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MOVING MIL, DAY 4

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

When you are moving a 93 year old MIL into your home, you must first go through your drawers, closets and cupboards and get rid of your own hoard before you can replace it with her hoard. We went over last night and cleaned out a bookcase full of cookbooks and misc. It now fills the trunk of hubby's car and so today I have to go and bring in a load and go through it and repeat as necessary. We had a really good box I was using to transport things and hubby elected to take it to a neighbor so now we are boxless.
I will say though, as I was putting some things away, I found a piece of tupperware that I forgot I had that is perfect to use to store 2.5 inch squares of fabric! Can't remember when I've been so excited about tupperware. We used this container while stationed in England in the 70's. It was the perfect size to house a slab of English butter, doesn't get any better than that! English butter that is.
She has a small bathroom sink, single size, that is so packed full of stuff, it falls out when you open the door. So I went into our own bathroom to inspect our sink cabinet and found some containers I can use for fabric! Wow, who knew I had this stuff? So I guess there are positives. Later.

  
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KASEYCOFF 9/26/2012 12:26PM

    The fun of rediscovering stuff you forgot you had, lol...
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MOVING MIL IN, DAY 3

Tuesday, September 25, 2012

Well, I thought we were going to get a divorce yesterday, arguing in front of the sales help at Lowes, trying to find hooks to hang a pole. I already have it in my mind how we are going to move her and set up her furniture. After all, I'm an interior designer and I do this same thing for my clients and make money doing it. So I told my husband last night, leave the decorating up to me. I will hang all of her pictures and place all the furniture and orchestrate the move, just like I do for my deliveries.
I figure it will cost about $2000 just to move her from a small apartment to our house, what with all the preparations and details. Now, I'm thinking I need to put window treatments on the 3 french doors in the family room. We rarely sit in there at night and we have a protected court yard so for us, it isn't necessary. But this is where MIL will have her TV and recliner and I feel that when we have to go out at night, she will feel insecure with all that glass uncovered.
My husband goes out every Thursday for Barbershop practice and I go out on the second Thursday for quilt guild so I think I need to order some shades by then. Maybe she will feel more at home by then. I'll have to cage the dogs so she doesn't trip over them.
Hubby brought home a closet full of coats that are now hanging in our shed. We won't throw anything out unless she decides to get rid of it. We live in Florida of course and she has 2 raincoats, at least 3 overcoats, some wool jackets, sweaters, etc. Now, the time for us to wear a coat around here is pretty slim. It has to get real cold and that doesn't happen often. I have my own set of 3 coats in the closet that don't get worn much. Sigh, I've already been through that closet but I guess I can part with at least one of them. I have a cape that I made with wool I purchased in Scotland and wore when I was pregant with my second child. That cape got me through the English winters in 1977/78 so I can't throw that out. I can still wear it and do sometimes. And my husband has an equal # of coats as well. They are nice to have when it does get cold but 3 or 4 apiece, well. And its a small closet. Oh, well, tomorrow will come too.

  
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FIFIFRIZZLE 9/27/2012 4:46PM

    Hats off to you, I am thinking of having a declutter in sympathy with you. One thing flylady suggests about decluttering is to take photographs of the things that have meaning for us but yet we don't really want to have around. Then we can look at the photograph and enjoy the memories and associations and let the object go. I suppose one could do that and put the digital images in a digital photframe to enjoy as a changing display.
I wonder if this would work for your MIL, or whether it would be just another thing to do to add to your burden.
Keep up the good work, you will get through it!
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JIBBIE49 9/26/2012 7:16PM

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KASEYCOFF 9/25/2012 11:57AM

    This is a really good idea, to keep a log of the move - the life changes all of you are going thru are important, and I think it's always good later to be able to reflect on where you were and what you went thru and what you thought at the time and so on.

Re the excessive number of coats: I admit, the first thing I thought was - is she always cold? When I was in my early-to-mid twenties, my grandfather was 80-ish, and by then he was keeping the house pretty warm, in winter with the central heating (felt like it was jacked up to about 100, lol) and in summer by keeping the windows closed, rather than putting in the screens as he did when I was a kid. I almost dreaded going to his house, because it was so stuffy and hot, and if we convinced him to go out with us, he would always bundle up in thick sweaters, even in mid-summer. I remember going to the lake one time in July - our kids were 6 and 8, and went swimming. It was roasting on the sand - but Grampa was wearing a long-sleeved shirt, a cardigan, and a wool cap.

