As Morgan Freeman said in Shawshank Redemption, "Get busy living or get busy dying."
Moments of great personal growth are always accompanied by exposing oneself to unfamiliar experiences. Trying SparkPeople was an easy decision...There was nothing to lose but my waistline and I was hopeful that the lost weight would be compensated by the new friendships I'd gain!
I have been overweight for quite some time and have experienced the frustration of watching other people successfully losing weight while I did not. Like most people, I tried weight loss programs, pills and disgusting diet foods all of which did not work for me. Despite constant urging to lose weight by my loved ones, I just couldn't seem to wrap my mind around the task.
Three things I do know to be true.
1) I wasn't born this way and was very active and in shape into my thirties.
2) As I gained weight, other peoples perceptions of me changed. I knew this was happening because they began making comments when referring to me like......
* "I'm with the big guy here!"
** "Do you know you look like the fat guy from the Sopranos!" I used to laugh it off and say "Which One?"
*** One day I was waiting for an elevator to arrive and when the door opened it was empty. One of the two people getting on with me said "I hope there is enough room in here for all of us."
3) When I gained weight, my perception of myself changed as well. I knew I was heavy, other people told me I was heavy and both consciously and intellectually I couldn't disagree. In response, I began altering my behavior in a negative manner rather than a positive one. I declined from attending social events, I wouldn't allow people to take pictures of me and I stopped feeling good about myself because of my weight and the many failed prior attempts to lose it. Surprisingly, each day when I looked in the mirror, I didn't see what I was feeling. It was clear that my body and mind were not in a congruent state. I guess this was either due to due defense mechanisms or I was in classic denial.
One night I was watching the movie "Field of Dreams". Kevin Costner, upon seeing the ball players emerge from the cornstalks didn't recognize that one of them was his father. When he finally made the connection he states something to the effect..." I didn't recognize him as he was young and full of life. I had only known him after life had beaten him down." Although I had seen this movie on several occasions in the past, it had never impacted me on any particular level. This night; however, was different. Call it "Divine Intervention", but that movie line resounded so profoundly within me. It was at that moment, I realized I did not want my daughter remembering me this way and that I needed to be an example for her that one can overcome any obstacles in life.
My first step to losing weight was to develop an outside interest.....playing golf. It got me out of the house, provided exercise through walking and re-focused my mind and attention on something pleasurable rather than being an inactive couch potato who was unwilling to take the initiative to evoke change in my life.
I next reprogrammed my mind. I began reading every positive piece of literature and listened to audio books when I traveled. This helped rewire my thinking pattern and re-calibrated my mind to become action and achievement oriented once again.
Next, I found someone to model myself after. My friend Laurie had experienced a health issue and she emerged from it with a new found perspective on wellness. As part of her recovery, she researched and studied the topic extensively. She now exercises regularly, meditates and has changed her dietary habits. In short, she has revamped her entire lifestyle. Her diet incorporates clean quality foods, supplements and other health products which support her new dietary philosophy and she even found this website, which is how I came to be a member. I am very thankful to my good friend for her ongoing support, her assistance in educating me on the benefits of using quality dietary products and for directing me to SparkPeople.
I send my love and thanks to my wife, Rosemarie and daughter, Victoria for their continual encouragement and love. Thank you for loving me when I didn't even like myself! I look forward to participating in a more active life with you both, as I have some lost time to make-up for!
To all of my SparkFriends,
Your friendship, kind words, thoughts and gestures are not only supportive and inspirational, they embody the precepts of this site and I thank you for taking me under your collective wings. I look forward to the day when I too, can serve as inspiration to others and do so in a manner that emulates the wisdom, generosity and good will you have so graciously provided me.
My best wishes to all for continued success and good health!
Started.......08/24/09.......300 lbs.......39.7 BMI
I weigh-in each Sunday morning which helps keep me honest over the weekend.
1. I will lose weight, get fit and acquire higher energy levels needed to attain other life goals.
2. I will achieve better health so that I can enjoy my family and friends for a long time to come.
3. I will become more active.
4. I will start spin classes in the fall w/ Barbara.
5. I will run a 5K in the spring.
1. Find someone who is successful and model myself after them.
2. Commit to achieving the end result.
3. Believe that my only limitations are those that are self-imposed.
4. Take action. Follow the plan.
5. Everything else will take care of itself.
"Each indecision brings its own delays and days are lost lamenting over lost days... What you can do or think you can do, begin it. For boldness has magic, power, and genius in it."
~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
1749-1832, Poet, Novelist and Scientist
My name is Robert.
I live on the north shore of Boston. I enjoy living near the ocean, playing golf, all forms of music and movies and am working on becoming more active.
My Top 10 Favorite Food Quotes:
10) My doctor told me to stop having intimate dinners for 4 unless there are three other people.(Orsen Welles)
9) Fat, drunk and stupid is no way to go through life.
8) Somebody left the cork out of my lunch. (W.C. Fields)
7) I' ll have what she's having. (Harry Met Sally)
6) You better cut the pizza in 4 slices because I'm not hungry enough to eat 6.(Yogi Berra)
5) I've been on a diet for two weeks...and all I've lost is two weeks.(Totie Fields)
4) I'm one stomach flu away from reaching my goal.
(Devil Wears Prada)
3)The most potentially dangerous food to eat is wedding cake. (Proverb)
2) The only time to eat diet food is while your waiting for the steak to cook. ( Julia Child)
1)We are indeed much more than what we eat, but what we eat can nevertheless help us to be much more than what we are. (Adelle Davis)
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Hi Rob, hope that all's well with you and your family!
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