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This Is My New Reality

Tuesday, November 01, 2011

It's been just over a month since my husband announced that he had been offered a position with the Department of Homeland Security in Washington D.C..

Less than 2 weeks later, our house was on the market.

Less than 2 weeks after that, we had 3 offers on our house.

Within a month of DH's announcement, we had sold our beautiful Texas home for full asking price ~ a miracle, in this market!

And, just like that, I found myself homeless.

Okay, not REALLY homeless, but, our house closes on December 12, and I have no where to go!! With 2 dogs and 2 almost-but-not-quite-grown sons, I have no where to go!!

So, this is my new reality:

DH and I will go house-hunting this weekend. If we find a place that we can close on quickly, DS1 and the dogs will go join him in northern Virginia sometime in December. DS2 and I will find a small apartment here, where we'll stay until he heads to college in mid-August of next year. I have no idea where we'll be spending Christmas this year.

If we DON'T find a house that we can close on quickly, I'll have to rent a house that will allow dogs, and live here with 2 boys and 2 dogs until we're able to close on something up north, at which point I'll send DS1 and the dogs up there. Which leaves DS2 and me living in a too-big, too-expensive rental home for the duration.

An rental home which, btw, will be sadly lacking in furniture, as we'll be sending all our household goods up north for storage until we can move into a new place.

I'm really, really praying that we find a house this weekend that can close in mid-December!

In the meantime, the house is no longer being shown, so I can once again litter my dining room with dumbbells and stability balls. I can once again spend my morning in workout clothes, walking with Leslie Sansone and lifting weights. I can once again plan our meals, and be free to prepare and eat those meals without fear of being kicked out of the house right at the dinner hour and having to eat fast food, instead.

This is my new reality: I no longer have an excuse to not be eating right and exercising regularly!!

And that makes me very happy.

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    I'm moving back to NoVA in June and would love to live nearby although it sounds like your reality and my reality are in a different zip code/pay grade! Did you find something? The cost of living there is a lot different than where we are now for sure.
We don't have our orders yet only a 99% for sure that is where the USMC is sending us. Can't wait to hear where you will be! It really is a wonderful place to be!

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MRS_TOAD 11/4/2011 8:09AM

    My prayers are with you and your family! Try not to fret. It will all work out just as it is supposed to.

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GIHUTSON 11/2/2011 11:57AM

    I am looking forward to you getting settled in your new house. Maybe then we can start the garden plans that we have been talking about for years. The climate and growing zone will be closer to the growing zone of NC.
It will all come together....I just know it will.

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CHOCOHOLIC2276 11/1/2011 9:27PM

    I think it is meant to be, look at how quickly you sold your house! Trust that things will fall into place for you emoticon

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JECKIE 11/1/2011 7:06PM

    What a great adventure! You'll love DC (well, except for the traffic, which SUCKS inside the Beltway). It's really an incredible place, lots to do and see and nothing compares to N. VA in the spring. AAAAAH.

You'll find something to buy, I'm sure. It'll all work out.

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VERONICAVW_140 11/1/2011 4:50PM

    I pray that God line up the events to be just what yall need! :)

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KANSASROSE67 11/1/2011 4:50PM

    Good news that you sold your house so quickly! Hopefully the next stage will go just as smoothly. Best wishes!

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DEE797 11/1/2011 4:30PM

    CONGRATS on dh's new job and selling your home so quickly. That is good news. Just take things one day at a time. You will find another place and in today's market you may find one that can close quickly for you. Wishing you all the best. emoticon

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LVMAMAW 11/1/2011 4:28PM

    This is such great news!! Now to the next hurdle- you are just running a race here, that is all. You've managed the first hurdle, (which was a big one)- I'll bet the next is managed just as well!! God is good and He is in control!!

So glad you can spread out and exercise and plan and cook your meals at your leisure! emoticon

So happy for you!! emoticon

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LUVSBULLDOGS 11/1/2011 4:01PM

    Thank God you sold your house. It will all work out in the long run. Hopefully, you'll find what you want this weekend. The pet situation isn't a bad as it was a few years ago, but rentals have tightened up, because of the housing market.

Have a great day, Ferne.

