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This is what it's like to be in my shoes.

Thursday, May 23, 2013

Here's a taste of what it's like to be me, for anyone who is interested in the symptoms of my multiple medical conditions.

Last night I got involved in a discussion on twitter while doing other things online, and I ignored my body yelling at me to eat. The discussion had me crying (complete strangers were showing me support) so I had no interest in food. This was a mistake. My body processed what I had eaten earlier more quickly than I realized, causing my blood sugar to plummet. Unfortunately, when my blood sugar drops very quickly into the 40s (which is where it is when I have symptoms), the symptoms are horrible. I am freezing cold, but I sweat so badly that my clothes and everything near me becomes soaked. I get the shakes and my body basically freaks out. This started happening last night. However, due to my gastroparesis (partially paralyzed digestive system), there's no way for me to really affect my blood sugars enough to stop the problem. Eating or drinking something sugary can actually cause my blood sugars to plummet even farther, as my body would increase even more insulin to counteract the food it is about to get. Therefore, all I can do is ride it out.

As I recently found out, Ehlers Danlos can cause inappropriate amounts of hormones and neurochemicals, including adrenaline, even if none should be released at all. Essentially, my body has a hair-trigger for releasing adrenaline, so even a small sound, smell, movement, or anything at all can cause a massive release of adrenaline, in addition to the possibility of it being released all the time in moderate doses. It's like my body is in panic mode at all times every day, and the slightest trigger can send it far beyond overdrive. Combine this with the fact that when blood sugars fall the body releases adrenaline to help force the body to survive while it tries to find stores of sugars to release.

So my body is freaking out from low blood sugar, I'm emotional from having a converstation, and my adrenaline is already a problem, yet more adrenaline and other hormones are released so quickly in high doses that every part of me simultaneously feels like it's going to explode and shut down. Up until a year ago, this would've made my mind freak out. Now I have to convince myself that there's something physically wrong with my body but it doesn't have to make my mind freak out.

For 6 hours I was on my computer (mostly doing PCH entries which require little more than mouse clicks) and watching tv shows I really didn't care much about, while I had non-stop adrenaline coursing through me. I was laying in a puddle of sweat, my entire body was shaking, I was nearly continuously reminding myself that 'this is a PHYSICAL problem, not a mental problem, so don't give in to all the horrible thoughts and memories that are flooding my brain making me hate anything and everything that's ever happened to me', and every few minutes I would get a jolt that made me want to get up and pace or move around or do anything that will get the tingles and stabbing pains in my body to stop. However, with the constant pain I'm in, the high risk of blackouts and fainting I have due to my blood pressure and heart rate problems, and the risk of dislocating any joint in my body were I to have a sudden shake or spasm while I was walking causing me to lose my concentration or balance, getting up and moving is the last thing I should have been doing. Still, sometimes I couldn't stop myself and I'd get up and move then convince myself to sit/lay down again in a few minutes.

Within these 6 hours of having a complete lack of control over my body, I took the meds I needed to take before going to sleep. Yet 3 am came and went and I couldn't imagine closing my eyes (when my body is freaking out like this closing my eyes can make everything worse), and my allergies were freaking out along with everything else, so I could barely breathe. I took a prescription allergy medication that I usually reserve for when my allergies are really bad, because it tends to knock me out. I figured it should help me be able to breathe again and help me fall asleep. Finally around 4:30 am I fell asleep.

At 5 pm I woke up. I knew I had had a fitful night of sleep, though I couldn't remember any of it. My body was sore, I was extremely exhausted, and all I wanted was to fall back asleep. Unfortunately, I'm out of one of my medications so I had to wake up enough to run out and pick it up. I had no interest in food, my body felt like I was covered in cement, I felt like I was trying to breathe through kinked straws, my head was so foggy I could barely focus enough to turn on the tv, and my mind just kept screaming at me that nothing is worth me being awake. I grabbed some cookies that were on the table to munch then laid back down on the couch (which is my bed - if I was in my bedroom downstairs I would never had made it up the stairs for food or for anything else). Finally around 7 I started forcing myself to move around, throw on some clothes, and at 8 I left to drive the mile to pick up my meds. By the time I got back at 8:30 it seemed like too much to make it up the stairs, get off my clothes, try to eat a little something (a few strawberries w/ cream cheese, followed with eating Pops cereal out of the box so I can lay down while eating). By 10 I was feeling like I was in hell being tortured. The physical symptoms are wearing me down and the depression is hitting me extremely hard, as the screwed up hormones and neurochemicals are in strange states of still continuous bombardment and/or so depleted there's nothing left when I need them.

