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Rules for Humans #13 & #14 You will forget all of this. You can remember any time you wish.

Wednesday, November 09, 2011

Rule 13: You will forget all of this.

Rule 14: You can remember any time you wish.

And yes you can. Because they are online here rules4humans.com or you can buy the book here:
www.amazon.com/gp/product/076
7902386?tag=manifolds-20


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For the past 2 weeks I have commented on the Rules for Being Human. I like their sensible approach and now that I'm transitioning back into kayaking and training for kayaking it seems like a good time to revisit them.

To see all of the blog posts I wrote in this series, go here:
docs.google.com/document/d/1Ci-bdg7_
3CEnBXkc9TxHkgRTsJJt-jL_NfhJDL_nebE/ed
it?usp=sharing


You can see all of the rules by themselves, here: rules4humans.com

Here's a video explaining where those Rules came from: vimeo.com/15981754

  
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DDOORN 11/10/2011 11:40AM

    Oh WOW! Did not KNOW these were part of a book!!

Thx so much for the head's up!!

Don

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KHAYNES_WDE 11/10/2011 11:13AM

    This has been interesting. Thank you!

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JOAN_HEO 11/10/2011 8:01AM

    O000hhh... thanks for this!!!

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ANDALEX 11/9/2011 11:28PM

    very cool series. your blogs have given me much to consider. thanks!

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WATERMELLEN 11/9/2011 9:56PM

    Great blog series. One of the disconcerting realities is how many times I have to relearn what I already know . . . . but don't want to remember always. Glad that I'm apparently not the only one to suffer from this condition!!

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SALSIFY 11/9/2011 5:52PM

    Thanks for blogging on these rules - I really enjoyed your thoughts.

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(Not that I can remember any of them, of course.)

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TERRYT55 11/9/2011 5:45PM

    Thank you for this excellent link!

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SKYWATCHERRS 11/9/2011 4:35PM

    thanks for providing the link - I really enjoyed reading those rules. Very wise.

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Rules for Humans #12 Your answers lie inside you.

Tuesday, November 08, 2011

Rule 12: Your answers lie inside you.
Children need guidance from others; as we mature, we trust our hearts, where the Laws of Spirit are written. You know more than you have heard or read or been told. All you need to do is to look, listen and trust.

You have to find what works, FOR YOU. This where that whole ďthis is a lifestyleĒ thing comes in. Because if youíre going to make any kind of change that will actually stick, it has to work for you, personally.

In the process of figuring out what works youíll get to know yourself better. Try something. Give it a good, solid effort. Watch yourself and take notes. Evaluate after a week or two.

In the At Goal and Maintaining team we have a weight-based challenge I set up to help me and others like me stay at or near goal.
www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_mes
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For others this is not so helpful. They respond better to other aspects of maintaining fitness and so they have suggested other challenges theyíd like to run
www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_mes
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This is great, because the more different and helpful options out there for all of us, the better off we all are.

I like data. I weigh and track everything I eat (and sometimes even what I DONíT eat that I wanted to), I weigh myself and estimate my % body fat every morning, and I log my exercise with a heart rate monitor.

Since I like numbers I need a convenient way to track them.
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And analyze them.
docs.google.com/spreadsheet/ccc?key=
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DZNUlE&hl=en_US#gid=4


Some people find this sort of focus on the numbers ďcrazy-making.Ē For me itís comforting because I feel like I have a handle on what is going on. Again, this may not be YOUR solution. It is simply what I have found works for ME.

In nutrition I had to play around with the macronutrient and calorie ratios to figure out what works best for me (150g of protein per day, no starches or grains, no less than 1400 cal per day). This was done by tracking everything, trying stuff and watching the results.

For exercise habits I find I need a locked-in routine. If left up to whether or not I feel like it, consistent exercise will not happen. So I have developed a fixed schedule of group exercise classes.

So really this process has been about getting to know stuff about myself. What works for me. And coming up with creative solutions that fit the way I am wired.

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For the past 2 weeks I have commented on the Rules for Being Human. I like their sensible approach and now that I'm transitioning back into kayaking and training for kayaking it seems like a good time to revisit them.