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THETURTLEBEAR 11/1/2011 3:54PM

    Your reality is still pretty awesome! Great new job for DH and selling your house? I am envious!! I had mine on the market for six months last year, and no offers. Decided to wait it out since we had no pressing need to move (were just downsizing).

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Photographic Evidence: NEVER Give Up!

Wednesday, October 19, 2011

It's been seven months since I joined SP. Seven long months of tracking every bite, working out at least 6 days a week, making good choices and STILL seeing a loss of half a pound or less a week, sometimes none at all.

And so, it seems rather ironic that the week in which I was over my ranges almost every day, OD'd on sodium and worked out half as much as I usually do, is the week that I finally hit the 20-pounds-lost mark.

"Really? Are you kidding me?", I asked the scale in shock this morning. "But, I did everything WRONG this week! I had lots of stress from the upcoming move, and my routine was totally shaken up since we kept getting kicked out of the house for showings. By rights, my weight should be UP this week!"

Not that I'm COMPLAINING, mind you.... oh, no -- I'll take the 1.2 pound loss this week, with pleasure!!

But, for an accountant type who is all about the numbers, who has an Excel spreadsheet in which she tracks her calories in, sodium and potassium (gotta balance one with the other!), cardio and ST and calories burned... how can this possibly be? The numbers clearly tell me that I should be UP a pound or two, not DOWN!!

Ah, but the human body is a funny thing. And so it is that we must keep on keeping on, no matter what the scale tells us. When you do everything right and the scale still goes up, hang in there -- the weight WILL come off, in the long (sometimes VERY long!) run. Here's the proof:

I still have almost 8 pounds to go to get to my goal weight. And, it may take me another 7 months to reach that goal. But, you know what? I will NEVER give up, no matter how frustrated or discouraged I may become. Because I've learned that if you just hang in there, doing what you know you're supposed to do, you WILL get there.

And it will feel SO good when you do!

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MOSTMOM1 10/28/2011 8:15PM

    Those pics are AMAZING!!!! Sometimes it's a good thing that our bodies aren't calculators. Keep on keepin' on; you're an inspiration!
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BUTTERFLY_MT 10/25/2011 4:12PM

    Cool! Keep chugging it away. :)

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VERONICAVW_140 10/25/2011 10:45AM

    Good job! Way to keep chipping away at it. I like that you have never given up! Keep up that attitude and I am sure you will see your goal! :) emoticon

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MRS_TOAD 10/25/2011 8:35AM

    You are an inspiration to all of us! Keep up the great work.

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    This was a very inspiring blog! Great job, too! emoticon

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FIT_MAMA_2_FOUR 10/22/2011 7:06PM

    You look ah-ma-zing!
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SUNFLOWERGAL40 10/21/2011 9:21PM

    Great blog! Thanks for the words of wisdom! emoticon on your loss! You look fabulous darlin!

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IHEARTGEE 10/20/2011 11:27AM

    WOW! You look fantastic! You and your hard work are such an inspiration for me. I sometimes find that I get losses when I least expect it as well - but they're balanced out by the times when I do everything right and still gain! I'm so glad you're feeling so positive. Spark on!

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TRUE-NESS 10/20/2011 9:16AM

    I'm not shocked. Sometimes you need to "sabotage" yourself to get the scale moving. They used to do that on the Biggest Loser when they were "game-playing." They would eat crazy and cause the scale to go up one week only to be followed up by a 20 lb lost the following week. Our bodies are weird. LOL


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DOODIE59 10/20/2011 9:07AM

    You look great. Slow and steady not only wins the race, but allows your body to truly change to the new you -- no traumatic drops in weight. This very slow but sure progress is absolutely perfect. If it takes you another 7 months to lose the rest, all you've done is solidify your new behaviours into the permanent lifestyle that SP tries to educate people about. Good on you!

Have a great day:)

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AMANDADAY63 10/19/2011 10:57PM

    Amazing....you look awesome and are definitely an inspiration to others..woohoo..way to go..Congrats

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CARBJUNKIE83 10/19/2011 10:45PM

    Okay Ferne! Look at the waist of yours!! You look AH-MAZING!!! I love this blog!!!! Because it's so true - sometimes we spend so much time trying to do the right thing that we when step back and not thing about it..look what happens! And when life happen so does weight loss! I am so PROUD of you!!!!!

