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Paddling in Arkansas

Sunday, June 15, 2014

Some of the most critical boxes have been unpacked, I have a functional kitchen, bathroom, and bedroom. My living room is my gym. I haven't really tackled the tv room or the office yet. And there are of course still boxes in all of those rooms (and the garage) that I haven't unpacked yet.

One of the challenges is that the rental house here is about 2/3 the size of my house in NY and even though I got rid of a lot before I came I'm still having trouble shoehorning my things into this place. I have a new "donate" pile and it is growing.

Another is that I work full time so I have to squeeze unpacking into my day in addition to working and exercising, mowing the lawn and shopping, etc. etc. Everything takes longer in a new town because it takes time to find out where things are, etc. Even if it's just navigating a new Walmart, LOL

I took a break from the unpacking to kayak yesterday.



Some mutual acquaintances of VALERIEMAHA suggested signing up for a guided kayak paddle at a local nature preserve because they were going. Here's the flyer about it:
www.agfc.com/calDocs/pcec_Coo
ksLakeWaterTrail140614.pdf


The paddle was only 1.5 miles but it was neat to see cypress trees up close, Prothonotary Warblers, a soft-shelled turtle swimming, and other things I haven't paddled near in NY.

Here's a map of our route:
www.mapmyfitness.com/workout/
607877987


Afterwards the facility manager for the Education Center showed me the tiny numbered rings she uses for banding hummingbirds.

They have a popular program that lets the public help and learn. Apparently June and July are already filled up. I'll call on Tuesday to find out if there's space in the August one.
www.thv11.com/story/news/loca
l/2014/02/14/1716842


Today after church I plan on meeting some cyclists in Little Rock to bike about 15-20 miles along the Rivertrail.

I had hoped to white water kayak at a playspot today, but it's 3 hours from here and I couldn't find anyone online who said they would be there. It wouldn't really be safe to paddle solo on an unfamiliar feature, and if I'm going to drive that far, I want to KNOW I'm kayaking. So that will have to wait for another weekend. :-(

Speaking of lawn mowing I brought my reel mower with me.

The yard with the rental house is small and it's very flat (everywhere is flat here in the Arkansas Delta), so it only takes me about 15 min to do the front and 15 the back. I get more exercise when mowing, it takes up less space, it's quiet, I don't have to buy gas, and it's fun. I've always enjoyed mowing with these. We had one when I was growing up. The trick is to get them sharpened and adjusted when necessary, and spraying with WD-40 after mowing to keep them from rusting.

  
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JSEATTLE 6/16/2014 6:30PM

  Neat to explore new territory! Good luck unpacking, each box a new adventure.

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MARYJEANSL 6/16/2014 5:48PM

  I always liked reel mowers, and I wish I could use one now, but my yard is huge, and it isn't practical. It's nice to know that there are still a few out there, though. I haven't seen anyone using one in years.

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NONNAOF2 6/16/2014 5:04PM

  Getting settled is so much work! Finding new adventures can be so much fun! Enjoy your new place!! :-)

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CHARTHESTAR 6/16/2014 5:02PM

    Plus... the mower is better for the environment.
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Kayak.
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COOLRAIN 6/16/2014 3:42PM

    Sounds like you're settling in to your new home wonderfully well. I envy your kayak paddle. I would also love a lawnmower like yours instead of the gas one we have. How neat.

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KENDRACARROLL 6/16/2014 3:17PM

    Good luck at your new home.
Like others have said, boxes can wait.
Getting acquainted and familiar with your new surroundings and finding new like-minded people is a great way to make the new place feel more like home.
Wishing you well.

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SUSIEMT 6/16/2014 2:53PM

    Woo Hoo you! Keep up the good work and thank you for those maintenance challenges. They keep me going.

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PATRICIAANN46 6/16/2014 2:39PM

  It sounds like you are so settled after such a short time. Good for You. The activities in the area seem to suit you fine.


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JERICHO1991 6/16/2014 11:34AM

    Good progress getting moved in, and lots of healthy activity!

