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My first appointment at Mayo

Wednesday, October 19, 2011

One of my major fears when I go to the doctor is that they won't believe me and won't help me. I've been ignored so many times that in some ways it's almost shocking I've survived (like a massive infection in my cheekbone for over 3 months - finally the dentist helped me after several doctors ignored it). Thus yesterday I was terrified that the doctors at Mayo would do the same thing. Sure they SHOULD listen and help me. Of course, since it was me, something was going to go wrong.

I'm going to start at the beginning. Monday night I was up and down for several hours and at 530 am (I normally am up at 6 for work) I was unable to fall back asleep. I had planned to sleep until 7 so I could have about 3 1/2 hours until I had to be on the road. So there I am, laying on the couch watching tv, trying to ignore the fear clawing at the back of my brain. About 630 I got up and started getting ready and was in the shower about 8. Sometime after 8 I was supposed to pick up a letter from my Endocrinologist to take to Mayo - I had given him a week and a half to write it. I got there at 915 and was told it wasn't ready and I should wait. At 930 I asked how long it would be because I had less than an hour to get on the road and I still had to get everything together - I was told it would be 4 or 5 minutes. At 945 I said forget it I can't wait any longer and walked out. (And this was one doctor I thought was trying to help me...) So my day was already sucking and I was fighting to keep the rising panic in check. I raced home, got everything together and into the car, said bye to my kitty, and was on the road at 1045. It was raining out and very dark, it was an unfamiliar and rough road (even though it's an intrastate), and I was fighting to be calm. The drive was sucky (especially the road construction guy who was spraying stuff into my lane right as I was driving past him so I nearly had to go off the road to avoid it) but I got there about 1230.

By the time I got parked, gathered everything, and walked-walked-walked-walked to get to where I had to be (they should have moving sidewalks in there!) it was about 1245 which is when I was due to check in. Unfortunately the check in line was moving very slow and I was about 10th back. By 110 the line had only gone down about 2 or 3 people and my appointment was supposed to be at 115. They called out my name so I went out of line and they said because they were so backed up they'd check me in back in the room. The appointment was supposed to be 45-60 minutes but lasted closer to 2 hours. I saw 2 doctors, the first I guess you could call an understudy for the second (I think it's a fellowship or something?). The first doctor came in and made most of my fears come true. I was very close to giving up and leaving. What did he say? He told me that I can't have gastroparesis because the test that was used to diagnose it was a bad test that only lasted an hour and extrapolated - it was actually a 2 hour test but he got pissed that I tried to correct him and refused to believe that I could know how long I laid under a machine without moving. Thus, since he doesn't like that test, he knew there's no way I could possibly have motility issues. ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME?!?!?! So he thinks I just spent the last year making myself believe I have this condition because they gave me the wrong test. Then he proceeded to ignore the majority of my symptoms and issues and picked just a handful to show what he knows is the problem (it seemed like he diagnosed this based on my age and that I haven't been pregnant because 'we usually see this problem in women your age who haven't had kids').

*WARNING* The following could be TMI if you can't handle information about the digestive tract. Skip this paragraph if you want.

So what is wrong with me according to him? The muscle that controls my rectum and starts/stops a bowel movement isn't working so my stool is inconsistent. That is the ONLY thing wrong. The rest is apparently psychological. So he's going to give me a test to prove the muscle isn't working and he's not going to retest me for gastroparesis because I couldn't possibly have it.

Basically, he read my records and the bull that doctors have said about me, ignored my symptom list, and said the only thing wrong is something that is the least of my problems! When he left I was fighting tears, more rising panic, and I was thankful I had stuck to a minimal liquid diet all morning otherwise I would've been throwing up. I actually considered walking out, but I picked up my book and tried to focus on that (which was completely impossible). I'm desperate for help and if I left I'd never have any chance to get it. Finally the other doctor came in and she made me feel better in just a matter of minutes. She listened, she understood, she didn't talk over me, she didn't give me the 'you're a moron' look when I said something that didn't make sense to her. I said flat out to both that I'm a weird case, I've tracked EVERYTHING for a year so I can show cause and effect, and that if they proved me wrong I'd believe them (which means first they have to test me for PROOF!). She told me they were going to not only redo the gastroparesis test in the preferred way (which includes 2 different tests) and run the test the other doctor is insisting on, but she also has me going to endocrinology, neurology, and psychology (to see if they have any ideas to help me deal with all this better, since my therapist seems to be running out of treatment ideas). Then I waited about a half hour in the waiting room while they created my schedule for next week. I finished the trip by checking out several hotels and setting up my rooms. I was home about 745.

