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WHEEL OF LIFE!

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

So today I went to a luncheon for PR industry professionals and a Success Coach was the speaker. She gave us a "Wheel of Life" with a circle and 12 slices made up into 12 areas of our life where we have goals. Then she also gave us a worksheet. We were to think of a person that we really admired and then to write down 5 characteristics of that person. I could not immediately think of a person but I started to write down the characteristics that I would like to have. Then I realized that I was talking about my friend Pat! The person I was thinking about was happy, had peace within, was friendly, giving and outgoing. And it was Pat. And those 5 things were things that I felt I struggle with. Then the speaker had us read the characteristics aloud and then said to look in the mirror because we would only recognize those characteristics in others if we had them ourselves!

Interesting. I felt I struggled with them, always working on them. Always pushing myself to get out of the house and be outgoing. My husband was out of town last night and I just hunkered down in the house with the dogs. ANd I thought to myself, if anything ever happened to him I would probably become a hermit. I would probably just hollow a space out in a chair and sit and watch TV all day. Or sleep.

I'm going through a rough time. If you can read between the lines. I just feel one level below normal and have to constantly fight it. I take meds for depression so I know this will pass but it is a struggle. So I was glad to go and hear the speaker at lunch today. In case you were wondering, the 12 items in the wheel of life are:

HOME
FUN
MONEY
FRIENDS
SERVICE
RELATIONSHIP
SPIRITUAL DEVELOPMENT
PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
HEALTH
FAMILY
APPEARANCE
CAREER

And you are supposed to have a vision statement for each item. She also said that at the end of the year, she always goes through with her clients, listing 100 items that you accomplished in the year. I would have a hard time coming up with 100 items of accomplishment. I probably have way more than that but just listing things like a successful job for a client just seems like my job anyway. Like I was supposed to do it anyway. I guess I don't give myself enough credit and it is a struggle to do so, like I'm bragging.

So I am going to work on my wheel of life and see what I can come up with. Later.

  
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FIFIFRIZZLE 1/28/2012 4:28PM

    Wow that wheel of life seems like too much work to me! I find the whole thing more than a tad daunting. Isn't it OK to just BE?
I was having a laugh with a friend the other day about how we could easily end up as hermits. I am happy just to be at home with my chooks and cats and the garden, greeting the neighbors when I feel like it, and doing my shopping online. We live up 106 steps and sometimes I do think about whether I really WANT to go out. Whereas DH goes a bit stir crazy if he doesn't have a little excursion.

Do something nice for yourself today, won't you?
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MAGA99 1/25/2012 6:01AM

    I think I want 2 try this

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TOWHEE 1/24/2012 5:37PM

    What an interesting lunch.

Oh, I'm sure you have more than 100 accomplishments per year. Yes, you are doing your job, but they are accomplishments because you are able to do them and you are doing them; your clients aren't. Their accomplishments include hiring you and taking your advice.

About 25 years ago I was working on a software conversion job at work. I finally got one of our less technically oriented departments up and running and I felt good about what I had done, so I sent a memo to my manager entitled "Blowing my own horn". He loved it and told me that I should do that more often. How empowering it is to blow our own horns. It's not bragging or boasting, it's just letting others know that we've done something positive for the organization. It's no different than giving yourself a reward for attaining a weight loss goal or an exercise goal or any of the myriad other goals that we set for ourselves.

Margaret


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KASEYCOFF 1/24/2012 5:18PM

    Interesting concept, that 'wheel of life'...
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MIZCATHI 1/24/2012 4:20PM

    What an interesting concept and definitely food for thought. Wow, 100 accomplishments at the end of the year? Hmmm. Well, that breaks down to 2 a week, right? I bet you can come up with 2 a week if you give yourself credit!

I added you as a friend and hope you will add me as well.

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ANDI571 1/24/2012 4:05PM

    I find since my parents passed away, and my daughter moved out, I get more and more comfortable in the house. I don't seem to come alive until my husband gets home. Most of the friends I was with for years have moved on and taken on different lives, or they suffer from depression, and I can't get them out of the house. I definitely don't sit around, I keep busy, but making myself get out there is hard some days.

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BARBARASDIET 1/24/2012 3:38PM

    It's interesting that she said you can only recognize the traits in others if you have them yourself. I'm not sure I believe that--after all, we recognize the bad in others--does that mean we, too, are bad? Still, a very interesting concept.

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YOU HAVE TO PICK YOUR BATTLES!

Monday, January 23, 2012

The Older I get, I realize I can't juggle 15 tasks at once in the air and expect them to be finished to conclusion. I can see myself flitting around like a banchee woman years ago getting things done and taking care of myself too but now, at almost 64, it is not in the cards to juggle that many balls at once.

So I have to pick my battles. I started this year out with good intentions but everything went to pot when I came down with a major chest cough. My bookkeeper came at the end of December and closed out my old company and started a new one for me so my goal of getting caught up for the month of January is still floundering.

Things I've had to overcome:

Illness and coughing my head off
6 day Trip to Disney
Recovering from Trip
Trying to get my bookkeeping in order (still trying)
Trying to jump in with Flylady and shine my sink
Giving up sweets for the month of January which majorly failed
Trying to finish up with several clients who had lagging details to be concluded.
Trying to apply Flylady principals to my home.
Taking mother-in-law to the doctor and haircut.
Taking myself to the doctor and hair cut.
Resting.
Stop stressing about Son's job situation.
Did I mention not to stress about Son's job situation? That is major.
Trying to close out bookkeeping for 2011 and get organized for 2012.
Trying not to stress about Son's job situation.

Last week, my mother-in-law had 3 doctor's appmts. This week she has 2 doctor's appmts and a haircut. I had 4 of the 6 tasks fall to me. When am I supposed to work and take care of myself?