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WILDNTEXAS 10/19/2011 10:02PM

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LUVSBULLDOGS 10/19/2011 8:55PM

    That deserves a big WooHoo. WTG, gf. Good for you. I'm happy you've made it to the 20# mark.

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GEORGIADEB 10/19/2011 3:55PM

    Way to go. The pictures are so great. Congrats!

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DOLLYHOLLY 10/19/2011 3:38PM

    What an inspiration! emoticon You go girl!

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THETURTLEBEAR 10/19/2011 3:14PM

    Lookin' good!

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LUVDOGZ 10/19/2011 3:06PM

    Ferne, way to go!!! You were right, that was just what I needed! Thank you! Slow and steady wins the race. You look emoticon

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PIXIEMOM13 10/19/2011 1:53PM

    Great pictures, great progress, and even more awesome attitude!
You're a rockstar!

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MAGGIEROSEBOWL 10/19/2011 12:17PM

    Amazing Progress! You should feel very proud of all you have accomplished!

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NALAYB 10/19/2011 11:27AM

    Great progress!!!

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DIDMIS 10/19/2011 10:48AM

    emoticonThe pictures were emoticon

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LUCKYPRESENCE 10/19/2011 10:44AM

    Amazing progress pics. You can see a difference for sure. Keeping that positive attitude is the most important thing you will need to reach your goals. emoticon emoticon

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BLACK741 10/19/2011 10:44AM

    Wow thanks for posting and
GREAT PICS really show the progress you are making. Keep up the great work and if you ever figure out the human body, let us know LOL.

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CRYS828 10/19/2011 10:38AM

    Great before and after pics, they really show your progress!

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PARKERB2 10/19/2011 10:35AM

    emoticon The pounds you lack to get to goal will come off. Good luck. You look great.

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RISENABOVE 10/19/2011 10:33AM

    Wow...you're shrinking before our eyes! You look Awesome!!

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FTLSWEETIE 10/19/2011 10:25AM

    I love photographic evidence:-) They really tell the picture don't they? You look awesome and I'm so proud of you!


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WINKERDINK 10/19/2011 10:18AM

    Awesome darlin'!

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ASHL_84 10/19/2011 10:16AM

    You look amazing!! emoticon

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DEELIN1960 10/19/2011 10:15AM

    I think with age we are learning the art of patience. Thats how it feels this time around for me.
You are doing great and you look amazing! Keep up the good work, your goal is just around the corner!

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ELIZINJAPAN 10/19/2011 10:13AM

    Lookin' good! Way to go!

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Be the Hummingbird!

Tuesday, October 18, 2011

This was shared with me by one of my BLC-17 Bombshell team members. Short, sweet and powerful, it reminds us to do the best we can!


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SA9CHI 10/19/2011 2:46PM

    "DO THE BEST WE CAN!" I needed this message! Thank you so...much for sharing this!!! emoticon

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LVMAMAW 10/18/2011 9:25PM

    I like that!! Thanks for sharing!! Hope your week is a good and productive one!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Forgive Me, SparkFriends!

Tuesday, October 18, 2011

It's been a tough couple of weeks. After finding out that my husband had been offered a job in Washington D.C., I had to very quickly get the house ready to put on the market and start crunching the numbers to see how we could make this move work in the current economic environment.

At the same time, I was plagued with a hamstring pull and recurring back pain (just when I think I'm done with that particular issue, it rears its ugly head again!). So, not only was I finding it hard to stay on track with my eating, but I also had to cut back on my workouts.

I was feeling frustrated and discouraged. And filled with self-pity.

Between the business of all that I had to get done, combined with just a generally bad attitude and an inability to focus, I pulled back somewhat from SP. My BLC-17 team has kept me going through the past 3 weeks, but the rest of my SparkFriends fell to the wayside as my life began to revolve around me,me,me and all that I was dealing with.

But, what about all that my SparkFriends were dealing with?

Death, illness, divorce... so many were suffering in the weeks that I was gone, and I was totally oblivious to their pain. Sure, you might give me a "by", telling me that it's okay, because I had my own crisis to deal with. But, really? A crisis? I don't think so. A major inconvenience, yes. Emotionally and physically challenging, yes. But not a crisis, by any means.

