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Tuesday, March 05, 2013

Yesterday was the only day in the year that is a command, March 4th. Get it? March forth? You can thank my husband for that one. Having been in the military, I did plenty of marching forth.
So I started the year out all gung ho about the biggest loser competiton with our chamber of commerce. But January I was sick the whole month and Feb I was recovering from being sick and dealing with MIL in the nursing home. So there is one more month of Biggest Loser and yesterday I met with my trainer and said, what can we do for me to get some results in 4 weeks. I feel like I have to catch up. So he mapped out a plan for this week and suggested I get to the gym 5 days a week. Boy, that is a stretch but I will try. And I have to tell him what I had to eat as well. I hate tracking my food but I will do it.

One of the things he told me was to eat more. Sounds weird but the more you exercise, the more you need to fuel your body with the right foods. And i have noticed that if I don't eat properly before the gym, I get nauseous after and during exercise. So I guess I better eat more. The right foods more though. I'm off to scramble an egg. Craving protein I guess. emoticon

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CYND59 3/5/2013 8:41PM

    I did my share of marching in the military also. My last name is Goforth so that is even better. LOL!

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FIFIFRIZZLE 3/5/2013 12:51PM

    Very funny , Marching. Good for you on the exercise push, I am sure that your commitment will get great results.

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SEWINGMAMACDS 3/5/2013 10:57AM

    It is crazy about eating more -- my trainer has me eating 6 small meals. I was afraid when I first started I would gain weight -- but I have been losing! So I guess there is wisdom in that you just need to eat the right foods to keep your body fueled.

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Thursday, February 28, 2013

I don't always read the flylady emails in my box but this morning I haphazardly clicked on the below testimonial. What a timely dissertation on fabric hoarding! If you are a quilter, enjoy!

Testimonial:Decluttering #28

Dear FlyLady,

This story is about my mother, but maybe it will be useful to some of your other FlyBabies. (I've used the lessons I learned from it myself, and it helped me accept the wisdom of FlyLady later.)

My mother is a True Crafter - she quilts, she knits, she is *amazingly* creative. And over the years, she has collected materials for dozens of projects that, being a busy woman, she has never gotten around to finishing, or even sometimes starting. Adding to the problem is her loving and generous nature - with five living children, and a dozen grandchildren, when she would be working on a project, every now and then she would get "besieged" with requests from all of us to "make me one, too!"

The next thing she knew, her sense of "fair play" would have her buying the material for half a dozen or more of some project or other, and by the time she had made two or three of something, it wasn't "fun" anymore, so it would all get put aside for her to feel bad about not finishing. Plus, she *loves* a good bargain, so, to put it politely, things started looking a little "hoarders" like in the room she stashed things in, instead of being a relaxing and enjoyable work space.

In my father's final years, he went through a series of challenging health crises. My mother sometimes indulged in "retail therapy" with fantasies about "having time to (fill in the blank)", but as his health declined, things were sometimes simply tossed into the "sewing room" as she dealt with the emergency du jour. Finally, after a battle with pancreatic cancer, we lost him, and my mother was left to pick up the pieces of her life without her husband of nearly 35 years.

The sewing room, which should have been a source of comfort, simply became the symbol of how "out of control of everything" her life had become, and that is where I was finally able to step in and help out. I was ruthless with her. We went through her entire fabric stash, accumulated over decades, and anything she didn't LOVE, we put in a pile to find a new home. We went through *hundreds* of patterns - my mother would sometimes purchase multiple sizes of the same pattern to accommodate different size children/grandchildren, and if she had forgotten she had purchased something, would end up with multiples of them if she *really* liked them.

There were five sewing machines in the room (two gifted from deceased family members), and more "UFOs" than I care to count - with me cruelly limiting her to "only twenty-five"! And her zipper collection! She had gotten a "great deal" on zippers on e-Bay, and I had to point out that no human being on the planet would *ever* be able to use 75 red 9-inch zippers, especially when her true passion was quilting/not making clothes. (For some reason, counting them out loud in front of her seemed to help make the point - lol! She only kept ten!) This was *extremely* hard on my mother, but we found a way to make it work. It wasn't trash - it was *valuable* and it didn't belong in the trash, but seriously, no way did we have time to sell it on e-Bay (and there was a good chance that anything that didn't make it out of the house would end up back in the room, especially if she was wiffly about whether she "liked it or loved it" which was the standard for going away).

