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Friday, July 13, 2012

My new background picture. I figured I needed a little something extra to keep me motivated. We are going on a southern caribbean cruise the first week of October. I want to feel good in sundresses, tank tops/shorts, and the not so forgiving emoticon!!!

Running has been good this week. I've got in 3-4 miles every morning, three miles of walking over the lunch hour and Body Revolution at night. My WW points have been on track, too! All is good.

Reading "Younger Next Year for Women" thanks to Nancy (NANHBH) and it's making me think of my Next Third in a whole new light. Check it out! You'll be glad you did!

Dad is home from skilled nursing care and doing well so far. We skipped assisted living. It's all or nothing now. Either he does well or he doesn't. His choice. Mom is healing.

Randy still hasn't joined me, so I continue to workout by myself. I'm used to it though. I've done it the last 25 years pretty much on my own. It's just nice to have a workout buddy, you know? He'll come around soon or later. I always ask him if he wants to join me. He says no and I say okay.

Basically, I'm feeling good. I haven't felt this good in a very long time. I hope it lasts throughout my Next Third and beyond.

Have a great weekend everyone! ...and I'm off! emoticon

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    A bikini in the caribbean can't mean you have slacked off girlie! You are a hot mama! Happy birthday!!!! emoticon sexy hot mama (that's YOU!)

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DANE02 7/17/2012 12:44PM

    Sounds like all is going well and love the new profile picture! Keep up the strong work...October will be here before you know it
Wish you much success

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NANHBH 7/14/2012 1:07AM


You're gonna rock that bikini in the Caribbean! Thanks for the info on the Nordic machine. I will definitely look into that.

So glad you are enjoying the book. Isn't it good? I got through a couple of chapters this morning. It's very similar to the men's book, but not as much tough guy talk - so far. Let me know what something really stands out for you, or rings your bell!

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ELLIE381 7/13/2012 6:15PM

    You are doing so well. Great job on the exercise. Wow!
So happy to hear you are happy also. Enjoy! emoticon emoticon

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SKINNYPOWELL1 7/13/2012 3:45PM

    So glad to hear you with such a cheery attitude, I'm happy you're happy. And you are doing so great with your running and workouts. You are rocking it my girl and you are gonna look great in the "unmentionable".
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Sometimes life is just overwhelming.

Tuesday, June 26, 2012

My life is overwhelming. I thought it was rough before, but now it's the worst. My honey and I are arguing and discussing what we really want anymore. It doesn't seem like we want the same thing. We've been married 25 years, dated for over 30 years, and now that we are "empty nesters", we have troubles? Who would have known? Not me! It could just be the stress of son trying to "find himself", dad in limbo between skilled nursing care and assisted living, mom in nursing home with MS, husband not feeling good and not wanting to do anything with me anymore. I want to work out and eat clean. He wants to sit on the couch and have a drink every night. He now has high blood pressure, gained a few pounds around the belly and is tired all the time. Hello!?!?! You need to exercise with me. It will make you feel better. It's not what he eats that makes him gain weight either. It's the alcohol and sugar. If he'd just quit or cut back, the belly would just fall off him. (It kind of appeared out of nowhere. He's always been "thin". Maybe it's the upper 40 thing. Anyway, it's happened.)

I keep telling myself to let it all go. Stop worrying about everyone else. They are all adults and can make their own decisions. I have always tried to help everyone else and put them first. Right now all I want to do is run away. Run like Forrest Gump. Run long and far and don't look back.

I'll get through this. Life will turn around -- one way or the other. All the other stuff going on my life I can deal with, but when my honey and I are having troubles, it scares me. We always do everything together. We appear to everyone else to have the "perfect" marriage. If we start drifting apart, I don't know what I'll do. He has been my rock through all of life's trials and tribulations. I need him. I love him. I told him that this morning, but he didn't say much. He's not talking to me. At least I let him know how I feel. I'm worried about his health and us not living out our "good years" together. I need to stop thinking so hard.

Life is just that...life. Ups and downs. Good and bad. It's just down and bad right now. I'm hoping he comes around and sees how much I love him. All the other "stuff" will just have to take care of itself. I'm not going to worry about anything else but my marriage right now. It's top priority. Well, that and my workouts. They are what keep me sane!!!