As I lay here right now, every part of me hurts. Every muscle and joint aches like I've been running and exercising non-stop for days. My eyes are burning like they're on fire or coated with acid. My heartbeat can be felt throughout any part of my body that isn't numb, to the point that it's actually distracting. No matter how hard I breathe it feels like I can't catch my breath, and taking a deep breath feels like cement blocks are sitting on my chest ready to crush me. The depression is horrible, bringing thoughts into my head that would make the happiest person in the world feel completely worthless. My body is screaming at me that it must sleep, right now, no excuses, but my mind wonders if I fall asleep right now will I ever wake up - and should I even care if I wake up, considering if I don't I never have to feel like this again. But through all of this I have to keep telling myself that this is a PHYSICAL problem and I don't have to listen to the depression. The mental health problems I have are always there, but they do NOT have to jump on the bandwagon with the PHYSICAL problems. I MUST keep them separate.

This is what my life is like. This is what it is to be me. I face it alone. The doctors seem absolutely clueless, my family is completely screwed up and unwilling to help me in any way (except that which will benefit them), and I have no one who can come to my house to take care of me at times like this. I'm the only person I can count on to always be here.

I am terrified. My diagnoses are not good ones to have, because they just get worse. There's no easy fix, no hard fix, even difficult treatments are almost impossible to get. As I get worse, there's no one here to say 'let me do that for you', 'you can lay there as long as you need and I'll take care of everything', and no one here to even give me a hug (which would help my body release some happy hormones to counteract all the horrible ones being flooded through my body). If I can't get up to get food, I don't eat. If I can't get up to get water, I go thirsty. If I can't get the energy to vacuum for a few weeks (like lately) then my allergies flare out of control (like they are now). If I can't force myself to get out and pick up the items I need (like medications) then I don't get to have them. And when all the hormones and chemicals in my body are screaming at me that life is not worth the torture, I'm the only person who is here to try to be positive.

I'm sorry if I made you feel bad because you read this. I'm sorry if you pity me now or if somehow you feel I've permanently damaged your life by telling you about the last 24 hours of my life. I'm sorry if you feel I'm not good enough to be around you on spark (I've had enough people attack me or abandon me here that it won't destroy me if more do so).

This is me. This is my life. I don't expect anyone to understand what I'm facing. But here it is for anyone who wants to read it. If you've made it this far, give yourself a pat on the back - you deserve it.

  
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RISINGBLUESTAR 5/28/2013 2:35AM

    You never have to apologize for expressing how you feel and sharing what you go through. People who attack anyone for doing that should be absolutely ashamed of themselves. It's not your problem if they want to pretend everyone's life is sunshine and rainbows! Blogs aren't just for entertainment. Their primary purpose is to get frustrations out and be completely honest about struggles. I find the people who are the most honest are the most inspiring. :)

I can only imagine what you go through. The way you described it just sounds horrible and I am betting that is worse than you can even explain. No wonder you have emotional attacks sometimes. It's understandable. If I lived near you, I try to help any way I could. emoticon

Hoping tomorrow brings a better day for you & your body lets up on a bit.
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JAMER123 5/24/2013 12:44AM

    I too, wish there was something to be done with helping you!! Have you ever considered assisted living where there is someone around to help if you need it? I don't know if you would qualify but I am guessing you would. Don't put yourself down. The disease process going on can't be helped. You didn't cause it but you have to live the life. Try hard to keep your chin up & hang in there!! We on this site care about you even though we can't be there physically, to help. Take a look at my blog I posted tonight. It is fitting for you. Hope the day went better than your last night did and hoping you get the sleep you need tonight. Don't ignore your body!! Trust it!!
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MOM2ACAT 5/23/2013 5:31PM

    emoticon Please do not feel that you are not "good enough" for Spark, that is completely untrue! I applaud you for your honesty about your health issues, you are an inspiration to me with all that you have accomplished, despite them. As you know, I have my own health issues, and I know what it takes to get certain things done that come easy to most people.