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DJSHIP46 6/16/2014 11:31AM

    emoticon Thanks for sharing!!!

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SHERYLP461 6/16/2014 9:56AM

    As much as I hate to move I think you have found yourself in a wonderful spot! I hope you continue to enjoy your new home.

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PENOWOK 6/16/2014 7:52AM

    Fabulous!! We had a push mower at our last house but left it for the neighbor who loved to use it. You may not be unpacked but it sounds as though you have partially settled. That's more than half the battle!

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WATERDIAMONDS 6/16/2014 7:43AM

    You've got the most important thing at least begun--finding like-minded outdoor activities and folks with whom to share them.

Congrats, and best of luck with the rest of the unpacking.

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IDICEM 6/16/2014 6:51AM

  Glad you're settling in so well! Enjoy your new home. P.S. Love the reel mower.

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SHARON7464 6/16/2014 6:41AM

    You sound like adventure woman...I'm impressed about how you've already found a cycling group, have gone kayaking,...the boxes ac wait, life doesn't! emoticon

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SWEDE_SU 6/16/2014 3:57AM

    sounds like a challenge to fit everything in, but it looks like you have your priorities straight! i love the way you are meeting new people in the community through the activities you enjoy.

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TINAJANE76 6/16/2014 2:34AM

    Great to see you getting settled in and hitting the water, Anja! All those boxes will get unpacked eventually, so it's great that you've been able to work in some time for the things you really love. Hopefully I'll be writing a similar blog in a few months, lol!
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MNABOY 6/16/2014 12:33AM

    The Delta also has Crowley's Ridge which can give an invigorating hike up and down the hog's backs, the views are well worth any effort. There should be a lot of water with the rains we've had but it will run off quickly. I, too, enjoy the cypress trees and fishing the stumps is productive too.

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BIGPAWSUP 6/15/2014 3:42PM

    Sounds like things are coming together great!

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WATERMELLEN 6/15/2014 1:26PM

    New job, new church, new house, new venues for kayaking and new experiences in nature . . . and all way more important than mere unpacking of the boxes. Glad you've got your priorities unpacked and sorted out!!

Reel mowers also smell so much better and sound so much better!! (Our yard's too big, but I fondly remember the reel mower of my childhood).

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CARRIE1948 6/15/2014 9:57AM

    It's important to take time for the things you enjoy. Trust me, the boxes can wait.

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TRAVELGRRL 6/15/2014 9:27AM

    Great job getting acclimated to Arkansas! The summer can be challenging, but I hope you will like it here.

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KANOE10 6/15/2014 9:22AM

    Wow..that is hard to be unpacking and working full time. I am glad you got some kayaking in. You are jumping in and finding the exercise community in your new place. You are doing great. That mower will burn off calories.

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DDOORN 6/15/2014 8:18AM

    Settling in can be a challenge, but it sounds like you're well on your way!

Wish I could get my reel mower to cut decently...love the idea of it and try it out now & then, but more times than not I end up using the gas monstrosity to get a better mowing job done.

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Weekend with LESLIELENORE, goodbye NY

Tuesday, May 20, 2014

I am being relocated to Arkansas soon for my job, and LESLIELENORE came to visit for the weekend to say "goodbye" and help me get ready for the move.

The cats are always interested in helping with packing.


We did manage to have some fun too, though. Normally when we get together we kayak, but it was a bit cold so we stayed on land this time.

We walked the Ludovico Sculpture Trail in Seneca Falls:






In the past we've paddled by that same sculpture, so it was interesting to see it from a different angle:

www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_jo
urnal_individual.asp?blog_id=5108658


We visited a friend's organic farm and got a tour followed by a late lunch with delicious fresh asparagus plus crackers, cheese, salami, and salmon that we brought, and some amazing wine contributed by a friend who is a distributor.

We went English Country Dancing twice, once in Syracuse and once in Rochester:

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/English_countr
y_dance

The pace is more stately than in contra dancing, but it takes a lot more concentration to remember the figures. This was the first time LESLIELENORE had done this kind of dancing, and she was very good at it!

