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Saturday, April 14, 2012

Isn't that what we've been saying, balance is key? Balance in work, personal life, creative life, spiritual? etc. Why do I continually throw my efforts behind just one thing? If I could do that for dieting and exercise, wouldn't I be skinny? At any rate, I've gone over board with the quilting and I need to step back. Even though I might be ready to retire mentally, I'm not ready to retire because my family still needs the income I provide. So I've got to figure out a way to keep the decorating appointments coming in and spend less money on quilting fabrics and time sewing.

I say this but today I'll be squirreled away all day in my sewing room. Got to finish a couple of things but at least I am thinking about it. CArol

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ANHELIC 4/16/2012 11:50PM

    Love your blog. Keep up the great work. emoticon

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BUGGYS 4/16/2012 1:30PM

    Well, I did retire from my inhome daycare about 8 years ago UNTIL my Gkids came along and now I watch 5 of them 4 days a week for free...why? Because they need me and I love it!

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CARLANNIE 4/16/2012 9:36AM

    WOW~ did I write this blog and didn't realize it? You sound just like me. One of these days we can retire. One of these days.

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LUVS2BIKE101 4/14/2012 10:59PM

    It's difficult to balance, but it can be done.

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COOPQUILTLADY 4/14/2012 1:03PM

    I didn't even know there was such a thing as too much fabric, and too much time quilting!!! Are you SURE?????? emoticon

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ANYVAR54 4/14/2012 12:15PM

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Thursday, April 12, 2012

Ann Romney was admonished yesterday for not working and never having held a job and there was instant backlash from a number of women, including myself, who would have preferred to stay home with their kids. Ann's 5 boys are in their 30's and 40's and she raised them during a time when many women still stayed home with their children. I did for the most part, working part time with the Air Force Reserve and eventually buying a business when my youngest was 6.

I was fortunate in that my husband held a flexible position during the formative years and he was the one who was able to get off for doctor's appointments and to take them to sports events, etc. I did my share as well but we were equal in the raising.

In the 70's and 80's, when Ann was raising her children, women were just beginning to venture into the workplace and break the glass ceiling. Ann was busy doing what she did best, and what she wanted to do.

I know many women, including my daughters in law, who would prefer to stay home with their kids. But economic times prevent that from happening.

Just thought I would start a poll here to get others opinions. Keep the politics out of it. This is not about being a republican or a democrat. Its about whether you think she worked or not. I vote yes, she did. Can't imagine having to go out and get a full time job with 5 boys to raise. She was fortunate she didn't have to do so. Later.

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DAP1313 4/18/2012 10:06AM

    Yes she worked, but she didn't have a job outside of the family. I've done both, and it's much harder having to have that job outside of the family plus come home and do the chores, and take care of the kids.

Plus I am sure she had help on taking care of her house.

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LIFE-FAITH 4/13/2012 10:03AM

    YES she works/worked. She worked for her family.
When I was working on several committees at our children's high school - many of the mom's worked out side of the home - one was a high official in the community - she asked me what I did for a living - I expressed that I worked for my children and husband - my part-time job was a professional volunteer in whatever my children were involved with - I had 4 children. (some time later this official called me and asked if she could use my definition of working for my family - I told her of course!)

Great blog! Jean

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APRILWALKING 4/13/2012 8:36AM

    Yes, of course she worked. Being a stay at home mom or even a housewife is WORK. Sad when our country forgets that!

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MIZCATHI 4/13/2012 6:55AM

    Women, as well as men, should listen to their hearts and follow their call. Work is essential but my definition of "work" is not what another's is. I worked outside of the house because I had to, but I found ways to be a Mom first, and the "job" secondary. At 58 I am still working a "job", but I have to say I am tired and disillusioned about the workplace and the people who head them. There is no easy answer, but family should always come first and those who can make that choice the way they WANT to are the richest in the world.

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TOWHEE 4/13/2012 12:35AM

    There is no question in my mind that she worked and worked harder than women in the workplace. Not only that but her job was more important than most jobs in the workplace, since she was teaching/guiding/mentoring young children to become educated and productive members of society.

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ANYVAR54 4/12/2012 10:46PM

    Yes, just as I did in raising my three children, volunteered at the church, taught Sunday School, started and taught women's Bible Study. I don't make money for what I do, but I do work.