So, to all of my friends who were ignored by me in their time of need, I humbly ask your forgiveness. It was wrong of me to allow myself to get so wrapped up in my own little drama that I gave no thought to you and the very real issues that you've been dealing with.

I'm here for you now, and will make every effort to continue to be here for you, no matter what is going on in my own life.

Because, without love for others, I am nothing. A very sad, empty nothing.

And that's just not who God made me to be!!

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WONDERBUG381 10/18/2011 10:01PM

    Glad to see you back here

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LVMAMAW 10/18/2011 9:21PM

    She LIVES!!! It is great to see you blogging again, my friend!! Watch our DC - you ain't seen nothin' yet! emoticon
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PS- There is nothing to forgive, you are unconditionally loved here!! emoticon

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HIKETOHEIGHTS 10/18/2011 6:48PM

    WASHINGTON D.C. HERE YOU COME! Now you can spread more Spark!

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BALDWINJ_03 10/18/2011 5:48PM

    I missed you! Glad you're back, and you have nothing to apologize about!

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THETURTLEBEAR 10/18/2011 5:04PM

    It's ok!

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KANSASROSE67 10/18/2011 4:48PM

    I know what you mean...but we can't give to others if we're empty ourselves. Hope all goes well with your move!

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VERONICAVW_140 10/18/2011 4:28PM

    emoticon I, for one, just missed you! You are such an encouraging friend. I pray that the Lord direct your path in the new endeavors you and your family are facing! :)

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MAMA23GRLZ1BOY 10/18/2011 4:11PM

    Oh, Ferne! You are so awesome! I agree with your comments...though I'm sure you were missed (I'm just happy to be on your BLC team), I'm equally sure that they understand and will quickly forgive!

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BLACKROSE_222 10/18/2011 3:45PM

    HUGS! We all have those moments in our life where it comes down to 'priorities' - and we end up shifting them sometimes to things that come up. You have nothing to apologize - everyone here has been there. emoticon

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Changes: Life in the Fast Lane

Friday, October 07, 2011

Sometimes, life moves entirely too fast.

Take this past week, for example.

Two weeks ago, I was happily relaxing in my beautiful pool, enjoying the Texas heat. Okay, I'm really getting a little sick of the Texas heat, but... yeah, I was in the pool, so it was cool. Literally. Life was good.

Then, it came: the news that DH had been offered the job that he never thought he'd get. I, of course, knew all along that he was absolutely PERFECT for the job, and the Department of Homeland Security would be absolutely CRAZY not to offer it to him!

But, the wheels of government beaurocracy turn slowly, and so I had successfully pushed the possibility to the back of my mind.

Suddenly, the possibility was, in fact, the reality.

The reality that DH had just accepted a position in Washington D.C., which is a bit of a commute from Houston, Texas.

Good thing we accidentally kept our snow shovel when we moved down here from Ohio; looks like we'll be needing it again. Goodbye, emoticon. Hello, emoticon! *sigh!*

So, I found out about the job on Wednesday, 9/28. On Thursday, DS2 announced he would be graduating from high school THIS year instead of NEXT year. And, oh, btw, he'd be staying down here to work over the summer and hang with his friends before heading to college somewhere in Texas. Adios, Family!! emoticon And, just like that, my "baby" is leaving me. emoticon

TOM hit that very same day. As did the total meltdown.

By Friday, I had pulled myself together and made a few phone calls.

This is what my week looked like this week:
Monday: Clean house, clear out some clutter, get it looking decent for the realtor. Get a much-needed massage to work a pulled hamstring and ease lower back pain from too much housework.
Tuesday: Realtor comes over, confirms that the market is as bad as we had feared. Clear out some more clutter, make some more phone calls.
Wednesday: Carpet cleaners come and clean all the carpets. I have an afternoon meeting with DS2's counselor. Cleaners come late; fortunately, DS1 is able to stay with them while I go to my meeting.
Thursday: One of our dogs has her first accident in YEARS on said carpet, then walks through it and spreads it around the upstairs hall, the kitchen, and the living room (NOTE: do NOT feed dogs the skin from your rotisserie chicken!); carpet cleaners come again to do kitchen tile floors, and then re-clean the upstairs hall carpet. Meanwhile, I spend the entire day in a hot garage, setting things up for a garage sale.
Friday: Garage sale begins at 8; carpet stretcher guy comes at 9. DS1 holds the fort outside while I get carpet stretcher guy situated. Then, back out into the heat for 4 more hours. In the afternoon, contractor guy arrives to look at certain projects that need to be done before selling the house. Oh, and today is DS2's 17th birthday!! Happy Birthday, Son! emoticon