To see all of the blog posts I wrote in this series, go here:
docs.google.com/document/d/1Ci-bdg7_
3CEnBXkc9TxHkgRTsJJt-jL_NfhJDL_nebE/ed
it?usp=sharing


You can see all of the rules by themselves, here: rules4humans.com

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

BOATER_CHICK 11/9/2011 1:35PM

    I love numbers too and do the same with weighing and tracking everyday. They have really kept me going and I think keep me more accountable.

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KAYOTIC 11/9/2011 9:57AM

    You have number crunching down to an art, it's impressive! I do love tracking stuff too, and you're right, it's all about what works for ME, as an individual, and what works for someone else may not work for me....but if I don't try different ways I may never know what actually does!

great series!

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SALSIFY 11/9/2011 8:15AM

    I know what you mean about the numbers - they're easy to analyse. Being able to build up an idea of how much of a calorie deficit I'm running is very reassuring.

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WATERMELLEN 11/8/2011 6:29PM

    Totally agree with you about the tracking, but also that tracking does not work for everyone.

Figuring out what works for each of us is part of the project. And: I'm thinking I could increase my protein quite a bit . . . not close to your levels, and protein does increase satiety for me too.

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ANDALEX 11/8/2011 5:08PM

    i totally dig the numbers, too. someday maybe i'll wean myself off of them, but for now it helps me feel like i know what's going on. not to control necessarily...just to be aware.

thank you for sharing!

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DDOORN 11/8/2011 3:02PM

    Numbers and I are working on a happy middle ground...lol! Am definitely learning that I've got to pay more attention to numbers than I really WANT to if I want the results I want, though!

Don

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Rules for Humans #11 There is no right or wrong, but there are consequences.

Monday, November 07, 2011

Rule 11: There is no right or wrong, but there are consequences.
Moralizing doesn't help. Judgements only hold the patterns in place. Just do your best.

Ha. Finally another topic I can easily relate back to fitness issues.

This principle works very well with food choices. You can eat whatever you want. There should be no guilt associated with food. Just awareness about what youíre doing.

There is a woman in my Tae Kardio class who professes a love of donuts. Last week she announced that sheíd eaten six pumpkin-flavored Dunkin Donuts over the course of the week. And gained 2 pounds. She said she was there to work those donuts back off.

I went and looked up the nutrition facts on those. One pumpkin donut there is 340 calories (19g fat, 38g carbs, 19g sugar, 3g protein). Six of them is 2040 calories, which is less than a pound of fat. It is likely her gain was water and/or other foods.

In Tae Kardio I burn about 150 calories per session. To work off 6 donuts it would take 13 sessions (more than a month of 3 sessions per week).

My point here is not that donuts are bad. I personally love carrot cake (with real cream cheese frosting) and I plan on eating some at Thanksgiving for my birthday. I can eat these things if I want to. There is nothing inherently bad or good about them.

However, choosing to eat them will involve consequences. I need to measure what Iím having and be aware of how it fits into the rest of my daily and weekly nutrition.

If I choose eat a higher than usual dose of fat and sugar that means Iíll have less calories left for protein.

And those things affect how I feel. Not guilt-wise, but health-wise. Sugar and starch set off cravings for me. When I eat that birthday cake I need to be ready to fight some serious urges to binge in the following 24-48 hours. And I need to figure out how Iím going to get the usual 150g of protein per day that my body seems to like.

Maybe itíll mean I eat a little less on the days surrounding Thanksgiving to keep my average calories under 2000. Maybe itíll mean just taking the hit and stalling out for a a week on my way back down to goal.

Either way, Iím going to have my cake and Iím going to eat it too. And I will deal with the consequences before and/or afterward.

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For the past 2 weeks I have commented on the Rules for Being Human. I like their sensible approach and now that I'm transitioning back into kayaking and training for kayaking it seems like a good time to revisit them.

