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Fun in Freeville & Geneva

Tuesday, May 31, 2011

Sunday afternoon I spent with my friend Deb.

Here are photos from her garden:


Seed stalk of crown imperial. I like the shape. Sort of Dr. Seussian.


Another peony.

Another peony bush. With a shade she rigged to protect them from the sun. Can you tell she loves her peonies? LOL

Big red poppy

Abandonded sparrow nest

Her husband's favorite chicken. Because, as he says, she's smarter than the others, more curious about things, and has a more refined comb on her head. LOL Apparently if this chicken is in the fenced enclosure in the yard and decides to lay an egg, she'll fly back to the coop, lay it, and then wander around until told to come back inside. None of the others will take care of business on their own like that.

Saturday I went to Geneva to buy some apples and oranges

The owner asked me to come outside to look at something.

He pulled down a hanging basket of impatiens, and showed me what was in there.

He didn't know whether that had just appeared in the 2 weeks since he'd bought it, or whether the plant had come with it. Wanted to know if I thought he should water the plant or not, in case it WAS recent and watering would bother the mother bird. And what if it came with the plant? Was there some poor bird at the garden supply store frantic because her nest had been sold and carted away?

I told him I thought he should water it anyway carefully around the edges with a watering can and if she didn't come back, he could make a very small omelet. LOL

and then went to check out the Goodwill next door. It turned out they had a half off one-day sale going on.

About buying used clothes, seriously, why would I ever WANT to pay full price for something? I started shopping at thrift stores when I was losing the weight, zooming down through sizes so fast it didn't make sense to pay for new things. I became so accustomed to it that I never buy new stuff anymore, except underwear. I get major sticker shock at malls, etc.

And you have so much more variety at a thrift store. There are all kinds of colors, styles, textures, etc. You can come up with totally unique outfits. You're not stuck with whatever palette the fashion industry decided they're using this season.

And in case you didn't know, they actually DO decide ahead of time what colors they'll offer us.

Three hours later I emerged, having spent $24. I got 2 white blouses, 5 skirts (including one of beaded silk and a wool custom-made kilt), a couple of tank tops, and a couple of workout tops.

Here's one of the skirts I got, originally marked $2.99 so I got it for $1.50. LOL
(mine is labeled size 10)

I have to say that buying used clothes sure immunizes one against worrying about the size number on the label. Almost nothing is standard between modern manufacturers, let alone between the decades that different clothes come from. In my haul from yesterday I think I had everything from size "L" and "12" down to "P/S" and "8." On any given day I can have on things that are recent or 20 years old, labeled "6" or "14." You just have to try everything on.

I'm slowly getting to the point that I can start to hold something up and guesstimate whether it'll fit.

But to find out whether it's flattering or not I have to try it on. And I'm finding that there are some styles that I like on the hanger but I don't like on me. For example, I like skirts with a fitted yoke and pleats, but they just make me look like a box. Straight skirts, pencil skirts, things like that, while completely unexciting from a tailoring perspective, are much more flattering on me. They accentuate my shape, rather than detracting from it.

I also can't wear very short skirts because of the loose skin on my legs. Things that hit the knee look good. Things that hit the widest point of my calf do not.

Hanger space in my closet is at a premium. If I don't think I'll actually wear it I just don't get it. This is a far cry from how I used to shop when I was almost 350 lbs. At that point practically the only criterion was whether or not it actually went ON.

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ANNE7X7 6/2/2011 9:34AM

    Wow! Those flowers are beaaatiful!!

I am doing some thrift-shop hopping this weekend! I'm putting my judgement aside (I worked at the Salvation Army in a very bad part of town for a few years) and going for it!!!

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PATTILYNN224 6/1/2011 10:10AM

    I'm in agreement with Jennswims. A very beautiful garden. I have almost always shopped at a thrift store and decided a couple of years ago that I wanted new instead. Now I can't justify paying full price for anything so I think I'll be heading back to Goodwill. Thanks for the positive perspective on that, I've always looked at it as a negative.

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JENNSWIMS 5/31/2011 9:08PM

    What a beautiful garden, truly lovely.

I can't wait until I can shop with your enthusiasm. I like the idea of Goodwill while I'm going through sizes quickly. I'm too cheap to buy full price clothes and keep giving them away.

I really needed to hear the reminder that clothing sizes are not made the same. I'm giving away some 24s while I'm just squishing in to some others. Thanks!

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Fun in Rochester

Saturday, May 28, 2011

After spending the morning car shopping I caught up with CCKELLY3 and we tried on clothes at Rochester's oldest consignment shop.

