I'm a single parent, I have to boys, one who is 27 and has Autism, doesn't live at home, although he's comes home on the weekend, and wants to cook or wants Mom to cook him high fat food. My other son is 12 years old, over weight; love nothing but video games and Pasta.
As for me, I've just finished my Master's degree in Computer Information Science, and landed a very good job as a Database Administrator. I've developed a bad habit of sitting and eating while working on my computer, and eating in front of a TV set. I found that these habits are not easily broken.
I have a portion control problem. Although I work out most days of the week (I love exercising), I can not control my portions. I love food, lots of it. I can't eat just a portion of food. I've tried and tried, I don't feel like I'm finished eating until I've had at least 2 large portions of food, and my belly is full and I'm sleepy, (aaaah, I love taking a little nap after dinner).
So, I'm here to learn, to develop new habits, or learn to control current habits.
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Secrets of Success
| Pounds lost: 3.0
Have you learned portion control yet? I love to overeat also. Put delicious food in front of me and you won't get any! And I've been a single mom....
Of course I don't know your diet... but I think my "trick" may help you: Use your brain, not your will-power!
Portion out your food the night before (preferably) or before you sit down to eat your meal. (Examples: pack your lunch the night before, make and refrigerate your meals [portioned ON YOUR PLATE, wrapped and ready to eat!] the night before, or at a minimum, portioned out onto your plate BEFORE you sit down to eat!) Now, right now, before you sit, before you take a bite of anything, PUT THE FOOD THAT YOU ARE NOT EATING AWAY! Wrap it up, pack it for lunch, stick it in the freezer, dump it into the "soup fixings" container that you have stored in the freezer..... make it hard to get to.
NOW sit down to eat! And you already know that sitting in front of the computer or TV while eating is a bad habit -- so resolve to eat your meals while sitting at your actual dining spot, looking at your food, hopefully with your son... And as a bonus, it takes 10 seconds to light the candle (that you put on your table for exactly this purpose) -- SO LIGHT IT!
There's ONE more step: You have to have something else fixed and ready-to-eat that you have decided in advance is your snack food, according to your diet. Just ONE thing for the ENTIRE week! In quantity -- because you will be giving yourself permission to eat it in quantity. If you low carb, this should be something EXTREMELY low-carb (example: pork rinds); if you low-calorie, then obviously it should be something EXTREMELY low-calorie (example: celery sticks). Never run out of your snack food. If you crave variety (like I do) tell yourself that you are doing this to make things easier on yourself and that next week, you will have a different snack food. Be gentle with yourself -- for the time being, allow yourself to eat your snack food wherever you want.
When you eat your snack food, PORTION IT out on a small plate so that you have to get up frequently to refill it. ( No, you may not reach into the whole bag-ful...) At the same time, you must FINISH a small glass of water (say, 1/2 to 1 cup!) before you refill your plate. Repeat the refilling of your plate and water-glass until you don't want any more.
And incidentally (I have to say this because I don't know you), you are to eat your snack food at any time including immediately after meals. Just don't allow yourself to eat any more "meal" food. And don't forget to portion out the snack food -- because you are trying to build new habits and you will have more success establishing that habit by portioning out EVERYTHING instead of just some things. You want to gradually teach your body and brain to perceive that you can be satisfied with what a portion IS.
No matter how long it takes to convince your inner child that you won't allow yourself to starve to death, eventually, your inner child will learn to trust you. And that is when you will naturally desire to eat less. Meanwhile, you will be providing a good example to your sons as they see that even as an adult, self-discipline is required (not self-deprivation!).
191 days ago
Comment edited on: 10/20/2016 1:08:14 PM
Thank you for you reply, I will still work hard at reducing my calories, it seems as you get older your body requires less food, because your metabolic rate slows. I'm 54 and it seems like my body require very little food to be at my goal weight. ugh..... but you're AWESOME keep up the GOOD WORK!!
345 days ago
Too low. I pushed to 1600-1700 for a week and lost. I'm doing about 1500/day this week and seeing what happens. I'm still figuring out what's best for me. Good luck to you!
345 days ago
Thanks for your comment on my blog! I'd love to tell you the secret to being satiated on 1200-1400 cals/day, but I honestly don't know! It just happened. I've actually pushed myself a little higher lately because I hit a plateau and think it was
345 days ago
Thank you so much for visiting my “New Beginning” blog!!!! I really appreciate your support!!!
968 days ago