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This is really happening!

Friday, May 24, 2013

My daughter recently got a job at the same company as me. It's a large company and a lot of the hiring is done as "externals" through an employment agency. She was offered a full-time permanent position but has to transfer from Illinois to Arizona. She found this out about a month ago. The new job starts July 8.

She's been looking on-line trying to find a place to live. My husband decided tonight that the three of us need to go out there and check things out. I think this is a great idea, but it makes me so nervous. I think it makes it more real. This is a good opportunity for her, and I am happy for her. But she is my baby and I'm struggling with her being so far away. Going out there is making it real.

I don't think I'll be sleeping well tonight.

  
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FUNLOVEN 5/24/2013 6:43AM

    My parents lived in Arizona for several years which is 2000 miles from where we live. I was heartbroken when they moved there, but it gave us some place warm to visit during the winter. I can't remember if you said where in Arizona your DD is moving to ?

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DIANE7786 5/24/2013 4:39AM

    She will always be your baby. Remember a baby bird has to be pushed out of the nest or it won't thrive. You are fortunate to live in a time of e-mail, Skype and unlimited long distance phone calls. Don't let your tears make your daughter feel guilty about leaving. Be enthusiastic about her new life as a successful adult.

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ALYSSAR2012 5/24/2013 1:58AM

    Aw, you'll get through this!

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EMMACORY 5/24/2013 12:25AM

    I guess it is time for her to fly and spread her wings. Change and transition is never easy. May God bless you and your daughter at this time. God will see you through it all.

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Why I'm Not Losing Weight

Friday, May 10, 2013

For the past few years my weight has gone up and down between 162 and 172. A couple of years ago I started trying to follow "the 17 Day Diet". It was very restrictive and I just couldn't stick to it. I managed to get down to 162 but once I stopped following the diet, the weight came back.

I started tracking my food and exercising and got back down to 164. Now i'm back to 166 or 168 depending on the day, I do well for a day or two but then start eating as much of whatever I want. I need to get myself refocused and be consistent with tracking my food. I k ow that when I track and stay within,y range I lose weight, why can't I be more consistent?

Part of the problem is that I must get lazy.not necessarily lazy about exercising, but lazy about tracking. I have the "all or nothing" way of thinking. If I make one poor eating choice, I give up for the day. Starting today, I am going to be more flexible with myself. If I get off track, I will not stress about it.

It's about progress, not perfection.

  
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IAMWINNING 5/11/2013 9:39AM

    Nancy, thank you for being brave enough to post this. I'm in something of the same boat, only not brave enough to lay it all out there. It's hard to see in black and white just how many calories (and how many aren't particularly healthy) I put in my mouth each day. I empathize about doing ok, then stuffing myself. It's good that you've decided that from this moment on, you'll track your food. And especially good that you've determined to not beat yourself up when you fall off the wagon. emoticon emoticon

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CONTENTCHRIS 5/10/2013 11:36PM

    You can do it!

2 tricks?

1) Drink a glass of grapefruit juice as a snack instead of food.

2) Love you as you and treat yourself right in other ways then food.

You made some good statements I like I like!

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VICTORY2XS 5/10/2013 9:52PM

    The all or nothing way of thinking isn't a logical way to think.

As IndyGirl says, if you get a speeding ticket one morning, you don't go around breaking every traffic law there is because you got one speeding ticket!

So if you blow it in the morning, get on the tracker and see how many calories you have left for the day. If it's not possible to stay within your calorie range, oh well - there is always tomorrow.

Sometimes we have to take this journey one hour at a time, not one day at a time. So if you blow it one hour, that doesn't mean that all the hours following - the rest of the day - should be sabotaged.

So get tracking. You know what you have to do. Try to stay within your calorie range, but if you mess up, it's not the end of the world. Just eat more mindfully for the rest of the day.

Best wishes to you!

Denise
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FITGRL124 5/10/2013 7:54PM

    Yes, it's definitely about progress not perfection. You can do this!

