Ah you have the same problem as my wife. She almost had a bird when she found out how much fat she was taking in when she use cream and sugar in her coffee. Just watch the intake of green tea it is suppose to help you lose weight, but too much of it gives me the jitters,
I know what you mean about family members misunderstanding your efforts. I don't even try talking to them about it. My mom will just criticize me for something or another, my brothers will make fat jokes, and my cousins and aunts will all point out that i am already the healthiest one of the clan.
I think my favorite thing about Sparkpeople is the groups! I've found such a diverse group of people there, but we always seem to find a common thread. 2200 days ago