I wished I lived closer to you too, to help out any way I was able to.

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SHERRYGAYL 5/23/2013 8:12AM

    I want to scold you for not letting me know you were getting into such a state emoticon but instead I will just apologize for not being close enough to run over to your place to help you out emoticon or just to sit there quietly while you vent emoticon . emoticon , sweetie. You deserve better than that. And I do feel bad... helpless, actually. My friend's body is hurting her mind and there's nothing I can do to comfort her! emoticon Just know that you can call or text me anytime. I may not answer right away but it's not because I'm ignoring you. It's probably because I'm asleep emoticon but no matter what I will get back to you as soon as I can. Now go get a fruit roll-up and shape it into a smile before you eat it emoticon That's me sending you a hug emoticon

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Turns out my new approach is right on the money.

Friday, May 17, 2013

Recently I started participating in an Ehlers Danlos page on Facebook, as well as the Ehlers Danlos National Foundation. The information I'm gathering from these pages is INCREDIBLE and amazingly validating. So much of what they're posting about the condition explains my symptoms, and contradicts my doctors who know little or nothing about the condition (and I'm starting to suspect have no interest in learning about the condition either).

A few hours ago they posted a portion of a paper/lecture by a doctor who treats patients with my specific form of EDS. I searched online for info about the doctor then searched to find the full text of the paper/lecture. Reading this is like reading the history of my life! I could print this out and highlight everything that relates to me and have more than half of it highlighted. Included in there is a section that says almost the same thing I said in my last blog! This also talks about other symptoms/conditions that I've been too AFRAID to tell my doctors because they will never believe me!
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In fact, he even states in there that continually pushing through the pain and not getting proper treatment will cause the conditions to worsen more and more, which means THEY CAN NOT TELL ME THAT THIS IS NOT REAL AND THAT I'M FAKING OR MAKING THIS UP!

If anyone has some free time (warning: it is LONG) and wants to read it, it's in pdf format here:
www.dynakids.org/Documents/hypermobi
lity.pdf


I'm actually still in shock here as I write this; it seems almost too good to be true that I have proof now!

  
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MISSCUS 5/21/2013 7:04PM

    It is so rewarding to finally have some validation. I am going to read the link even though you warned it was long. I still keep you in my prayers. Are you getting any support yet, or disability?? I sure hope so as I know you deserve it. I haven't heard from the Ellen show at all. I might submit your info again. Bombard them a "little".

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MUTTSBARK 5/20/2013 9:13AM

    Doctors have huge blind spots. Don't they? I hope your new FB page will give you plenty of info to help. You sound so nice and interesting ... Something has got to help.

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RISINGBLUESTAR 5/19/2013 12:00AM

    emoticon Finally, proof! Getting proof and finding information is very rewarding. When your doctors tell you that you are making things up, ask them why you would want to spend all of your times making appointments and seeing them when you could be out in the world doing other, more appealing things if that was really, honestly the case! I am so glad that you found this paper. Would it be a possibility for you to get in touch with the doctor who wrote it? Maybe he could offer the help that you have been looking for!

Good luck Sheri! :)

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JAMER123 5/17/2013 9:53PM

    So glad you found this group and are finding so much info on EDS! Hoping it is going to help your Dr. or another Dr. treat you to ease your symptoms. Good luck!!

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MOM2ACAT 5/17/2013 4:19PM

    I'm glad you found that group!

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SHERRYGAYL 5/17/2013 7:22AM

    emoticon That is WONDERFUL! I know exactly how that validation feels and it's probably my favorite feeling ever. I spent nearly half my life telling doctors, "I felt a tearing sensation and it's hurt ever since then" just to be told there's nothing on the x-rays and therefor no damage before this wonderful lady finally ordered an MRI. "I'm going to order an x-ray," she said. "It won't show anything. I've had a bunch of them over the years," I objected. "I know but they won't let me order an MRI unless I do a cheaper test first," she replied. And when I got the report and it used the word "tear", I cried. But, hell, you know me. I cry at everything emoticon

Anyway, I am so happy for you! That is probably tied for the best thing that could have happened for you right now! I'll be busy most of today but I'll text you later emoticon

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I need to try a new approach.

