Tuesday, November 16, 2010
accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can and
the wisdom to know the difference.
Oh yes, my mantra for today.
Change is such a difficult thing in life to handle but there are times when the changes we make help us live a healthier life and enhances our quality of life. These are the kind of changes that we need to focus on. It certainly takes courage to admit a change needs to be made and actually make that journey of change.
There are things we cannot change . . . like how tall we are, for example. I distinctly remember when I was much younger wishing I was taller (I am 4 ft. 10-1/2 " and come from a family where my parents are tall and my brother . . . I felt like I didn't "fit in". Finally, my Mom said to me, "You know, good things come in small packages. And wouldn't it be a boring existence if everyone were exactly the same." So, that stuck with me. I have learned to appreciate my stature and work with it! Can't change it! Acceptance makes life so much more fulfilling.
As for the wisdom to know the difference . . . well, I guess that happens as we live our life, mature, grow and experience life. As I get older I realize there are those things in life that just are not going to change, so I chose to focus on those I can and be happy!!
Hope you all have a terrific Tuesday.
Saturday, November 13, 2010
last night is the first "big" social event DH and I have attended since my weight loss. Some of the people I met haven't seen me since last year. OK, LOTS of changes in my appearance since then to be sure . . . you know, weight loss does that. LOL One person said, "Did you grow your hair out?" (Well, no . . . actually my hair right now is really thin due to my thyroid problem . . . fortunately it is getting better, but my hair DEFINITELY isn't longer!). Another said, "Don't lose any more weight." Well, good gravy, I was in the OBESE category and am firmly now planted in the HEALTHY category, so I'm happy right where I'm at! That was what my thoughts were, but I just said, "No, I am not going to lose any more."
I just started thinking about body image and how our perception can be so different than what others see us as. And it reminded me to just be in the mind set of gratitude for having this healthy lifestyle vs. the "fatitude" I had before . . . you know . . . feeling embarassed about how you look, pinning your "self esteem" on the thoughts others have of you . . . all that kind of thing.
I am very happy with me. I LOVE me! That's part and parcel of why I have been able to get healthier.
So, that's my story of yesterday's social event. Oh, and I tried that trick of eating some soup before we went out. Worked like a charm! Basically the food served was pretty unhealthy (tacos, pizza, potatoes) but I figured for teens birthday party that's what it was going to be. So, with the soup that fueled me, I was able to resist eating unhealthy. They DID have fuit so I had a few pieces of that and was good to go. The other thing I did was drink club soda with a twist of lime. GOOD! There was no alcohol served (YEAH!) but lots of sodas (again, figured that would be with teens) so the club soda worked well.
That's my tale. Now I know I can make the right choices in social situations. Yeah!
Thursday, November 11, 2010
"Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn't learn a lot today, at least we learned a little. And if we didn't learn a little, at least we didn't get sick. And if we got sick, at least we didn't die. So let us all be thankful." Buddha
That's right! The attitude of gratitude really permeates every facet of our lives if we adopt that attitude!
I am so grateful for my family. My parents have always been supportive. We may not have had lots of material riches growing up but we had LOTS of love. That's what carries through your life.
I am glad for the lessons I've learned throughout my life. Some have not been easy lessons for sure, but lessons none-the-less. These lessons have taught me one huge lesson: when things are rough we can either chose to wallow in it or decide what there is to learn from the difficulty and apply t hat lesson to make life better.
Indirectly my dear brother taught me that lesson. He passed away on Feb. 8, 1982, which happened to be his birthday. He had health issues but absolutely never let that stop him. So when he passed away I really determined that the best way to honor him was to continue learning in life. Don't feel sorry for myself . . . learn and move on. So that's what I've done.
I am grateful for my home, neighborhood, having enough to eat, having clothes to wear and that DH has a job which he loves. These are all things that make me happy i my day.
What are YOU grateful for today??
Thursday, November 04, 2010
I had been feeling kind of blue because on Tuesday DH and I learned that our son, working 2 jobs to afford an apartment, a car and the "toys" he wants but can ill afford, lost job #2. Seems that he fell in the freezer and filed workers comp. HMMMM...he says that's why they let him go. I can't say I believe that explanation, but HE has to deal with it. He says he's going to look for a 2nd job and I wish him luck.
Anyway, yesterday that's all I could think about. But I walked 12 miles (YUP! Looked at the pedometer and my eyes were surprised! Well, I guess I needed to do that to clear my head, becasue today I feel muc less stressed.
Tomorrow is my 22nd wedding anniversary1 Wow, that's part of what I was thinking about on my walk yesterday, too. I am so very lucky to have met and married an intelligent, kind, caring, sometimes annoying! (well, I am annoying too, so we balance each other out! LOL) man who makes me laugh. I guess I have my parents to thank for their wondful example of what marriage is supposed to be about! They've been married 57 years!
So, I have really been reflecting on how lucky I am to have the life I have and hope someday when my daughter gets married (if she does) that she finds just the right person as I have.
I am not going to say it is always a bed of roses, because there are always compromises to be made, changes to be made . . . but after 22 years you learn how to do that!
We all have to look for the things in our lives to be thankful for! That makes life so much better.
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