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Sunday, February 03, 2013

Well, the whole month of January seemed like a bust to me. I was sick for almost 3 weeks and finally feel like I'm recovering and have a bit of energy. On January 16, we brought my MIL home to live with us, we thought. When she saw us that Monday, back from Disneyworld, her whole face lit up with a smile. She was so happy to see us and strongly walked out of the building, saying goodbye to everyone. The next day she started coughing and we found out that we were not suited for the continuous care she was needing. At her regular doctor appmt on 23 Jan, they sent her to the hospital and then sent her back to the nursing home where she will stay until the end, whenever that is.

She isn't doing well, not eating. She did say when she went back there that she knew that was where she needed to be. We just left her and the nurse said she did not eat any breakfast and was going to take her to the dining room for her lunch to make sure she eats something. Both my husband and I feel the end is near and I pray that the Lord takes her quietly in her sleep. Just some night, dont' wake up. She still coughs quite a bit but she is definitely failing. She has had a very good life and I"ve been grateful to have such a wonderful mother-in-law. We have had our differences but I always loved her. Hey, I had differences with my own mother who died when I was 30 and she was 60. So young to have died then.

So it is just a matter of time. My biggest loser contest has gone by the wayside in January but I am definitely going to try and regroup in Feb and at least lose 10 lbs more. I was hoping for 30 eventually. The competition has been a bust for sure. My friend and I are disillusioned about it but I will press on and make an effort. Later.

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JUST2OFUS 2/4/2013 6:48PM

All things are in God's time, not ours. That is the hardest part. I will pray for your ML for her comfort and his love.
You will get back on track; you had a lot happen in a short period of time; cut yourself a break~!
We are here for you, anytime.

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EBURGITE 2/4/2013 11:22AM

    what a challenging few months you've had. may God wrap you in His loving arms, and speak healing words emoticon softly into your heart.

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CYND59 2/3/2013 9:26PM

    I will be praying that she goes easy and that the Lord will help your family through it.

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LKWQUILTER 2/3/2013 12:44PM

    Carol, prayers going out for both of you. (((HUGS)))

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DIBANANA 2/3/2013 11:54AM

  This must be a difficult time for you.

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BRASKIN 2/3/2013 11:48AM

  sometimes you just have to deal with life..... wishing you peace.

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Saturday, January 26, 2013

So I'm in this Biggest Loser Competiton and been sick for almost 2 weeks, gone for a week and totally frustrated. I had to skip my personal trainer on Tuesday due to coughing my head off so today I'm feeling some better and decide to go to the gym to the boot camp. Dreaded the thought but forced myself to go.
I walk in and there is an old guy at the desk who doesn't know anything about where it is going to be and what time or should I have paid in advance. I see another biggest loser member wearing her t-shirt so I sit next to her on the bike. She is frustrated as well and more overweight than I am.
There is no visible clock in front of the bikes and so I just keep rolling along. I have to turn my head to see the clock and discover it is almost 11:00 and the bootcamp was supposed to start at 10:45. So I get up and look in the exercise room but those folks in there are too skinny to be in this competition. So I ask and someone says it is out back. Out back? What does that mean, where out back?
I run into Heather who is the nutrition coach and ask her. I tell her how frustrated I am and she says that most people go up and down in weight. Then she tells me to go out back. How do I get there? I finally walk around the buiding and there are about 25 people jumping up and down and sideways in the parking lot. Another woman comes by and says she is late as well and invites me in. I watch for a min and I am totally uncomfortable and embarrassed so I just turn and leave and go home.

So why do old fat women avoid gyms

1. Old fat men don't seem to care about them and certainly not interested in helping them.
2. When you go to a crowded gym, unless you have a personal trainer, you are helpless as to know what to do.
3. I might be old and fat but I am also a strong woman who likes to be in control. I am nowhere near being in control of myself at the gym.
4. I thought I was on a team. There is no team organization, no team leader, and I haven't been contacted by anyone. When you are on a team, aren't there supposed to be other people?
5. I've pretty much decided if its to be its up to me. I am going to go to my personal trainer on Tuesdays, tell her what I think and then I am going to go to the YMCA on the other days.

First I have to get over being sick.

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LADYBUG1943 2/6/2013 8:38AM

    I paid $19 monthly for a fitness place in our town (this was years ago) and paid for two years till my contract ran out. I went to exercise exactly 3 times, and had much the same experience as you.