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TRAINER_T 6/27/2012 4:50PM

    Wow, Sherry you have got a lot of support here! :-)

I'm sorry this is a rough patch with DH and agree with everyone here, pray first and then put your marriage and your health next. I can't relate to empty nesters or this long of a relationship, I have never lasted over 8 years with a man. (And its always been just me and him no kids involved)

But what I do know is men, plenty of them. They are so compartmental with the way they think. Its as if each area is one thing, so remember he may be in a different compartment such as thinking about work, finance, or whatever and since he knows your there he may not know what to say so better to say nothing. (men)

We women are all over the place, as nesters we love our home happy and when something is out of place, people or whatever we work hard to get it the way it should be. Sometimes this comes as prying or nagging.

Give him his space, but keep the line of communcation open. He could be stressed and not wanting to work on himself or talk it out right now. (didn't you just build a new big $$$ house?) Maybe he feels he can't please you, or himself.

I agree to try to find some little things you can do together to bond, take a class or make something like stained glass, pottery (glazed and confused) or do puzzles or play board games or cards over coffee. I like a once a month date night, go mini golfing, or hit some golf balls at the range, or go to a rec room then to dinner or a picnik.

Maybe tuck a small note in his pocket that says "Your my best friend" or just a smile face or heart. Then let it go, and let him come to you when he is ready to talk he will talk. Stay light hearted, commited and open, keep praying and work on really looking at what your doing too. (we all know you are perfect *smiles)

If its one thing I have learned in almost 50 years is you got to work on yourself because you CAN'T CHANGE ANYONE but you. A great movie or book is Fireproof, I love it (Christian book store or google).......but no matter what let him know you love him and you do have his back.

Don't know if any of this helps, but its my 2 cents worth.... (I need to write a book ha ha)

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JOHNSONZ 6/26/2012 8:29PM

    Mark & I are at 27 this year & we have gone thru the same stuff. It is pretty normal. Just keep the communication open.

My hubby lives downstairs in his mancave - watches all those Ax man, swamp people, yada yada shows. I have my shows. So we are separated a lot in evenings. I try to go down but can only tolerate so many of them - plus he bounces around. He has hobbies. I feel like I have none. His hobbies are building motors & motorcycles. Eh, not for me. I have no clue what I want to do.

Funny, my hubby is like yours except I want that beer, and he wants to just lie on couch & snack. But I want to go to local pub & dance (not even 1/2 mile away..we can take a taxi for $5.00) Live bands, but he wants to stay home. I want to go on walks & he says find your friends. Even sex is different. He'd rather sleep ..grrr.

Also - I want to travel. He thinks it is a waste of money.
I miss our son often & want to bring him home from California for weekends.
He says "He was just here - let him get his bills paid up".

Just know you are not alone. Its not that the love is gone.
I think its common to go thru this.
Doesn't make it any easier...

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ELLIE381 6/26/2012 2:01PM

    It is very hard. We are still not empty nesters but my hd has been a retired person for 3 years. I was a stay at home mom who never went back to work so we are now at home all the time together. It was hard at first but I have found that I still go to the gym just much earlier so we can spend the day together and I now go to a quilting group one day a week which I would not have done when he was working. You do things for you but it still needs to be a together time when together. Think about small things you can do together that you each can enjoy. My hd doesn't like to exercise but I do, he doesn't eat like I do (but he respects my way of eating) but we find just going out for coffee/tea together, almost everyday, something we can do together where we talk more than if we were at home. Think of the small things and try not to worry about the little things (from the biggest worrier out there) its not easy. But it is worth it. Good luck. emoticon emoticon

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NANHBH 6/26/2012 12:40PM


I am so sorry that you and hubby are having a tough time. I'm glad that you were able to express your feelings to him this morning. Who knows what goes on in the minds of men, but hopefully he'll come home with a different view on things knowing that you've "got his back." He may be moody about something totally unrelated to you (or not), but we always feel that we can "let our hair down" around the ones we love the most. Your are right to put your marriage and your health first. Have you heard about Marriage Encounter? Do you think he would be willing to attend something like that? I have heard that it does wonders for marriages.

I know that you want nothing but the best for your family. Sometimes, it's not what we say, but how we say it that hurts someone. Your hubby may see your "reminding" him about his health as nagging or mothering him. You know what to do - Let go, and let God. Take your concerns to God in prayer - and leave them in His capable hands. We can't do for others what they must do for themselves. Your level of peace and serenity are inversely proportional to your expectations of your hubby, son, dad, and mom.

