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Friday, May 25, 2012

That was the name of the text my DIL sent me recently. It was about my son Danny and my 8 yr. old Granddaughter, Sydney:

"Pure Love! I came downstairs last night just before bed and found Danny letting Sydney paint his nails with clear polish!"

LOL. I could hardly believe it. My 6'1", strong, conservative Federal Agent son, letting anyone paint his nails with anything!

I WISH I could have heard the conversation that took place just before, emoticon

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SILLYHP1953 6/7/2012 9:15AM

    That is a good father!!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 5/26/2012 11:13PM

    LOL!! We certainly know who is in charge. LOL.

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ZEEDRA 5/26/2012 8:58PM

    The relationship between daughter and father can be so special when the father is able to open up to it. Your son obviously has. I know you are proud of him...a new dimension, for sure, and very sweet.

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VINGRAM 5/26/2012 5:40PM

    How sweet! emoticon

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ACIMPEGGY 5/25/2012 9:37PM

    I'd love to see a photo of this!

Great job being a daddy. And definitely PURE LOVE!

Have a great weekend, Karen.


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WOUBBIE 5/25/2012 8:40PM

    Glad I clicked on your blog! This made me smile!

It reminds me of the big jock I used to work with whose daughter managed to get him to play dolls. (He did insist that it had to be a boy doll, though - GI Joe or an action figure of some kind! LOL!)

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PJSTIME 5/25/2012 7:40PM

    That would have been a good conversation and an even better picture.

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KAYYVAUGHN 5/25/2012 4:37PM

    Danny must love his son to have painted nails. That's sweet and funny.

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Are you a Caregiver for the Elderly?

Tuesday, May 15, 2012


Many of you remember me blogging about my mother. My sons and I moved her here in our area so we could help her more as she aged. She is now 89 and legally blind and staunchly independent! She lives in a nice apartment about 15 minutes from me. It's government housing but really breaks the mold of the stereotype of low income housing.

She has a living room, kitchen, bedroom and bath in a complex full of old oak trees. Lots of front porch living there, with shade and a breeze. This is important in Texas!

She is across the street from the local Senior Center, where she can get $2.00 meals if she wants, or watch a movie, socialize, exercise or just hang out in the air conditioning.

Last October she fell while crossing the street and subsequently spent a week in the hospital and 10 days in a nursing home - against her will, I might add! We then discovered that her Medicaid had lapsed. Evidently she ignored some paperwork and/or phone calls and didn't get her periodic evaluation. This resulted in about a $100 decrease in her monthly check AND Medicaid did not pick up what was left after Medicare paid her hospital bills.

I'll spare you the details of the strife and angst and frustration of trying to get her re-instated. I just want to say that after praying hard for help, I found an angel disguised as an Ombudsman for the Area Agency on Aging. Sue made home visits, took over the horrible paperwork, found the right person to deal with and succeeded in getting my mother's benefits restored, as well as getting her some additional ones. I feel blessed to have found this woman.

My relief is so great and I am so thankful, I have included a link at the top of the page that gives you a starting point to find assistance for the elderly in your family, and relief for YOU if you are helping an elderly person get through life.

There is a link for almost every state. Start at the one nearest you and ask questions. Someone will be able to give you some guidance.

Anyone who has ever been even a part-time caregiver for any adult is under great stress. We seem more geared to caring for children than we do adults. (Adults talk back a lot, lol.) The physical and emotional impact is often not realized, even by the caregiver, until it builds to unmanageable proportions. These caregivers need some CARE! I'm hoping there is an Area Agency on Aging (AAA) that will help you or someone you know.


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STILLHAVEIT 6/14/2012 10:02PM

    My Mom is 92 and she lives in CA and I live in TX. Very difficult situation. I wish so much she would move nearby. Since she won't, I pray God grants her the peace to pass quietly in her own home. I go out every 3 months to make sure things are going well and, of course, talk to her daily. So happy things are going well with your Mom.

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SILLYHP1953 5/23/2012 12:31PM

    I'm glad you found the help you needed. And thanks for that link. My mother is 81 with the beginnings of dementia and still living by herself for now.