Wednesday, May 15, 2013

Before I get to my blog, I want to say I'm very thankful for the comments on my last blog. I was honestly worried that I would get a lot of hate and backlash for posting about my joy, but I was pleasantly surprised at all the positive comments. Anyone who doesn't agree with me, I hope you find peace with your opinions as I have found peace with mine.

Now on to my blog...

Talking with my ARMHS worker today helped me come to a realization that I've had inklings of for the last few years but never really put together until I talked it out with her.

My medical conditions have physical side effects that cause mental health problems such as depression and anxiety. (For example, most of the serotonin - a feel good hormone - is in the digestive tract, so having a malfunctioning digestive tract will inhibit serotonin and cause depression. Also, having my blood sugars sometimes plummet into the 30s and 40s - which would make many people unconscious - forces the body to release hormones that mimic the fight or flight response, leading to extreme anxiety and even panic attacks.) This means I'm pre-disposed to mental health conditions, and it is due to a PHYSICAL issue and thus not within my direct control. I can't force my body to release hormones and chemicals properly. Because most of my conditions are incurable, untreatable, and/or I've failed treatments, this means I will always have to deal with depression and anxiety in one way or another. It also explains why mental health medications only make things worse and/or do the opposite of what they are supposed to do, and why I can go through multiple cognitive treatments and know all the 'right' things to say and do but it doesn't help much either.

My PHYSICAL issues are causing mental health issues. Due to the severe lack of support I had growing up, severe bullying, and a whole lot of screwed up crap, that worsened the effects of the physical issues I've had since I was a baby, when the mental health problems arise, my brain kicks it into overdrive and essentially drives my hope and optimism over a cliff. This causes a downward spiral that continues for hours or days. It's essentially a catch-22: the physical causes mental causes mental causes physical... so without addressing what starts the problem it will never change.

The irony here is that the physical doctors are trying to cut and run saying the mental health issues cause the physical issues (which is absolute crap). The mental health doctors tend to give up because every treatment they try will fail at addressing the underlying physical problems. So I'm stuck having to address this on my own.

Starting today, I need to do things differently. I understand FAR MORE about the physical causes of my mental health issues than any of my doctors, so I need to pay attention. I need to identify when they symptoms are occurring and ALLOW THEM. Just feel all the crap instead of trying to stop it like the doctors want me to (or hide them as I was forced to do growing up). Then, as the feelings ease, distract myself with something so the follow up mental health doesn't come charging in and taking over. Essentially, I need to acknowledge and accept that I can't stop the depression and anxiety that comes from the physical issues I have. They will always be there; BUT, they are temporary symptoms that last only while my body is having its temper-tantrums (such as when my nervous system goes haywire, when my pain level goes sky high, when I blackout and go unconscious from lack of blood to my brain, when my blood sugar plummets, when my digestive system doesn't want to work, a direct link between TOM & a huge increase in depression that could be PMDD, etc). I can't control the physical. I CAN control the after-effects where my brain takes all that bad, snowballs it into a mountain, then explodes it into an unending mess of horrible-ness.

I know this is going to be crazy difficult for me. I have to tune into my body even further and find the line where the uncontrollable physical symptoms end before the controllable mental health issues start. I have to dive into the emotions that are forced upon me, then step out of them and into an intellectual mindset where I can figure out what is physically happening to cause them. I can tell you this is going to suck because I have to totally retrain my reactions. But it is something I must do. The doctors can't do anything and keep giving up, so it's up to me now.

I'm not posting this to endorse anyone else trying this. In fact, PLEASE DON'T. I'm painfully unique and have spent hundreds of hours researching my conditions, have been through years of trying dozens of conventional treatments, and I am embarking on this quest under the supervision of my ARMHS worker.