So my battle today is to finish up 2 clients, see the doctor at 3:00, and try to apply some flylady house blessing to my master bedroom. Hubby is gone for the night to see Son in Nasville so I am on my own to do what I please. That might entail just vegging out in the recliner watching TV. Right now, I need to get in the shower to go and take care of those 2 clients. Later.

  
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TIRED49 1/23/2012 11:08PM

    I think your day reflects much of what a lot of us go through.
I could tweak your words a little and they would be mine I know.
Hang in there and remember to breathe.
Choose the most important things and let the rest go.
You are a strong woman with a lot on your plate, but because you are strong you will succeed.
Hope you have a better day tomorrow.

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FIFIFRIZZLE 1/23/2012 12:11PM

    That,s a lot! I thought of two things while reading.
First, write down your worry in a notebook and look at it at the end of the day. Then if you want to dedicate worry time to it, you can worry about everything on your worry list in order of importance. I found this very freeing when I tried it!
Second ... I forget! That,s what happens as you get older!
Oh, wait, I remember! Never have more to dos in a day than you can fit on a postit note. emoticon
Take care of you, won't you? emoticon

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TOWHEE 1/23/2012 11:29AM

    I was going to send you a SparkMail asking how you were doing, but your blog says it all. Please know that I am standing shoulder to shoulder with you. When you "finally come up for air", I'll be there.

Margaret


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ELRIDDICK 1/23/2012 8:52AM

  Thanks for sharing

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WEIGHING IN!

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Well, I've been back from Disney a week now so I decided to weigh in, figuring I had probably lost whatever I might have gained on the trip. So I weighed this morning and I'm at 185. One thing for sure, I know how to maintain my weight! Been hovering around this level for at least 2 years. What's a body to do? Getting organized and caught up is more on my list than losing weight. I am so overwhelmed at the state of my office and bookkeeping, I am almost immobile. I'm looking at my desk top and all around me at the mess, paralyzed to do anything about it. But I must.

I joined Flylady this year and I know it will take babysteps for me to do this. As soon as I finish this blog, I am up and running. In the shower to get dressed and back to this desk to clean up something. To put something away. Anything. First task would be to attack the pile of bills. I think I'm behind on a few so need to address that. My bookkeeper closed out my accounts at the end of the year because my file was so large! Now I have a "new" company and have to contend with that. I am giving myself until the end of the month to catch up and get going. I would just so love to be organized.

One of the things that is always talked about in organization is to make lists. When I make a list, I then have to make sure I can find it. I lose them. I just stopped what I was typing and put 3 things away. Feels good. So I'm off to the shower. Later.

  
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MAZACK 1/25/2012 2:57PM

    I am back to reading Flylady regularly. I can really relate to the paper clutter. I get very frustrated at times just thinking what I must do. This morning I found a lost camera that the last time I used was Thanksgiving. I had found the lost cable earlier in the month and that was missing nearly a year. Of all things it was at the bottom of a box of receipts

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MUMZELLA 1/18/2012 11:00PM

    Maintaining the weight can be a success too. At least its not gaining! Sometimes, its the making of the list that counts, not necessarily the finding it later. I think your fingers remember the typing of it and that helps. Good luck this year

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KASEYCOFF 1/18/2012 9:37AM

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GET MOVING LAZYBONES

Tuesday, January 17, 2012

This month has me dragging on getting back to work. Still need to do a lot of bookwork with my business but I'm just not geared up to do it! Keep putting it off for things like taking a nap, and sewing and watching TV. But I'll get there. Just quietly though. Hubby is off to the doctor with his mother and tomorrow I have haircut duty and another doctor at 11:00 and then an eye exam for her on Thursday at 1:45. Phew. Doctor duty all in one week. She is 92 and seems like she needs to see doctors more and more often. So I have to fit in my stuff where I can. Hopefully after this week, I will feel more like doing what I'm supposed to be doing. January will be over before I realize the month started. Later.

  
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KASEYCOFF 1/17/2012 3:19PM

    I may not be 92, but I can identify with your M-i-L: I feel as tho I have to see doctors more and more, too, lol...
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FLYING BY THE SEAT OF MY PANTS!

Thursday, January 12, 2012

I've heard of Flylady over the years but never ventured to check her out. I must be into the mode of seriously getting organized because this year, I did check her out and joined up. I downloaded her book while I was on the way back from Disneyworld and read it on my IPAD while riding. Whoa! My sink is clean and I am dressed down to the shoes and makeup! I am waiting for hubby to get her with the newspapers that we roll and deliver today and while waiting, I've moved and put away things from my bar hot spot, thrown magazines away and other stuff, and basically kept busy picking up. What's got into me I don't know but Flylady is FUN! There are plenty of other organizing sites out there but she is fun! And I like it to be fun. Making lists is not fun! But her system is fun!

While I was organizing the bar and cleaning it off, I made piles. I took all the quilting stuff I had been accumulating along with about 3 spools of thread back to the quilting room and put them away! Amazing. I put the Christmas stragglers away. I have a pile of fabric and other things to take to my quilt guild meeting tonight. I took things back to my office that were business related and put things away in the china cabinet. The dishwasher is washing dishes as we speak.

AS I said before, Flylady is fun! I haven't mentioned this to my husband yet. I'm just doing it and I will wait to see if he notices. In the meantime, I'm enjoying getting rid of stuff and putting it away. I plan to take a big bag to the goodwill.

So instead of racing around the house by the seat of my pants, picking things up haphazardly, I'm calmly dealing with them one at a time and finding a good home. I even have dinner planned. Later.

  
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TIRED49 1/16/2012 1:43AM

    This is great! I need to ck that website out!

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JENNY888 1/12/2012 3:43PM

    Congratulations! You sound like you are on to something here. Keep it up.

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