So next week is going to be busy. I'll have to be down there Sunday night for a very early appointment on Monday (which I have to prep for, so no way I can drive down in the morning). I'll stay down there Monday night also for more appointments Tuesday. After a late afternoon appointment I'll head back home for two nights (I'll save some money and I can leave my cat at home instead of taking him with me). I'll go back very early on Thursday, stay overnight, then I have one last early appointment on Friday, maybe take a nap at the hotel before checking out, then head home. It will be quite a bit of driving, running around, and stress, but it'll be easier on me in the long run. I'm not going to work on Wednesday (in case anyone is wondering) because I'll need a relax day as long as I can have it. If anything goes wrong and I can't make it back home, I asked my father if he would come up and take care of my cat. I really don't want that to have to happen, but it's a backup plan.

So that's what happened yesterday. It was a very tough day psychologically and physically. My worst fears came true but were turned around somewhat.

Lastly, I didn't get to show off my Singer Salvage shirt much (I tend to be very cold all the time, so it was covered by a sweater and often a jacket too) but after a lot of walking when I was waiting in line I took off my sweater. I was talking to the guy in front of me and he asked about the shirt. I had to explain it wasn't a real place because it's in my favorite tv show, but it was kinda fun to be able to show it off. haha

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ANDREWS_MOM 10/21/2011 4:31PM

    I am so sorry you had to deal with that 1st doctor. If that's his attitude, what's he doing working at a place like Mayo?!? I am sooooo happy the second doctor was more open and going to investigate everything to get to the bottom of this.
Praying all of your testing goes well next week. Testing is Never fun BUT if it'll bring an answer it's a good thing.

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GUTHRIESM 10/21/2011 12:07PM

    Thank you for the update. Sorry the first doctor reinforced your fears instead of giving you hope. Glad you saw the second doctor and they seem more open minded. I'm also glad they got you the stack of appointments organized! Keep us posted.

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MANDI99P 10/20/2011 7:46AM

    Well to pardon my language your first doctor sounds like a douche. I', happy that your second doctor was more willing to listen and help. I'm so proud of you for sticking it out and not walking out. I know your frustrated, but you will get the answers you need. Good luck next week, dont get to stressed during it. Just take it one step at a time. Keep us posted when you can.

PS, love the shirt!


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LIVINHEALTHY9 10/19/2011 9:02PM

    It sounds like you had quite a stressful, emotional day.
It's too bad the first Dr. had to behave so badly. It sounds like he could use some bedside manners training. At least the second Dr. seems to be willing to listen and help.
I hope that you get the answers you need.

Take care!

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IVORY1825 10/19/2011 8:09PM

    I also wore my Singer Salvage shirt yesterday! Rock! Keep at it, take the tests, at least you have one good doc, sometimes that's all you need. Good luck!

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Singer Salvage give me strength!

Tuesday, October 18, 2011

This shirt arrived last week and I'm glad it did. I'm hoping wearing it today will help give me strength.

To those who don't know what Singer Salvage is, it's from my favorite tv show Supernatural. It was (until it burned down a few episodes back) a bit of a sanctuary for hunters of monsters and other evils.

Add: This is the graphic. riptapparel.com/ript/wp-content/uplo

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LIVINHEALTHY9 10/18/2011 8:36PM

    Love the shirt!!

I hope you are doing well.

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MOM2ACAT 10/18/2011 4:39PM

    I hope it all went well today!

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ANDREWS_MOM 10/18/2011 2:53PM

    Good luck w/ your appointment today!
Wishing for the absolute very best!

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Final thoughts before tomorrow.

Monday, October 17, 2011

Well, tomorrow is the day. In just over 12 hours I'll be on the road to Mayo. I think I'm feeling numb, but that could be the severe lack of sleep last night.

I know I'm missing things, I know there's more I could've put together to take, I know there's going to be something I wish I had thought of. But it's too late now. I'm armed with a lot of stuff though, including my symptom list that is up to 45 now. This is the best I can do for them.

What are my expectations? I really don't have any. I'm trying to be hopeful but getting my hopes up pretty much will guarantee disaster. I just want to get this consult over, get to the testing, and get some kind of treatment.

Somehow I have to figure out how to get some sleep tonight and hold myself together tomorrow. Every bit of strength I have in me will have to come out to make it through tomorrow and next week.

