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Sunday, July 21, 2013

Tomorrow we leave for Boston, NH and Maine and we are so excited! I am particularly excited about the geneology part, even though it is my husband's family I am researching. When I was in high school, I hated history. It was so boring and when I went to college, could barely keep awake in history classes. Who wants to know about Machiovelli?

I've been researching my husband's family for about 20 years and with the internet and ancestry.com, it has become easier to find out about things that happened 400 years ago. His ancestor, wife and several children came over from England to Massachusetts in 1630 on the Arbella. They settled in Watertown, Massachusetts and the rest is history. We are going to Watertown on this trip and I've been talking with someone from the historical society there.

His ancestor is one of the founding fathers of Watertown and there is a monument there honoring them. There is also an old cemetery and one of his ancestors is buried there. At least one headstone that is readable. It is likely there are more. We also know that the brother of his direct ancestor was a member of the original Boston Tea Party.

In Maine, we are visiting family. His mother's 98 year old sister lives there and we are taking an album of pictures to her. For one day, we venture off to Bethel, Maine to visit the historical society there. Three brothers from the original clan settled in Bethel after the Revolution when Maine became a state. We were put in touch with a volunteer from the Bethel historical society and he shares the last name of my husband. His ancestor was one of the brothers that migrated to Bethel! Distant cousins I guess! It will be so interesting to meet and talk with him as I'm sure he knows more than we do!

My husband hasn't shared much interest in this geneology stuff even though it is his family. Why I am so avid about it I don't know except I have two sons and 3 grandsons to carry on the name. And a beautiful granddaughter who might one day be interested!

We have even encountered a woman at the church my husband attended when he was a boy who has relatives with the same last name. She has done some digging since talking with us and there is a connection there as well. I need to dig up my camera and maybe try and figure out how to use it. Cell phone pics are nice but gee, I do have a camera!

These people were prolific back on those days with little or no birth control. One relative's wife had 15 children in 20 years! FIFTEEN! Can you imagine what hell she went through bearing and taking care of 15 children. I think only one died and she died at the 20 year point and then he married again! There is ample documentation on this stuf from 400 years ago.

Its hard to wrap your mind around 400 years! There is another chapter to this story as well. This family emigrated from Suffolk in England. We lived in Suffolk with the USAF in the 70's, not far from the area where they lived. Who knew. Wish we had known when we lived there but that is another trip and another day. And more history to research.


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JIBBIE49 7/25/2013 12:10AM

    Have fun.

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CAROLISCIOUS 7/21/2013 9:52PM

    Enjoy your trip...very interesting information.

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JUST2OFUS 7/21/2013 2:34PM

    Enjoy and have a great time walking down memory lane! Still hope to see pictures of the Bee in my Bonnet quilt. Don't forget to post one when you have it done.

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RIDLEYRIDER 7/21/2013 8:39AM

  As a native New Englander, I say, ENJOY!!

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LKWQUILTER 7/21/2013 8:34AM

    Have a great time Carol. ((HUGS))

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Thursday, June 13, 2013

Yesterday, my husband and I booked our trip to New Hampshire to inter his mother's Cremains. We are going the third week of July and so looking forward to it. He hasn't been on a trip in 2 years while I have gone to two conferences and a trip with my sister last year to Delaware. There are so many things he wants to do while there, having grown up in New Hampshire.

Of course we will have to visit his mother's sister who is 98 and the remaining sibling. And her family. She might come to the interment but she lives in Maine and it is a distance for her to travel.

We got free airline tickets with points from a credit card that I use in my business. We got 3 free nights in a hotel in Concord through our timeshare. And we found a rental car for the week for $275. It would be nice if his cousin in Maine would offer to house us for a couple of days but we'll see.

His Dad was a railroad man for 30 years and we have to visit the Narrow Gauge Railroad museum in Portland Maine where a caboose that he once owned is housed. My husband has a whole album of pictures of narrow gauge trains that his Dad kept and he is taking it with him and meeting with the archivist., They are so excited to see it. In fact, we have about 8 albums of train pics that he took over the years, some of trains that don't exist anymore. I think they must be worth something but who knows how to find that out.