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LJCANNON 4/12/2012 3:17PM

    emoticonAbsolutely YES! She had a JOB!! I think it is a sad commentary on the mentality of Our Culture that this question is even asked.
I am glad that you posted this, I am looking forward to seeing what everyone else has to say.

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SEWINGMAMACDS 4/12/2012 1:11PM

    Definitely - she had the best and most important job in the world --raising her boys.

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ANDI571 4/12/2012 11:19AM

    I know she worked. I quit work 2 years after I was married and became a stay at home mom, daughter, daughter-in-law, friend, and you name it, I did it. I have had people say, what do you do all day.

Granted now that my parents and inlaws have passed away, I don't stay as busy. But up until then, there were days when I wished I had some down time. I was the one who went on doctors visits with family members when no one else could. I baby sat when no one else could. I only missed one field trip when my daughter was in school, and that was because I was at the hospital with my husband having a test. When my aunt lost her leg, I was the one who went to therapy with her, and learned how to get her in and out of bed and in and out of a car. When my brother broke both legs, I was the one who went over and loaded up his wheel chair and took him to the visitation and funeral of his mother-in-law so his wife didn't have to worry about him.

I have learned so much with what life taught me as I was taking care of others. The only trouble, I don't get credit for it. At 55 if I now went for a job, the only resume I would have is, life. Who wants to hire a 55 year old woman that they think has limited skills. I have filled out insurance papers, paid bills, went to therapy, learned how to give insulin shots. I have run back and forth from my family to a loved one in the hospital until I thought I would drop. I know about Alzheimer's, lung cancer, prostate cancer, allergies, diabetes, heart conditions, pre-mature babies, and a slew of other health issues that I have been taught by life and taking care of others. But let someone come in and say, you have never worked, they just don't see what life has taught me.

Has she worked? Yes, she has. I have never put any woman down for deciding to work. I am so proud of my daughter and the work she does with her physical therapy. I respect those that juggle a work force and a family. I know it isn't easy. I sometimes wish I got the same respect.

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NATARSHAD 4/12/2012 11:07AM

    Being a full-time mom to one child is definitely work. Being a full-time mom to 5 sons should qualify as two or three.

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Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Last week it hit me. I might be nearing the point of being ready to retire! The urge to quilt has taken over and I'd rather spend time sewing than anything else. Trouble is, how to replace the income I make as an interior designer with income from quilting? I've posted a note on the Quilt and Lose Team about my blog that I wrote today, www.tealeafquilts.blogspot.com I have in the back of my mind that I want to write a book about selecting colors and patterns for your quilt.
I've looked out there on the net and there are a few books on color theory, the most notable one is by Jinny Beyer written in the 90's. She's developed quite a process to select colors and even has a color deck that you can use. I don't need that as my eye is my color deck but I'm sure there are many out there that need help in this arena. Instead of buying Jinny's expensive deck, you could go to your local paint store and get one of theirs. Very similar.
I've also stumbled on to C&T Publishing which is a group of people that got together and set up a publishing company for patterns and books on quilting. So I've joined that group.
So I've made this quilt I'm calling TEA Leaves because I used two Green Tea Bali POps to design it. And I developed the pattern myself so I have in the back of my mind that I want to put this pattern to paper and sell it. Where to start? I've gotten some good input from my quilting buddies here on Spark and I thank you for it. I've just managed to post the pic of my qult on www.tealeafquilts.blogspot.com . Amazing, can't believe I did that. Now I need to go onto the blog and write about it.
So there I am. Today I have an appointment for draperies and I will go and be happy to do it as I love selling draperies. Then I'll come home and start sewing again. Later.

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COOPQUILTLADY 4/11/2012 12:42PM

    Awesome quilt! You could do us some good by publishing!

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QUILTINGBUDDY 4/10/2012 11:42PM

    Lovely quilt and nice job. I'm sure you will do well with your idea and your new business venture!
Good luck!

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ANYVAR54 4/10/2012 10:39PM

    Good for you!!

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LADYBUG1943 4/10/2012 10:33AM

    That did it! Lovely quilt. Very pleasing. I can't help you with the logistics of getting that published, but I definitely think it's worthy. Good luck!


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LADYBUG1943 4/10/2012 10:17AM

    It tried to go to the above address and got an error message, even after connecting "...blogge" to "r.com." Disappointed. I love the Bali Pops designs.

