Hello everyone, My name is Fontana and I just joined spark today. I decided to join because I'm sure so many of you can relate to what I'm going through. I had my first child on October 12th 2010. Before I was pregnant with my daughter my highest weight was 175 in that weird stage we all go through in middle school. Otherwise I come from a family of obese to overweight people with me always being the smallest. My average weight use to be 140-150, until I got pregnant and at the time of birth I ...

Hello everyone, My name is Fontana and I just joined spark today. I decided to join because I'm sure so many of you can relate to what I'm going through. I had my first child on October 12th 2010. Before I was pregnant with my daughter my highest weight was 175 in that weird stage we all go through in middle school. Otherwise I come from a family of obese to overweight people with me always being the smallest. My average weight use to be 140-150, until I got pregnant and at the time of birth I was about 185. I dropped to about 170 after giving birth and now its all coming back. I didn't realize how hard it would be to maintain a healthy weight after a child so I continued eatting whatever I wanted without doing the normal exercise. SO OF COURSE I gained weight. I kept telling myself "Oh you can drop the weight before your wedding don't worry about it..." The truth is my wedding is September 22nd 2012, and though that might seem like a long time to some people, I was already shopping for dresses. I recently took a trip out to my mothers house and we were looking at dresses online. I found one I really liked and she said, "That's a beautiful dress baby but its fitted..." She didn't have to say anything else, it was all implied. I'm 21 years old, overweight, and miserable. I called my fiancee and cried my eyes out as I was joining the site. I use to be such an active person and felt good about the way I look, now I avoid the mirror at all cost. The thing that hurt the worse wasn't what she said but what it meant. What if the perfect dress for me was a fitted gown that would make me feel like a million bucks? Would I have to settle for a dress that fits me instead of a new me that fits me dress? I THINK NOT! I'm done crying, avoiding the mirror, drinking soda, eating fast food, avoiding outings or going outside because I hate how I look. I've always been told if you don't like the way things are, CHANGE THEM. So that's what I'm doing and that's why I'm here. I'll need support and reminders of why I'm working so hard and I'll be here to offer the same for everyone else here. Most importantly I want to set a good example and a healthy lifestyle for my daughter. If I can save her from what I'll have to go through then I can at least say no matter what happens I did something right. I love my daughter more than anything else in this world. Good luck and Best Wishes for Us All!!

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