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Aww, thanks for the shout out!

Wednesday, April 02, 2014

BOPPY_ wrote a blog post yesterday about the skill set he thinks is necessary for reaching goal weight and staying there. He wants to find a way to make those skills more accessible to more people:

www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_pu
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...and a follow-up here:
www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_pu
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I found myself writing a novel of a response, and perhaps it's worth repeating here as a blog post in its own right:

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Aww, thanks for the shout out!

We can always use help with making this stuff more accessible on the At Goal and Maintaining & Transition to Maintenance Team!
teams.sparkpeople.com/maintai
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It's been a progression for me, for sure. I definitely didn't start out with my current skills. When I started re-losing the weight in 2007-2009 all I knew was that I ate too much, the reflux was helpful because it made me scared to eat, and that the only thing that had worked in the past was logging my food.

For years I just couldn't face the prospect of logging my food. It seemed too onerous, I resented the idea because no one else around me seemed to need to do it, and I figured I couldn't do it long term because I'd burn out, so what was the point of trying?

But eventually I did decide to try again. You can read a blow-by-blow account of my progression here:

www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_pu
blic_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=41
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A lot of it felt like I was fumbling around in the dark, and there were a lot of false starts. And at the beginning I was thrilled to just get under 300 lbs. I had no idea I'd end up where I am now. No clue.

I think the most important ingredient was my determination to throw all of my creativity, persistence, time, and will toward getting my weight off and keeping it off. It came down to a question of, "How badly do I want this?" And the answer had to be, "So badly I'll do almost ANYTHING to accomplish it," And I subscribed to the grim idea that it didn't matter at all how I FELT about exercising and tracking my food, that what mattered was that I DID it.

Now I've come to an understanding that logging my food doesn't have to be as onerous as I once thought, and that if it will keep me at a size where I'm comfortable in my own skin, then it's worth the effort.

And I motivate myself by staying active in the maintenance team, running challenges, curating the maintenance anniversary list, managing the Big Page of Links, identifying blog posts for Tina to highlight, doing whatever I can think of to try and help myself and others keep the weight off. It's the everyday accountability that keeps me going.

I don't know whether you've seen my index of blog posts:

docs.google.com/spreadsheet/pub?key=
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It sounds like you might enjoy the ones I've put into the "strategies" category. Or maybe the ones specifically about maintenance.

And if/when you've codified your thinking to the point that you have a method or a tool or a schema for helping people, Tina and I will be more than happy to help you promote and support it, in whatever way we can!

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  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

BOPPY_ 4/12/2014 1:15PM

    I'd say more positive things, here, but I'm afraid you'd get a "big head"! And, I know that would work against your weight and fitness goals, so I'll "stifle" (as Archie Bunker used to say. emoticon

But ...

Keep up the great work. You're beyond a mere inspiration. YOU ARE:

* An inspiration
* A role model
* A teacher
* A leader
* An activist

Thank you.

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SNOWYOGA 4/9/2014 7:55PM

    Thank you a lot of info.

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MAW_OH 4/6/2014 8:03PM

    Thank you for being an inspiration to us all!

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TRAVELGRRL 4/5/2014 7:35PM

    You are such an analytical person, I admire that! AND, thanks for the spreadsheet to your blogs, I've bookmarked it and will review all of them.

You can't argue with success; and someone like you? You are GOLD. Thank you so much for sharing your journey. It's worth its weight in gold!

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LE7_1234 4/3/2014 12:07PM

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DDOORN 4/3/2014 11:57AM

    Thank you SO MUCH for all that you have brought to our SparkFamily!

Your contributions have spawned so many Spark Rockstars, it's just been wonderful to have you nearby these past several years! While I know our "virtual" paths will continue to cross I'm hopeful we will meet again somewhere down the road on our journeys!

Don

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MNABOY 4/3/2014 2:38AM

    Thanks for sharing

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FIFIFRIZZLE 4/2/2014 1:22PM

    emoticon I think it was Watermellen who said recently 'don't hafta wanna' it's my new mantra.' don't hafta wanna, just gonna.'


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LESLIELENORE 4/2/2014 12:35PM

    It takes diligence. I think you do a great job!

