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I need ideas for what car to buy

Wednesday, February 09, 2011

My car is having even more problems now. I'm thinking at this rate I will be lucky to make it to April before I have to replace it. Which sucks horribly, since I really can't afford to replace it. But I can either flip out about how crappy the situation is, or I can accept that this is the way it is and unless PCH suddenly shows up at my door, I have to live with it. So while I (hopefully) have a few more weeks until the situation is dire, I have to figure out what kind of car I'm looking for. I really don't know. Apparently I should be able to get a small discount (maybe around $1,000) off brand new GM or Ford vehicles through my work, but I'm really not sure about buying brand new because of the price. I'd rather buy used, but who knows what the prior owner did to it.

Anyone have any ideas for what cars to look at? I can't go really expensive, only willing to get a car (no suvs, crossovers, vans, trucks, etc), nothing with an open back (like a station wagon) - I need an enclosed trunk, I will not drive something as small as a Geo Metro, but it can't be huge so I can get in and out of downtown city traffic...

I'm not worried about options like power doors, remote start, etc because if I buy a GM or Ford through my company then I choose all the options. If I'm buying used, I don't have much choice for options.

So post your opinion of a great car for me to check out, or one to completely avoid. Please explain WHY, but I don't need a huge rant or rave, of course.


Really short blog

Wednesday, February 09, 2011

Having serious air temperature issues at work - freezing cold air is blowing on me for 10-30 minutes (I'll have on a sweater, a button up sweater, wrap a fleece blanket around the lower half of my body, and put on my down jacket with the hood on and then I finally stop shaking) then it switches to warm air for 10-30 minutes. On Friday I nearly blacked out twice because I already have problems with my internal body temperature and this is making it much worse. Today I was fighting to not fall asleep all day! grrrrrr

Other than that, I ignored a call from the guy (I was half asleep and wasn't up to having the conversation). And I'm just trying to hang in there right now until my body figures out what in the heck it is going to do. ugh

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DWROBERGE 2/9/2011 12:22AM

    Sounds like an almost impossible situation Hopefully it will not drastically affect your total health.

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Thank you - I'm trying not to worry.

Tuesday, February 08, 2011

THANK YOU SO MUCH to everyone who has been supporting me. It really means a lot - more than I can say because after so many 'friends' have thrown me away lately because of my 'sickness' I tend to just feel alone every time I hit another wall. To have such support from such great sparkfriends is incredible to me.

I saw my therapist today and she knows how weird my health has been. So I was telling her about this current predicament and how it is driving me up a wall that I can't figure it out. Every time something else goes wrong with me, I want to research, theorize, study, and figure it out. Even if I can't fix it, I at least want to have an idea about what is happening so I can try to make the best of it. With my gastroparesis I'm studying not only the whole digestive system and how it works, but what could possibly cause some cases and trying to figure out what could be causing it in me. I thought I was getting somewhere when I was able to start eating 2000 cals a day without problems. Then I get thrown another loop - one that I can't make heads or tails of no matter how many different ways I look at it or how many theories I consider. It also doesn't help that since I'm new to my job and can't take any leave yet, I can't go see my GI doctor until the end of March at the earliest. At the rate my situation is changing, who knows what will have corrected itself or suddenly popped up by then. So my therapist is telling me to just try to stop worrying and follow what my body is telling me (like eat more while it is allowing it!) and see where it takes me. I'm trying to do that, yet I've spent the last 6 months eating a gastroparesis diet so my brain is arguing with itself about what to do. I don't want to push things too hard and have another flare-up.

And if my body has decided to suddenly take on superhuman metabolism, I might just have to scream because I can't afford to feed that high of metabolism! grr I can barely afford what I've been eating.

A quick final note: the guy hasn't called for 2 days. Which is nice in the moment, but it is delaying the inevitable uncomfortable conversation that we are completely too different and it would be unhealthy for me to date him. But that hurdle will be jumped when it is placed directly in my path, because I have no reason to stress over it.

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MOM2ACAT 2/8/2011 4:36PM

    emoticon I was just diagnosed with GP in December, but I know what you mean about those kinds of friends; I've been living with breast cancer since 2003. I've had friends that were all supportive and everything at first, but since then have kind of just drifted away; I don't know if they are "tired" of my illness, or just don't know how to deal with it, but I figure I'm better off without those kind of people. Instead, I try to be thankful for my true friends, the ones who are still sticking by me after all this time.

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MANDI99P 2/8/2011 9:40AM

    I really hope things are going better for you hun. Try to keep your stress level down, that can effect your digestive system too. I had a lot of problems with ulcers and digestive problems a while back, and all of the doctors told me to watch my stress level. Try to get some you time everyday, even if its just a few minutes to decompress. Remember that I'm here when ever you need me.


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My struggle is different than yours, but a struggle still.

Monday, February 07, 2011

So I lied to myself. I didn't track a few things I ate the past few days. Very stupid for me, as I'm not trying to lose weight, I'm trying to STOP losing weight. If I go over in calories, who cares? If I go over in fat and fiber and my gastroparesis doesn't flare, why not track it so I can try to figure out why?

I decided this morning I can't do that anymore. If I go over, then I go over. Right now, being perfect in my current goals is not going to help me figure out what is going wrong in my body. So I corrected the past 2 days and raised the max for my cal, carb, fat, protein, and even fiber goals. On Fri I hit 2565 cals and on Sat 2265 cals, but on Fri I wasn't burning much for calories and yesterday I barely got off the couch... but I lost 1 lb from Fri to Sat and 2 from Sat to Sun. I was at 125 lbs this morning and I feel like I'm failing - and flailing.

