Thursday, June 04, 2009
It's the hardest habit to kick.
The reason is obvious. We really do need food. It's not just in our imagination.
If you tell an alcoholic she can drink, but just do it in moderation, people will think you're really dumb or really cruel.
Instead, we tell alcoholics to get rid of every drop of alcohol in their house, in their life. Clean out all their stashes. Stay away from people and places that have alcohol. Remove it from their life completely. Why?
Because MODERATION is really hard. It's almost impossible to practice every single minute for the rest of your life.
Yet that is what we are expected to do with food. That is what we HAVE TO DO with food.
We can't remove it from our life altogether, can we? People are always shoving it under our noses. You can't watch 10 minutes of tv without seeing food. You can hardly go to any gathering of any amount of people where there is not food served. And, oh yeah, we need it to live.
You can't quit food cold turkey. (Does that make you want a turkey sandwich? Even our language is full of food.)
So why am I even talking about something that sounds so futile?
The answer is that because it's so hard to control a habit with moderation, we have to be a bit more realistic with ourselves.
We cannot let a relapse become FAILURE. We can't look at it as failure. It's just life. It's going to happen. We have to control our reaction to it.
We have to return to our program or plan IMMEDIATELY. Not tomorrow because we've blown today. Not on Monday because we've blown this week. Not on the first because we've blown this month.
We have that all or nothing viewpoint because we do count it as failure. It's just reality and we have to just keep on going.
This is for everyone who gave in to overeating this week. Including me.