To see all of the blog posts I wrote in this series, go here:
docs.google.com/document/d/1Ci-bdg7_
3CEnBXkc9TxHkgRTsJJt-jL_NfhJDL_nebE/ed
it?usp=sharing


You can see all of the rules by themselves, here: rules4humans.com

  
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LUVMYCRAZYKIDS 11/8/2011 7:28PM

    So true...went to lunch at BJ's Brewhouse with the hub today and could not find any nutritional info on that restaurant. SO...I went with what is typically lower in calories along with a garden salad. I had flatbready Margherita pizza...I ate half, but I commented to my hub how I COULD eat the whole thing. You are correct, there isn't anything WRONG with the pizza, but there would be consequences on the other side of eating it all...consequences that I was not willing to pay. Now I am thankful I didn't give in to my compulsion...I am changing. That is a good thing!

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DDOORN 11/8/2011 8:55AM

    "Consequences" can be such a helpful way to transform our choices from guilt-inducing toward rational planning, from careening out-of-control toward having a firm grip on the wheel and taking charge of our "rig."

I don't always succeed with this, but that's all part of the learning curve...! :-)

Don

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WATERMELLEN 11/7/2011 8:10PM

    Knowing in advance what the consequences are likely to be -- eg serious food cravings when I indulge in pizza or other simple carbs -- and being prepared to cope with them: that's the ticket for sure.

I expect that you will enjoy every mouthful of that carrot cake with cream cheese frosting . . . and that you will not whinge as you battle the cravings that follow. That was part of the planning . . . emoticon . . . . although maybe not the favourite part!

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ANDALEX 11/7/2011 7:02PM

    i've been trying to capture that exact attitude-consequences, not judgment. some days i'm more successful than others, perhaps. it's made me feel better about having ice cream for breakfast now and then, though :) i just choose to fit the rest of my day's food around that choice.

i am curious about your 150 gm of protein deal. how do you get all that in? how did you discover that made you feel better?

great blog! thank you!

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VHALKYRIE 11/7/2011 6:04PM

    I don't feel guilt for things I eat anymore. Exercise is no longer a punishment for when I 'cheated' or when I ate cake. I used to dread the holidays because of the inevitable weight gain. Now that I know how to manage what I eat, I am going into the holidays guilt free. I'll simply eat less mashed potatoes, stuffing, corn and pie than I used to. If I go back for seconds, I'll have more turkey, instead.

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FISHPOND7 11/7/2011 5:34PM

    Liked your blog today. I can identify with this:
"And those things affect how I feel. Not guilt-wise, but health-wise. Sugar and starch set off cravings for me. When I eat that birthday cake I need to be ready to fight some serious urges to binge in the following 24-48 hours." Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one who can't deal normally with sugar and starch. I'll try to get some inspiration from someone in the same boat I'm in.

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Rules for Humans #10 You always get what you want.

Monday, November 07, 2011

Rule 10: You always get what you want.
Your subconscious rightfully determines what energies, experiences, and people you attract - therefore, the only foolproof way to know what you want is to see what you have. There are no victims, only students.

This reminds me of Rule 9 (Your life is up to you), but in a more subtle way; I naturally tend to put my energy toward things that Iím interested in, and delaying on other things, even if subconsciously.

When Iím agitated or procrastinating about something it usually has an effect on how I see the world. And that effect can sometimes last beyond my momentary frustration. Not only am I likely to make mistakes and physically stumble while distracted by my own feelings, but I might be impatient with other people even though it has nothing to do with them. And then I might wonder why they are tiptoeing me around the next time I see them? DOH.

I have a spin instructor who also teaches the body pump class I go to. She has has a consistently sunny, upbeat attitude. People respond to that. And in return I am sure they are more positive and warm toward her than they might be otherwise. I think she actually creates the social environment that surrounds her by choosing to interact in this way. Her life has not been perfect in the past - she has overcome things and made a choice to embrace the world the way she does. And she benefits from her own kindness mirrored back by others.

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For the past 2 weeks I have commented on the Rules for Being Human. I like their sensible approach and now that I'm transitioning back into kayaking and training for kayaking it seems like a good time to revisit them.

To see all of the blog posts I wrote in this series, go here:
docs.google.com/document/d/1Ci-bdg7_
3CEnBXkc9TxHkgRTsJJt-jL_NfhJDL_nebE/ed
it?usp=sharing


You can see all of the rules by themselves, here: rules4humans.com

  
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SALSIFY 11/8/2011 7:50AM

    It's a wonderful thing to be blessed with a sunny disposition. I'm pleasant to people, but I'm more in touch with my inner curmudgeon than I ought to be.