And on the last day we visited Lower Falls in Rochester to see the rain-swollen Genesee River pouring over the lip and coursing toward Lake Ontario:


I'm sad to be leaving NY, but glad that I got a chance to say "goodbye." It looks like I'll see her again briefly when my bf and I drive to my new home, past where she lives in western NY.

I hope I'll have a chance to kayak again with her and her brother someday.

  
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JERICHO1991 6/16/2014 11:37AM

    Just reading this now, after the update from Arkansas. Sounds like you're settling in well.

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    Keep us posted on your move! Good Luck!

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GRATEFUL_BEING 6/4/2014 3:42PM

    I would think those two states are very different worlds :) Good luck.

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TINAJANE76 5/24/2014 10:50AM

    Glad to hear you had such a nice send off with LESLIELENORE. I know your move is causing you some stress, but I hope that you'll have calmer waters ahead.
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CASSIES 5/22/2014 6:46PM

    Oh dear. I always liked knowing you were in Ithaca even though we never connected there.

I wish you the very best as you start your new adventure.

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BIGPAWSUP 5/22/2014 3:11PM

    That is wonderful.

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JERSEYGIRL24 5/21/2014 12:29AM

    I went to U of R and loved Letchworth State Park!! These pictures bring back some good memories; thanks for sharing.

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CHERIRIDDELL 5/21/2014 12:25AM

    Awesome photos.I love New York !I have never been to Arkansas but I have met many people in the military from there and I am told it is lovely!

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MNABOY 5/21/2014 12:17AM

    Kayaking on the Buffalo River is popular as well as canoeing.

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TRAVELGRRL 5/20/2014 8:58PM

    Where in Arkansas are you moving? LOTS of hiking here, between the Ozarks & Ouachita Mountains...just sayin'!

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EILEENV3 5/20/2014 3:13PM

    Good luck on the move.
Given the difference in the weather -- you may get more year round kayaking.
When you're looking for people to be active with, look into Meetup.com groups in that area.

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LJOYCE55 5/20/2014 9:00AM

  Congratulations on your new job and I hope you find your new location exciting. Good luck.

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KANOE10 5/20/2014 8:16AM

    Good luck with your move. I am so glad you were able to visit with your Spark kayak friend and enjoy yourself in New York before you left. Cute kitties! I loved your pictures.



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WATERDIAMONDS 5/20/2014 7:53AM

    I wish you the best both in your change of state (and mind!) when you move and in your ability to meet new kayakers and sparkers once you've relocated.



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WATERMELLEN 5/20/2014 7:44AM

    I can "hear" the wistfulness in your words . . . this is a tough move and a dislocating relocation. Wishing you all the best with it "anyhow".

Your cats are very appealing!!

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CHANGINGHORSES 5/20/2014 6:41AM

    Good luck in your move, that's a biggie.

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LESLIELENORE 5/20/2014 4:40AM

    I had a lovely time! Thank you so much. I will see you on next Tuesday.

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    It looks like a lot of fun I have never been to New York, but hope to someday! But thanks for sharing your day! emoticon

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Aww, thanks for the shout out!

Wednesday, April 02, 2014

BOPPY_ wrote a blog post yesterday about the skill set he thinks is necessary for reaching goal weight and staying there. He wants to find a way to make those skills more accessible to more people:

www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_pu
blic_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=56
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...and a follow-up here:
www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_pu
blic_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=56
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I found myself writing a novel of a response, and perhaps it's worth repeating here as a blog post in its own right:

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Aww, thanks for the shout out!

We can always use help with making this stuff more accessible on the At Goal and Maintaining & Transition to Maintenance Team!
teams.sparkpeople.com/maintai
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It's been a progression for me, for sure. I definitely didn't start out with my current skills. When I started re-losing the weight in 2007-2009 all I knew was that I ate too much, the reflux was helpful because it made me scared to eat, and that the only thing that had worked in the past was logging my food.