Plus, it represented hard work - she hadn't just bought JUNK - she bought Good Stuff that had Potential. Who would want to just let all of that go, for nothing except a feeling of "control"? We solved it by making sure her needs were met -- she needed to feel loved and appreciated; if she couldn't get it from people, she was trying to meet the need with "stuff."

I announced a "crafting giveaway" to a dozen friends, and demanded as price of admission "Chocolate and Appreciation." The first time the women arrived, they brought "Hershey bars" but by the third trip, it was Godiva. They sang her praises, while they hauled bag after bag of "treasures" from her house. They fawned over her collection, promised to do good things with the items, and at the end, we *still* filled a van with items for a church rummage sale. Over $16,000 worth of "stuff" left the house - and my mother still had an enviable collection of "the best stuff" worth over $20,000, along with room to put "new stuff" in as she learned new techniques (heirloom sewing!) and discovered new passions in her creative efforts. (The two junky sewing machines, kept out of memory, went away, too!)

The biggest change? Her attitude. We finally worked through the "guilt" of "making the same thing for everyone" and now she concentrates on "one of a kind" gifts, which means she can enjoy creating different things for each of us. The UFO pile reminded her of which things she enjoyed, and she was able to release the boring stuff she really didn't want to do anymore. Meanwhile, the lavish appreciation and tears of gratitude from the recipients of her largess really helped her "release and let go" of items she didn't love anymore. Plus, the Godiva! Lol!

Today her sewing room only has things she loves in it, and it makes her happy. I am *SO* proud of her, FlyLady! She is my inspiration! (And she helped me "let go" of my "someday, I'll get to that!" projects later, when it was my turn, too!) Crafters are givers and dreamers, dear FlyLady. They always seem to be taking care of other people. I don't know why, but they always seem to be married to or surrounded by those who don't see the possibilities in stashes of fabric, but I know that my mother truly felt like her life was back in control when we finished taking back her sewing room.

Just like she had always planned, she made people happy with her generous cleaning frenzy. I hope some of your other FlyBabies follow her example; the local senior center is filled with women whose limited income means they can't indulge in the joy of creating treasures that crafting gives. One boogie in the craft room...?

My Mother's Daughter in Michigan

I learned so much from reading this. Makes me want to go and clean up my sewing room.

You are not behind! I don't want you to try to catch up; I just want you to jump in where we are. O.K.?

Words can be KIND or MEAN; the CHOICE is yours in 2013!

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ILLINITEACHER52 3/17/2013 6:28PM

  I need to reread that daily and then go and DO something about my stash that is getting overwhelming due to people donating fabric to me because they know I will use it for a good cause.

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COOPQUILTLADY 2/28/2013 10:22PM

    Oh my gosh, I need to do that!!! I used to have a sewing/ craft business for 30 years. I purchased supplies for, and did make multiples of everything. I also worked in the fabric dept. at Walmart for 17 years. I have a big sign in my sewing room that say "There's no such thing as too much fabric" The Flylady probably doesn't even know what a real STASH looks like! LOL Since retiring I am using up lots of fabrics, though my kids/grandkids will probably get tired of getting comforters/quilts one of these days. emoticon

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SEWINGMAMACDS 2/28/2013 10:36AM

    So good. I know I need to sit and go through my stash - weed and organize. I got so many projects lined up too. Thanks for posting this and inspiring me to get it done this spring.

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BEVPRESLEY 2/28/2013 9:55AM

    Thanks, Carol, that was very timely.

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CYND59 2/28/2013 8:19AM

    This sounded like me up until a year ago. My daughter came over and went through my crafting room. She could not believe the material that I had bought when she was a baby. No one would ever use some of these hideous materials and patterns I had kept from 26 years ago. She de-cluttered for me with me standing over her shoulder to make sure she did not get rid of something important. LOL!
If it was so important...I would have used it when I bought it.

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GCHUNG 2/28/2013 8:17AM

    This seems right in line with your 40 day challenge. You go girl.