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WATERDIAMONDS 4/2/2014 8:28AM

    I am in awe of your progress and your wisdom. thank you so much for sharing both with us.

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NEW-CAZ 4/2/2014 8:04AM

    Your leadership of the team along with the other leaders is emoticon one of the best teams on here.

You yourself have come a long way emoticon emoticon
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WATERMELLEN 4/2/2014 8:02AM

    Great blog, great outline of what it took to take it off, and what it keeps on taking to keep it off!!

You are a hero, really you are.

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WDIPIM 4/2/2014 7:24AM

  thanks

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Seriously? An ad to promote paranoia in relationships?

Monday, March 10, 2014



I don't usually see these things on my computer because I'm blocking ads and flash in my browser.. I only saw it because I was browsing with my phone. And this is exactly why I block the ads on my computer. It's not at all what I come to this site for.

  
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TRAVELGRRL 3/29/2014 6:02PM

    I hate this sh*t also. Totally hate the ads for crap food, too! SP, what ARE you thinking????

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JULIEABIGAIL 3/26/2014 1:18AM

  emoticon i am shocked. i have not seen this (how do you block ads? is it a separate software?), but i am truly disgusted to know that this ad, and others that have been mentioned that do not support SP's philosophy, are permitted on this site. i am grateful the site is free, but what about integrity? yikes. do we have to pay for that?

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BOPPY_ 3/22/2014 5:21PM

    Actually, I find some of the food ads to be the most obnoxious of all -- in complete contradiction to the (a) valid principles of the site, and (b) at odds with the desires of those looking for valid information about nutrition, fitness and wellness.

Thanks for another interesting and informative post.

BTW, every time I see your before and after pictures (with the BMI numbers), I marvel at the accomplishment.

How have your injuries healed?

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SNOWYOGA 3/16/2014 2:06PM

    Wow this is something! I don't know how to block, but I guess I didn't see this emoticon

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KRICKET4 3/13/2014 6:29PM

    I block too, at least on the devices that let me.
Have learned to not even see ads.

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WATERMELLEN 3/10/2014 8:49PM

    Wow!! Sounds like that might represent about 180 pounds that need to "get lost" asap!!

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DDOORN 3/10/2014 8:01PM

    It's unfortunate, but I realize somebody's gotta pay the bills and have learned to block the ads from my line of sight. There's an awful amount of terribly unhelpful content out there that one has to skim through as best as possible with as much WARRANTED paranoia possible too!

Don

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MAW_OH 3/10/2014 6:32PM

    When I do pay attention to ads, they are usually health related, like for a food item or something. I would hope they could target their audience more,,,

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LESLIELENORE 3/10/2014 9:49AM

    I just ignore most ads. But yeah... kind of inappropriate.

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NEW-CAZ 3/10/2014 9:40AM

    I block too.

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STARDUSTD 3/10/2014 9:36AM

  Haven't located Mastery of Love yet; however, methinks advice like that would NOT be in it.

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WATERDIAMONDS 3/10/2014 8:41AM

    I too ignore ads--literally block them out mentally, even when they scream utter nonsense such as this. I suspect NELLJONES is correct--they are getting worse because we have learned to pay them no attention.



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CELIAMINER 3/10/2014 8:15AM

    Like you, I run an ad blocker at home, but I don't have control at work, so the crapola comes through unbidden. For those who argue that ads keep sites free, I counter with the ads are often inappropriate and mostly just make me mad.

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RIDLEYRIDER 3/10/2014 8:11AM

  Glad I block the ads....what a disgrace!

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NELLJONES 3/10/2014 8:04AM

    The ad served its purpose, it got your attention. I don't even see ads anymore, and it's because of people like me, like any of us who have mentally blocked stuff we don't care about, that they are getting more obnoxious.

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Berating yourself is damaging.

Sunday, March 09, 2014

I saw the following image recently on a Facebook post of someone who wants to lose weight:


I too was dissatisfied with my health and fitness, in the beginning. And there was some self loathing going on. But I have a different perspective now, and feel compelled to say something about these sorts of messages.

"Beating" and "taking down" my former self wasn't productive, because eventually I'd get tired of being yelled at and criticized, and that would lead to giving up and regaining whatever weight I'd managed to lose. That former self was still part of me, so this attitude just continued the cycle of self-abuse and poor self-esteem that contributed to my weight in the first place.