P.S. I just tried to delete this comment, and found out I couldn't. Just managed to get it out of order. My apologies. (You clearly don't want MY advice on publishing!) LOL!

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Thursday, April 05, 2012

There it sat. The most delectable piece of carrot cake I'd ever seen, sitting right there at my place. It was a generous size, full of nuts and plenty of cream cheese icing with bits of shaved carrot on it as a garnish. What a beauty!
I was attending the Republican women's Club luncheon yesterday and had ordered the salad plate. It was delicious, full of lots of veggies and hard boiled egg. I drizzled the ranch dressing very lightlly and ate the whole thing.
Then, I pulled that plate of carrot cake in front of me and savored the whole thing, down to the last bite. Did I think about not eating it since I'm supposed to have given up sweets? NO! I didn't even let that thought cross my mind. I ate it and enjoyed it, every bite!
Starting over again today. emoticon

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LUTHERANGIRL 4/10/2012 5:28PM

    Carrot cake, sweets or ice cream can do me in

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FIFIFRIZZLE 4/10/2012 7:36AM

    Oh, man, now all I can think of us cream cheese icing.

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JOLETTE 4/9/2012 6:57PM

    I admire your blogging dedication, even if you have to be honest about our temptations and at least you ate some good stuff. (including the cake) I wouldn't be ble to resist carrot cake either. Keep on keeping. Jo

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CARLANNIE 4/7/2012 8:51AM

    I know how hard that is to sit at a meeting with a dessert staring you in the face. Since I have a sweet tooth, I usually succumb. Still can't decide if that's right or wrong, but for you, what's done is done. You just need to decide what your course of action will be the next time the situation comes up. To eat, or not to eat - that is the questi on! emoticon

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BABACHAN 4/6/2012 8:46AM

    You can't have a fear of food..........that's my motto! You are in control of your diet and
you should be able to decide to make that decision to have a treat when you feel you want it, knowing that you will be able to make adjustments for your choices. So, if you have to exercise a little more today or watch your diet a little harder for a few days, relax and show no fear to food! Good luck in your journey! emoticon

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TOWHEE 4/5/2012 10:11PM

    I don't see this as a failure. You knew what you were doing. It sounds like it was built into your eating plan for the day, so go ahead and enjoy.

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ANYVAR54 4/5/2012 2:24PM

    Sometimes we need to give ourselves a day when we eat what we want. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LRK4CHRIST 4/5/2012 7:47AM

    LOL! Well we all fail sometimes. But like u said, "Sarting over again today." If u have to keep doing that everyday, u do it till u get it right. LOL! Be blessed and focus a little more and it'll all come together.

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Wednesday, April 04, 2012

I read this quote on a blog this morning and this is sew true! Monday was a bummer stressful day after my husband drilled a hole through the shelf of a new sofa table that was to be delivered to a client. It just hit me so wrong and stressed me out that I thought, "why am I still doing this>" Am I ready to retire? I sure felt like it on Monday. And so yesterday, it was raining and I did not venture into my work space at all. Instead, I went and sat at my sewing machine and pushed fabric through it. That is such a stress reliever for me. I created a 4 block quilt as you go strippy quilt and it is going to be so cute and ready to donate to charity for our guild. Why can't I just learn to develop patterns and sell my products and earn a bit that way? Just seems like such a stumbling block to get started and be successful at it.

So this morning I have spent paying bills and getting caught up to date with my bookwork, ready to go to the Republican Women's luncheon and then on to see 2 clients. I've got a lot of planning to do. What to do, where to go with it, etc. Later.

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ANYVAR54 4/4/2012 6:00PM

    I need to get my craft room set up so that I can just go sew on those days when I feel stressed. I have spent far too many hours on the computer, but this morning, low and behold I had energy and vim and gumption to do some cleaning and organizing. It feels so good to have been busy doing that. One day closer.

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ALMMOM 4/4/2012 1:24PM

    I love sewing in my sanctuary (sewing room). Nothing relieves the stress and all like a get away!!

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MNJONES2 4/4/2012 11:18AM

    I love that you sew!! I used to sew a LOT of my own clothes, gifts etc.. then got out of the habit and recently have picked it up again. I have a light wool jacket I am finally finishing up just in time for spring!! HA! Sewing does take my mind off what is bugging me too.

Hang in there - somehow we get through these days..... best wishes on your journey to good health.

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