Then I went to our city parks recreational gym, took a small class with a 'Weight Watcher friend, and ended up exercising 3 times a week with my friend and the trainer. We were in our 30's, 40's and 50"s (guess who was the oldest?), but became really good friends.

I don't know where you are now in your fitness search, but don't give up. It definitely helps to have people you know and like to work out with. I should add here that the younger two were tall, lithe and pretty fit. I used to tell them I stayed in the "class" to make them look good (after the first class was over, we just continued to exercise together). I was short and rounder - the "O" in LOL!" My WW friend actually met her goal weight and later took over as instructor one of the classes our trainer had to drop.

Glad your in-law problems are better; I'll check later your later posts to see how you're doing now.

Yvonne emoticon

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FIFIFRIZZLE 2/3/2013 9:48AM

    Doesn't sound like a great experience. But don't give up on the gym. I used to hate it but once I learned how to use the machines and the right technique for my exercises, I became an independent exerciser. It is great to go somewhere where all the equipment is set up for you. It's good to have different machines so you can mix up your cardio. And once you know what to do, you don't need a trainer, you can work out your own programme with the help of Sparkpeople.

Like you I would be flagging a programme that had been gong for three weeks, I wouldn,t feel like I could catch up. But maybe you will be feeling more robust next time the bootcamp starts. Of course there is always Sparkpeople,s bootcamp!

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SILENTDAISY 1/31/2013 10:38AM

    I'm so sorry that didn't work out. That's horrible customer service and that gym should know better. Especially with a situation as sensitive as weight-loss. You should definitely file a complaint/give the owner a review. I'm really upset about this.

Gyms are really more suited for people that already have a solid exercise regimen in place. Most of the time it's more equipment than social interaction. If you have the knowledge already at hand, it's easier to pick and choose what you need to use.

I would recommend the same thing many other posters have--try taking a fitness class such as Zumba, yoga, or spin class. The great thing about many of these classes is that you don't have to be fit and you don't have to keep up.

I go to a fit club in town that uses the Beach Body fitness programs (P90x, Insanity, etc.). These are extremely tough programs and many of the members are fit, but many are not too. So I don't feel bad when I get worn out and need to sit on the floor for a second to regain my strength. It's okay to not be as good as the others, that comes with time.

Just remember, you need to do the best that you can for yourself. Not the best that others can do. Challenge yourself against yourself and once you do that, you can take on a challenge against others.

Maybe it's time the Emerald Coast Team got together for our own workouts. Because if anyone can understand what you're going through, it's your fellow sparkers.

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SEWINGMAMACDS 1/28/2013 12:21PM

    Carol - I am so sorry about your frustrating experience! Did you have to pay to be in the competition? I would contact the gym manager and express your frustrations or look for another gym that is more friendly.

I love the gym where I am at. The greeters are great and helpful. The clocks are very visible. There are a variety of people working out there and most are friendly.

I am glad you have a personal trainer.

Praying you feel better soon.

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TOWHEE 1/26/2013 10:42PM

    Carol, how frustrating. It's too bad that you missed the first two weeks, but it sounds like it wouldn't have made much difference. The "greeter" certainly wasn't doing his job and his supervisor wasn't doing his/her job. You should have been directed "out back" upon your arrival with detailed instructions about how to get there (take the door to the left, go down the corridor past the garbage can, turn right and you'll see some doors, go through them). Unless you are a team of one (in which case why are they calling it teams?) then someone should have contacted you to make sure you are still planning to participate. I remember how excited you were about this program and it's too bad that it has left a sour taste. I'd give it one more time and if it still doesn't rise to your expectations, then I'd say "adios" and go to the "Y" (after telling the gym manager about your experience and expectations).


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CELLOPLAYER1 1/26/2013 9:25PM

    Don't give up on working out at the gym. The idea of a work out body sounds good, may be your trainer could set you up with one of thier other clients with similar fitness levels and goals.

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MAHGRET 1/26/2013 7:07PM

    Ugh that is so frustrating.

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CELIAMINER 1/26/2013 5:29PM

    Good for you! I have a long-term trainer, and I plan to keep seeing her as long as I can afford it.

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LKWQUILTER 1/26/2013 3:05PM

    That is why I go to an exercise class. I wish you luck with whatever you decide to do. ((HUGS)) Get better soon.

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EBURGITE 1/26/2013 2:34PM

    gyms do seem to be made for the young/strong/thin, don't they? emoticon you'll find your way.
any chance of an exercise pal?