Next we checked out the Roc City Rib Fest roccityribfest.com to hear some of her friends playing in a band there (The Deep Blue Dream). Nice bluesy rock. www.myspace.com/thedeepbluedream

Unexcited by either the long long long lines waiting to buy ribs or any of the other food choices we eventually had dinner at the restaurant where we'd parked the car.

She had the mahi mahi and I had some skewers with shrimp and scallops. We both substituted veggies for the standard rice.

Then we went back to her place and nibbled on kumquats and grapes

which I'd bought earlier at the Wegmans flagship store in Pittsford.

I discovered the combination by accident about a year ago. I just love the contrast between the tart citrus and the sweet grapes and how they look next to each other in a bowl. My favorite are kumquats with the really dark "black" grapes. Red grapes will do in a pinch, as they did today.

It was lots of fun. We might have to investigate consignment and thrift stores more often.

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SOUTHPONDCAMP 6/9/2011 10:14AM

    I lived in rachacha for a year...don't miss the cloudy skies...but REALLY miss the pittsford Wegs! :)

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ANNE7X7 5/31/2011 11:46AM

    Looks like a blast!!! I'm gonna have to go check out some consignment shops around here!!

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JENNSWIMS 5/30/2011 8:30AM

    It looks like you guys had so much fun! The consignment shop looked like a total blast!

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DDOORN 5/29/2011 1:13PM

    The two of you really know how to have SUCH a BLAST! :-)


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KAYOTIC 5/29/2011 9:23AM

    Those look like fun clothes to try on....crazy hats and all....I think the smell of the ribs would have driven me over the edge, I LOVE ribs....

But you made a better choice with the seafood. emoticon

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    Looks like good times. Well, except for trying on clothes.

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Weekend in NC

Sunday, May 22, 2011

My friend Sharon got married this weekend.

We blew bubbles at the reception.

We roamed around the cemetery where her ancestors-in-law are buried.

Got to see some old friends and make new ones. Lots of fun!

Now back to regularly scheduled programming (and eating...)

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JENNSWIMS 5/24/2011 4:22PM

    I'm glad you had a good time!

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ANNE7X7 5/24/2011 11:04AM

    Looks like fun! Weekends, especially fun ones, go by WAY too fast, don't they??

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OVERHAULING-ME 5/23/2011 7:20PM

    I'm glad you were able to go enjoy this special event in your friend's life! Hope your shoulder is mending nicely.

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DDOORN 5/23/2011 8:58AM

    Nice to blow out of town and enjoy folks you haven't seen in a while!


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    hey sounds like you had fun, holds the shoulder going? I found out the name of one of the books. "No time for fear" by Paul de Gelder

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BCARSON11 5/22/2011 10:52PM

    Looks like you had a fun time!

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Pain versus Suffering

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

While stuck at home yesterday I read Jennette Fulda's latest book


I was stuck at home because I was in so much pain from my shoulder I just couldn't face work. Or spin class in the evening. I strapped on the BREG 500 ice water circulator www.breg.com/cold-therapy/polar-care
and lay there. None of the computers at home were working. My new 64G iPod had died due to rain in the tent Saturday night.

I managed to resurrect my original (and also damaged) 8G iPod enough to pipe music through the speakers and read books on Kindle, which is how I downloaded and read Fulda's book.

I first heard of Jennette about 5 years ago when I started my most recent weight loss journey. She had a blog named "Half of Me" pastaqueen.com/ (she apparently just moved this week to a new one www.jenful.com/ )

At the time I was almost 350 lbs. Jennette had started at almost 400 and had made fabulous progress. I remember avidly reading her blog entries and thinking "if she can do it, maybe there's a chance for me, too." She was the reason I took at look at the South Beach diet plan. She was the impetus to investigate and buy a scale that would actually weigh my enormous 300+ self.

Since losing the weight Jennette has written a memoir about it www.amazon.com/Half-Assed-Weight-Los
and become very active in the blogging conference community. She also developed a headache that has plagued her nonstop. The latest book is about her attempts to deal with this condition and come to terms with it.

In the book at one point she attends a seminar on pain and the speaker makes a distinction between pain (which you often can't control) and suffering (which is your reaction to the pain). You do get to choose your degree of suffering, and with practice you can experience less of it.

Being sidelined with this shoulder injury has been painful. But Monday and Tuesday I slid in to depression and suffering. Six months is a long long long time to undergo rehab. It is pretty much my entire kayaking season. This is a bitter thing to accept. And at the moment I'm still not well enough to even bike on the road. Last night I wasn't even well enough to go to spin class and bike indoors.