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DANIELWIFEY 5/10/2013 5:13PM

    I used to be the same way! Not only would I feel totally deflated for the whole day if I cheated, but I wouldn't even bother to track the entire day. I have been way more consistent now with tracking, which has both helped me lose weight, and I think given me more insight into my cheats. I've actually been surprised to find that things that I think of as "completely and totally falling off plan" are actually not that terrible in the course of the full day. Once I input the information into the calculator, it almost always turns out that it wasn't even as bad as I assumed it was. That has really been encouraging and helpful for me to see, and made it easier to plan how to make up for my "cheats." Best of luck to you!

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2WHEELEDSHARON 5/10/2013 12:54PM

    I am the same darned way! Exercising comes SO much easier to me than tracking my food consistently. I'm used to it now, but it took almost 3 years to accept that there are no rest days from tracking like there are from exercising. I also stopped tracking if I went only a few calories over, which was really bad. So I gave myself little rewards for tracking each day, like stickers on my calendar, or an expensive herbal tea that I don't usually let myself buy, or a magazine after a whole week of tracking.
Great job being honest! That's not easy.
Thank you for your nice comments on my blog:)


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LJBKENT 5/10/2013 11:15AM

    One poor eating choice will not totally ruin your day, so keep with the tracking. My husband and I went on a cruise recently and I did very well for the first week or 10 days, then temptation started getting the better of me. When I got hame and could enter my food into the tracker, I was pleasantly surprised that I was not really, really over. Keep with the program, it works.

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Victory Today!

Friday, May 03, 2013

I got off track last week and have been struggling to get back on track this week. I reset my Spark Streaks on May 1st and have already broken them. I will restart themin on Monday.

Last night we ran some errands and decided to stop for pizza. On the way home we needed gas so we stopped at Casey's for gas and donuts. I had a donut for breakfast this morning. I thought about buying lunch today since I had already blown it, but I talked myself out of it.

I had yogurt for my morning snack and then bought a string cheese. After lunch I wanted something else. I walked to the snack shop to see if they had my veggies. The snack shop sells ready made sandwiches, chips, soup, donuts, cookies, muffins - pretty much whatever you might need. They were out of veggies today so I just filled up my water and walked out.i didn't even look at the cookies!

Yea me!

  
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2WHEELEDSHARON 5/4/2013 12:13PM

    Wow, way to go! That's a big win!

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DANIELWIFEY 5/3/2013 5:37PM

    Great job! Every time you make a choice is a new opportunity to stick to your plan. It totally doesn't matter if you had pizza earlier in the day or not---you were able to make a good choice for you at the snack shop. Keep going!

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MELAMA210 5/3/2013 4:58PM

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Good for you for not getting snacks on the store and for turning you day around!

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FROSTY99 5/3/2013 4:42PM

    emoticon on being able to not give it when you could not get veggies. Keep up the good work.

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Frustrated!

Wednesday, April 24, 2013

My daughter recently got a job at the same company as me. She is in a different department. We both started with a temporary agency. Yesterday she was offered a permanent position but ha to relocate. I knew this was a possibility but when she told me it was confirmed, I was devastated. We live in Illinois and she is moving to Arizona.

A few years ago she decided she wanted to live on her own and got an apartment with a friend. It didn't work out and the apartment was crappy and not In a safe place. My husband decided to buy a house for her to live in and she could pay us what she could afford. Last night we were talking about her new apartment. Her share of the rent is going to be double the amount she has been laying us. I asked if she was sure she could swing this's once she was always saying how broke she was. We said she had done the math and then said,"Cut the cord, ma." I still can't believe she said that after all we've done for her.

I have now decided it's going to be good for her to et out and be completely on her own. I'm not only cutting the cord, I'm closing the purse! I can't wait to see what her dad says when I tell him what she said!

  
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DANIELWIFEY 4/28/2013 9:34AM

    The best thing for my relationship with my mother was when I moved out. I know she was excited for me to go---we had fought terribly before I left. I think part of the problem was that I was scared to go, and instead of expressing that like a reasonable person, I lashed out to make it easier for me to leave. I have apologized for my behavior (and I know she understands I was just dumb and 18), but I still know that my words hurt her, and I still feel bad.

