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Learning To Take Time For Me

I am a single mom with 5 kids at home ranging in ages from 10 to 20. I work full time and am taking a class through the local college. I have put my needs last for so many years feeling guilty if I took time for myself - after all my kids have so many needs and there is SO much to do! I am learning in order to be my best for those I love, I MUST the time to take care of me. I have nothing to give ... no energy, no patience, no strength, no support if I can't give those things to myself first.
I am a single mom with 5 kids at home ranging in ages from 10 to 20. I work full time and am taking a class through the local college. I have put my needs last for so many years feeling guilty if I took time for myself - after all my kids have so many needs and there is SO much to do! I am learning in order to be my best for those I love, I MUST the time to take care of me. I have nothing to give ... no energy, no patience, no strength, no support if I can't give those things to myself first.




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Member Since: 3/17/2006

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My Goals:
Improve overall health, eat healthy, loose belly fat, loose 10 pounds.

My Program:
Journal my food everyday, increase cardio to 150 minutes per week, use Push.tv exercise DVD to strengthen core, practice the belief that my program is made in the decision by decision moments of choosing something good for me over wasted calories, be gentle with me - stop beating myself up over failure to live up to my rigid goals.

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Silicon Valley, CA.

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"If you want things to be different, perhaps the answer is to become different yourself."

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LISAPOPE32405
5/18/2006 2:27:43 AM

Hey lady,
How are you and your crew doing? I hope fine..... I have not spoke or heard from you and a few weeks. I hope that everything is going well and you are keeping up with your goals.

Keep in touch,
Lisa : )



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LISAPOPE32405
5/6/2006 8:56:05 AM

Hello very beautiful Bugladi, (by the way why did you choose that name?)
I just wanted to say hi and see how u r doing today? I hope well.....I'm doing a bit better since I have found this place....I have met people who have said nicer things to me than I have ever heard in my life. It's either because they don't know me or I've just had a lot of negative people in my life. Well, whatever it is I enjoy it and it is taking me slowly but surely out of my depressed state.
How are you and your small team? I haven't heard from you so I just wanted to step in your page and say hello. I will talk to ya' later.

Lots of luv, Lisa : )



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LISAPOPE32405
5/3/2006 10:16:23 AM

I was wondering who sent me the very sweet e-card.........now I know and I'm happy that I helped you feel a little better. Sometimes I feel like I'm budding in......and don't know whether to do it or not. But, I always do and just simply consider me one of those people who speaks her mind (but what I say are just my opinions "not to be conveyed as a part of my actual mental status"..lol).

I would love to keep in touch with you........I live in Panama City, Florida where it is nice and humid most of the time. I can't say that I love the weather but maybe if I was a bit skinnier it would be different.

Yes, I believe if a man has chosen a woman with one let alone 5 of another man's children and taken on the responsibility for them and taken on what I feel to be a crazy point in a woman's life (when you don't know your mood from one second to the next and it feels like your head is spinning and you are the devil "both to you, your children, and your husband" and they all stick around you are VERY LOVED!!!!

My biggest thing is not what your husband has done for you but what you have done for you and your family. You stated on your page that you went without for a long time to make sure that your kids got what they needed. You would not believe the amount of people who believe differently..........my Dad always bought himself things first and would put that grey duct tape on our shoes because they would open at the front and look like talking shoes and he would send us to school with the humiliating grey duct taped shoes. Not to mention clothes that were too short or too small. It was not that we were poor it was that he was a person who liked his drugs and liked his work (welding) and wanted every tool there was and at least one back up for that one if it broke or he needed another one for some reason.
To people like you and I, that is not normal............and I can't imagine my child going without. I would sell myself in ways I don't want to talk about to make sure that she had food, shelter, and all the things she needed if I had to.


JUST DON'T EVER SELL YOURSELF SHORT AND DON'T EVER FEEL LIKE YOU ARE PUTTING TOO MUCH INTO YOURSELF......by the looks of things they look pretty happy and pretty close to being grown up. A picture can tell a thousand words and your picture of your children says that you have always been there for them and that they could never and have never felt abandoned or mistreated. The look they give off is one of very comfortable and happy kids. I hope to be that good with my one child who lives with me and to be able to undo the weirdness my husband's ex- wife puts into my step daughter's head. She seems to think you have children to make money. It's like a side job for her. I don't want that to be in Cierra's mentality at all.

Well, I have went on and on and I think it's time to stop now before I write a book.
Please feel free to email me at any time either here or at my yahoo address.
If you don't mind I could also email you at your yahoo address that I believe was on your e-card you sent to me today. Just let me know.

Thank you again for being so sweet.
Lisa :)



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LISAPOPE32405
5/2/2006 1:48:15 PM

Now granted I have not had your same type of trauma with the perimenopausal type of menopause. I have had the surgical hysterectomy menopause. That is scary because it hits you like a wall.........all of a sudden and without anymore warning than it's coming like a tornado hits.
But, I do feel for you.........as far as depression. I still feel that on both my hormones and my antidepressants. They say that it is just going to be like that until it is not like that anymore. The funny thing about Menopause is no one can tell you when it will be over......every woman's body deals with it in a different way. I think you should talk to your doctor and see the best route for you to take. Explain all the symptoms (if you can't remember write them down) and be very atimate about it.....sometimes Doctor's are too busy to care and hurry up and push you in a different direction. As many as I've been to in the last year I can be a professional when it comes to get here on time and wait and then be rushed through my exam or problem and given the wrong medicine. As far as this goes it can not be any harder than raising those 5 beautiful children......IF YOU CAN DO THAT YOU CAN DO ANYTHING.
I commend you on doing it. My Mom only had my sister and I and was still married to my Father but he was away in the Military and she put us in a foster home in order to be adopted. So, Mother's (real ones) are not to be taken for granted. You would think that it is your job but there are some that don't believe that.




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