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SETTLING IN WITH MIL DAY 13

Friday, October 05, 2012

She isn't feeling that well today. She has her good days and bad days. We will be able to clear out her apartment tomorrow and get that over with. Then go through more boxes. Will it ever end.
Right now I"m trying to figure out how to get the crated furniture up to North Carolina.
We have a T-bird convertible and my husband is taking her for a ride in it. Can't imagine how she'll get out of it, it is so low to the ground. She wanted to go and we need to get her out of this house. We've ordered and absentee voting ballot for her. later.

  
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LHLADY517 10/5/2012 8:39PM

    You definitely have your hands full.

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LKWQUILTER 10/5/2012 8:26PM

   
Sending good vibes your way Carol. (((HUGS)))

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MOVING MIL DAY 12

Thursday, October 04, 2012

Things are progressing. THe home health nurse found her yesterday at our home, I helped her with another bath last night and we have figured out how to get her into the tub. We put our hope chest between the tub and toilet as we have a large space there. It has a cushion on it and she sits on the end of it and swings her legs into the tub, one at a time. We have grab bars, one in the tub and one to the right of the tub that she can grab onto and then stand up, turn and sit down on her shower chair. Things are moving along and we've enjoyed having her. Phew!
Hubby and I watched the debate last night (WHOO HOO! ROMNEY WINS) in our living room and she watched her TV in our family room off the kitchen! Worked out just fine. I wonder if she would like to watch Project Runway with me tonight?

  
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LKWQUILTER 10/5/2012 6:42AM

    Glad things are going well Carol. ((HUGS))

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MOVING MIL DAY 11

Wednesday, October 03, 2012

So far so good but I'm tired of emptying boxes with no place to put anything. One thing is for certain, it will be sometime before I will have to buy another bottle of hand lotion. Or lipstick, or soap. Just goes to show, you need to clean out your cupboards every year so you can see what you squirreled away.
Today is pack and move whatever is left at the apartment. We have movers coming to pack up the china cabinet and its contents to send to my son in North Carolina along with the table and 6 chairs. I have window treatments to remove and try and figure out what to do with. And throw out the food in the refrigerator. My brother in law is coming to help my husband do this today as I have an installation of draperies and bedding for a client.
I am real tired of going through boxes of stuff. And I can't throw things away if she is watching. So we throw when she isn't watching.
Yesterday, we were able to make a phone call to her 97 year old sister who sounded real chipper. Her daughter and my husband were in the background translating all the messages.
We've actually enjoyed visiting with her. So many have posted that their relatives were mean in their later years but she is quite mellow, at least so far. Right now my husband is ranting and raving about where we are going to plug in the alarm system as we need a phone jack for it. Got to go and look.

  
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LKWQUILTER 10/3/2012 6:44PM

    You are doing good Carol. Things will work out. Enjoy your MIL as long as you can. ((HUGS))

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KASEYCOFF 10/3/2012 5:13PM

    My aunt is 87, hale, hearty, and so much fun to visit with - I call her every Sunday, and when the hour's up, neither of us knows where the time went, so I know what you mean about enjoying visiting with your MiL!
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ANDI571 10/3/2012 8:40AM

    After my dad passed away, I had 90% of the work cleaning out the house. There were those who just came in to take the big stuff, but I was shredding papers for hours, and going through the "stuff". Not a pleasant job. I am pretty good about getting rid of things. In the past few months, we have started getting rid of things we never use. Saturday is shred day at our bank, and we are taking a lot of old papers and recieipts to get rid of.

Don't forget to rest.

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MOVING MIL, DAY 10

Tuesday, October 02, 2012

We were exhausted yesterday after moving and prodding and unpacking and moving again. My back was singing. Everything went fairly well but I've got unpacked boxes sitting all over the house. Don't know where we will put it all. I did pack a couple of boxes to go into the shed of my own stuff and today I guess we will have to go through her boxes and let her decide what to keep and what to pitch or donate.
Last night I had lasagna that I had previously made and frozen, a nice tossed salad and brownies for dessert. Then MIL watched dancing with the stars and we watched our usual Monday night Antiques Roadshow in the other room. I helped her get a bath which turned out easier than imagined. We put a bench between the tub and toilet and she sat on the end of that and I helped her swing her legs over into the tub where she could stand up and then sit on her shower chair.
My husband helped her get into bed and all set with her oxygen tank going. She is still asleep at 7:17 int he morning and we are trying to keep our two dachshunds away from her door. Wally will go down there and scratch and whine. Its like having another kid in our home, bathing and putting to bed.
I guess this is my life for the next how many years I don't know. My biggest fear is that our youth will be gone. This is the time of our lives when we could be traveling and visiting our son in North Carolina and going places.