I had to face the fact that right now my depression is my worst problem. Worse than the recent overeating, worse than the pain, worse than the physical weakness. Because until I get the depression under control I won't be in a position to engage in the things that lead to a healthier me.

In the end of the book Jennette's headache is not gone. But she's figured out how to work around it, arrange her life and her work so that she can still be productive and have happy moments.

Here is a guest column she wrote before she'd had the headache a year. It points out the need to do what you can for your health, no matter how little that is, when you're suffering from chronic pain:

My shoulder situation is temporary. There is an endpoint. I will eventually be able to kayak again. But for now I need to take care of me, manage my emotional state, keep things in perspective, and not let the prospect of months away from my boat discourage me.

Eventually I'll be able to road bike. Heck, eventually I'll feel well enough to exercise routinely. But I need to admit where I am right now, and that's pretty low. So my expectations need to drop correspondingly so that I can make progress.

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MALCONTENTION 5/27/2011 8:53AM

    I know how you feel--I broke my collarbone skiing in 2003, and it took me 8 months to recover--I won't subject you to the long story. I was quite depressed and eventually started taking an anti-depressant. I know they're not for everyone, but I have to say they made a big difference in helping me emerge from my depression. And when I was in a better place, I went off them.

Good luck. Things will get better!

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JENNSWIMS 5/24/2011 4:24PM

    I hope the wedding was just what you needed to put an end to the suffering. I'm sorry you are missing this year's season, but I think you will tear next year's up!

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DEE0973 5/24/2011 12:20PM

    stay strong---keep the good spirits

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ANNE7X7 5/24/2011 11:02AM

    Kudos to you for trying to be positive even if you are going through a rough patch! You blogged about it and you are trying to do something about it, which in and of itself is AWESOME! You could sit there and just feel bad for yourself, but instead, you are making the most of it! There will be good days, bad days and probably plain horrible days, but you WILL get through it and the reward will be worth it!

You are a great source of inspiration! Thank you for the links!

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SM-ARTGIRL 5/20/2011 10:14PM

    I have been following your blogs for quite a while and I want to check in to say I am amazed and inspired by your intelligent and healthy approach to this awful set-back.
I had a knee/hip thing for years that kept getting reinjured and I now know the difference between physical pain and the pain of suffering.
(but I need to remind myself on a daily basis lol).

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    Love the Pasta Queen. Haven't read the headache book yet, but read her entire blog and still keep up with her today (at the new site of course), and did read her weight loss book. Thanks for sending me the links to other maintainers. I'm going to need lots of help to keep it right here, and I think staying right here is the key to that!

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GRACEFULIFE 5/19/2011 1:00PM

    I'm sorry... things will get better for you. Yes, you're not 100% and that's OK. You / we will be back full force with a bit of time and patience.

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MRPLATSON 5/19/2011 10:40AM

    Time to catch up with your other hobbies you've been neglecting for a few months. Maybe you should go to some more events, take pictures, just stay connected so you don't feel completely detached from it.

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CARRIE1948 5/18/2011 5:36PM

    I know it doesn't seem like it, but this will end. Just remember me last year at this time. All I could do for 9 months was walk.

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DDOORN 5/18/2011 4:26PM

    SUCH a tough state to weather...! We all know this too will pass, but when one is in the throws...? Ugh! Just know that we're all "there" with you. Keep checking in with us!


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JENNSWIMS 5/18/2011 3:56PM

    I'm glad you were able to do something meaningful while you were stuck at home feeling icky.

Keep up the good work, I can't wait for the photos of you kayaking to begin appearing. I know it will be a while, but I also know that it will happen!

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250STRONG 5/18/2011 11:08AM

    It took me two years to accept the fact that I had a hip injury and I needed to back off my regular expectations for myself..... Thanks for the good read. :)

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TENACIOUSTIGER 5/18/2011 10:22AM

