Me getting ready to cross the finish line of my 1st 5k! November 7th 2010
| current weight: 169.0
you're welcome for the reminder to be passionate...and Thank YOU for the positive feedback on my Preach the spark blog.
1727 days ago
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A Matter Of Priorities
Letting Go Of The Little Stuff
We experience numerous disappointments each and every day. Our expectations go unmet, our plans are blocked by circumstance, our wishes go unfulfilled, and we discover that our lives are subject to a myriad of forces beyond our conscious control. In some cases, our response is powerful because we must invest ourselves and our resources to overcome genuine hardship. In others, our reactions are far more passionate than our circumstances likely warrant. The tension that permeates our bodies and minds when we are late for an event, interrupted at work, or sitting in traffic is not inappropriate, but it can interfere with our well-being in profound ways. When we stop worrying about relatively unimportant matters, we can be at peace and devote so much more of ourselves to what is truly important.
The small frustrations and irritations wield such power over us because they rob us of the illusion of control. But every problem is a potential teacher—a confusing situation is an opportunity to practice mindfulness, and difficult people provide us with opportunities to display compassion. There is a natural human tendency to invest copious amounts of emotional energy in minor dilemmas and frustrations in order to avoid confronting those more complex issues that are largely outside the realm of our control. The intensity of our response provides us with a temporary sense of personal power that helps us cope with challenges that might otherwise overwhelm us. But it is only when we let the little stuff go that we discover that the big stuff is not really so devastating after all.
In the stress of a singularly tense incident, differentiating between an inconsequential annoyance and a legitimate challenge can seem a monumental task. Ask yourself whether the emotions you are feeling will be as vivid in a year, a day, or even an hour. As focused as you are on this moment in time, your reward for letting go of your emotional investment may be the very happiness and harmony of being whose loss you are lamenting. Needless aggravation is seldom worth the cost it exacts. You cannot distance yourself from life's inconsistencies, irritations, and upheavals, but you can relinquish your desire for perfect order and gain peace of mind in the process.
1772 days ago
WOW. you're pretty impressive your self! I had to friend you after reading your page..and Thanks so much for the sweet comment on my healthy blog! I really do appreciate it you know!
1806 days ago
One experience builds on another and that is how life evolves. We should not simply
"live and learn" but rather "live, learn, and improve." We all make mistakes in life.
Do you learn from yours or do you have a cycle of making the same ones over and over?
Perhaps you want to lose weight but always seem to fail, never seem to finish your reports
at work, or have a hard time following through on your obligations. Examine some past failures
and review where you went off track with your goal. Don't mistake failing with "I am a failure,"
as no one is perfect all the time. Take what you have learned and apply
it to the next situation
1815 days ago
To anyone at the start of their journey or looking to refocus, here is my advice. (It is advice to me as much as anyone else)
1. Nobody can do it for you. You can without a doubt do this.
We all want motivation to sweep us up and away towards great things. Ooh, isn't it easy when we're excited and things are going great! Even if that does sometimes happen, eventually a time will come when we are left alone with just ourselves and the same old issues we faced (poorly) in the past. As I've said before, BE THE CHANGE YOU DESIRE. You are capable of anything, you just have to keep fighting, keep wanting it for yourself. Take responsibility for your actions, own all of them and know you are capable of great things. Be the change you desire.
2. Don't limit yourself. Be active.
The person who changes from a couch potato who only gets up to go to the fridge into the daily walker or 5K/10K/half marathon/marathon finisher, bike rider, zumba booty dancer, circuit workout superstar can be you. You may jiggle and wiggle in ways you don't like. I have and I do. So what? We're human. Don't let that stop you from doing ANYTHING you want to do. You might be the slowest person out there. That person is the most awesome person!!! You don't have to do any of these things, it can be whatever you enjoy that keeps you moving. Just don't limit yourself.
3. Be positive.
Stop putting yourself down, put yourself up instead! We can all drag ourselves down and feel terrible about ourselves. That gets us nowhere! Congratulate yourself on every good thing you do. Know you can succeed and make it happen.
4. Surround yourself with foods that will make you and your body happy.
Fruits. Vegetables. Fruits. Vegetables. Fruits. Vegetables. Fruits. Vegetables. When you eat healthy, high-quality foods it makes you happier. The food can taste so scrumptious and so perfect for you, that you want to sing and smile and laugh with delight. Not just at the moment, but later on, because you just feel so darn good. Once your body has gotten off of the over-processed /over-sugared /over-salted /chemical fare that is to be found everywhere it is amazing how the palate can change. There have been times that I have eaten fruit and I want to run around from person to person telling them how incredible food can taste now. If you are surrounded by quality food and there is no junk around you, what are you going to choose to eat and then feel good about? I have drastically reduced the meat and dairy that I've consumed down to 1 meal a week. But, do what works for you!
Tracking food can teach us a lot and be a fantastic aid on this journey. I would always suggest that those starting out or needing help track their calories. I still need to, but I do think that we are capable of doing well without always tracking. Again, do what works for you. It all starts with quality foods.
5. Appreciate the journey and as many steps along the way as you can.
Trying to 'lose weight' can drive you crazy. It can be particularly rough when you have a whole lot of weight to lose. Even when you're doing great, it can seem like such a very long way to being anywhere you want to be. Stop that! If you are better off than last year or last month or last week, be it stronger, fitter, lighter or just more able to live a full and happy life, then you are winning! Be happy about it, celebrate! If a timeline drives you crazy, get rid of it. You can keep going and achieve more and more, but don't belittle today. You have made yourself mighty today. Enjoy the heck out of every moment!
6. This isn't a diet, it's your life. Don't stop!
That is a good thing! You get to feel awesome and be awesome forever! You have all the time you need to keep making progress towards a better you. Be unstoppable. If you never allow yourself to be stopped then what nothing will hold you back.
Now, I will boil this all down to...
You can do it, if you are positive, active, surround yourself with great food and appreciate every step of the way. Be unstoppable.
1816 days ago