I've posted this blog for accountability. I also have memory issues, so I want to be able to remind myself of what I'm trying to accomplish by doing this. Hopefully my sparkfriends will also be able to gain some understanding about why I am the way I am, and forgive the times I'm silent, negative, and/or fall short of what someone might expect of me.

  
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MISSCUS 5/21/2013 7:44PM

    I can relate. I have had debilitating chronic pain for so many years. The vicious circle you describe, and causing mental health issues, are all too real for me as well. I believe in you, I believe you have a good plan for dealing with the continuous surfacing of issues and anxieties that are highly likely due to your medical conditions. I also believe in your trying a different approach, after experiencing both mental and physical issues that MDs are unable to treat without using very strong drugs that have side effects that are worse than the disorder itself. There is never a really easy answer..... Keep yourself as strong as you can. I still praying for you!!
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SHERRYGAYL 5/17/2013 7:46AM

    The fact that YOU understand now is HUGE. I know it's not enough. Not nearly enough. But understanding is just the beginning. Now if you can make an extended appointment with your doctor and sit down and read all of these articles to him...

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EVWINGS 5/15/2013 5:54PM

    What an experience for you. Just going in the vicious circle would be enough for me to become depressed! Some doctors can't find anything because they don't know exactly what they are looking for. I don't mean that in a negative way. I mean it because there are so many "New" things going on with health these days that some don't realize that what is in front of them is the cause. I hope I'm saying that alright. That is my problem along with memory issues - I can't always put things in correct sentences that make sense. I wish you a lot of luck with your new routine and I hope you know all of your Spark Buds are here for you whenever you need us.

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MOM2ACAT 5/15/2013 4:40PM

    I can relate to a lot of that with what I've gone through, and still going through, with my cancer. When you are going through health problems with chronic conditions, especially pain, it does affect you mentally, and that in turn affects the physical conditions. It's like a vicious circle.

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RISINGBLUESTAR 5/15/2013 4:04AM

    What you go through is a lot to deal with but maybe the new approach will help. The thing about doctors is that they observe with their eyes instead of listen with their ears and we have to be our own doctors. A lot of us wouldn't have been able to get anywhere if it wasn't for our own research and our own determination to find out what the heck is going on with our bodies.

It's terrible that physical issues cause your mental health issues. Doctors usually will blame stress for your issues. If it's not stress, it's weight. If it's not weight, it's stress. The truth is that having medical conditions (incurable or not) are stressful! (especially the incurable)

I don't think anyone who has mental health issues is necessarily in control. I realize that's not what you meant. Someone who has depression not due to a medical issue is more likely to be able to get well than someone who has incurable ailments that cause it. I noticed that when I began getting Hypothyroidism, that is when my anxiety was heightened. I used to be able to control anxiety more easily and it wasn't so bad but then it just crept up and that's when all the obsessive what ifs would spin around and drive me nuts. I think I am doing better (for now) though and I can't imagine how frustrating it must be for you to go through these cycles and not be able to do much about it, except try different approaches.

I understand what you mean about being negative. Sometimes, I'm like that too and I don't go through half of what you go through (not that I am comparing because I am not). I am just saying I get it. Sometimes you are upbeat and optimistic and other times life feels overwhelming, hopeless, and stupid. I don't think you are alone in going back and forth between emotions.

I don't think feeling your emotions is a bad idea. I was always encouraged to express and feel my emotions and I think it's healthier than not showing them. I feel bad for my friends who are not allowed to show emotions because it is considered a sign of weakness in their families. I think diving into your feelings-bad or good will help a lot of your mental issues and it may even help alleviate some of the symptoms of your physical conditions. You never know.I I don't blame you for not recommending it to other people because depression or anxiety can be a dark place for some and this approach may be the worst idea for them so I get why you warned others not to try it.

Good luck on your new approach.


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Live and let love. I am proud to be a Minnesotan today.

Monday, May 13, 2013

This blog is going to be a bit controversial. I am not posting it to start an argument or to put down anyone else. My beliefs are my own and you are welcome to yours; I just hope that we can agree to disagree and have respect for each other. That being said, I am posting this blog from a state of love, respect, and appreciation. Any responses that are disrespectful or demeaning will be deleted. Responses that are opposite of my views but are respectful are okay.