I've made more personal progress by being kind and understanding of my former self than castigating her. She had her reasons for the choices she made.

And then one day that brave woman chose to make fitness a priority in spite of her flaws. I owe her everything, because if she hadn't done that I wouldn't have my current life and health.

  
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BOPPY_ 3/22/2014 5:36PM

    The self-flagellation takes on many forms, including but not limited to negative SP name/IDs selected, vociferous pronouncements of never quitting, OR NOT being a bunch of NEGATIVE things etc. That, plus salvos of religious references precludes many who might be inclined to try to help. It's impossible to find a hand-hold (mind/psyche-point-of-entry, actually) without creating a "scene" -- and thus making a bad situation, worse.

One thing that would help is if SP allowed users to change their ID, but have all old references forward to the new ID. Also, some pre-counseling (a paragraph, or two) on name/ID selection, and SparkPage text would be useful, IMHO.

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FIFIFRIZZLE 3/11/2014 1:10AM

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I totally agree with this assessment.

I have seen plenty of blogs here on SP From people saying essentially the same thing. It pains me to think that people are building their efforts for improvement on pitting themselves down, and being at war with a part of themself.

And it saddens, but doesn't surprise me, to see the ones who think like this constantly pitted against themselves in a battle that naturally they can never win. Again and again they pick themselves up and batter themselves against an aspect of themselves that has to be addressed, not overcome by force.
It is only when we incorporate all aspects of ourselves that we can truly support the huge efforts we have to make in order to carry out the fundamental changes we need to make to put our eating issues permanently behind us.
IMHO, anyway
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POSITIVEHOPE 3/11/2014 12:55AM

    I struggled with the inner negative voice that compelled me to compulsively overeat. I learned how to stop that voice from DrAmyJohnson.com fighting the urge. I learned how to stop fighting with my inner negative voice. I admit it. I spent years trying to combat that negative voice with prayer, by being angry with myself, down on myself, trying to educate myself with self help books and articles. I hated loathed and despised that part of myself. Recently, I learned that those negative voices have a positive intent behind their messages. That negative inner voice wanted to help me? You gotta be kidding! I finally sat down and looked at that part of myself without anger. What are you trying to tell me? Silence. Did you know you are a poor communicator? She doesn't talk when I am angry. It took me a while but when I became really comfortable with my inner self and not angry, hostile or superior, I realized it started when I was a child and I was afraid. I thought if I was BIG I would be safe. So I got big. The message, "Eat it! You know you want it. It'll make you feel good." was meant to make me eat because there was a part of me that was still afraid of being small. Now all I have to do is say to myself, "it's okay. I've got this. I know you want it but trust me, we'll be okay." then make the decision to eat it or not. The voice isn't nearly so compelling now. It just stops. No drama. Just calm, Listening to IOWL has released me from the daily struggle and made me feel powerful and joyful. I can hardly wait until my body weight catches up to my head on this journey.

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EMMACLAIRE5 3/11/2014 12:12AM

    Wise words!


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SAMMYSWEETPEA 3/9/2014 10:05PM

    I agree with everything you said! I used to try the "tough" approach with myself, because I didn't know better. But I came to realize that it was incredibly abusive, and I started treating myself with kindness. It has helped me far more than anything else I've done.

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LESLIELENORE 3/9/2014 9:16PM

    My old behavior served a purpose. I might not like that results, but there was an emotional pay off to my actions. I have accepted that and trained myself to get that emotional pay off from exercise rather than from food.

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EILEENV3 3/9/2014 8:25PM

    Agreed -- well put -- thankyou!

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DDOORN 3/9/2014 4:22PM

    Absolutely agreed!

To take a line from that post, rather than "she is the old me," rather than dis-owning that part of ourselves, take it in, understand there were reasons for behaving the way we did, even if it did harm ourselves in some way...there was a pay-off. Understanding, addressing, incorporating and evolvlng ourselves is the healthiest path of all!

Don

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KATHIC2 3/9/2014 3:29PM

  Here, here!!!! Beautifully said!