For years I just couldn't face the prospect of logging my food. It seemed too onerous, I resented the idea because no one else around me seemed to need to do it, and I figured I couldn't do it long term because I'd burn out, so what was the point of trying?

But eventually I did decide to try again. You can read a blow-by-blow account of my progression here:

www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_pu
blic_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=41
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A lot of it felt like I was fumbling around in the dark, and there were a lot of false starts. And at the beginning I was thrilled to just get under 300 lbs. I had no idea I'd end up where I am now. No clue.

I think the most important ingredient was my determination to throw all of my creativity, persistence, time, and will toward getting my weight off and keeping it off. It came down to a question of, "How badly do I want this?" And the answer had to be, "So badly I'll do almost ANYTHING to accomplish it," And I subscribed to the grim idea that it didn't matter at all how I FELT about exercising and tracking my food, that what mattered was that I DID it.

Now I've come to an understanding that logging my food doesn't have to be as onerous as I once thought, and that if it will keep me at a size where I'm comfortable in my own skin, then it's worth the effort.

And I motivate myself by staying active in the maintenance team, running challenges, curating the maintenance anniversary list, managing the Big Page of Links, identifying blog posts for Tina to highlight, doing whatever I can think of to try and help myself and others keep the weight off. It's the everyday accountability that keeps me going.

I don't know whether you've seen my index of blog posts:

docs.google.com/spreadsheet/pub?key=
0Ah4KrA4GkhKgdDBDaGlxMHNwVkY2WTNVR0NZY
0dTaFE&single=true&gid=0&output=html


It sounds like you might enjoy the ones I've put into the "strategies" category. Or maybe the ones specifically about maintenance.

And if/when you've codified your thinking to the point that you have a method or a tool or a schema for helping people, Tina and I will be more than happy to help you promote and support it, in whatever way we can!

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LJOYCE55 5/20/2014 9:04AM

  Thank you.

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    I appreciate all that you bring to the Maintenance team. You deserve every shout out that you get! Thanks and keep it up!

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BOPPY_ 4/12/2014 1:15PM

    I'd say more positive things, here, but I'm afraid you'd get a "big head"! And, I know that would work against your weight and fitness goals, so I'll "stifle" (as Archie Bunker used to say. emoticon

But ...

Keep up the great work. You're beyond a mere inspiration. YOU ARE:

* An inspiration
* A role model
* A teacher
* A leader
* An activist

Thank you.

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SNOWYOGA 4/9/2014 7:55PM

    Thank you a lot of info.

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MAW_OH 4/6/2014 8:03PM

    Thank you for being an inspiration to us all!

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TRAVELGRRL 4/5/2014 7:35PM

    You are such an analytical person, I admire that! AND, thanks for the spreadsheet to your blogs, I've bookmarked it and will review all of them.

You can't argue with success; and someone like you? You are GOLD. Thank you so much for sharing your journey. It's worth its weight in gold!

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DDOORN 4/3/2014 11:57AM

    Thank you SO MUCH for all that you have brought to our SparkFamily!

Your contributions have spawned so many Spark Rockstars, it's just been wonderful to have you nearby these past several years! While I know our "virtual" paths will continue to cross I'm hopeful we will meet again somewhere down the road on our journeys!

Don

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MNABOY 4/3/2014 2:38AM

    Thanks for sharing

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FIFIFRIZZLE 4/2/2014 1:22PM

    emoticon I think it was Watermellen who said recently 'don't hafta wanna' it's my new mantra.' don't hafta wanna, just gonna.'


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LESLIELENORE 4/2/2014 12:35PM

    It takes diligence. I think you do a great job!

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WATERDIAMONDS 4/2/2014 8:28AM

    I am in awe of your progress and your wisdom. thank you so much for sharing both with us.

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NEW-CAZ 4/2/2014 8:04AM

    Your leadership of the team along with the other leaders is emoticon one of the best teams on here.

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WATERMELLEN 4/2/2014 8:02AM

    Great blog, great outline of what it took to take it off, and what it keeps on taking to keep it off!!

You are a hero, really you are.