Now that I've gotten the disclaimer out of the way, here is what I want to talk about.







Live and let love. This is what I believe. If someone is coming from a place of love and respect then they will wish the best for others, even if they disagree with them. If a person is coming from a place of hate and prejudice, they will expect that their views should define others' lives and wish horribleness on anyone who disagrees. We can disagree on others' actions while still wishing the best for them.

I believe women deserve the same rights as men. I believe rights shouldn't be determined by skin color. I believe disabled & differently-abled people should be allowed fair chances to succeed just as 'normal' people. I believe GLBTQ people should be allowed the same rights as straight people. I believe in civil rights. We don't choose the sex we're born with. We don't choose our race. We don't choose how our well our bodies will work or what our natural talents will be. We don't choose what traits we're naturally attracted to, whether it's legs, chest, abs, butt, eyes, or whether they're male/female.

Today, I am proud to be a Minnesotan. On Thursday, the MN House approved a Gay Marriage bill. Today, the MN Senate approve the bill. The governor will sign it tomorrow at 5 pm. Starting August 1st, 2013, gay marriage will be legal in Minnesota. We will be the 12th state to legalize gay marriage and the 1st in the midwest to do so with legislation instead of the courts.

If you have ever asked a gay person "when did you choose to be gay," try asking yourself "when did I choose to be straight?" Unlike most people, due to unique experiences in my life, I have spent a lot of time asking myself about my sexuality. I see beauty in many types of people and I don't like to immediately exclude anyone from my definition of 'attractive' due to sex, race, abilities, etc. I want someone to love who loves me, so I need to be open to love. I want to find a man to love; I also want to believe in the love of everyone.

There is so much I could say on this topic but I will leave it here. I wanted to express my joy at the success of this bill and I have done so. I hope many others are joining me in celebration and those who are against this bill will find peace and acceptance as they experience no harmful effects of this legislation.

  
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MISSCUS 5/21/2013 7:56PM

    Yay for MN. Great blog. Then, there is always the Golden Rule. That about covers it all. I learned acceptances of anything or anyone that seemed different from a young age. I feel at peace with my accepting nature. Life would not be as enjoyable or as interesting if everything and everyone was the same etc etc etc.......

I don't know how, but I missed your last couple blogs. I must go reset my account settings I guess...
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SHERRYGAYL 5/17/2013 7:54AM

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My sexual preference is love and respect.

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TAYGRL 5/14/2013 11:35AM

    I, too, am VERY proud of Minnesota. And for every state that passes legislation that frankly should not even be in question, my "true-blue" state of CA looks more and more hypocritical.

Congrats Minnesota! You done our nation proud. Twelve down only 38 more to go unless the SCOTUS decides to get their heads outta their you-know-whats and settle what should have been settled a LONG time ago!

Thanks for sharing! Peace out!

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SAMZA83 5/14/2013 5:55AM

    emoticon I am not from Minnesota but spent my undergraduate years there and the state has always had a wonderful progressive undercurrent. I am straight but I think everyone has the right to live/love the way that they intrinsically know how to. I hope that as a country we aren't too far off from seeing gay marriage legal everywhere. The whole debate over this is going to look as silly 50 years from now as the bans on interracial marriage do today! (As spoken by a child from an interracial marriage :) )

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EVWINGS 5/13/2013 11:56PM

    What a beautiful blog! I thank you for writing it and having the courage to share what are not always popular feelings. This is one of the better things to come out of MN in a long time. Like you, this is my opinion only!! To me, the saddest thing is that who we are "permitted" to love has to be legislated and not just accepted.

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JAMER123 5/13/2013 11:33PM

    We can really stand up and be proud of our state. Even though it took some time to get it through all of Congress, it was shown to be respectful to each and every one of our beliefs, no matter what. I am one that, I hope, shows respect to all and only wants the same from others! Thanks for a great blog!!
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DRAGONCHILDE 5/13/2013 10:42PM

    I'm very proud for you. I'm proud of you for having the courage to speak out. I'm proud to call you SparkFriend!

