Get with other members with the same problem on teams and on informational threads about mothers wanting to get back to their normal weight.
Joining teams who will be supportive of your goals are the most important. But also learn all you can about where you should be headed and find guides who have gotten there before you... I also suggest reading the two spark books for a starter.
Here is a link I found helpful in the beginning. www.sparkpeople.com/resource/motivat ion_articles.asp?id=571 1285 days ago
Added you as a Spark Friend. Wanted to invite you to one of the teams that I am on. It will help you find some accountability partners. The name of the team is Accountability Partners. Have a good day. 1285 days ago