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LOST MY APPETITE

Wednesday, December 07, 2011

The last couple of days I have no appetite. Food doesn't inspire me and I haven't eaten much. Today I have a buffet luncheon to attend so it will be interesting to see what I feel like eating. The cause? My son is underemployed and it is a long story. In May he left the best job he ever had with benefits to embark on a new career as an EMT. They had money set aside so felt they could manage while he went to school. Unfortunately, he failed the licensing test the first time he took it. On Monday, he took it again and studied all weekend so hopefully he will pass it. We are waiting for the results. In the meantime, he has been working very part time and now they are desperate.

I knew this would happen and I did not want him to quit his job. I think now, he realizes what a mistake it was but you can't go back. I was very angry with him for a while, very angry. But now, the anger is gone and the worry has set in, big time. When he passes his test, he then must look for work as an EMT so we could be looking at a long time of helping them out.

In the meantime, my dIL also lost her job but found another one that pays a little more which is a blessing. However, they now don't have any health insurance for 90 days. The saga goes on. And Christmas is coming and they have 2 kids.

Like I said, the anger is gone and I have been praying a lot. Everyday I pray to God that he will pass his test and get a new job. So just keep us in mind. In the meantime, I might lose some weight which would be a good thing. My stomach is churning so much, I can't think about food. Later.

  
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ANDI571 12/15/2011 2:18PM

    My daughter went through some major trials a few years ago. It was so hard on her dad and I to see her make those mistakes, and she is still paying for some of them. But, I have also seen her grow and learn from them. I know it's hard. That was probably harder to see her struggle, than losing my parents. But I am seeing her make much better choices now. Hang in there. emoticon

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COLEENCOLE 12/8/2011 10:56AM

    As difficult as it is to see our children go through trials it is for their benefit. Maybe the Lord is using this in their lives to bring them closer to him. The children won't suffer if they receive gently used gifts and can make them less materialistic. One Christmas we suggested to our kids that in place of gifts we give more to charity that year. They were 6,7, and8. All they got was a Christmas stocking and to this day they are not materialistic. What a blessing.

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TOWHEE 12/7/2011 7:44PM

    Some lessons have to learned the hard way. Now your son understands the concern you had about quitting his other job before getting a new one. It's too bad that his family has to pay the price and you are a saint for bailing them out.
Young children don't notice that there are only a few things under the tree for them and your son can explain to his older kids about why their Christmas isn't as rich as it once was.
Your job is to put a smile on your face and create as festive an atmosphere as possible. While advertisers try to convince kids that they really want a particular toy or game, what they really crave it love and attention and being made special. None of these three things cost any money, only time.

Have a wonderful holiday. emoticon emoticon

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JIBBIE49 12/7/2011 6:42PM

    emoticonI'n sure he will pass his test this time, or if not, the next. There are LOTS of EMT jobs as many people don't stay doing that work as it is very stressful. Lots of them don't like the night time shifts and week-end work.
As for children with Christmas, they don't need NEW items, if there is little money. I went to several yard sales last week and saw tons of good toys, and even "dress up" outfits for a couple dollars. This girl said "Well, my MIL bought those outfits so it was HER money not mine." Lots of young women don't appreciate much.
I'm 62, so I know about being frugal. Seems that even when unemployed now, young people think they have to have cellphones, cable TV, internet, and two cars, etc. emoticon

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LESSONS LEARNED, CONFESSIONS OF A HOARDER

Tuesday, December 06, 2011

A sparker on the Organized Life Team recommended the above book with a great synopsis on it. So yesterday I downloaded it to my IPAD and have read up to chapter 18. It is very interesting and would make a good movie, something like Julie and Julia. The write started to come around with her hoarding tendencies after she went to a Yoga retreat and got closer to her inner self. Then she went on a trip to refugee camps in Jordan and came back and cleaned everything up!

My husband accuses me of hoarding sometimes but I'm just not there yet. Maybe in some areas like cleaning out my drawers and closets. I keep hoping I will get into those tops and pants but somehow it never happens. I don't save things from my childhood or from old boyfriends, etc. What I do hoard is fabrics. I've found good homes for my discontinued samples but I do hold onto them.

Sunday we went to a reception and I brought out a black dress and I threw a top over it that was kind of billowy. I thought it would like nice cinched in so I tried several belts that were just not right. Then I went through my drawers and found a cloth wrap to wear over bathing suits in the tropics. It was red and black with a somewhat oriental flavored design on it. So I cut off the band and make a cummerbund and wore it with my red shoes. I was quite christmasy and spent no money and looked thin even. So the rest of the wrap will become a quilt someday! That is why I keep things like that. Had that red and black wrap for years and never wore it. But now I will.

You could say my son was a hoarder of dogs. Everytime he is depressed, he goes to the humane society and brings a dog home. Now they have 4 dogs and 3 cats and a rabbit. And their house isn't that big. Oh, well. We brought 2 dogs home recently but they are such a joy to us.

I think I will go back into the sewing room and throw a few pieces through the machine. Such good therapy it is! Later.

  
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GAILRUU 12/8/2011 1:36PM

    My husband and I are both hoarders. I collect old sewing machines, fabric and dollhouses. He brings home pets (6 dogs and 2 cats) and hunting and fishing equipment. We also have a lot of the things that belonged to his parents and grandparents. Clutter makes me anxious and anxiety makes me eat!

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KHADEEJAH1 12/7/2011 11:03PM

    I confess. I hoard fabric too. I just asked myself this morning while trying to find some place for some scrapes I had from previous projects, " I'm I a hoarder?" Then I answered myself, " No, I'm just building inventory for that next big project. Got a picture of yourself in that snazzy outfit?

