Yes, 42 years of marriage is not 42 days... Like everyone else, we've had our ups and downs but must admit that we've had more ups than downs. I strongly believe that both partners need to respect each other -- not badgering the other one in front of others, etc. We've never argued in public and never go to sleep without having talked over our differences. I do hope that this helps.
Lots of luck on this journey. Hugs.
P.S. Thank you for adding me as a Spark Friend. This will truly make it easier to stay in touch. 1920 days ago
I believe that most of us have a hard time making time to live healthier. It is about habits, comfort zone, and making your plans fit into your life and not the other way around.
I started very simply with walking 15 minutes three times a week. It lead to more and more challenging things. Eating was the same way. It is very hard to do a complete life change, but small changes can really add up.
I did and do have to give up things. Reading was one thing I gave up. Watching TV in the evening was another. There are always choices to make and they are often hard. Sometimes they work for a while and then they don't.
I put books on my mp3 player and "read" while walking. I exercise in front of the TV if I watch a program (or check the computer.)
I found that my family learned that we take a walk on Sundays instead of watching TV.
Eating is really simpler for me. I pack my lunches and snacks for work. It takes a little time and my food is often boring but if I don't take money for lunch, I'm usually satisfied.
My sister lost a lot of weight and joined the National Weight Loss Registry. They take people who lose more than 30 pounds and keep it off more than a year. The Registry then asks these people questions about their behaviors and how they kept the weight off.
The things they did most often was eat at home or pack lunch. Eating out was less than 2 times a week. They often had the same foods most of the time because they no longer focused on food and found a successful way to eat.
They exercised almost every day. Walking was the most common form of exercise and most walked 45-60 minutes most days. It becomes part of their routine
I don't know if this helps you. Have you read The Spark? It has a lot of information and may give you other ideas.
Stop, regroup, pick one or two healthy habits. Set goals to do these things MOST of the time and a time limit to get them done. See if it helps you get back on track. 1921 days ago