Thanks for your comment - and yes, it just needs to be done. I've unfriended all of them so I don't have to see it anymore and I'm pretty sure if anyone ever calls again, we won't answer! Tom and I both want to move on with our lives and putting the past in the past is the only way to do it!
Thanks for your comment and I so completely agree with you about getting older and reevaluating your ideas. I find I'm not even angry with my ex-husband anymore for pretty much abandoning me and our 5 children so he could "find" himself. It seems he's still searching but after 23 years it just doesn't matter to me. He's now part of our family celebrations; it just works better for the kids and my now husband of 20 years gets along with him really well. I do see, now, that most people have reasons for what they do and although I may not understand it, it's not my place to decide what's right or wrong! One of the best things of getting older!!
Thanks for the article link- I don't get on spark mail that often because I cannot find it in the mobile app! I did see and LOVED that article. I'm so appreciative that you sent it-- I felt validated by it. Cheers!!