Hayden holding his new little sister Hailey
After losing my first five pounds
| current weight: 230.0
Just wanted to check in - I am expecting a real busy week at work and summer school is getting more intense now. I wanted to make sure I at least said hello before jumping into my week here. Looks like your bar went down!! Congrats to you!! Keep up the good work! Take care, hopefully I will have a chance to check in later this week!
2899 days ago
My name is Jennifer and this is my first day on the website. I think it's gonna take some time for me to learn how to get around on here. I saw your page and read where u are a good encourager, that is what I need so much. I am new to my area and haven't met a sole. It's hard to try to tackle weight loss alone. My husband is supportive, however naturally skinny so he's not much in helping with the exercising and eating healthy. I guess I'm just needing some support and most of all someone to help me stay on track. I have joined a local gym, however until school starts I don't see that I'll be able to get there much. I also just purchased The Firm workout so hopefully that will help. Well just wanted to say hi and hope we can chat soon. By the way my son is named Hayden too. You are the first person I know to have a son with that name also. lol...
Hope to here from you,
2905 days ago
Thanks for the add!
2905 days ago
Thanks! I'm sure trying to make it to 100 pounds lost, but it sure isn't happening quickly! Oh well...as long as I can keep getting healthier. =P
Good luck to you in reaching all of your goals!
2905 days ago
Happy Monday to you too Pretty,
Yeah school has been a big part of my life for the last ten years. Seem strange, in a good way, that I am actually going to have a BA Degree! I earned my AA in 2006. I am really looking forward to spending more time with my family and working on other projects. It has been difficult, but I am changed from the experience and have grown and learned so much. I have not experienced anything else that has given me so much confidence and really improved my self esteem. It is tough when you have a family, but not impossible. I meet so many Mom's in my night classes and have so much respect for them. That is a lot of work!
I so feel for you and Jeremy. Weight loss is so hard and when you have genetic factors, it makes it all the more difficult. Sounds like Jeremy has obesity and the icky diseases that come with it in his family. It may make it harder, but not impossible. My family also has a history of diabetes and high blood pressure. Before my surgery I was about to begin high blood pressure medication. I had my blood pressure taken last week and I was 80 over 120! It always makes me so happy!
Funny that you and other family members are thinking about asking Jeremy to consider, because my family members felt the same way. I started my first diet when I was 8 years old and have always struggled with it. In 2000 I decided I was going to join weight watchers and try to get healthy. I love Weight Watchers, it is such a good program and I lost 50 pounds the first year then gained 20 pounds the year after and spent the next four years gaining and losing the same 20 pounds. I was wary of weight loss surgery, I just thought it was too drastic and wanted to continue to try to lose weight through behavior modification, but finally realized when I turned 38 that I have been trying to lose weight for 30 years! I finally decided to look into the surgery.
After reseaching throughly and talking to my doctor and weight loss surgeons I decided that the risks of continuing on my current path were higher than the risks of the surgery. There are a lot of risks involved in surgery. Dangerous to go under when I was so big and I had laproscopic surgery so the chances of nicking other vital organs were possible. It was a decision I needed to make myself after weighing all the risks.
I didn't tell my parents, sister and brother until I made the decision to do it. I was all prepared to hear some push back about them not wanting me to take a risk. I was soooo surprised when my Mom and Dad told me they wanted me to look into because they had same concerns about me that you have about Jeremy. They said they didn't want to bring up because it needed to be my decision. They were all incredibly supportive.
Dave my hubby feels the same way about me and my size that you feel about Jeremy. My size never bothered him, he loves me regardless of what size I was. He was just concerned about my health and well being. I was depressed a lot and my range of motion was getting more and more limited. I brought up to Dave and we both made this decision together. He went to all of my appointments with me and stayed home with me the week after my surgery to help me around the house. He is an amazing person and I am really blessed to have him in my life. I can't imagine life without him so I get your concern for Jeremy.
I don't know how Jeremy would react to being asked to consider this for himself, I have been trying to imagine how I would have felt if Dave brought up to me, and I am not sure how I would have reacted. Probably sad that he was so worried about me & angry that I had let it get so far that my loved ones were intervining. Weight is such a personal thing. I think you would know best how Jeremy would take this. He has so many really good reasons to be healthier, the most important would be to see his children grow up. I totally get your concern, I would feel the same way.
Such a hard call, but honestly if it were Dave I would reseach and have a discussion with him. Dave is about 30 pounds over weight right now and at 45 years old that is not good for him either. Luckily he tends to mimic what I do, so because I am eating better using this site, he is too. I filled two water bottles when we go out, one for him and one for me, and I make lots more bean & lentil dishes to avoid saturated fats and add more veg protien, we eat fish at least once a week and he is watching fat and sugar intake too. Sugar is really hard for him, last week he ate an entire box of chocolate chip pecan Famous Amos cookies. It was a box with 16 servings!! I guess we all have those moments!
Hope you can get Jeremy to jump on board with you here. I know it is easier said than done. Let me know how things go. Hope what I shared helps you with your decision. By the way, didn't think you were at all a Debbie Downer. (I love that skit from SNL though!!)
2905 days ago