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WDIPIM 4/2/2014 7:24AM

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Seriously? An ad to promote paranoia in relationships?

Monday, March 10, 2014



I don't usually see these things on my computer because I'm blocking ads and flash in my browser.. I only saw it because I was browsing with my phone. And this is exactly why I block the ads on my computer. It's not at all what I come to this site for.

  
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LJOYCE55 5/20/2014 9:03AM

  What a weird ad. Why would anyone pay money for this?

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TRAVELGRRL 3/29/2014 6:02PM

    I hate this sh*t also. Totally hate the ads for crap food, too! SP, what ARE you thinking????

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JULIEABIGAIL 3/26/2014 1:18AM

  emoticon i am shocked. i have not seen this (how do you block ads? is it a separate software?), but i am truly disgusted to know that this ad, and others that have been mentioned that do not support SP's philosophy, are permitted on this site. i am grateful the site is free, but what about integrity? yikes. do we have to pay for that?

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BOPPY_ 3/22/2014 5:21PM

    Actually, I find some of the food ads to be the most obnoxious of all -- in complete contradiction to the (a) valid principles of the site, and (b) at odds with the desires of those looking for valid information about nutrition, fitness and wellness.

Thanks for another interesting and informative post.

BTW, every time I see your before and after pictures (with the BMI numbers), I marvel at the accomplishment.

How have your injuries healed?

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SNOWYOGA 3/16/2014 2:06PM

    Wow this is something! I don't know how to block, but I guess I didn't see this emoticon

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KENDRACARROLL 3/13/2014 6:29PM

    I block too, at least on the devices that let me.
Have learned to not even see ads.

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WATERMELLEN 3/10/2014 8:49PM

    Wow!! Sounds like that might represent about 180 pounds that need to "get lost" asap!!

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DDOORN 3/10/2014 8:01PM

    It's unfortunate, but I realize somebody's gotta pay the bills and have learned to block the ads from my line of sight. There's an awful amount of terribly unhelpful content out there that one has to skim through as best as possible with as much WARRANTED paranoia possible too!

Don

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MAW_OH 3/10/2014 6:32PM

    When I do pay attention to ads, they are usually health related, like for a food item or something. I would hope they could target their audience more,,,

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LESLIELENORE 3/10/2014 9:49AM

    I just ignore most ads. But yeah... kind of inappropriate.

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NEW-CAZ 3/10/2014 9:40AM

    I block too.

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STARDUSTD 3/10/2014 9:36AM

  Haven't located Mastery of Love yet; however, methinks advice like that would NOT be in it.

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WATERDIAMONDS 3/10/2014 8:41AM

    I too ignore ads--literally block them out mentally, even when they scream utter nonsense such as this. I suspect NELLJONES is correct--they are getting worse because we have learned to pay them no attention.



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CELIAMINER 3/10/2014 8:15AM

    Like you, I run an ad blocker at home, but I don't have control at work, so the crapola comes through unbidden. For those who argue that ads keep sites free, I counter with the ads are often inappropriate and mostly just make me mad.

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RIDLEYRIDER 3/10/2014 8:11AM

  Glad I block the ads....what a disgrace!

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NELLJONES 3/10/2014 8:04AM

    The ad served its purpose, it got your attention. I don't even see ads anymore, and it's because of people like me, like any of us who have mentally blocked stuff we don't care about, that they are getting more obnoxious.

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Berating yourself is damaging.

Sunday, March 09, 2014

I saw the following image recently on a Facebook post of someone who wants to lose weight:


I too was dissatisfied with my health and fitness, in the beginning. And there was some self loathing going on. But I have a different perspective now, and feel compelled to say something about these sorts of messages.

"Beating" and "taking down" my former self wasn't productive, because eventually I'd get tired of being yelled at and criticized, and that would lead to giving up and regaining whatever weight I'd managed to lose. That former self was still part of me, so this attitude just continued the cycle of self-abuse and poor self-esteem that contributed to my weight in the first place.

I've made more personal progress by being kind and understanding of my former self than castigating her. She had her reasons for the choices she made.

