Thank you for stopping by my page. I lead a very busy and full life, as most of us do, and have somehow lost the time for "me." My weight has been a "battle" for all of my life, and I am beginning to understand that I have to end the "battle" and approach the whole mind/body/spirit connection from a different perspective. That's why I want to join, rather than oppose, my body...to learn to speak body language. The battle simply becomes too wearisome, with no winners in the end---only prisoners!
The older I get, the more health challenges I see as a result of being more than 150 pounds overweight. I have had some successes with programs like Weight Watchers, only to lose focus and regain all of the weight and more. I have recently been reading"The Four Day Win" by Martha Beck (regular columnist in Oprah Magazine). In the book, Beck talks about the value of changing in small increments, just as Chris Downie does in the "Spark" book. Also, like Downie, Martha Beck talks about avoiding what she calls "famine brain" which occurs when you reduce calories to too low of a level. The Martha Beck book and the Spark book complement each other nicely.
I am a psychologist and I work in a community mental health agency. I have two teen-aged daughters, three dogs, and four birds. I began taking piano lessons at the age of 55, fulfilling one of my life-long dreams. At about that same time, I became interested in reading the tarot cards and do so for self-knowledge and psychological/spiritual insight. (I'm not interested in meeting a tall, dark stranger--I've been married for 35 years!). It would be especially fun to connect with other tarot afficianados who are also on a journey to living at peace with food and one's body. I am also an AVID reader of books of all sorts and can always entertain myself if I have a book handy! My challenge is to become less sedentary and more physically active.
I am looking to bring peace to this issue with food so that I can be at a healthy weight and not be obsessing about food and eating all the time. I want to feel better physically, to minimize arthritis, to maintain healthy blood sugar levels, and to have more energy. I have at least 150 pounds to lose.
I have the Spark book and plan to make it the basis of my program, along with Martha Beck's "Four Day Win" as a companion resource. I have also been reading Judith Beck's (no relation to Martha) book, "The Complete Beck Diet for Life," which uses a cognitive therapy approach to changing thoughts about weight loss and maintainence permanently. Since I have so much weight to lose, I know that I will need a healthy diet with choices, not too restricted, because I will be using the plan forever--not just until I reach a healthy weight. The term "body whisperer" comes from Martha Beck's book, "The Four Day Win." Beck uses it like Cesar Milan does when he calls himself the "dog whisperer," meaning one who has learned to speak the language of dogs, in his case. Martha Beck uses the term "the body whisperer" in a similar manner, meaning one who learns to tune into the body's and psyche's own "language" and then eats from an intuitive sense of inner needs.
I grew up in Northern Indiana and I still live here. For the first 25 years of my adult life, I lived in Springfield, IL, near my husband's home, and then in Columbus, OH, where I was attending Ohio State, working on my Ph.D. in Psychology. I have been a first grade teacher in the past and have also taught at various colleges in the fields of Psychology and Women's Studies. I went back to college as an adult, and after I got a Master's Degree in Women's Studies, I decided to get a doctorate in Psychology so that I could take a feminist approach in doing therapy with women. I finally earned my Ph.D. and got out of school (forever, one would hope) in the early 1990's. I currently work as a psychologist. You can see that I have the head of an academic (and also since I'm so "heady," the body of Shrek! ) Hey, I like Shrek but I'm tired of looking like him. I have two daughters, ages 19 and 15. Both were adopted at birth. I've been married for 35 years.
I love the work of Byron Katie. She has several books, including her first one "Loving What Is." I find her very powerful because she leads you in a process of personal questioning and self-exploration which eliminates blame and increases self-empowerment. I have been involved in the Unity Church for 20 plus years and would love to hear from other Unity members. Two of my birds are named "Ward" and "June" in honor of the Cleavers, that "All American" family. That's as close as I'll ever get to being "June," which is how I pictured myself ending up during my childhood in the 50's and 60's. How DID she ever manage to clean house in those high heels?