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SAMMIESMOM13 5/17/2012 10:25AM

    Karen, I can so relate to this and THANK you for the link. I will be checking that out. I try and help my dad out with my mom, as you know it IS stressful. I worry about him almost more than mom. I'm afraid it is going to take him- he won't admit it but there are HUGE visible signs of the terrible stress on him. I go down each week to help out and give him time off, and take her home about 5 days a month too. But that just isn't enough. This is such a difficult thing to deal with. And YES, they DO talk back! LOL- a mom gets VERY irritated when her "child" is telling her what to do! I find myself being a "mom" again with her.

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FISHINGLADY66 5/15/2012 10:56PM

    Thanks so much Karen. I heard about this much too late for my dear mother. (RIP). I am so grateful that you found out and did what your mother needed done. Bless you dear friend. ((Hugs))

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DGAIL51 5/15/2012 8:21PM

    Good information. Most of us are facing or going to face this circumstance. My mom is almost 80 and still at home, but is nearly deaf. She manages so far with the sometimes help of her not so helpful grandson who lives with her, but mostly because one of my sisters lives near her & takes care of the grocery & doctor trips. She is very, very stubborn so I do dread the day she will need more help. I live 2 hours away, so I cannot do the day to day things, but help financially with her personal needs.


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ZEEDRA 5/15/2012 5:58PM

I'm so glad you found the right help; I remember your story. Thanks for sharing the link.

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    We go through something similar with my BIL who is a schizophrenic. It's a nightmare so I know exactly what you mean.

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JKURJACK1944 5/15/2012 1:14PM

    Thank you for this link Karen. My husband's brother is being discharged from the hospital soon and he is going to need financial as well as medical help for the next 6 weeks. I have been a care giver to my own mother in the past and know how stressful it can be. Thanks again for the link.

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ALISHAB3 5/15/2012 10:05AM

    Adults do talk back a lot and they expect you to kow tow to what they think, of course, they may not know what year it is or be able to prioritize whats important (medicaid comes to mind and so does following their doctor prescribed diets (mine won't follow his low purine diet for his gout.) Its tricky. Your Angel was a G-d send!!

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NELLJONES 5/15/2012 9:17AM

    My mother is 85 and moving into dementia. I took over paying her bills for this very reason. She didn't like it at first, but I give her detailed financial reports (which she doesn't understand) and it makes her feel like she is still in control. As we have found out, it's really hard watching someone you love age, someone who used to be so in control, but it won't get any better, so we have to make the best of it. One day, alas, it will be over and I want to be able to look back and know I did all I could do. And one day this will be us. I hope I can manage my old age with better grace than Mom.

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GABY1948 5/15/2012 7:51AM

    Karen, so glad you wrote about Mom, I have OFTEN wondered about her. This is an awesome blog. And yes, you are SO right about the caregiver of an elderly parent. I had my mother to care for for 7 years after dad died. That is some REAL stress.

I am so thankful that she is as good as she is...and that you are too! God Bless you! Gaye

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--KREN 5/15/2012 7:28AM

    Kay, We keep sending Home Health Care workers to her and she keeps firing them. She let one come see her twice a week for 3 weeks - a record!

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KAYYVAUGHN 5/15/2012 7:25AM

    Thanks for the information. Mother is 89 and is really having more health issues. She still lives at home, and has caregivers Monday-Thursday for 5 hours. She refused one on Fridays. I do have 2 brothers nearby. They are doing better about checking on her since they now realize her serious condition.

Thanks for the information, and I will keep your mom's situation in my prayers.

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PJSTIME 5/15/2012 6:43AM

    I know what you are talking about all to well. Thanks Karen I'll check it out a little later.

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You OWE it. . .

Wednesday, April 04, 2012

to yourself to give yourself credit when you stay on plan.

Every healthy meal you eat is a gift to your body!

A gift your body would not have received if you had not TRIED to stick with a healthy meal plan.

So if you go OFF track, remember the times you were ON track, the gifts you've given your body in the past, and the gifts you will continue to TRY to give it in the future.

You deserve a pat on the back when you eat in a healthy way. You tend to give yourself a very hard time and feel discouraged when you don't eat in a healthy way, so when you do -

CELEBRATE IT! Throw a parade, lol! Praise yourself the way you would praise a friend or your child. Make it FUN. And remember that feeling when you're tempted again.

It's like a random act of kindness. It leaves it's mark. Nothing erases it.
Love yourSelf.