I'm sure it will be hard for both of you when she leaves, but hopefully it will allow you to become closer. Good luck.

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WILLOWBEE63 4/25/2013 11:46AM

    Oh boy....what we mothers contend with. They want the cord cut, but according to their rules!!!! It'll be an eye-opening experience for her, but rest assure, she'll be calling you!!!!

The relationship between mothers and daughters is fierce all the way around.....Hang in there.....

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VICTORY2XS 4/24/2013 8:00PM

    I know how devastated I was when my daughter moved out last year. I thought I couldn't live without knowing she was safely under my roof! I never doubted that she could make it on her own, since her child support is more that the rent on most apartments. She also works and attends college full-time. Since she has not been financially dependent on me (or me on her, as was the case sometimes with her child support), I find we are so much more closer. Your girl's comment seems rude and inappropriate, especially in light of your kindness towards her. I can only say I hope she said it in anger and didn't mean anything by it. I can only imagine how much that hurt you.

I can imagine what it would be like for my daughter to move many states away. I sometimes feel she is that far away already, with her extremely busy work and college schedule. We can go for a week without even talking, and that hurts. But after a week, I test her to let her know I am still alive, and I usually hear from her not long after.

I am sure when the dust settles from this frustrating time that things will get better between you and your daughter. Even after a year, I still miss my daughter immensely being home with me. I miss seeing her every day. I miss knowing what she is doing, whether she is happy or not. It's rough when it goes for up to a week without hearing from her. But she still called me for the most important thing I can give her, and that is unconditional love. I hope your daughter soon realizes how important you are to her, or if she already knows, I hope she lets you know!

Best wishes!

Denise
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PRETTYPITHY 4/24/2013 5:48PM

    Haha! I won't lie, it sounds like something I might say to my mom. I doubt she realizes how much offense she called. We young folk can be a little self-centered. Go easy on her.

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FUNLOVEN 4/24/2013 3:34PM

    Children can be difficult and hurtful at times. As a mother I know I would give my next breath for my children. Unconditional love. Children don't always understand everything about life and I just read that people in their twenties frequently live in a "It's All About Me" world. My daughter is now in her early thirties and we are the best of friends. Just yesterday she called to say she was having a horrible week at work and she knew her mom would help her feel better. She frequently tells me that she is so glad we made her do "so and so" when she was young despite the battle that it was. Now that she is a mother I frequently smile to myself as I hear the same words come out of her mouth that I might have said to her In years gone by. So you see some things are meant to be and in the end it will all turn out for the best. I'm not sure if I have given you any comfort right now, but I hope I have at least given you some hope emoticon

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ELRIDDICK 4/24/2013 1:49PM

  Thanks for sharing

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Another re-start

Monday, April 22, 2013

I haven't been doing very good at my streaks. I decided yesterday to re-set my streaks again. Yesterday went well. I made a pot of vegetable soup for dinner and will have it for Lu ch all week. I have tons of fresh fruit and veggies so I'm set up for success. I didn't take measurements, but I feel like my jeans are getting looser. That's my incentive to keep goin!

  
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ROSEWCI 4/25/2013 6:05AM

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VICTORY2XS 4/24/2013 8:02PM

    Looser jeans? I'd say you are doing something right!

Denise
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DANIELWIFEY 4/23/2013 8:20PM

    I love resets. It's a great time to reevaluate and refocus your goals. Congrats on the looser clothes! emoticon

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FROSTY99 4/22/2013 6:00PM

    Every day is a day to start anew and commit to doing the best that you can for that day and that day only. Don't look back at yesterday-it is history-you can't rewrite it, don't worry about tomorrow, none of us are promised it, but concentrate on the present and you will make it-one day at a time my friend.
Hugs
Pat

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WILLOWBEE63 4/22/2013 1:03PM

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and big emoticon on the lose jeans!!!!! Nothing wrong with resets!!!!

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FUNLOVEN 4/22/2013 12:15PM

    Re-sets are better than not trying at all emoticon

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