    Hi there sounds like you had a sh*******t day! As they say sh***t happens. Blogging is a good way to get it out, and of course ring up a friend or chat to mates at spark. When I was first out of hospital and my husband was away I had different people come and cook me dinner, cos it was just good to have someone to talk to (and wash up ) i could have made dinner(i had lots of frozen healthy meals in the freezer) but it was nice to have company so i didnt dwell on things. A friedn of mine who works in workers comp says that depression is one of the hidden issues of accidents often not addressed. When I was not having a good day i would search the net for stories of people dealing with adversity(often life threatening illness, death of a loved one or something worse) and then say to my self oh well i havent got x, y z wrong with me" yep petty i know but it worked, make sure that you are confortable, thepain meds are for that PAin your body will not be able to focus on healing if it is focusing on pain. Be kind to your body, i'm sure in years to come you will be hammering it down rapids so be gentle with it, let it heal, bodies are amazing things. I do GET your frustration, I was so excited about the 3 mth post op milestone (enough scar tissue to do more stuff)only to be told by the surgeon that i STILL have to be really careful till the nine month mark and then the leg is still "remodelling for 24mths post op" (meaning it could potentially be weak until after this time) So its a long slow road but your crazy, tough you can do it, there is no other option! emoticon emoticon
your shoulder after its fixed

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Those who can't... ...take pictures of those who can. :-/

Sunday, May 15, 2011

I spent this past weekend at a white water kayaking festival in the Adirondacks. The event was a benefit for a local kayaker whose daughter needs one of his kidneys.

A friend who did much of the organizing asked me to come and take pictures of people going over a rapid so we could sell the photos. I had to think about it before I said "yes." It is painful to me to be around paddling and not be able to do it. I would not have said "yes" if it wasn't for a good cause.

So I did.

Here's my favorite picture of the 1721 I took on Saturday:

Better resolution here: www.flickr.com/photos/47911494@N06/5

Don't be alarmed. This is a really friendly waterfall and these guys know it very well. No one was hurt. They were trying to flip the raft over like a hamster wheel and land on its bottom. That didn't happen but it was sure funny watching them go over like that.

Here are more pictures:

I managed to raise $30 and it looks like more people might order pictures too. Overall with a silent auction and donations we raised around $1000 which is a drop in the bucket but it will still hopefully help.

It is likely to be the last white water festival I'll attend this season, or at least until I'm cleared for paddling again (6 months from now - which will be October). In a way it was fun but bittersweet. It was nice to see lots of my friends and it was fun to participate, but it felt a lot like saying "good bye" before going into exile, and that part hurts.

I'm a compulsive person (with food as with almost everything else) and when I want something I want it yesterday. It will be better for me to take the same strategy I've used to control my weight (i.e. remove temptations) than to spend time around paddling. Because sooner or later I would cave in to my temptation and would end up kayaking against the advice of my surgeon and PT and possibly damaging or slowing the shoulder progress.

So instead I think it's probably safest to re-cast my self image as a road cyclist and focus on that to deflect my disappointment and keep me working toward positive physical goals like getting the rest of the weight back off and increasing fitness and strength.

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S318830 7/8/2011 1:28AM

    Great shot! And congrats on getting them published! Sorry you're on a paddling hiatus for a while. But your biking will be great.

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TENACIOUSTIGER 5/16/2011 10:49AM

    wow you are hard core, great pics by the way, I can really relate to i want it and i want it now, apparently my leg is healing ahead of schedule but still seems excruciatingly slow, somedays I just want it to be completely fixed, but I doubt this will happen( i asked the surgeon when will i not have to think about being careful with it he said 9 months but apparently the muscle /tendon is still remodelling for 24months post surgery. Keep ticking off the days to recovery, I've been celebrating the months with small non food rewards, sounds like biking will be the go. all the best and thanks for dropping by

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ANNE7X7 5/16/2011 9:51AM

    That looks like SO much fun!! But I TOTALLY understand wanting to remove the temptation! It's really hard to watch other people do it when you are sidelined! I believe the words "I hate her" have come out of my mouth when I saw a girl I don't know running down my street during an injury period.

Keep on doing what you can do and thinking as little as possible about what you can't!! emoticon

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LADYGWEN25 5/16/2011 9:17AM

    i agree.. awesome photo's! :)

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BILL60 5/16/2011 7:33AM

    Great photos. Thank you for sharing.


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    That's a great pic. I lol'ed.

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CARRIE1948 5/16/2011 6:43AM

    Flexibility is important

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JENNSWIMS 5/16/2011 5:28AM

    That is a great photo! You should be proud of yourself for doing what you knew would be hard but doing it anywa, for all the right reasons.

I'm an organ procurement coordinator. Your willingness to volunteer for something that is so close to my heart means a lot.

Keep up the good rehab, Lance.

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MINNA72 5/16/2011 1:55AM

    Fantastic photos!
Sounds like you have a plan that could work for you. Sorry about the shoulder.

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WOLFKITTY 5/16/2011 12:58AM

    Ahh!! Sounds perfect. What a great plan.
You are awesome!


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