Thanks Guys..Funny enough, i look foward to going to work because that's where i can really have quiet and calm. I have a really slow paced job so i just chill and it really helps. I am in a better place now and i didn't even fall of the wagon like i normally do when i go through tough times. Thanks for the support.
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Oh so sorry you are feeling overwhelmed. What I do is head to a movie BY MYSELF! No kids no hubby just me and a bag of popcorn if I care to indulge. I think it's great to just get away. It really resets me.
Sounds like you have mom there helping. Maybe you could just sneek out for a few hours and do what you like whether that's the gym, shopping, library, coffee, art museum, spa. I always come back with a new perspective and usually miss my kids and hubby. Ha Ha!
There is nothing wrong with feeling the way you do and we all NEED ME time at some point in our lives. For awhile, I had to have ME time weekly.
Hi Kebekay, When I feel like this I try and do something that requires me to get into a different headspace. I will clean the apartment. Or I'll go for a walk - and try and go a little faster than usual. Or I'll do a hard puzzle or some cross-stitch....something that takes concentration and gets me out of my current headspace.... When I am done I feel better. It gives me like a mental timeout/relief. It helps when I feel overwhelmed and like my life is careening toward disaster.
I hope things get better for you. You are not alone.
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24,777 12/28/12 11:02 P
Thank you guys for all the encouraging words. I needed that. I'm taking it one minute at a time hoping that all this will pass. I'm so sorry for your loss Slimmerkiwi...my thoughts are with you.
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12/27/12 7:07 P
when my husband pisses me off!!! I WRITE or blog man!!!! let the rage out and then in turn you end up feeling so much betterrrrrrrr I am sorry your going through all that!
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24,777 12/27/12 2:34 P
I am sorry to hear that you are having a really difficult time at the moment. I am wondering if the pressure from a sick daughter and lack of sleep is huge reason why you are feeling like this - it MAY be why your husband is being a 'douche' too! Maybe it is how he copes under these sorts of stress.
While your mother is with you, are you able to take advantage of it, and leave her to care for your girls and YOU get out for some much needed time out? Do you have a friend you can go to and get some sleep in peace and quiet and away from stress ..... or go for a walk .... whatever it is that you need. Maybe your husband could do the same, too. IF you can do this together it may give you a chance to talk about things away from the stressors.
Perhaps it may be worth considering some relationship counseling???
I was married for nearly 38 years and there were MANY times I felt like walking out. My husband was an alcoholic for much of that time and we didn't have any money to spare! Our son nearly died a few times when he was little, too, because of severe allergy reactions. I accepted that there were some things that I couldn't change, and his drinking was one of those things. We didn't have an easy ride, but we rode through the storms. He died very suddenly, two weeks ago today.
I am sending good thoughts your way for your daughter's health, and for some peace and tranquility to come your way.
I'm so sorry that you're going through so much. You said something about wanting to just run away, but you can't. Well, maybe you can find a way to figuratively "run away," just temporarily to get your bearings back- it may even help your marriage to get yourself back to a good place personally. It looks like you've lost quite a bit of weight so far (congrats, by the way!) so you're probably not a stranger to moving your body- maybe you could take one afternoon to go for a hike, I'm sure there's some sort of hiking ground or park or something near you. Or, if you're anything like me, a nice day of sitting in front of the tv doing absolutely nothing works wonders on me, maybe you could get your mom to take your little one off your hands for a little while and you can just sit and veg out. Or have her babysit tomorrow night and grab a couple girlfriends and go dancing or something.
I hope things get better sooner than later, but that being said, remember that nothing lasts forever. One day, maybe even as soon as a couple weeks from now, you'll look back on this time and realize, "Oh wow, that's over, I got through that crap, and I made it out on the other side, that's all in the past now."
Sorry to hear all you are going through. Please do something for yourself and I know what it is like not to talk with the husband but I try to follow my sons wisdom and try not to make it an argument and let him know how you feel because once someone thinks you are arguing they can not hear you. And since my son is now grown I have learned the hard way to take time for myself and that saying no is ok. Get some rest as I am sure you are the glue that holds everything together and you sound like a care giver that needs to take a little time for herself. You can do it! I hope the new year brings you health and wellness
Thanks Archimedes. Walking right now. I hope it helps.
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12/27/12 12:45 P
Hang in there ! You certainly are experiencing more than you fair share of adversities. Just take things one day at a time, one crisis at a time. There really is only so much you can do. You're not Wonder Woman. You have to set your priorities. take care of the little one and try to get some sleep when you can even if it's just a short nap. I have yet to meet a parent of a baby who wasn't chronically sleep deprived.
Take five minutes for yourself when you can too. Sit and have a cup of tea or even take a nice hot bubble bath or shower. You might even want to take a short 10-15 minute walk too. These may not seem like much, but they are little things you can do to keep your sanity when things get stressful.
You have to take care of yourself. If you're sick, who will take care of your little ones ?
I'm just going through so much right now and trying to keep my head through it all. My hubby is acting like a selfish douche and we haven't even spoken in days to each other. We have even mentioned divorce. My 1 year old is so sick and I haven't gotten sleep in days. My mom is here and is supposed to be helping but just gets on my nerves by criticizing everything I do. I want to just run away for some peace but I can't. My kids need me. Encouraging words please. ....
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