My name is Leslie, I am 41 and the mother of 3 beautiful girls. I read your profile and it reminded me a a lot of myself.
I am 41 and the mother of 3 beautiful girls. I went through a very painful divorce a few years ago. I and my ex-husband were married for 16 years.........and at the end of it, I didn't have anything material to show for all of those long hard years. But what I did have were my daughters. Like you, I moved in with my mother, while I worked hard to regain a life I had lost.
For 2 years I moved onward and upward only focusing on my girls and my career. Then I focused on losing the weight. I changed my whole way of eating. I joined Weight Watchers and I lost 40 pounds (213 down to 173)
I was empowered, I was gaining confidence...something I had lost in my marriage.
And then something just told me it was the time to find someone to share my goals...someone who liked being outside......etc. And I found him....on e-harmony....believe it or not!
So I say to you, when you feel like you have found yourself, you can find someone too....when you are ready. (No matter if you have CIDP or are blind or the color blue, there is someone for everyone.......you just have to be willing to overlook a less than perfect person as well)
That's my story. There's a lot more to it, but that's the condensed version. And even though I hate to say it, I did gain 10 of those 40 pounds back, not due to the lack of support from my loving husband of 2 years now. I have gained back 10 pounds...but on the bright side I am still down 30!
I am now committed to living a healthier lifestyle.....
I want to add you as a friend and I hope to hear from you.
p.s. I am not a paid spokesperson for e-harmony or Weight Watchers...they just happened to work for me..... :-) 2753 days ago
Thank you for stopping by my blog and leaving a comment. I was taught to pray that way as a child in jewish temple. I was always told to get Him to listen you have to thank Him first. I think it just reminds me that life is not so bad. Hope the nose is healing. Been there - twice. 3183 days ago
Thanks for the beautiful metaphor. A butterfly's journey is a perfect way to describe all of us! I also went through a nasty divorce many years ago and believe me when I say it is a distant memory now! I did become stronger because of it and so will you. I don't want to dismiss your feelings, but I do want you to know it gets much better! My daughters have also become stronger young women because of my experience. Thanks to my mom who brainwashed me to get an education before I got married I did have my degree. Mom always said, "never allow yourself to be dependent on anyone." I am instilling that in my daughters, too. My mom's ideas were way before her time! As she lies slowly dieing from Alzheimer's I always remember that she has been a great influence on me and that I am a better person and mother because of her! You will find your place very soon. And by the way...I've tried the dating sites and there isn't too much out there! LOL! Please keep in touch! Oh, by the way, congrats on the 5 lbs!! 3206 days ago