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CNGMYBX 2/28/2013 7:52AM

  This hit home with me. I think that our intentions are good but then when we can't be superwomen, the guilt sets in and our very sanctuary becomes a place that triggers guilt and frustration. I too, am weeding out my sewing room (as well as my body). Some of the purchasing of fabric is the same as food- cheer me up, break boredom, celebrate. Thank you for reposting from FLYlady. I also get her posts and have followed her for the last 12 years. I am late in decluttering myself.

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LKWQUILTER 2/28/2013 7:51AM

    I needed to read that. Thanks Carol.

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Monday, February 25, 2013

Well, my MIL is now permanently at the nursing home as a paid patient. It won't take long to go through her money that she has left and then we have to apply for medicaid. It is scary to think of the costs involved. She is not eating well and has lost 20 lbs in the last couple of months. Yesterday, we had a luncheon at our church and we managed to get her out to go to it. All of her friends came up to speak to her so it was a good outing. I'm sure she was exhausted when we took her back to the home. She asked us how long she was going to be there and we tried to skirt the issue saying it was up to the doctor. I know one thing, there is no way I could handle taking care of her without giving up every other activity I had, including those of my husbands.

On the way home from church she asked if we had seen her mother. Apparently all her relatives are visiting her quite often, preparing the way I guess. She keeps asking us to help her get on the plane and we keep thinking she is delusionary. But after yesterday, I'm thinking maybe she thinks she needs to get on the plane to depart this earth and we should buy into that. She also wants to make sure we take all of her clothing and other things away with us when she leaves. We've been thinking she means when she leaves and comes home with us but now I'm thinking maybe she is talking about leaving this earth. Hard to know.

My MIL has been seeing angels for many years. Someone commented to us that she might be a medium. We've always avoided talking to her about the angels because to her they are real and it gets scary sometimes. Her husband (deceased since 1997) has never left her side even though he has another girlfriend at times. And now, her mother, father and brother are hovering around quite a bit. I'm starting to believe she really does have a connection to the other world. There is one snag, a bad doctor with a hypodermic that comes after her and is preventing her from being at peace. He has been after her (spiritually) for years and we even had to take her to a psych doctor for hallucinations. But if she is a medium, to her it is real and all these years she has been labeled crazy needing meds. Now, when she brings up the subject we try to encourage her that "they" are getting ready for her and that the bad one should go away and leave her alone.

Last night I had a vivid dream that she had died. AS she loses weight, she gets weaker and soon will be nothing but bones. Her ankles, which have been balloon size due to retention of fluid, are now so thin, I am able to get my fingers around them. So we continue. I so wish for her to be at peace, to stop the good fight, to finish the race, until we meet again.

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CARLANNIE 3/5/2013 8:26AM

    Hang in there. emoticon

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CYND59 2/25/2013 3:11PM

    Hugs to you and the family during this time.

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LKWQUILTER 2/25/2013 2:05PM

    You are being a good dil Carol. Just keep doing what you and your dh are doing, knowing that you did your best. It is hard going through this now but there is an end. I hated to admit for months that is was a blessing when daddy finally quit fighting and just went to sleep. It was what he wanted--to be back with Mama and his family--he was the last. ((HUGS)) and prayers. emoticon emoticon

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COOPQUILTLADY 2/25/2013 1:04PM

    Hang in there! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LJCANNON 2/25/2013 12:10PM

    emoticon There are No Sure answers that I know of. This time of Life is so Difficult, even WITHOUT the Unanswered Questions we all have. I think I would just reassure her and accept Her Reality in whatever way gives her Comfort.
emoticon You are in my Prayers.

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ANDI571 2/25/2013 9:34AM

    I know how hard this time is. Also dementia will do this. My mom would always talk of her mom and of her deceased loved ones. The mind took her backwards to a place she once knew. It is part of the process I am afraid. Just love her like I know you do, and she will be getting what she needs.

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CAROLISCIOUS 2/25/2013 9:28AM

    This is a hard time. Peace to you and your husband.