Holding you and your entire family in my thoughts and prayers.
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SKINNYPOWELL1 6/26/2012 11:09AM

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I am in the same boat as you - empty nesters now sitting and staring at each other, wondering what to do next. Exactly the same thing, exactly.

I'm still trying to figure it all out, but not over-thinking it. Don't over think right now, just go with the flow.

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Body Revolution Workout #1 done and what's up.

Tuesday, June 05, 2012

I have started Body Revolution over...again. June is a new month. I'm hoping the stress level will be down a notch or two. We have our cruise the first week of October. I am hoping to finish Body Revolution by Labor Day and be down inches and 25 lbs. It's only 2 lbs. a week and completely doable. Especially if I keep to the Paleo lifestyle! In the past, I looked pretty darned fit at 135 lbs, so it's my goal. Plus, I'll be turning 47 on the last day of the cruise. What a present to myself! I even thought about trying Insanity after Body Revolution. Who would have thought???

On the homefront, mom's fractured shoulder isn't healing. It's been five weeks and she is still in a lot of pain, has headaches and upset stomach most days. She is such a trooper and hardly complains. God love her! Dad has been in the nursing home now 10 days. He's worse than he was before he went into the hospital. I'm not so sure he'll come out of it this time. We have a care assessment meeting this afternoon and will discuss a plan. Our ultimate goal is to get him independent again. If that doesn't happen, at least to assisted living. If that doesn't happen, it will be the health care unit like mom. Not good. I can't believe I have two parents in their mid-60s in a nursing facility. Mom because of MS and dad because of liver disease. At least I know they are both in good hands and safe.

I'm going to have a great week! Jillian and the incline trainer in the mornings, walking three miles at lunch, and Body Revolution at night. No sugar, no flour, no dairy and no legumes. I CAN DO IT!!!! emoticon

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SACHABEE 6/5/2012 9:12PM

    You can do it! I am in a similar situation with family members in the hospital. Keep working out and it will help you manage the stress. emoticon

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NANHBH 6/5/2012 12:55PM


Thank you for the update on your parents. It is so hard to believe, in this day and age of medical advancements, that both of your parents are this critical this young. I continue to hold them - and you - in my thoughts and prayers.

Stress can do nasty things to our weight loss efforts. I hope that your stress level is "down a notch or two." You are gonna ROCK that cruise in a bikini! I can see it now.

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SKINNYPOWELL1 6/5/2012 11:00AM

    Glad your stress level has been downgraded to Defcon 5 now, woo hoo. Now bust out that Body Revolution and get that cruise body you want. I know you can do it. YOU ROCK.

emoticonGo Sherry Go !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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ELLIE381 6/5/2012 9:33AM

    I hope the stress is less soon. You are doing a great job on the exercise WooHoo!
You are emoticon

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TRAINER_T 6/5/2012 9:31AM

    My heart goes out to you girl, I know this is a tough time but you are like your mom a trooper!!!

I know you can do this......you got it girl, 2lbs a week is doable if you keep your food clean which I know you will hot stuff!!!

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-AMANDA79- 6/5/2012 9:17AM

    Sorry to hear about your parents. I know that is very stressful.

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I have a 21-year old son! OMG!

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

The day has come. My son is 21! I can't believe it. I'm proud of the "man" he has become. He's come a long way since he graduated from high school. He's learned A LOT about life and some of it has been hard, but it's made him a smarter person because of it. Heck. I'm still learning. You never stop learning, right? We're going out tonight with some of his friends. There aren't many kids who would go out with their parents and friends on their 21st birthday, but we have such a great relationship that it works and I'm thankful. If there is one thing I did right the last 21 years, it's keep our communication open and he'll talk to me about anything and everything. SOMETIMES WAY MORE THAN I WANT TO KNOW!!! emoticon

My stress level has come down since dad went to the hospital yesterday. My honey and I enjoyed a quiet evening last night. Amazing. I'll visit dad at lunch today and see how he's coming along.

Thank you SparkFriends for all your support and prayers. emoticon It means a lot to me.

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LILSUNFLOWER 5/30/2012 2:43PM

    Congratulations on your son's 21st birthday.
Enjoy each stage of his life.
My son turns 40 next year! OMG! Where has the time gone. It is a joy to see him all grown up: a loving husband and the father of my 3 grandsons.
I hope a reasonable status quo has settled on your household and your dad is stable.you have had more than your share of heart ache.
Have a great day.

