Sunday, July 18, 2010
I'm seriously considering buying an ipad!
Started out looking at readers, again. Kindle, Nook, etc. Then my son suggested I get an ipad instead since it IS a reader and so much more.
I read that it doesn't support flash. Just wondering if anyone uses ipad to do their Sparking and what you think of it for that?
The real question being, is ipad Spark friendly?
Friday, July 16, 2010
So many of you have commented on my Remember? blog or sent me private emails about your own parents in the throes of Alzheimer's, some form or dementia or just old age, that I thought I should update and clarify.
We did go to the cardiologist, she actually saw and was examined by two of them. She has an irregular heartbeat that really alarms any medical professional that hears it, but doesn't have much in the way of symptoms from it. The two of them consulted and decided not to change her meds in any way; not putting her on Coumadin, which they were considering, because she is legally blind and can't be very observant if she's bleeding or not, and it is a dangerous drug that needs to be closely monitored.
Basically they said that she's in great shape for the shape she's in. Nothing can be done for the problems she has at age 87 and she is living with it all pretty well. They were impressed that she can still walk a mile a day, ride the bus and go to water aerobics.
The morning we went, her mind was sharp and clear. It is that way most of the time, with only lapses now and them. As long as she's clear more than not, she's doing ok.
Most of the problems between us come up if I try to help her. She'd rather go to a free clinic than have me or my sons pay for her dental work. She'd rather live in low income housing than have us subsidize her rent. She'd rather wait for the bus than have someone take her in a car every time she wants to go somewhere. She is familiar with her own level of living and getting by and does best when left there. So, I find that as long as we let her have her way, things go smoothly. (We do best who watch covertly from afar.)
My mother didn't raise me alone. I was watched over by a group of Italian women I refer to as The Aunts. Only two of those four women are still living. I wrote a blog about one of them some time ago.
One day I'll write about the two I still have in my life.
They, my mother's sisters, stepped in where my mother was unwilling or unable. They made my life so much better than it would have been as the only child of a single parent in 1948. I'm pretty sure The Aunts caused me to be sane and sensible and responsible. That good sense and responsibility is what brought me to this point in life where I'm able and willing to care for my mother, in whatever way she can receive that care.
My heart goes out to all of you who wrote me and those of you I've never heard from who have difficult parental responsibilities and concerns once your
parents reach a certain age. It's heartbreaking, energy sapping, frustrating and sad. As a parental caregiver, no matter if you live with your parent or only care from afar, you are a Hero, a Special Citizen, and should receive all our respect and admiration and prayers.
Tuesday, July 13, 2010
Do you remember the joke about the old people having a conversation that went something like: "Boy, it's windy out." "No, it's not, it's Thursday" "No thanks, I just had a drink."
Conversations with my mother are becoming more like that. She hears fine, but her memory is erratic. The other day she asked me three times in 30 min. where we were going. She called my aunt in Houston and complained because the bus didn't come one day. My aunt told her that the bus doesn't run on Saturdays. My mother said "It is Thursday" and couldn't be convinced otherwise.
I hear "Why didn't you tell me?" a lot, and nothing can convince her I did tell her, whatever it is, but she doesn't remember.
We are going to see the cardiologist today. She's seeing all the specialists now, just to get her into the system here, transferred from her old doctors after her move here a couple of months ago. We're taking all her meds with us, so I'm going to ask the Dr. if those meds might cause some memory loss and go from there.
I really know that her memory has not been the same since the last episode in the hospital at the beginning of the year when she had a reaction to some drug and went out of her mind for 24 hrs. When she came out of that, her memory returned but was not the same. She has good days and then. . . Right now the good days outnumber the forgetful ones, but it's pretty scary to think what she might do in the wrong state of mind.
I think she also has some aphasia - she knows what she's saying but the words coming out don't make much sense. I have to run everything through a mental filter and decide if she really wants what she's saying or if this is a time that I have to dedide what's good for her.
All of this leads to lots of arguments. She gets angry with me because I don't agree with her on what day it is, what doctor we're seeing, what I said yesterday, etc. etc.
She manages living on her own pretty well, with me checking on her a lot, but I fear what sort of "incident" is coming next, and what it might mean. The next step, I guess, is assisted living. I'll be researching that as soon as I can.
All this to explain why I'm not as active here as I once was. Since I've become a caregiver for her, my life is as erratic as her memory. I fear hard times coming.
Friday, July 09, 2010
YOU ARE WHAT YOU EAT.
Remember that the next time you order a WHOPPER!
Fast food is everywhere! So, Prepare, Prepare.
People spend a lot of time and effort making business plans, financial plans, burial plans, vacation plans, etc. etc.
We really need to make an eating plan, every day, every meal.
And we need a plan for when the plan we made gets disprupted, lol.
The main plan is to stay away from those fast food menus. Yes, there are some better foods on them now, and if you're careful you can get through that drive-in window and come out the other side with something that won't set you back two weeks. But SEE all those other goodies? SMELL all that wonderful fatness cooking in there?
Below is a Restaurant Guide. Find your favorite foods at your favorite place, print out the nutritional info and KEEP IT WITH YOU.
Make it a requirement that you MUST READ the nutritionals BEFORE you order anything!
What would it be like if we had to WEAR a sign on our chest listing what we ate today? Ha! I'd be pretty embarassed some days because I can really put it away.
Save us all from temptation! Who among us wants to be called a WHOPPER?
I found Popeye's Spicy Chicken and Biscuits on there! Well, I've been fooling myself, lol.
What's YOUR Fatal Food?
All our food needs a little more thought.
Wednesday, July 07, 2010
What's your most difficult measurement?
You know, the one you cringe upon measuring, lol. The one you're most embarassed about and the one you're least likely to share with anyone.
I'm an apple, so of course mine is my waist!
It's the first place that expands when I gain weight and the most difficult measurement for me to keep under control!
My hips are fine, my thighs are fine. . . But my waist! Ugh.
So I envy women with tiny waists. My DIL envies my slim hips. It's the old "grass is greener" syndrome, I guess.
What's YOUR problem?
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