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Monday, February 11, 2013

Well, I went to the gym yestrday at the urging of a friend and was supposed to meet her at 2:00. She didn't come and when I got home, she called saying she was running late so we missed each other. I must say how much I ate going to the gym and I will be glad when this biggest loser competition is over so I don't have to feel obligated to go there and can go back to the YMCA.
When I walked in, the most un appealing man was at the front desk, by unappealing, I mean he certainly wasn't interested in my welfare or what I wanted. He just stared back with a dumb look on his face. I gave up trying to converse with him as I was trying to contact my new trainer. So I pedaled on the bike for 20 min and left. I"m not confident in using any of the machines so I didn't bother.
My new trainer is named Rick and he sounds VERY youn on the phone. I'll give him a shot and try to get through the next 8 weeks. I have lost 6.7 pounds through my own efforts, not with any help from them, that's for sure.
I've been reading the diet book on increasing fiber and going that route. really trying to read the fiber content on the packaging and more fruits and veggies. Had a peach after lunch today and it was delicious and lunch was a squash casserole which normally calls for mayonnaise and I substituted plain yogurt and it was just as tasty.
Tonight it is hamsteak, baked sweet potato, green beans and pineapple. Sweet potato has lots of fiber and better for you than a regular potato.
I bought a box of Good and Plenty candy at the store, sugar coated licorice that I liked when I was a kid and at the movie theater. I dole out ten at a time after meals and that is my dessert. Takes a while to savor each one and it satisfies my sweet tooth. Actually the more fiber in my diet has helped me to feel full longer. So That part is good. Can't wait to get rid of Gold's gym though, I hate that place.

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EBURGITE 2/12/2013 11:31AM

    sorry about the gym. i applaud you for persisting in the face of discouragement. hang in there, friend. you're making progress.

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SEWINGMAMACDS 2/12/2013 11:23AM

    Sorry you are having a bad experience at the gym. I know it can be daunting. I think the personnel and people who go make a bid difference. I love my gym. The employees are very helpful and cheerful. There is a good mix of "buff" guys and people like me that are overweight and trying to lose. If you had said 2 years ago that I would be going to a gym I would have laughed and called you crazy.

I hope your personal trainer is one that will be encouraging. It does help a lot to learn how to use the machines correctly to feel "comfortable" in using them.

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ART0507 2/11/2013 7:17PM

    I know sometimes went to my gym I ran onto people like that but I over looked them. Does your have a track you can walk? If so look for a sign that tells you how laps = a mile. Start walking a mile then 2, 5K ==2.3 miles. If you a place to walk around your house ometer to see how long it is. That sometimes is better then the gym. Hope your friend and you can meet.

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JUST2OFUS 2/11/2013 5:05PM

    don't fret, it will grow on you (the gym, NOT weight) if you just give it a chance. Change is hard and you were used to the Y.
I haven't had Good n Plenty in a long, long while. Yes, you can suck on them for a while.

You are doing good, don't try to lose too much too fast. I found then it comes back and brings company!

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LKWQUILTER 2/11/2013 3:38PM

    You are doing GREAT Carol. Now I know I am right in not joining a gym. I will stick with my exercise classes. ((HUGS))

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Saturday, February 09, 2013

So this morning I got up and weighed and I lost a pound! emoticon emoticon I hope it stays lost. Then I heard hubby leaving the house and I knew where he was going. Sure enough, he comes in with a bag of doughnuts. We have a new doughnut store here and they are scrumptious and he brings 2 of my favorite iced coconut yeast doughnuts. I succumbed and ate one but I will go out and exercise today and walk it off. ANd I know that I will choose wisely for the rest of the day and make up for it. I did enjoy every bite even though I knew I was eating about a half cup of mushy sugar. And no fiber.

Its a beautiful sunshiny emoticon Florida day. HOpe I accomplish something good.

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LKWQUILTER 2/10/2013 8:11PM

    Doughnuts are a no no at our home too. Congrats on the lost pound and hope you had a super walk. ((HUGS))

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SEWINGMAMACDS 2/10/2013 7:41PM

    I haven't had a doughnut in ages! I would succumb too and eat too many - that is why they aren't allowed in the house. Hope you had a good walk:)

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EBURGITE 2/9/2013 1:51PM

    doughnuts once in a while is ok. glad you enjoyed it!

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KASEYCOFF 2/9/2013 10:08AM

    Congrats on the loss - and I envy you the doughnut. Couldn't tell you the last time I had one, and I love the darned things--!
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