I've said it before and I'll say it again - you, my sparkfriends, are my greatest support. I couldn't get through this without all of you. No matter what happens, I hope all of you know I deeply appreciate that you care.

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ANDREWS_MOM 10/18/2011 9:50AM

    Thinking about you & praying all goes well. You're going to the best so I am really hopefully for you that they can get you the answers & then treatment you need.

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MANDI99P 10/18/2011 8:41AM

    I'm going to be thinking of you all day. I wish you the best of luck. I know they can help you. Please let me know as soon as you know anything.

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I was disappointed in The Thing.

Sunday, October 16, 2011

I went and saw The Thing today (all because of Eric Christian Olsen) and was disappointed. It was lame. Someone needs to tell the director and producers that incredibly loud sound doesn't make something scary! I had to put my fingers in my ears a few times because it was so ridiculously loud - yet I was laughing because those scenes weren't that scary! Some of the effects were kinda cool, but most were overdone. The writing could've been better, some of the lines were pathetic, the plot needed revisions, and you don't give someone an identifying feature over everyone else then kill them off with a half hour left! It wasn't really worth the $7.50 weekend matinee ticket cost, even with ECO (the character development was lacking and his screaming didn't work for a horror movie - he's better in comedy or a bit of drama).

Today wasn't a good day either. 11 hours of sleep last night should've helped, but it really didn't. My body is screaming that it's starving but I think my stomach and intestines are actually cussing at me - they don't want ANYTHING. Even many of my go-to foods are not being appreciated. I'm craving everything fried, greasy, and melty, but I can't have any of it. Just 3 more days - I have to hang in there! Right now I'm thankful for my DVR so I can avoid as many commercials as possible because food commercials might just do me in.

To my Dean - your support is holding me up right now. I can't thank you enough for that.


Bad evening - 4 days til Mayo.

Friday, October 14, 2011

I got a massage tonight. This time it wasn't an attempt to make my digestive system start working again, it was just to try to get some of the poison out of my muscles that's built up from this past week of having my intestines not working (food rotting inside body, intestines absorb the rotting material which acts like poison). When I was standing at the front desk talking to the ladies I could totally feel the poison moving around (you totally don't want to know how that felt!) so I hung around a bit until I felt better. I got home, made my 'I can't eat solid food' smoothie, and couldn't get it all down before my stomach started rejecting it. I held it down as I started craving almost every single food I can no longer have all at the same time. I AM SO HUNGRY! But when I can't even get down the most basic version of my smoothie I'm in desperate trouble. So I'm finishing off the night with several cups of hot chicken broth. I'm seriously freezing cold (yes I have the heat on) and needed the internal warmth, but I won't be able to get down soup, so broth will have to do.

In a way it's a good thing I'm this bad right now, as I only have a few more days until my initial Mayo appointment. Walking in there and saying how bad I am right now should be good for my case, yet if I get worse I'm not sure how I'm going to make the drive. Plus when it gets this bad, the pain throughout my body just gets so difficult to bear.

I am fighting and will continue to fight. I have no choice, right? I will fight this condition and fight to find someone who is willing and able to help me. I just want to be able to eat food again without pain, problems, and malnutrition!

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GUTHRIESM 10/16/2011 10:14PM

    I hope you can at least plateau so you can safely get to your appointment and future ones! I know what you mean about drinking hot stuff to take the inside chill even with the heat on. Wishing you the best.

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ANDREWS_MOM 10/16/2011 5:23PM

    You're in my thoughts & prayers. I feel so bad because I know what you're going through. It's a terrible way to have to live. I soooo hope that you find someone at Mayo who is able to give you the help you need. You are definateley going to the best place.

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LIVINHEALTHY9 10/15/2011 9:16PM

    I can't imagine what you go through or how you deal with it, but I am keeping you in my thoughts and hoping you will get some much needed answers soon.

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MOM2ACAT 10/15/2011 4:05PM

    emoticon Keeping you in my prayers that you will be well enough to make the drive, and that they will be able to help you once you get there.

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MANDI99P 10/14/2011 11:55PM

    I'm sorry that you had such a bad night. I wish I could so something for you, but I can't so i will do the only thing that I can do. I will be here for you. You will get through this I know you will. You are a fighter and I am so proud of you for that. I don't know physically what you are going through, but I want to understand. Where can I go to learn more about it? The only thing I can kind of link it to personally is when I had really bad ulcers and there was so much I couldn't eat because it would make me sick. I know its nothing like what you are going through, but I know how horrible that was. Just keep your head up, and keep fighting till those doctors listen. I know you will find one that will.


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