The reason I mention this - I am not-quite-60... and I am ALWAYS cold! Always. Just absolutely freezing. I always have at least a t-shirt and a thicker shirt on, and usually a sweater or sweatshirt over that. At night, I have extra blankets on my side of the bed, plus a hot-water bottle for my feet. As I'm typing, I have a space heater on max down by my feet, and I'm wearing my heaviest sweatshirt and a thick knit cardigan. I'm sort-of tolerable, not very, but just. The battles we have over the temperature in the car are unreal. (And it's in the 50s today.)

So what I'm thinking about your m-i-l is... if I was her, I'd not only be hanging on to the coats and sweaters, I'd probably be layering two or three just about all the time, lol. Check and see over the next few weeks how she seems to be in terms of room temperature and so forth; that might give you a clue as to whether or not she'd be amenable to letting go of some of the heavier items.

Re the window treatments on the French doors: I'm with you on this one. While it might be fairly private given the enclosed courtyard, I'd think she might feel more comfortable with something available to cover the glass. Even if the shades or curtains are left open most of the time, it might be a good to give her the option of closing them should she want privacy.
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p.s. And your DH needs to learn to trust your judgment when it comes to interior decorating, LOL!

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SANDYW1945 9/25/2012 11:42AM

    You are doing a great job of this. Very organized. I know you will work this out.

My parents are in Florida (Ocala) and now that I'm retiring, I'll be moving there after official close of my office. Parents are 90 and 87 right now so even though they are healthy, I'm better off close to them geographically. Have a brother in Jacksonville, but his health isn't all that good.

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LKWQUILTER 9/25/2012 8:33AM

    I can only imagine what you are dealing with. When our older dd moved back in it got pretty hairy around here and with a MIL-- emoticon . Try to remember to take care of yourself too. ((HUGS))

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GARDENCHRIS 9/25/2012 7:42AM

    sounds like everyone is going to be stressed for awhile...

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DUKEFAN86 9/25/2012 7:42AM

    Wow, big job, moving MIL in! Hope everything's smoother sailing from here on out!

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MOVING MIL IN DAY 2

Monday, September 24, 2012

last night we had MIL over for dinner and then went through the box that I brought home and put all of her cards/cribbage board/games into a drawer in a wash stand that will be in her room. Then I put the linens and other things in the china cabinet and laid a lace runner onto the wash stand for her. She said she had added the lace to that runner so I will have to get more details from her and laebl everything. It will be kind of fun documenting things with her. I've always enjoyed doing crafts and learning things with her. She was a fabulous cook and baked magnificent pies and candy. We haven't had a pie since she stopped cooking a few years back. Maybe I can learn how to make them with her here.
I found an apron that came from Paula Dean's restaurant and was signed by one of her sons. I thought, my that would be a good Christmas present for my son who was a chef for a while along with some cookbooks. I'm not sure she thought that was a good idea but hey, I love giving gifts from the heart like that.
I know she can't visualize how all of her furniture is going to fit into the bedroom we have for her. But I'm an interior designer and I have it all figured out in my head. We will have to go over there every day this week and bring something back.
The biggest problem I am going to have is with my husband. I have a very soft voice and when I'm speaking with her I speak loudly so she will hear and understand me. Otherwise, I'm repeating myself and she doesn't get it. He thinks I'm yelling at her. He should hear himself trying to explain to her how to use the telephone.
I am going to have to plan meals around here and having something available for her to eat for lunch and dinner. If I make a casserole, she can have leftovers for lunch. I've been cooking for two for so long, now I can use recipes that serve four or six. At 93, she still eats very well. If she ever stops eating, it will a worry.
My husband and I tend to eat out a lot so I guess we won't be doing much of that. Until next time.

  
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JIBBIE49 9/25/2012 1:14AM

    You should keep in mind that at 93, a person can "go down hill quickly". I worked as a nurse in a nursing home, so I saw it happen. But, of course many 93 yo people can do well up to 103. I found in the nursing home that it always helped to be looking directly at the person when I was speaking to them, and not looking off somewhere else or being turned aside.

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KASEYCOFF 9/24/2012 6:09PM

    Record your hubby's voice when he's talking to his mother, then let him hear himself - raise his awareness that seniors often don't hear so well, and just like we'd rather say it just the once, they don't like to keep asking 'Pardon? Excuse me? What did you say?' over and over.