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TRAINER_T 5/23/2012 9:46AM

    Awwww you still look and act younger then YOU are so congrats!!!

I am happy you are a great communicator for him, you are a super mom and never forget that. Nice that you got some quality time with DH and no stress.......I hope dad is doing great in his new environment.

PROUD mama you are!
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    Glad you're feeling better! :)

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BANKIEGRACE 5/22/2012 9:44PM

    Glad to hear that you are feeling better! You know, I spent my 21st birthday with my parents and it's still one of my favorite birthdays I've ever had. :) Definitely shows that your family has a special relationship. Have a fantastic time!

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ELLIE381 5/22/2012 8:27PM

    Woo Hoo! Happy Birthday to your son!

So happy for you and your family that your stress level has lessoned.
My thoughts and prayers are always with you. emoticon

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NANHBH 5/22/2012 12:50PM


I can tell you are a great mom -- look how great of a daughter you are! A quiet evening at home with your hubby is how your life should be. You have given your all to your dad. It's time for you to give to yourself now. Enjoy this peaceful time. This, too, shall pass.

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-AMANDA79- 5/22/2012 10:26AM

    Ya'll going to the strip club? :)
Just kidding, have fun!

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EILEENNP 5/22/2012 9:36AM

    Congratulations - you must have done a great job raising your son.

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SKINNYPOWELL1 5/22/2012 9:36AM

    Glad your stress level has been lowered to DEFCON 5, now enjoy the birthday celebrations. You are so blessed to have a great relationship with your son. And BTW, you don't look old enough to have a 21 year old son. emoticon

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Hoping for a better week - Dad in hospital.

Monday, May 21, 2012

I took dad to the hospital this morning. He has been falling 3-4 times a day the last week and yesterday he had a bad one where his back looked like someone took a baseball bat to him. He finally decided to give in and get help. They think it will be 4-5 days, but we'll know more after blood work and x-rays. He will then have sub-acute care for 2-3 weeks. Time will tell. His liver may be too far gone and we'll go the hospice route. It was easier taking him this time. He wasn't fighting me.

Tomorrow is my son's 21st birthday. I can't believe it! We are taking him to a Japanese restaurant and then to a casino. It's not Vegas, but we'll go when his friends are 21 later in the year. I love Vegas. Not just the gambling, but the shows, sights and dining. The weather is almost always sunny. I couldn't believe he actually wanted to celebrate with his parents. Oh, he is bringing two of his roommates, so there will be five of us. I hope it's a good time.

I've been stressed out to the max the last few weeks. I finally broke down and cried all by myself. Went for a stress reducing walk late last night alone and hit the incline trainer with Jillian at 5 am. All better. emoticon

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KFAYJAY 5/23/2012 11:18PM

    So sorry to hear that Sherry. Stay strong and keep ur head up.

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LILSUNFLOWER 5/22/2012 8:29AM

    Sometimes the only thing you can do is cry.

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NANHBH 5/21/2012 10:06PM


I wish I could be there in person to give you a big hug. I am so sorry for all the stress you are under with your dad. I'm glad that you can get out to celebrate with your son tonight. Hard to believe you have a 21 year old!
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    It's so hard to see a close family member go through things like this. I went through it with both my grandparents but thankfully not my Mom yet. Since my Dad died before I turned 2, I don't remember it. Hang in there and I hope things get better soon.

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TRAINER_T 5/21/2012 5:11PM

    I know this is so hard, and it sounds like he is going to be ready to do what you need him to do. My mom fought to the very end and I know I will too, who wants to give up independence???

Its going to be just fine as long as he knows you love and care for him.

As for your son, well have fun celebrating ........ you don't look old enough to have a 21 year old ;-)

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ELLIE381 5/21/2012 3:28PM

    I am sorry to hear of the things going on in your life. It will be nice to celebrate your son's birthday! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. emoticon

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SKINNYPOWELL1 5/21/2012 2:32PM

    Glad dad went willingly this time. Hope you have fun with your son for his 21st birthday, sounds like you will have a great time. emoticon

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BANKIEGRACE 5/21/2012 1:44PM

    So sorry to hear about your dad. I can imagine how stressed and worried you must be. I hope he receives some good medical care that can at least give him more comfort. It's good to let it all out and give yourself the chance to cry from time to time, keeping it bottled up will only make you feel first. I'm glad to hear JM helped you feel better, too.

Whoo-hoo for your son's 21st birthday! I hope you all have a good time. :)

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