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JUDY1676 4/4/2012 10:31PM

    emoticon that is wonderful advice! Thanks for sharing!

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    I love the way you think. We tend to only see our faults and not praise the good. We are often good, not really bad that often and we deserve to love ourselves.

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ZEEDRA 4/4/2012 12:24PM

    Thanks, Karen. Words of wisdom. Why do we think it's so "honest" when we confess our faults or beat ourselves up inside? It's NOT honest, at least not accurate, because it leaves out the good stuff we do, as your blog reminds us.
Very timely.

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GABY1948 4/4/2012 11:14AM

    Karen, you KNOW how much I love your blogs! I miss them so whenyou don't do one but that is what makes each one more special. With all that is going on with DS I find I don't think too much about food now as long as I stay busy....but I really needed this blog because this is also one that reminds me that DS will have to do things extremely healthy also...
Have a WONDERFUL day, my friend! Hugs, Gaye

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SILLYHP1953 4/4/2012 10:57AM

    The next time I walk around the building at work (one time around equals 2/10s of a mile) I'm going to pretend I'm in my parade!

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FISHINGLADY66 4/4/2012 9:59AM

    We do owe it to our bodies to eat healthy. It's the only body we have, so we need to take care of it. Thanks for the pep talk and the motivation Karen. Your the emoticon
Have a wonderful Day eating healthy.

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BELTONWALKER67 4/4/2012 8:44AM

    Oh Yes! Having fun on this journey keeps you on track. Each day is a new opportunity to become more healthy. Thank you for this reminder. emoticon

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GAILRUU 4/4/2012 8:42AM

    Great food for thought!

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KAYYVAUGHN 4/4/2012 7:57AM

    Your blog is a great reminder to me. I have eaten 2 unhealthy meals lately. It shows even though I have exercises. Eating healthy is the way to go.
I have begun to treat myself when I do well.

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CCBULLDOG 4/4/2012 7:54AM

    What a great point. Thanks for posting this blog. It's always wonderful to be reminded. emoticon Have a great spark-day!

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PJSTIME 4/4/2012 7:50AM

    Be good to ourselves and don't be too hard if we slip but remember NEVER GIVE UP.
Great blog my friend.

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AZMOMXTWO 4/4/2012 7:45AM

  Yea I agree

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Can't remember where you put your keys?

Wednesday, March 28, 2012

Or the drink you had in your hand two minutes ago? Or your glasses? Or if you unplugged the iron, lowered the garage door, shut the windows? Or ? ? ? Whatever??

Chances are it's not your memory.

It's your ATTENTION!

Few of us live in the NOW, the PRESENT. We are always in the PAST - what just happened, what someone said yesterday, what someone did last week. OR, we're in the FUTURE - what I must do this afternoon, what I'll do this weekend.

We zoom right through the here and now, the Present, always focused on the Past and Future. Every now and then, stop and ask yourself, "What am I thinking about?" It is seldom what you're doing at the present moment. No wonder you don't remember it two minutes later.

Here's the cure: Start talking to yourself. Say - "I'm putting the keys by the lamp. I'm locking the door. I'm leaving my drink here by the books." You can say it to yourself, or you can say it out loud. But SAY IT. Make a complete sentence. A declaratory statement every time you do something. You WILL remember it later. Saying it locks you into the PRESENT, just for a moment, and it sticks in your mind.

Try it. After a while it becomes a habit. You may become known as the "One Who Talks To Herself", lol, but you'll also become known for your remarkable memory!

Worked for me!


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JUSTJO66 5/21/2012 3:14PM

    Hmmm, I'm already known as "the one who talks to herself". LOL
It does seem that we think alike. Even without knowing you wrote an
article on this...I wrote a poem for a contest. :o) Cool, isn't it.

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SILLYHP1953 4/3/2012 12:21PM

    Hmmm...very interesting. I talk to myself anyway, so that should just be a little added conversation.

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    Great advice. This is one of my major problems. Multitasking does not work. LOL.

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SIONED40 3/30/2012 6:34PM

  This is great.

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GABY1948 3/30/2012 6:36AM

    Karen, your posts are THE best! I needed this...I am going to copy it and send it in an email to myself. Thank you so much for being my friend! emoticon

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CHARLOTTE1947 3/28/2012 8:23PM

    Good grief! So many posts! Seems you touched a nerve. I try to put my glasses in the same place every time. If they're out of place, I can't see well enough to find them. Your suggestion is a good one.