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MYLLA_R 12/7/2011 7:33PM

    I am glad you enjoyed the book! Thanks for the SparkGoodie!

Part of my problem is not necessarily that I hoarde too much (well, I do that too) but that I don't have good storage for the potentially useful stuff, so I never get to reuse it simply because I don't know where it is (or don't even remember I have it). So I end up buying new stuff. (Hah, that was one of the things I liked in the book - she says she finds she has more money because she doesn't have to buy a new pair of scissors every time she wants to cut something!)

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JIBBIE49 12/7/2011 6:35PM

    I think as a woman I'd have lived ALONE and had my OWN condo where I could have had what I wanted to decorate and NEVER have put up with a critical man, who has NO idea what value a sewing machine is or what dishes are worth, etc. But, then of course, he has a yard FULL of tools and that is all okay. My stuff is junk. emoticon emoticon emoticon

I read a blog where this girl said she once went to her college professor's condo, as this woman taught in the Nursing School, and she had the most beautiful place with China dishes, and lovely furniture and antiques. She's been married once when she was in her 20's she said, & her husband got a divorce & demanded he raise the two children, so she didn't fight with him. He got married again right away to a woman he'd been having an affair with and she adopted the two kids. This nurse when on to finish her education & become a professor. She told the student that she loved sitting down at night to a lovely dinner table even if she was eating alone. emoticon

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KASEYCOFF 12/7/2011 4:33AM

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MI-ELLKAYBEE 12/6/2011 6:17PM

    I save things, too. And reuse them, much like you do. Also, because I have endured so much financial hardship in my life that if I have something, I am afraid to part with it because I may never be able to afford another one if I need it. And I can't bear to part with anything I actually had to pay for - if it can still be used. So, lots of things. I use them, though. Lots of shoes, clothes, purses, coats... Adaptive, creative reuse makes you an original, not a hoarder. Be proud of your creative self.

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HEALTHYSLIM2 12/6/2011 6:11PM

    This was lovely to read... I LOVED how you "made" your entire outfit just by finding and re-purposing that wrap in your drawer!!
Hang in there and keep on clearing (I am, too!)
AAPT!! emoticon

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BAD HABITS!

Saturday, December 03, 2011

We belong to the local Yacht Club and on Friday evenings, we usually eat in the dining room with my sister and her husband. But I've fallen into a bad habit and I guess I need to rethink it. We usually have a drink or two and a few snacks before heading into the dining room. Thus, I am not really very hungry. So I tend to get a salad and appetizer or soup and then I just eat a bit of whatever my husband gets. Last night it became really obvious when I got soup and then some of his and I think the waitress got irritated with me. So I guess from now on, I need to order an entree and be hungry before I go to dinner.

Now, would I do that at another restaurant? Maybe. It's not unusual to share entrees, especially if you are a senior. But at the Yacht Club, you get a name for yourself so I guess I better rethink the effort! At least we stayed to eat there and did not leave to go to another restaurant! The soup was butternut squash crostini and was delicious! The special was beef stew and I had a bit of my sister's bowl and it was delicious. But I could never have eaten the whole bowl! And it came with soup or salad as well!

Oh, well. At least I will try not to be rude. The head waitress is really nice but as I said, irritated with me. So I think I will give here a special monetary tip next week to atone!

  
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ANDI571 12/4/2011 5:47PM

    Don't cave in to peer pressure. My husband and I split all the time. I don't really care if they like it or not. I didn't work this hard to let someone guilt me into eating more than I want.

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COLEENCOLE 12/4/2011 5:14PM

    How about a side of veggies or salad with the soup. In the end it doesn't matter what the waitress thinks.

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COVERED IN CAT HAIR

Friday, December 02, 2011

So I was sitting in my clients home when i suddenly realized I was covered in white cat hair! They apoligzed and offered me some sticky tape which I declined. Figured I would just go home and change pants and throw these in the washer. Wouldn't be the first time or the last I imagine. I'm used to hairy clothes as the red wool jacket I wore this morning had to be dehaired before I could venture out of the house. Trouble is, can't remember which dog it might have been that left the little white hairs on it. Now, I'm sitting with a dog on my lap and she doesn't seem to mind. Later.

  
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DAP1313 12/5/2011 3:47PM

    I have cat and dog hair. Isn't it considered a condiment? Just kidding. LOL

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LJCANNON 12/3/2011 8:02PM

    If you love Pets--Dogs OR Cats--being covered in Hair of some kind is just going to happen. Not too much you can do about it.
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emoticonMaybe we could all switch to Turtles for pets, LOL!!!

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LHLADY517 12/2/2011 3:45PM

    I have cat hair all the time. It even gets crocheted into my work--not on purpose, but it's just there.

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OUR NEW DOGS, CHAPTER 2

Thursday, December 01, 2011

We've had Wally and Daphne for 13 days now and they have settled in like they have always lived here.
Either one or both of them are sitting on my lap whenever I'm sitting. Right now, as I type, its Wally and Daphne is buried under a blanket on the sofa.
Last night, the volunteer from Pet Welfare on Eglin AFB called to check on them. Turns out that the vet had told them that Daphne had so many issues that she probably would never be adopted out! That was so sad! She is about 5 and was found wondering on the road. At 9 lbs she is tiny and she has an eye issue in that she doesn't make tears and has to have drops twice a day. She's a bit skittish but calming down the more love she gets. She's not well potty trained and refuses to go out when it is cold. And it's gotten cold. Next is toe nail cutting. Got to get that done and soon. Later.

  
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LKWQUILTER 12/1/2011 3:47PM

    You will be blessed for taking them in.

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