Coming up...
Saturday: Another 5 hours out in the heat, hopefully selling everything that I've dragged out there from various and sundry closets and corners.
Sunday: Meet with the realtor to sign a contract.
Monday: House goes on the market.
Soon: Pull furniture out of attic, take pics for selling online, then rent storage unit & place there until sold. Have master shower replaced, rooms painted, fences repaired, etc, etc, etc....

And then, depending on what happens with the house, I may or may not move to northern Virginia with DS1 and the dogs. I might wind up living in an apartment with DS2 for a few months, or just continue to stay in the house for the foreseeable future.

In the meantime, I've been tracking my food, but my workouts have been severely curtailed by the hamstring injury and simply too much else to do this week! Of course, I've walked up and down the stairs a gazillion times to clear out closets for the garage sale, and done a gazillion squats to pull stuff out of plastic bins to price for the garage sale. I spent 5 hours straight on my feet today as I worked the sale (currently, I'm reclined on the couch with an ice pack around my knee!). So, I've burned a few calories in spite of missing out on my usual morning-long workouts. My weight went up last week (for obvious reasons!), but is coming back down again now.

What does the future hold? I have no idea. But, I DO know that GOD knows, and everything will work out in the end, one way or another. Sacrifices will have to be made, and lifestyles will have to be changed. DH and I may have to live apart for a period of time, which will be the hardest of all. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger, though, so I expect to come out looking like this when it's all over: emoticon.

Because, I WILL continue to eat healthfully! I WILL continue to drink my water! And, I WILL exercise at least a little each day!!

Life is good. And God is, too. Spark on!!!

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MRS_TOAD 10/9/2011 9:10AM

    Yes, God does know what the future holds and it will be grand! emoticon

P.S. Don't forget to schedule in a little rest and "me time".

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THETURTLEBEAR 10/8/2011 7:03PM

    Wow - deep breaths! Lots of change, but it sounds exciting!

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TRUE-NESS 10/8/2011 9:55AM

    Wow! That's definitely a lot of changes! I'm glad you've resolved yourself to resting in whatever God has in store for you and your family.

I live in the DC area and I can tell you that you'll probably definitely need the snow blower at some point. LOL Our weather is so unpredictable. We've had over 20 inches of snow some years and then practically none other years. It's crazy! :-)

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GRACEISENUF 10/7/2011 8:39PM

    WOW! You have alot on your plate don't you? OMG I would be freaking out but then I too would realize God is in control and it would work out. Your blog reminds me of our life in the Marine Corp. and the transfers we made.....glad those days are behind us.

Sounds like you have a terrific attitude. Hope the house sells FAST so you don't have to be apart from your DH. I'll keep the chicken skin advice in the back of my mind for our lil pooch :).

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LUVSBULLDOGS 10/7/2011 7:19PM

    Life keeps changing all the time, but that's a lot of changes in a short time.

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NDTEACHER1 10/7/2011 7:01PM

    Life sounds exciting!

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LVMAMAW 10/7/2011 6:55PM

    You are right, God has a plan for you and it is better than you think!! He is so Good!! emoticon

I pray for the strength for you to accomplish what needs to be done. I pray for peace for you as you go through this change.

I am proud you are still eating healthy and drinking your water and even tho' your body tries to sabotage you- you are still getting your cardio and probably strength training hauling those boxes and what-nots around. emoticon emoticon

I am excited for you and your new future, I pray it will be just the best and most fun you ever had!! emoticon

Take care, my friend.
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IDLETYME 10/7/2011 3:27PM

    It will all work out somehow - always does. Just hang in there a take special care of yourself. Say your prayers and I'll say some for you.
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VERONICAVW_140 10/7/2011 3:03PM

    Wow. So many neat changes on your horizon! Fun! I pray that God give you the strength and energy to get done all that needs to be done and have enough to spare. :)

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