I too have struggled with sexuality, and while I've settled on a non-binary label, I still live on a heterosexual monogamous marriage.

It is such a simple answer for me. I don't care what your religious beliefs are. you have no right to impose them on anyone else. All arguments against it are religious in nature... and I don't want any Jews telling me I can't eat pork, nor Buddhists telling me I can't eat any meat.

I respect their right, they respect mine. And we should ALL do the same when it comes to love!

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RISINGBLUESTAR 5/13/2013 9:30PM

    This is a great blog!! I always felt that we are here on this earth to help others, to help each other. We are not here to judge or harm anyone. I say this as a person who believes in God. I mention that because you may just get the "religious" people who aren't tolerant making intolerant comments. I don't understand how people can bring religion into marriage when it says in the first amendment of the constitution that you cannot force religion onto anyone & you cannot stop people from gathering to worship. It's right there printed along with the blurb about freedom of speech.

People are so much more than the color of their skin, or their weight or who they like. Those things may be part of people but they do NOT DEFINE people!

When I was at a comedy show, one of the comedians said: "Doesn't everyone realize that we're all stuck with each other on a big blue and green ball and there is nothing we can do about it?!" We're all here together so why not treat each other with respect and be accepting.

I also tell people that they don't necessarily have to agree with someone's life but
at the very least, respect them. I also ask people when did you choose to be straight and the answer they always give me is that they have been straight since they were born. Nobody chooses their orientation and it's a shame that there are people out there who shame people for just being who they are.

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EWL978 5/13/2013 9:10PM

    YES!!!! I saw this on today's news and thought....another bunch of folks with not only brains but also with heart!! Way to go!! And you have every right to be proud.

After that, don't you start thinking "it's about time!!?


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MURRAYGOLD 5/13/2013 9:05PM

    A proud day indeed. Hope the day isn't too far away when every state in this country recognizes the right to love.

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Sparkers living near Minneapolis/St Paul & western Wisconsin

Friday, May 10, 2013

For my fellow Twin Cities metro and western Wisconsin Sparkers, I'm going to share with you some inside information. I'm not someone who normally does 'ads' for services to convince people to use them. But I am this time because I have great appreciation for this guy. He has no idea I'm doing this, and he deserves the recognition.

Anyone in the area who needs a plumber, consider calling St Croix Plumbing & Drain Cleaning. Todd Jadwin is the owner and he is a wonderful guy who really puts his heart into his work. He's done several jobs in my house and he has never once let me down. He's accredited by the BBB. He also has tons of great reviews online, so I know I'm not the only one who calls him for all plumbing needs!

Contact information:
St Croix Plumbing, Todd Jadwin
Ph: 651-775-5300
Fax: 715-381-0112
email: stcroixplumbing@gmail.com
web: www.stcroixplumbing.com

Disclaimer: I am NOT getting any reimbursement for this posting. He doesn't even know I'm doing it.

The work he has done for me:

Removed and replaced improperly connected pipes under my kitchen sink & adjusted connection to garbage disposal that was being damaged by the previous owner's error

Corrected housing code violation for tubing of sump pump water, including exterior modifications and insulation of the new pipes

Emergency phone call for broken water softener after improper installation caused the connections to explode and spray water everywhere; I didn't replace the softener so he connected the pipes together, making it easy to install a new one in the future

(Today) Removed broken faucet in shower/tub by removing & replacing copper pipes, reattached new faucet

Every job was done well and I have not had any further problems, though he always reminds me he's only a phone call away should a problem arise. I'm confident in all of his work and very glad I happened across his reviews online when I needed him!

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

MISSCUS 5/21/2013 8:01PM

    As you go through life, you will find the fair and honest people who will only do a good job, and if they cannot, they will refer you. It took me 5 years to find all the good service businesses to maintain my home and my body as well. I feel I am in a good place now.

Did you post on the online site where you can share your experiences, so others can contact them if they need their services? I bet you already did :)

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RISINGBLUESTAR 5/11/2013 11:11PM

    I think it's great when you can notify people around your area of quality service. It's not always easy to find and it is a great way to offer help to people.

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