And then one day that brave woman chose to make fitness a priority in spite of her flaws. I owe her everything, because if she hadn't done that I wouldn't have my current life and health.

  
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BOPPY_ 3/22/2014 5:36PM

    The self-flagellation takes on many forms, including but not limited to negative SP name/IDs selected, vociferous pronouncements of never quitting, OR NOT being a bunch of NEGATIVE things etc. That, plus salvos of religious references precludes many who might be inclined to try to help. It's impossible to find a hand-hold (mind/psyche-point-of-entry, actually) without creating a "scene" -- and thus making a bad situation, worse.

One thing that would help is if SP allowed users to change their ID, but have all old references forward to the new ID. Also, some pre-counseling (a paragraph, or two) on name/ID selection, and SparkPage text would be useful, IMHO.

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FIFIFRIZZLE 3/11/2014 1:10AM

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I totally agree with this assessment.

I have seen plenty of blogs here on SP From people saying essentially the same thing. It pains me to think that people are building their efforts for improvement on pitting themselves down, and being at war with a part of themself.

And it saddens, but doesn't surprise me, to see the ones who think like this constantly pitted against themselves in a battle that naturally they can never win. Again and again they pick themselves up and batter themselves against an aspect of themselves that has to be addressed, not overcome by force.
It is only when we incorporate all aspects of ourselves that we can truly support the huge efforts we have to make in order to carry out the fundamental changes we need to make to put our eating issues permanently behind us.
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POSITIVEHOPE 3/11/2014 12:55AM

    I struggled with the inner negative voice that compelled me to compulsively overeat. I learned how to stop that voice from DrAmyJohnson.com fighting the urge. I learned how to stop fighting with my inner negative voice. I admit it. I spent years trying to combat that negative voice with prayer, by being angry with myself, down on myself, trying to educate myself with self help books and articles. I hated loathed and despised that part of myself. Recently, I learned that those negative voices have a positive intent behind their messages. That negative inner voice wanted to help me? You gotta be kidding! I finally sat down and looked at that part of myself without anger. What are you trying to tell me? Silence. Did you know you are a poor communicator? She doesn't talk when I am angry. It took me a while but when I became really comfortable with my inner self and not angry, hostile or superior, I realized it started when I was a child and I was afraid. I thought if I was BIG I would be safe. So I got big. The message, "Eat it! You know you want it. It'll make you feel good." was meant to make me eat because there was a part of me that was still afraid of being small. Now all I have to do is say to myself, "it's okay. I've got this. I know you want it but trust me, we'll be okay." then make the decision to eat it or not. The voice isn't nearly so compelling now. It just stops. No drama. Just calm, Listening to IOWL has released me from the daily struggle and made me feel powerful and joyful. I can hardly wait until my body weight catches up to my head on this journey.

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EMMACLAIRE5 3/11/2014 12:12AM

    Wise words!


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NEW-CAZ 3/10/2014 3:51AM

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SAMMYSWEETPEA 3/9/2014 10:05PM

    I agree with everything you said! I used to try the "tough" approach with myself, because I didn't know better. But I came to realize that it was incredibly abusive, and I started treating myself with kindness. It has helped me far more than anything else I've done.

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LESLIELENORE 3/9/2014 9:16PM

    My old behavior served a purpose. I might not like that results, but there was an emotional pay off to my actions. I have accepted that and trained myself to get that emotional pay off from exercise rather than from food.

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EILEENV3 3/9/2014 8:25PM

    Agreed -- well put -- thankyou!

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DALID414 3/9/2014 5:09PM

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DDOORN 3/9/2014 4:22PM

    Absolutely agreed!

To take a line from that post, rather than "she is the old me," rather than dis-owning that part of ourselves, take it in, understand there were reasons for behaving the way we did, even if it did harm ourselves in some way...there was a pay-off. Understanding, addressing, incorporating and evolvlng ourselves is the healthiest path of all!

Don

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KATHIC2 3/9/2014 3:29PM

  Here, here!!!! Beautifully said!

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