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PJSTIME 3/28/2012 5:27PM

    I wil seriously give this a try. Thanks for the idea

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JUDY1676 3/28/2012 4:00PM

    I have found that helps me, too! It's just like when going shopping, I make a list and usually forget it but, because I wrote ot out, I remember what I had on the list!

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VINGRAM 3/28/2012 2:22PM

    emoticonI will try it! emoticonVista

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NAYPOOIE 3/28/2012 12:36PM

    Yeah, I could see that. I've lost two sets of paperwork in the past couple weeks, no idea what happened to them. Was able to replace one set from copies, had to redo the other. I certainly lost track of what I did with them, no idea when.

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NELLJONES 3/28/2012 11:32AM

    My father used to tell me to stop every once in awhile when walking to turn around and see what the trip looks like in the other direction. It looks totally different looking for your car in the parking lot than it does when walking in. It's all about paying attention.

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FISHINGLADY66 3/28/2012 11:07AM

    Well I guess I might say "You hit the nail on the head". LOL I never took the time to think about this. Now that you brought it to my attention, I can see it's very true. Thank you for always bringing me some incite to my dilemma's. ((Hugs))

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KAYYVAUGHN 3/28/2012 10:16AM

    Karen, it's worth a try. I lose my keys, phone, etc. It's getting bad.

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TUFFYBIRD 3/28/2012 9:55AM

    I do that and it really helps!

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ZEEDRA 3/28/2012 9:49AM

    Yes, I'd rather be "the one who talks to herself" than "the one who hasn't a clue".

I do what you describe all the time, i.e., talking to myself as I'm putting things down. It's become a game with me. I tell friends that at our age it's a mistake to get into certain kinds of habits that make our brains and bodies lazy. For instance, I play a game with myself when I take my hearing aids out at night. I never leave them in the same place but when I do leave them, I take a kind of mental snap shot (plus the talking to myself bit) and the next morning I try to go right to them. It does work! I generally find them well before lunchtime!

Of course, that could also mean that I NEED A LIFE!!! Ha!

A word of caution: this DOES NOT work with pens! I've tried many years to consciously leave pens where they are most likely to be needed, probably even talking to myself though perhaps using words that are not allowed on this site. One solution for which I had great hope was the purchase of a box of pens (and later on another and then another...). Well, I don't want to sound too other-worldly but we all must admit that these pens have a life and a will of their own and really prefer to congregate in one place. That place is NEVER by the phone.

Since this subject seems to have wound me up, I'll continue: As to being efficient in other areas which don't help our bodies: the remote control is a good example. For some time now my remote has only let me change channels. For turning off and on and adjusting the volume, I have to get up. I'm delaying getting this fixed. That's not totally true: a character in my building volunteered to help me THREE times but each time, after he left, something else was wrong with the TV/VCR/DVD system. So THEN I decided to delay getting it fixed, i.e., I've run out of options and have turned that around to "I'm being more healthy this way!". What's sand for if you can't stick your head in it once in a while?!

The forgetting I have no control over, i.e., searching for names, seems a bit of a lost cause. I can always find the name eventually but by then whoever I am talking to has probably gone home. Ha! I'm not worried about that and if a friend can't find something to do while I'm searching the whole alphabet, in whispers to myself, then maybe they are not good friends after all. Either that or they are practicing self-care and protecting their sanity. But, whatever, it's not a serious problem.

Well...I must go. I've lined up some interviews with some potential new friends!

Hugs, Sandra

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BELTONWALKER67 3/28/2012 9:22AM

    Oh, I feel so much better now! I thought it was a sign of me getting older. The more I think about it, this is so true. Seems my mind is always going to what I need to get done later or what I did yesterday and how to improve it. Great Topic! Gonna work on the here & now!

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WOUBBIE 3/28/2012 8:39AM

    Great topic and so true. It happens to me so often that I've actually learned to ask myself "Now, if I were me where would I have put/left the _____________?" o.O

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SUPERMOUSE35 3/28/2012 8:39AM

    Great idea, thanks.

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DAYDREAMER23 3/28/2012 8:28AM

  Yes, you are right and as we age its a reminder to slow down and be present in the moment.