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Riding horses in Chile

Monday, February 03, 2014

Uploading photos at this hostel is ridiculous. I spent 30 minutes on the first attempt and it got to 97% before dropping the connection, forcing me to start over from scratch. (I've already cropped and shrunk the photo to make it as small as reasonable.)

Anyway, we spent the morning on a 5 mile horse ride in this valley near Torres del Paine National Park in Chile. It was really great, and I enjoyed the horse I had - named "Parajito." He was responsive, if a bit energetic. Much nicer than the standard tired rental horse you get in the US that acts as if it is tied to the horse in front.

I expect this may be because in Patagonia so many people ride as a common mode of transportation. Horses are a grass-powered all-terrain-vehicle.

Fortunately they also found nice calm horses for my friends who have less experience. I think they had fun too, but I think Suan still prefers windsurfing, and Axel probably prefers hiking on his own two feet. LOL



  
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JSTETSER 3/3/2014 5:36PM

    Beautiful!

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THEVOW2013 2/21/2014 5:51PM

    AWESOME,
WAY JEALOUS I NEED THAT VACATION. emoticon

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WATERMELLEN 2/19/2014 8:30PM

    What an exciting adventurous life you live! (I must have missed this while on my own much tamer short holiday!!)

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MAW_OH 2/7/2014 11:34PM

    I wish we had 'horse lanes' here, right next to the bike lanes. I don't know if I would be able to properly care for a horse, but I'd love to have one to take a quick trip to the store or 'drive through'. They would probably have horse 'pooper scooper' laws, and it would probably take a large garbage bag and shovel to scoop it up! But still, it would be a very 'green' way to travel.

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EMMACLAIRE5 2/7/2014 10:56AM

    Looks like you're having a FAB trip - enjoy and keep the pictures coming when you can!

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KRICKET4 2/5/2014 2:51PM

    What a great adventure!

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CARRIE1948 2/5/2014 7:50AM

    Looks cool

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NEW-CAZ 2/4/2014 2:56AM

    emoticon wonderful picture

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OVERHAULING-ME 2/3/2014 10:07PM

    What a fun adventure! I lived in South America for a year and a half, would love to go back! Enjoy!


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LESLIELENORE 2/3/2014 10:03PM

    That is awesome!

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DDOORN 2/3/2014 9:52PM

    Taking full advantage of every possible adventure along the way...woo hoo! :-)

Don

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SNOWYOGA 2/3/2014 9:11PM

    Love this picture!

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TINAJANE76 2/3/2014 8:33PM

    Awesome, Anja!

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Penguin Cuteness

Monday, February 03, 2014



Waiting to ride horses in Chile but in the meantime I thought some of you might enjoy this picture my friend Axel took while we were in Antarctica.

The chicks are adorable.

:-)

  
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BOPPY_ 3/22/2014 8:37PM

    "Yes, and if you use Linux, my friends, your feathers will look as good as mine!"

Sorry, couldn't resist! emoticon

Lee

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WATERMELLEN 2/19/2014 8:30PM

    Very very sweet!!

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MAW_OH 2/8/2014 12:19AM

    emoticon - I can't find a penguin, this is the closest I could find on the Spark. emoticon's.

Cool
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BOOKAPHILE 2/3/2014 10:06PM

    Very cute! Those chicks look all fluffed out - rather like robins when it's very cold here. How long do those chicks have fluffy feathers instead of the smooth, close to the body ones of the adult? Thanks for sharing, Anja.

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TINAJANE76 2/3/2014 8:35PM

    I love this picture! Looks like the guy up top is holding forth in front of a very attentive audience, lol!
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TENACIOUSTIGER 2/3/2014 8:10PM

    wow you are having an amazing time , Antarctica is next on my list, fantastic


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FIFIFRIZZLE 2/3/2014 12:32PM

    What is it about penguins? They are so cute!

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TRAVELGRRL 2/3/2014 11:27AM

    What an adventure!

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LESLIELENORE 2/3/2014 10:45AM

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CARRIE1948 2/3/2014 10:33AM

    They do look adorable

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JACKIE542 2/3/2014 9:47AM

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THINFITKINDVGAN 2/3/2014 8:51AM

    Awwww!

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RIDLEYRIDER 2/3/2014 8:17AM

  Adorable! emoticon

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