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KASEYCOFF 1/26/2013 2:05PM

    That's exactly the kind of thing that worries me about going to the gym - the physical therapist is setting me up with a schedule, and they will be my "personal trainer" for sessions throughout the year. But in between their sessions - then what? I'm planning to try to find out when it's the least busy, and just do whatever they set me up with, so I can see how it goes. But at this point, unless they have something for "over 60s" or "senior sessions" or something, I don't plan on doing any group things.
p.s. You'd think they could do some kind of challenge specifically for 50+ or seniors or something...?

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JUST2OFUS 1/26/2013 1:41PM

I just made a homemade cough syrup. It isn't bad and it did help some.

2 tablespoons dried thyme
1 Cup almost boiling water
Steep for 10 mins. and then strain.
1/2 cup honey
1 teaspoon lemon juice
Place in fridge until cool
Take 1 tablespoon as needed.

Store in fridge for 1 week.

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Saturday, January 26, 2013

I'm veering off from MIL talk today to publically announce that I am already frustrated that I'm not losing weight. This week I was sick and so, I ate soup for many lunches and I tried to keep my portions in control and make wise choices when we ate out. Yesterday, I added the Lose It App to my smartphone and I tracked all my food. I came up with about 1600 calories for the day. I had cereal for breakfast, a small portion of thai food for lunch, and a roast chicken salad at Ruby Tuesdays for dinner. I got up this morning and gained 2 pounds.

This is the frustrating part of weight loss for me. I seem to maintain and maintain. Whatever I eat, even if it is a healthy choice, puts weight on me. Eventually I give up and give in.

This morning is boot camp at Gold's gym and I am going to go even though I would rather stay home and sew. Last night I was up at 3:00 a.m. with a cough resembling an adult asthma attack. The doctor I saw on Thursday described it as bronchial asthma so now I'm wondering if I have developed this in my old age.

Hubby let me sleep until about 9 a.m. which was good because it took me a while to go back to sleep after my coughing attack. I have a good friend who had a heart cath this week to discover that she doesn't have a heart problem. They had scared her into thinking she had serious issues and now they have put her on a mediterranean diet. I said I would go on it with her and together, we would lose. I bet she drops pounds like crazy and mine will cling and cling. If you have been a friend of mine for many years here on Spark, you will have been through this with me before. I don't want my biggest loser challenge to go by the wayside so I am going to get on my exercise clothes and make the best of it and hope I don't cough my way through it.

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TOWHEE 1/26/2013 10:51PM

    Like everyone else, I'm thinking that the sodium from the Thai food and the Ruby Tuesday food is the culprit. If you drink lots of water today (OK, it's too late today, so make it tomorrow), you should flush the sodium out of your system and with it the 2 pounds of water weight.

I had bronchial asthma as a child, but finally outgrew it (I think the fact that both of my parents stopped smoking had something to do with it, but Mom denied that). Keep an eye on it and if it gets worse go back to the doctor, otherwise you may be coughing for a while (it has taken me 6 to 8 weeks to get rid of winter coughs).


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EBURGITE 1/26/2013 2:39PM

    sodium is a killer for me...and most restaurants' choices are overly-full of sodium, so i'll usually gain after dining out. don't give up....keep working your program....it's hard to find the right calories in/out balance for you. hang in there!

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KASEYCOFF 1/26/2013 12:38PM

    I know what "they" say - and I'll tell you, I eat about 1200 calories / day. I don't think I get enough exercise, but then again, I do housework, shopping, run errands, whatever, plus I walk and ride my exercycle if not every day then every other day, for 20-30 minutes. I also avoid salt like mad (because of hypertension, plus it bloats me and water retention drives me nutz). I don't eat artificial sweeteners, or very seldom. Butter? Couldn't tell you the last time I had it. No sugar, little fat, and I rarely eat meat.

I'm maintaining. Just barely. I can't go any lower on cals or I won't get the nutrients (minerals, etc) I need - I take a vitamin supplement, but I prefer to get my nutrition from "real" food.

So 1600 calories with things like Thai food (is there salt in it?) and chicken salad (any mayo, dressing, sauce--?) and I would definitely gain.

The last thing I'd ever recommend to someone is "do what I do." But I know if I did what you're doing, I wouldn't be plateauing, I'd be gaining...

