Happy New Year and congrats on taking the first step to reaching a healthier you! I'm glad you're getting active with SparkPeople - it's a great community, wonderful resources and fantastic support.
Please check out the SparkTeams - I think you will find a lot of others 'just like you' there. You can choose SparkTeams by age group, lifestyle or interests, geographic location or several other ways - in fact, I suggest joining more than one group, post your intro there and write blogs as often as you can - you will find tons of friends and support that way, I promise!!
In my experience, SparkPeople is like a in some ways - it's lots of fun and easy to make friends because we're all in this together. I like the way a HEALTHY LIFESTYLE is emphasized instead of a 'quick fix wonder diet' - it's about waaaaaay more than 'just' losing weight so you have definitely come to the right place!
If you ever need any help using features of the site, there are tutorial videos under the HELP section that can show you how to use the features of the site. You can also find them on the START page and several other places on the site.
If you haven't discovered The Spark book and/or the SparkDiet linked at the bottom of the START page, check them out - the program is simple but extremely effective. There is a TON of information on this site - so much it might even seem overwhelming but fortunately we don't have to 'digest' everything at once! The FastBreak program is a good way to start.
Another nice thing about SparkPeople is that we have permission to be human - we don't have to change everything at once or be in a hurry to reach our goals. Take a few baby steps and then a few more and before you know it, you'll have completed a long journey - I hope you enjoy this community as much as I do - it teaches us how to make positive lifetime changes because that's the only thing that will work over time!
I just dont know where to start anymore. I know i will look good on my wedding day, i know i can lose the weight if i try a little harder, at times i suppose i just dont know where to start and i stress out again, i fall down in a little rut. i am just in a frustrated mood. nothing to me seems to be going in the right path... i guess i have to try a little harder and eat a little less than i thought. there is more too my aggravation, but i dont know any more.
Just saw your post on the Lose 1 pound or 1 inch a week team. First of all, you need to take a DEEP BREATH. I think you're stressing yourself out with all of your thoughts and worries. Secondly, you need to first worry about yourself before you worry about your hubby to be. Third, I do think that you need to measure. If you measure your food than you know that you're eating the right portions.
How can I help you get over your overwhelming feeling?
I do know that I can tell you that I've been there. Days when I feel like everything I do is wrong and that I'll never lose weight. But you have to keep the faith and believe that you can do it. When you start to believe then good things happen.