[Said she whose husband now - finally - wears his hearing aids all the time--!]
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SANDYW1945 9/24/2012 10:48AM

    This is great. You seem to be settling in. I know you will enjoy her company and find many positive things about her being with you.

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EWL978 9/24/2012 9:24AM

    You are a saint!! No, I really mean that...it's so rewarding to read your post. One can only worry and wonder about their future and then, reading something like what you have put down here makes me realize that there is ALWAYS hope!

Please enjoy her company...I know that your life is being changed by this, but your son became the man he is by having her be his Mom.

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MOVING MOTHER-IN-LAW, DAY 1

Sunday, September 23, 2012

I decided to blog about our effort to move my mother-in-law in to live with us. So I took a box over today to try to unload some of her drawers. She wanted to make sure I brought all of her cards and cribbage boards with her. She only has about 25 decks of cards. What does a 93 year old woman do with 25 decks of cards. And of course I can't throw anything away so we are bringing her to the house for dinner tonight so we can empty the box and find a place for everything.
Honestly, I know she thinks I am going to throw things out that she wants to keep and a lot of it ought to get thrown out or try to sell it. But we will go through the box, one thing at a time and find a place or she will decide she doesn't need 25 decks of cards and will get rid of most of them. At least I hope. We have to clean out our own stuff before we can fit hers in. So that's what I'll be doing for the next 3 weeks.

  
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BABACHAN 9/24/2012 10:51AM

    We moved my mother three years ago from a four bedroom house in Little Rock to a two bedroom apartment in Carmel, In. It was quite a job because we had to go thru everything and consolidate. It was difficult for my mother because she wanted to keep everything. So we ended up taking what she needed to her apartment and sending "storage" stuff to three different homes. At least she is secure in the knowledge that her things haven't all disappeared. It was a job organizing and labeling all the boxes and determining where they were going to end up. The good thing is that she has been in her apartment for three years and is quite comfortable and happy.
Keep up the good work!

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SANDYW1945 9/24/2012 7:33AM

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Oh you have your work cut out for you. Will mom have her own room? Can you put some stuff in storage? Sounds impossible. Well good luck with all this.

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KASEYCOFF 9/23/2012 5:44PM

    I guess if the attachement gives her a sense of security or 'belonging,' why, at least she collects something relatively small. I once knew a woman who collected - no lie, COLLECTED - the old claw-footed cast-iron bathtubs. She had a shed full, and so many in the garage they couldn't put the car in there. You might think with the whole 'restore an old house' trend that they'd have increased in value. Hah. Finally, when they moved, SHE paid people to haul them away. Stupid. Well, at any rate, I think in comparison decks of cards aren't too bad, lol...
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ANDI571 9/23/2012 11:12AM

    Remember to take care of yourself. Caregivers tend to forget that. emoticon

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DANCINCAJUN1 9/23/2012 11:02AM

    oh you are going to be having a lot of fun in the next few weeks .... sounds like you need to keep a daily journal and when you read it much later you will sure get a lot of laughs. Very kind of you to take on this responsibility ... Enjoy each day.... Roc
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Haven't blogged in a while

Friday, September 21, 2012

Haven't felt like blogging lately. So much going on, just want to take a nap and forget about it. Hubby and I have been nursing chest coughs for 2 weeks and finally broke down yesterday and went to the doctor. I got 3 scrips and he got 2. I already feel better after taking two antibiotics. I guess it wasn't going away on its own. Today I just want to veg out. I haven't even felt like quilting. Maybe today I will just take the rest of the week off and then reboot on Monday. The weather is absolutely fabulous here in Northwest Florida. Great football weather! Enjoy the weekend.

  
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JENNY888 9/21/2012 7:26PM

    Rest and heal. I know you will feel better soon. You deserve a rest. Find something you love to do to do even if it isn't quilting.

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KASEYCOFF 9/21/2012 3:16PM

    Hope you're feeling better soon--!
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JAMARIGOLD 9/21/2012 2:41PM

    You do have a lot on your plate right now. I'm sorry to hear you and DH are under the weather. Resting mind and body sounds like a great idea. Take good care and enjoy your great weather!
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ANDI571 9/21/2012 12:08PM

    It's just important to take care of your body by resting and letting it heal, as it is to exercise and eat right. Glad you are going to veg. emoticon

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