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ANDI571 1/26/2013 11:32AM

    I have found now that I am older I have to tweak, tweak, tweak. I am finding foods that make me gain, and foods that doesn't. Sparkpeople had me where I could eat up to 1700 calories. I can't eat no where that many. I can usually lose between the 1200 and the 1350 mark. Any higher I maintain or gain. Also, sodium in foods used not to bother me, and now it does. Keep good track of when you lose and when you gain and compare them.

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Friday, January 25, 2013

Well, we tried to bring her home but she arrived back at the home yesterday evening at dinner time. All of the nurses and CNA's were so glad to see her and they immediately got to work taking care of her. It is so the right place for her to be. SHe is in a newer room that has built in cupboards around her bed and more room at the end of the bed for us to sit and visit. And a new flat screen, bigger TV on the wall that works.

I just can't tell you how relieved both my husband and I are at the thought of her being there, being taken care of. I hope she realizes that it is where she needs to be and starts even to like the place a little. She has 25 free days left and after that, they will drain her assets and then go onto medicaid. We have about 2 months worth of money before that happens.

Thank you to all of my friends in sparkland who have read and listened to me as I complained and whined and told the truth about how I felt. THe good part is that my husband now believes that this is what she needs. He had to try and bring her home and see if we could do it.

Yesterday I went back to the doctor as I thought I was going to drown in phlegm. I left with a bag of medicine including an antibiotic and I already feel better. Although, I coughed a bunch last night and this morning and peed my pants. I'm wearing one of MIL's pullups right now. THey come in handy.

Maybe now I can get my life and job back. January was a bust for sure. I did not do any exercising and so the Biggest Loser challenge went by the wayside for the week. Tomorrow there is an exercise session at the gym at 10:45 and I plan to be there. HOpe I don't cough my head off. I've lost 4.7 lbs but now is the hard part. Stay on some sort of nutrition counting to start losing the next 30 pounds. This is the hard part.

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LKWQUILTER 1/25/2013 5:39PM

    Carol, know that you tried to keep her at home and your dh knows too and he realizes that sometimes what we want is just not possible. I so agree with you. My parents used to say that they did not want to come live with any of us and really did not want any of us to move in with them either. Take care of yourself and get over that "crud" before you do much exercise. ((HUGS)) to all of you.

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ANDI571 1/25/2013 4:10PM

    You will always know you tried, and you know she is being taken care of. Also, you aren't taking care of her, you just changed the way it is being done. Now take care of yourself also. emoticon

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FIFIFRIZZLE 1/25/2013 1:06PM

    That is a relief. DH will maybe still be able to take her out to visit for the day when she gets a little better. You can have your house back and get some rest before you get back to normal. And maybe some of MIL's treasures can go into storage?

When you feel better you might like to check out my blogs, I have lost 10 kilos, that is 22 lbs in 18 days. You might win your biggest loser challenge after all!

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SEWINGMAMACDS 1/25/2013 10:54AM

    I am glad both you and your husband are in agreement. Hopefully you MIL will soon see that is the best place for her too.

Praying the medication will get you back on the mend quickly!

emoticon on losing 4.7 lbs and soon those other 30 will come off too!!

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KASEYCOFF 1/25/2013 9:44AM

    A new beginning for all of you...

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MJRVIC2000 1/25/2013 9:31AM

    Live before God His way and be blessed! God Bless YOU! Vic.

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Wednesday, January 23, 2013

So today hubby was taking MIL to the doctor and when they were testing her oxygen it was only 78 and they immediately sent her to the emergency room. We thought surely this is it this time but you never know. They took an x-ray and she has a slight case of pneumonia. We are so ready for her to be out of her misery and off to better parts. But I guess God has plans for her that we do not know about.
So you see, all this week, when she was coughing at our house, she was developing pneumonia. They put her in a regular room and they have DNR orders so we will see. Both he and I agreed that she will not be coming home with us again. If she gets well enough to leave the hospital, she will go back to the nursing home and stay there until whenever the Lord decides to take her. After arguing for a week about the situation, hubby and I both agree, we cannot take care of her adequately. And I did tell her I loved her and that she was the best MIL I could have ever had so I hope she understood and heard me. My head is pounding and my nose is still dripping although it is loosening up. I'm so relieved that she is at the hospital as last night, she could not breathe and coughed and coughed.

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EBURGITE 1/24/2013 11:14AM

    hugs and prayers, friend. be sure to take care of yourself in the midst of it all.

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