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CATHY629 3/28/2012 8:28AM

    Will have to try that,i am always forgetting where i put my glasses.
A few weeks ago we were travelling to Alicante in Spain.we completed the first leg of our journey from the island to Manchester,then we dashed from terminal 3 to terminal 2 at manchester airport,arriving at the check in desk the girl asked "where are you travelling too" for a split second i just couldn't remember,i put it down to a senior moment,but it was probably with rushing about so much,at least thats what i hope it was lol!

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DGAIL51 3/28/2012 8:27AM

    I will try it! My memory has been the pits for a while now. Sometimes I think I have adult ADD.

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TOASTIE 3/28/2012 7:59AM

    This reminds me of a woman at the store last night lamenting that she couldn't remember where she left her cart.

You are so right -- I know when my mind hiccups a little that the root cause is that I have way too much zooming in my life.

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Saturday, March 10, 2012

If you read my previous blog entry, "Try This Simple Plan", you'll see what my goal has been concerning the food I eat.

I had my cholesterol checked in early December, and while it was within the "good" range", for ME it was higher than usual. So I began to do two things: AVOID SWEETS and cut down on starches.

Avoiding sweets was the most difficult and I worked at it the hardest. And succeeded. I haven't had anything that could be called "sweet" in so long that I never even think about it anymore.

I did manage to cut down on starches a little, maybe, by adding lots of raw veggies to my diet, but I still had bread and rice and pasta often.

What I did NOT do is worry about red meat or fat. I ate steak and roast and bar-b-qued pork ribs. I use real butter and sour cream. No margarine, nothing "lite" or low-fat.

I just had another cholesterol test and my TOTAL cholesterol has DROPPED FORTY-SEVEN POINTS! Yes, 47 points. In THREE month's time - Dec 9 to March 9.

My HDL went UP 14 points - HDL UP is good.
My LDL went DOWN 62 points - LDL DOWN is good.
My Triglycerides went DOWN 6 points. My trigs were so low anyway (56 then; 50 now) it really didn't matter.

My conclusion: Yes, it's true. Sugar is Evil, lol. Tastes soooo good, but doesn't do anything good for your body.

If you read some of my blogs from late last year to now, you'll see I've been doing a lot of reading about some cutting edge research and I'm convinced we've been fed some harmful information about fat and starch and sugar. But I'm not trying to push anyone to believe me, I'm just reporting the cold, clinical numbers.

AND, I'm smiling. A lot!


I'll bet no one has ever told you that you need a little more sugar in your diet, hmmm?

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    Getting rid of all the junky sugary foods really does make a difference. Congrats on the great lab results.

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KAYYVAUGHN 3/12/2012 1:50PM

    Karen, that is great. You need a TV show.

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DGAIL51 3/12/2012 11:11AM

    Wow! 47 pts in 4 months is huge! congratulations!!! Conquering sugar is no small feat.... no wonder you are smiling. emoticon emoticon

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ZEEDRA 3/12/2012 10:19AM

Good for you, Karen!!!

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FISHINGLADY66 3/10/2012 10:27PM

    emoticon I am not a sweet eater, never have been and have never had a problem with my cholesterol. I'm happy for you getting a grip on your sugar too. I know you feel better too. (((Hugs)))

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GABY1948 3/10/2012 5:31PM

    Karen, I know exactly what you are talking about...I think it is on my sparkpage when I first started spark the results of my tests....they had told me I was "diabetic" (the doctor now tells me I am NOT)...that is why my top 3 things are FIBER (and more than the 35 grams they advise, and WATER...I drink at least 16 glasses each day...and EXERCISE...if people would listen to you and I we would ALL be HEALTHY! GOOD for you! I have missed your blogs! HUGS, Gaye

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PJSTIME 3/10/2012 3:47PM

    That is terrific news for you. My sweet tooth still bothers me some:)

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DEMETERSCO 3/10/2012 3:22PM

    Terrific news!

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CEILIE2 3/10/2012 3:09PM

    emoticon emoticon
Well done!!

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EARLYBIRDM 3/10/2012 2:44PM

    Amazing! Good for you!

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VINGRAM 3/10/2012 2:38PM

    47 points?!?!?!? emoticon emoticon vista

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