And of course we are doing some geneology. I've been keeping up with his family on Ancestry.com and we have traced his family back to a couple who came over from England on The Arabella in 1630. A group of folks then settled in Watertown, Mass. He was one of the founding fathers of Watertown and there is a monument dedicated to them in Watertown. And one of his ancestors is buried in the old cemetery there. Don't know where the rest of them are . I've even found 2 revolutionary war soldiers that were brothers of his direct ancestor and I'll have to figure out how to sign him up for the Sons of the American REvolution. They say it has to be a direct ancestor but does an uncle count? Or brother? Some of his family then ventured up to Bethel, Maine in the early 1800's. I wonder why? If we get a chance we might try and get up to Bethel as well. There is a lot of documentation out there and now with the internet, a lot on the web. Both Watertown and Bethel have Historical Societies so that would be a visit.

Hubby isnt' as excited about geneology as I am but he goes along with it. We have two sons who are interested and I'm doing this for them as well. And 3 grandsons. I found out within the last year that this family lived in Nayland, Suffolk, England and emigrated from there nearly 400 years ago. When we lived in England with the Air Force in the 70's, my husband would drive past Nayland everyday when he went to work! There was even a little town near us named Sternfield and the last name of this family was Sternes. Connection maybe? Wish we had known more then but with two little kids and no internet it was impossible to spend time on geneology anyway.

At any rate, we are looking forward to this trip. We wanted to go last year while his mother was still alive but it didn't happen. We are more free now and I'm so grateful. On another note, my son started his new job this week and I am extremely grateful for that!

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JUST2OFUS 6/17/2013 7:33AM

    Sounds like a "packed" trip! Have fun and stop and smell the roses.

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CYND59 6/16/2013 12:42PM

    I agree with the much need part. You and hubby will probably have a wonderful time getting away and seeing family.

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JIBBIE49 6/15/2013 3:19PM

    have fun

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SEWINGMAMACDS 6/14/2013 12:53PM

    What a wonderful trip. I love genealogy - my grandma came from Scotland.

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KASEYCOFF 6/13/2013 3:12PM

    My aunt had said something about what a shame her granddaughter (32) isn't interested in genealogy. I said I wasn't either at her age - just give her time. Your grandsons will be glad in years to come you did the research.

New Hampshire / New England is a great place to visit, thinks me...

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RURAL3 6/13/2013 10:48AM

    I think geneology is fascinating. It just is very time consuming. I think those sons will be very grateful to you someday. It sounds like a wonderful trip.

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LKWQUILTER 6/13/2013 10:22AM

    Have a wonderful trip Carol. I know that you both need that time away. ((HUGS))

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LADYRH 6/13/2013 9:06AM

    Enjoy and have a safe trip

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Saturday, June 08, 2013

People keep asking me how we are dealing with my MIL's passing. How is your husband doing? He's fine. We haven't been devastated or tearful, just relieved. Last night we were at dinner with friends commenting on it and we realized that we had the opportunity to say goodbye to her and make amends for several months. We read to her, sang to her, shared memories, took care of her, talked about heaven, brought the kids in to see her, took her out, etc. My friends parents died suddenly within a week of each other and she didn't get that opportunity. WE are very grateful.

My husband spent time this week planning our trip to New Hampshire to inter her Cremains. She will share space with her husband and older son. My husband is so excited. We will spend a week there, visiting her old haunts, family, doing some geneology, etc. We are looking forward to it. Just he and I. Won't that be nice?

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JUST2OFUS 6/17/2013 7:35AM

    I found time with my Mom over the years was a great help when she died suddenly 2 yrs ago. I did get to see her and talk with her before she died and I also didn't cry or mourn much, then. It took months and I still have weepy moments, but they are not all bad. Just a missing her kind of thing.

Have fun on your trip.

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CYND59 6/11/2013 8:09AM

    Getting away may be just what the two of you need. It is always good to spend time with family. Have a safe trip!

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SEWINGMAMACDS 6/10/2013 10:18AM

    Even though it was hard during that time, looking back I'm sure you are grateful to have had that time. Have a good trip.

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TOWHEE 6/9/2013 12:00AM

    I was fortunate to say goodbye to both of my parents. It sure erased the "would have", "should have", "could have" feelings. It doesn't take the hurt away, but it sure takes the self-flagellation out of the process.

Have a wonderful trip.


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MURRAYGOLD 6/8/2013 2:45PM

    Very nice indeed! I'm having some of those conversations with my mother now...helping her to relax, know that she is loved and I keep talking about my dad with her. Glad that your emotion is one of gratitude.

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LKWQUILTER 6/8/2013 1:23PM

    Have a wonderful trip. Yes, it is great when the family gets to say good-bye. I do understand how all of you feel too. ((HUGS))

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CARLANNIE 6/8/2013 11:12AM

    Very nice!