I had two clients call for appointments yesterday. One asked if I was still in business. In fact I have 5 prior clients who want me to help them at the moment and a couple are fairly sizable. Plus a funeral home wants me to come and give them a quote. I guess I"m not quite ready to retire yet. Maybe this will put some steam under me to get me out of the house. I have always been able to set my mind to the task and get things done in a timely fashion. Maybe this will rejuvenate me. This year I've been putting my business aside to sew and quilt instead but now I feel I might need to get out and work. I zero in on the project and get it done so I can get on with other things.

We still have things to move out of her apartment and the movers to come and pack up the china and get it out of there. Pray for me.

  
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CARLANNIE 10/3/2012 7:54AM

    I've been MIA so I'm just now reading about your new life change. I can only imagine the changes that this entails. It sounds like taking on some work for hire jobs will give you a chance to get out and about more and be a good thing for you, with quilting in between. Families are so important - you are an angel.

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FIFIFRIZZLE 10/2/2012 1:40PM

    You must be worn out.
Isn't it great that the chance to get out and work has come, just at the right time! Someone up there is looking out for you.

Can I ask, who helped MIL before she moved in with you? Can they still assist with care to free you up when you need it?
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JAMARIGOLD 10/2/2012 11:11AM

    All the new business might be just the ticket. Getting out of the house sounds like the break you'll need. I hope it will give you the energy you're looking for and not be another burden. Bless your heart for what you and your husband are doing for your MIL. My DH and I are living at my mother's taking care of her and escaping to our own home for a couple of days every couple of weeks. What you're doing is much more time and stress producing than what we're doing but I still understand your feelings about wishing it were different so you could travel, etc. But, maybe someday we'll need the kindness of someone too. Prayers coming your way.
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KASEYCOFF 10/2/2012 9:20AM

    I never thought about funeral homes and such places (nursing homes? motels / hotels? show-homes?) in terms of decorating - I can see where that might prove to be a good corner of the market!

Re sorting her things: one of the things my cousins did for my aunt was to inventory her treasured belongings (no matter how frivolous it seemed: she kept a circa-1960 manual ice crusher!) and put them into labelled boxes - I think they used large plastic totes, but you get the idea. Then if she started fretting about "Where's my--?" they could assure her "That's in this box labelled 'Mom's Kitchenware, box 3-A' " and if she was determined that she REALLY needed it, they could easily retrieve it. They had a sort of storage loft built into the top of their garage, and while getting out the ladder to get up there was a bit of a nuisance, at least they held onto her things and she was usually okay with knowing where it was stored. After she died, they had a much easier task with family, because they could say "Mom held onto thus-and-so, do you want it?" or could quickly determine where the donations were located, things that could be sold in a yardsale, whathaveyou. So since you're at the beginning of this part of the process, maybe now would be a good time to sit down with her and 'package' some of the extraneous items while assuring her you aren't getting rid of them, just storing them in the house where they're easy to find, easy to get to, but not filling up closets or cupboards needed for the everyday items.
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MOVING MIL IN, DAY 9

Monday, October 01, 2012

Today's the day and of course it has been raining. They are coming to our home first to load up a sofa, dresser and a few things for my son. Then off to MIL to load and move her things. Then off to my son's to make his delivery. We've been packing and sorting and packing and sorting. Goodwill here we come.

  
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LKWQUILTER 10/1/2012 9:10PM

    Hope you got everything done today. Good vibes going your way. ((HUGS))

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FIFIFRIZZLE 10/1/2012 2:00PM

    Wouldn't you know it, raining! What a big job, to be rearranging your life like this. And for MIL too. Thank goodness you have DH to help, and maybe DS can lend a hand too, as he is close? This ink ing of you and hoping you have as easy time of it as can be.

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KASEYCOFF 10/1/2012 9:59AM

    The dust will settle - I surely don't envy you the work it'll take to get everything shifted and placed and moved, but once you do, you can focus on the 'people,' rather than the 'things.'

Better days're coming, hon...
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