years ago. Learning to live in snow country (western NC) is challenging, but fun (I'm retired and can stay home when it's icy out).

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TENACIOUSTIGER 1/12/2011 9:11AM

    its great that you are snowless, we are visiting usa in feb conference in florida nad then touring around but im looking forward to the cold. Live in Perth west australia and it is 40 c every da here for the last month, too hot even for the beach.! all the best with the new you

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KKKAREN 1/12/2011 8:57AM

    You don't look obese in your picture. Keep up the good attitude.

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