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CAROLISCIOUS 6/8/2013 10:17AM

    It is good that you had time to say goodbye...as hard as it was. Enjoy your trip to honor her life.

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Monday, May 27, 2013

Friday was the service for my MIL and all of our family was here except my Sister and husband who had other plans scheduled to be out of town. One friend commented that it was the happiest funeral she had ever been to and we had numerous similar comments. We are so happy for my MIL that she is now at peace. Reality will set in I'm sure as I go through her things but that can wait.

I had planned a quilt for her using handkerchiefs that she had collected over the years. Sad I didn't do it but maybe I will someday and give it to one of my daughters in law.

My sister let my son and his family stay at her home. They have a swimming pool and Saturday, both sons and families as well as our nephew and his family were there. We had a two year old boy, (2) three year old boys, an 8 yr old boy, an 8 yr old girl and an 11 year old girl all swimming and eating all the available food. It was so much fun.

I guess my husband and I are now the Patriarc and the Matriarc. Hard for me to step into Grammie's shoes but I'll try and establish my own two feet. We will miss her.

My husband spoke at length at the service. And at the end, he sang to her. Her name was Marjorie and each night, my father in law would play the organ and play that tune for her. He sang the old song, "Margie". So nice.

Happy Memorial Day and thank you to all who have served. Including myself and my husband.

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LKWQUILTER 6/2/2013 4:31PM

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SEWINGMAMACDS 5/28/2013 11:55AM

    I know it is hard to step into the Matriarch's shoes - I did that when my mom died. Hugs to you. The hankie quilt will be special. I have plans to do so with my mom's and grandma's someday too.

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EBURGITE 5/27/2013 3:46PM

    thanks for sharing. i'm continuing to lift you up in prayer.

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MURRAYGOLD 5/27/2013 1:49PM

    A very fitting "goodbye". I made a quilt for one of my brothers using my dad's shirts...I loved working on it. Indeed, so grateful for your service and others.

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FIFIFRIZZLE 5/27/2013 12:47PM

    RIP Marjorie.

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KASEYCOFF 5/27/2013 11:33AM

    You know, that handkerchief quilt would make a lovely gift for your granddaughter - I remember you saying that you would take her to visit your mother-in-law. It would make a wonderful multi-generation connection...

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CARLANNIE 5/27/2013 10:09AM

    It's nice that your family rallied for you, and that you had the distraction of all the kids. And such a bittersweet relief that she is pain-free now. And yes, thanks for your service!

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MLDRLD 5/27/2013 9:47AM

    Your MIL sounds like she was a wonderful lady. I'm so sorry for your loss; may you continue to find joy and laughter amongst the tears


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Friday, May 24, 2013

Today is the day that we gather as a family to honor my MIL. Our sons and the great grandkids will be there and my MIL's niece and her husband who are both in their 80"s. My sister and her husband had another trip planned so cannot be here which is sad. Her son and family will be there.

My husband has planned such a beautiful send off for her. He sings barbershop and we have an amazing gospel quartet coming to sing and many of his other friends will be there as well. Our church is small but we expect a crowd.

I've been wondering what to wear and I decided to wear black pants and top and a hot pink silk jacket. Pink was Marjorie's favorite color and this will honor her. This is a celebration of her life, not a morbid and sad experience.

Thank you all for spending time with me these last few months. Now the healing begins.

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ANDI571 5/24/2013 9:52PM

    What a wonderful tribute to wear her favorite color. The barbershop singers sounds wonderful. emoticon

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CAROLYNVIL 5/24/2013 9:28PM

    so sorry for your loss,my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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JUST2OFUS 5/24/2013 5:33PM

I just got back to the states and I am sorry to hear you lost your MIL. I am sending you a hug and many prayers. She is in a better place and no longer has any issues.

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FIFIFRIZZLE 5/24/2013 2:59PM

    One of my work colleagues has his father's funeral today, with family coming from all over the world. Funerals can be the best parties.

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COOP9002 5/24/2013 2:14PM

    Praying for you and your family

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JENNY888 5/24/2013 1:25PM

    Make it a wonderful celebration of her life. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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CAROLISCIOUS 5/24/2013 12:33PM

    So sorry for your loss. Praying for comfort for you and your family.

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KYMOM530 5/24/2013 11:19AM

    Sounds like a lovely way to remember her. May peace & comfort fill your hearts today.

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EBURGITE 5/24/2013 9:13AM

    i'm praying for you and your family.

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