This rule reminds me of the quote by Sophocles from Oedipus Rex: "The keenest sorrow is to recognize ourselves as the sole cause of all our adversities."

It also reminds me of the Rolling Stones song: 'You can't always get what you want.' - so now I'm confused - lol.

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WATERMELLEN 11/7/2011 8:12PM

    Yes indeed: if I've got it, it's because at some level I wanted it: and if I don't think I want what I've got, I'd better think hard about how it came to be that I have it . . .

Your spin instructor sounds like a wonderful role model in more ways than one!

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KAZINMICH 11/7/2011 3:35PM

    I like Fishponds Corollary! That's one of my biggest downfalls. I need to be more patient and recognize the overall picture and not the instant gratification!

In person I always strive to be upbeat, happy, cheerful, nice, pleasant, helpful, to everyone I meet and interact with. It does really go a long way. I need to remember to let this shine through in my online life and my home life as well. Sometimes I forget that because I let my guard down at home and am able to complain freely there.

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KHAYNES_WDE 11/7/2011 3:22PM

    Ouch! This one stings a bit...

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FISHPOND7 11/7/2011 12:36PM

    The corollary to this rule must be: The chief cause of failure and unhappiness is trading what we want most for what we want most in the present moment.

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DDOORN 11/7/2011 12:34PM

    So a corollary might be: You *usually* get what you give...!

Pay it forward!

Don

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MISSYREDHAIR 11/7/2011 12:34PM

  I agreed with everything I read I will have to follow these posts thanks!

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Rules for Humans #9 Your life is up to you.

Friday, November 04, 2011

Rule 9: Your life is up to you.
Life provides the canvas; you do the painting. Take charge of your life - or someone else will.

Reminds me of one of the motivational quotes I have in my collection:
"If we don't discipline ourselves, the world will do it for us."
- William Feather

It also makes me think of the principle that your life is not about whether or not youíre lucky to avoid disasters, but rather about how you handle the inevitable situations that arise.

Or a principle in Aikido that you donít wait for life (or an attack) to happen to you, but rather lead the situation to the most harmonious conclusion you can manage.

Since Iím a legal adult and not a ward of the state or something, my life IS up to me, I suppose. I can do whatever I want with it.

Right now it suits me to spend time in boats. Lots of time in boats.
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For the past 2 weeks I have commented on the Rules for Being Human. I like their sensible approach and now that I'm transitioning back into kayaking and training for kayaking it seems like a good time to revisit them.

To see all of the blog posts I wrote in this series, go here:
docs.google.com/document/d/1Ci-bdg7_
3CEnBXkc9TxHkgRTsJJt-jL_NfhJDL_nebE/ed
it?usp=sharing


You can see all of the rules by themselves, here: rules4humans.com

  
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KHAYNES_WDE 11/7/2011 11:27AM

    A positive outlook!

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KAYOTIC 11/5/2011 1:08PM

    And it's so empowering to realize that each of us has the power to decide how we want to live our lives, and that we really can forge our own path....rather than just reacting to outside forces all the time. Or even that our reaction is up to us as well...

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L*I*T*A* 11/5/2011 12:13PM

    emoticon emoticon

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ANDALEX 11/5/2011 2:19AM

    just cruised by on ddoorn's advice and read your rules for humans series. wonderful blogging! many of these issues are ones i've grappled with...or should have. thanks for sharing your history and insights!

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BLVINBUTTERFLYS 11/5/2011 12:26AM

    emoticonit!

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WATERMELLEN 11/4/2011 8:09PM

    Yes, there are a few disasters from time to time . . . and yes, up to me how I deal with 'em! Gosh, this doing an excellent imitation of a grownup thing can be exhausting . . . so appealing to shift the responsiblity to someone else at least once in a while!

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DDOORN 11/4/2011 3:19PM

    I've spent too much time in my life being a tumbleweed and blowing whichever way the winds carry me.

I STILL have to fight sliding down the "easiest" path of least resistance because all to often it proves to be the TOUGHEST route in the long run!

Don

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SLFGOLF 11/4/2011 1:01AM

    Very true. Our attitudes can make all the difference I know. I have to go into things positively, make wise decisions, and follow through.

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