Yes, I know many people here are struggling to lose weight and probably hate me right now for writing this blog. I'm sorry if you're reading this and want to scream, but this is my struggle. After all I've been through last year, now I'm having to face the inability to keep weight on. If I lose 10 more I will be underweight. I seriously want to scream right now because I either can't get food into my body or I can get a ton in and it doesn't do any good. It makes no sense! It is not logical! I HATE THIS! I hate stuffing so much food into me and I still can't keep weight on. I strugged with eating disorders in HS and was REFUSED any treatment for it, I've been trying to retrain my brain to know that I need to be healthy not the thinnest person I know, and now my body will not allow me to be at a healthy weight. It feels like cruel torture.

Since August I've been hoping every day that things will turn around and I will be able to do what I need to do to be healthy. I can't get more than 2 or 3 days in which I can do even half of what I want to do. I want to start running, but I can't spend much time running or walking because it burns too many calories. I want to strengthen my abs, but I can't get enough food in me to even let me feel awake let alone build muscle.

I'm going to stop this blog here because I need to get to bed and because I'm crying now. Again, for everyone who reads this who is working to lose weight, I'M SORRY. Your journey is incredibly important and I admire all of the work that my sparkfriends have put into their weightloss. In no way is this blog meant to make you feel bad or say that my struggle is worse than yours, because it is not - it is just different. I just needed to put this up because I need to be accountable for lying to myself and because I needed to type out what has been running through my head and making me lash out at every little annoyance all day.

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MOM2ACAT 2/7/2011 4:16PM

    I agree with BARCLE, we all have our struggles and they are all equally valid.
Spark People isn't just about losing weight, it's about healthy living; whether we are underweight or overweight.

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MANDI99P 2/7/2011 8:58AM

    Never feel sorry for telling others about your struggle. Just because you are trying to get healthy in the opposite direction then most of us does not make it any less difficult. Your health is just as important as anyone elses. Remember that we are here for you no matter what. I have a shoulder right here waiting to get soggy and wet if you need to cry on it! Just like AA, remember that this journey is one day at a time. That's all you can do.


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SIMPLY_RAE 2/7/2011 3:45AM

    Oh goodness! I'm sorry you're having such a hard time!!! How terribly frustrating that must be. emoticon I'm so sorry you were crying!! Just keep strong dear!!! I hope you have a wonderful day tomorrow!!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JANETLEE40 2/7/2011 1:49AM

    Ok kiddo...time to see a doctor....something isn't working right in your body. I have hypothyroid (weight gain) you may have Hyperthyroid (weight loss). Tell your doctor what is happening and he/she will likely order a blood panel. It's very important for you to get it done to rule out anything that could raise a red flag. Please see a doctor. emoticon emoticon Don't worry about offending others...you are awesome!!! emoticon

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BARCLE 2/7/2011 1:06AM

    Oh poor you. I can sympathise but I'm at the other end of the spectrum. Your struggle is different to mine but both our struggles are equally as valid. I wonder if this suggestion will help (I sincerely hope so) but what about trying a meal replacement shake along with your normal meal and instead of having it with the suggested water (for those wanting to lose weight) make it up with full fat milk - that will definitely add calories but hopefully won't be too hard to manage rather than trying to eat the food to bulk the calories out. emoticon

Wishing you all the best - I'm so sorry to read that you were crying; I really hope this helps and you feel better emoticon

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I think I'm done with the guy.

Sunday, February 06, 2011

So the guy is pretty much done. He keeps pushing that he's right about everything and that I have no idea what's going on. According to him: eating 1x/day is healthy, getting drunk all the time isn't a problem, nothing all THAT bad ever happens as long as you tell yourself that it wasn't bad, and that you can make people love you by telling them they hurt your feelings. Plus, I've been telling him what Supernatural is about and he believes that all those monster lores are completely real. Not only that, but that people have tried to curse him by sending ghosts, ghouls (which he didn't even know what they were!), and other creatures after him, but since he's so awesome they just don't mess with him. Also he INSISTS that people should be more afraid of those monsters than of other humans, because you can talk any human out of doing anything bad, but no monster will listen to you.

So yeah, I think I've hit my limit of wrong-ness. The simple fact that I've been studying healthy eating but he tells me that I couldn't possibly have any idea about what is healthy is the most *insert cussing here* thing. Oh and his constant giggling at EVERYTHING I say, especially when I'm being absolutely serious, is pissing me off to high heck. When something is not funny, don't giggle like a 5yo girl then tell me I'm completely wrong.

I'm once again debating the idea of signing up for online dating. I don't want to because I don't want to pay for it and I'm afraid of ending up with someone awful like the last time I did it 11 years ago. Yet I obviously have no luck in finding a guy any 'normal' way.

So yeah, sorry this somewhat venting, but I'm just pissed at the guy, grumpy in general, and pms-ing. I'm gunna go to bed and hope I can actually get some halfway decent sleep tonight.

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MANDI99P 2/7/2011 8:49AM

    Ok, that guy sounds really immature and like he may need a trip to get his head checked out. I mean, yeah I do believe in ghosts, but not the kind on Supernatural. lol Just don't give up. The right guy is out there. (I'm pretty sure you said the same thing to me when Tim broke up with me) You may have to kiss a few frogs, but you will find the right one.

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SIMPLY_RAE 2/6/2011 1:44PM

    Goodness what a dummy!!! Hope you got plenty of sleep and good luck with all of this! emoticon

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MRE1956 2/6/2011 5:46AM

    Yep - definitely way past time to kick that $#!@# to the proverbial curb!

I wish you all the best!


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