â€śThe difference between stepping stones and stumbling blocks is not in the event itself but how you think about it and what you do after it. Every failure and setback can become part of your success or an excuse for quitting or failing. People who develop the discipline of positivity are both happier and more successful." -Michael Josephson
Just dropping by to say hello, Sparkfriend! Remember, you don't have to be perfect on this journey in order to make progress! As long as you keep trying...and never quit...you are already a success! Keep doing your best, because you are worth the effort! Hugs, Pixie
"Part of abandoning the all-or-nothing mentality is allowing yourself room for setbacks. We are bound to have lapses on the road to health and wellness, but it is critical that we learn how to handle small failures positively so that we can minimize their long-term destructive effects. One setback is one setbackâ€”it is not the end of the world, nor is it the end of your journey toward a better you.â€ť -Jillian Michaels
I understand you weren't a part of the group that were making a big fuss. But what about not having made it known that you would make the change without complaint? Is that something to apologize for? No. But it is a way to tell them that you weren't a part of the problem in the first place but you don't want to actually correct them. It might seem a little passive agressive, but it will play up to management's need to feel powerful (apologizing for anything does that) and will say that your only part in it was that you didn't say that you would be okay with the procedure change.
Sometimes saying nothing at all is a good thing. Sometimes saying nothing gets you lumped in with the troublemakers and you'll stay a part of them unless you separate yourself. It's like if an innocent person walks past a crime and the police show up and think he's a part of it. If he says nothing he gets taken to jail, and if he says "I was not a part of it, I was just walking by" they will assume he's lying to get out of it. But if the instant he's accuesd he drops to the floor and is completely submissive then he has the best chance of it getting sorted out and he can be on his way. It sucks and it's not right, you should be assumed innocent until proven guilty, but that doesn't really work when it comes to work situations.
You weren't part of the problem, but just by being a part of the workteam you were lumped in with them. It happens and it sucks. I've been there. TBH my boss was a wimp with no power and her boss was totally pulling her strings. But I spoke to my boss and made her feel like she was in control by saying I was not a part of the problem because I didn't tell everyone else I spoke to that the change was stupid. I didn't think it was a great change but I wanted to give it some time to see if it worked before making a big deal about it. I told her I probably should have mentioned to her that I was going to try the change so she knew I wasn't a part of the problem. My boss ate it up, she felt powerful, and she knew I wasn't the problem so for awhile after that I was given the benefit of the doubt.
This is why I gave the advice I did. Bosses want to feel powerful especially when they're not. They want to hear "I apologize" to feel respected, and half the time they don't really hear what you're apologizing for. Office politics is really horrible, but sometimes you have to play the game.
I'm glad my comments are helping you. Sometimes we can use a little perspective and validation by others, as well as reminders to see the big picture, not just what's happening in the moment.
Thanks for visiting my blog. Maybe soon I can put up a new one, huh? hehe TBH my conditions are rough and sometimes just trying to live like a 'normal' person feels like trying to workout while you have the flu. (In fact, my knee has been on fire for 3 days because I pushed my unstable joints too hard.) I am so overstressed but I can't stop doing what's necessary because I'm the only person I can rely on for my needs right now. My struggles are different from most people on SP, but we all have challenges to overcome and by supporting others we can have more perspective on our own lives. Plus it helps give me purpose when I can help others.
"It is rewarding to find someone you like, but it is essential to like yourself. It is quickening to recognize that someone is a good and decent human being, but it is indispensable to view yourself as acceptable. It is a delight to discover people who are worthy of respect and admiration and love, but it is vital to believe yourself deserving of these things." ~Jo Coudert
I hope you're having a good weekend so far, Sparkfriend! I just wanted to stop by and share a couple of great quotes with you. Keep pushing to reach your goals, one day at a time. Always believe that you are worth your absolute best effort...because you are! Hugs, Pixie
"My invitation to you is to begin living every moment as though you are miraculous and deserve to live an extraordinary life. Fake it if you must and keep faking it until itâ€™s real to you. The gift you will be giving yourself is a lifelong journey of discovery, one that is infinite and infinitely rewarding. Begin the journey. Today. This moment. Now." -Robert White