wedding favors and when to register ETC

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10/6/08 3:14 P

Ok, first you need to think about the people you are inviting. Are they wicked formal? If not go ahead and put the registry cards in your invites. Why wouldn't you? I personally like to know where someoen is registered without having to call someone I don't know so well and ask. My bridal showers will be somewhat bicoastal. A friend of mine is doing a webcam bridal shower for me in CT and I live in CO which is also where the wedding is. She said she is even going to contact people that are not invited to the wedding due to distance and invite them. She said she is going to make me a little Wedding shower box with stuff to open as we go along like tiara and a beverage mix...(I would lay money mudslides) Anyhow, so yeah, you have to think about people that you are inviting. If you know your aunt cassie is a very formal person then don't put one in her invitation. One of my friends did a prewedding newsletter after the invites went out. She did a UPDATES page header and put things like the bride was seen filling out her registry at Target and then we followed her to Kohls. The groom already has ice on his head and is praying for Tylenol. really cute little updates. Including a current pic of the location, map and directions to the church and reception, it was VERY Cute. Nothing a little word program can't perform!

I personally am only registering at one place and that is Target. We have a wide range of incomes coming to the wedding. Also a wide range of incomes that have told me they probably can not make the trip but still want to send a gift. So, I figure target has high quality stuff and I literally went from $5 items to $200 items. That way people have a coice.

Also, what to give, absolutely, if your friends like to scrapbook, listen to the things they say they want. Go for a trip to the scrapbooking store. If you don't scrapbook then ask their advice(re; hey which cutting sytstem do you use....there is always refills and stuff that are always good to have on hand. Get them one of those little bags to carry stuff in (tool bags that are pretty) and fill it up with some cute stuff you found. They will probably want to do a page or two of your wedding so give them some stickers and stuff. It is a personal gift. It doesn't have to be a oh you are in my bridal party and you will all like this same necklace. Set a price amount and then think of each person and give them something personal. That would mean more than giving a necklace to someone that doesn't wear jewelry. Just a thought on that part.

I know that some people have done registrations for items they will need for their honey moon and some honeymoon locations allow people to buy like an afternoon of scuba diving day trips or dinner for two or whatever. So I would check your location and see if they offer that. Then when you tell people say, these are some things we would love to try on our honey moon. You can help us on our honey moon by contacting blah. So I mean it has been done. I have seen it just not often. I think that is why a lot of people give cash to help you have fun on your honey moon.

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10/6/08 9:32 A

good idea cah. the more i think about it my 2 friends who got married a few years ago. the one is divorced now...but they had little cards in there invitations. i think might do that. i know reg. at khols defintaly bc that is myu danger store i LOVE that store. and not sure for the second one. idk if just to reg. for honeymoon thing or idk.....its like a part of me wants to do that and another part of me is like, wll i love opening up gifts so idk.....(i know i am like a lil kid still lol). i was thinking about doing it sometime this month to reg. at kohls. its been crazy this past weekend and gong to be for the next week bc my hubby to bes dad and gf/fiancee are up here from florida and its like they want us to do stuff with them all the time. and its like hello, he works he cant afford to take off bc the next vacatio is our honeymoon. and his cousin keeps asking him to take off. (my moh). and plus had my dog up here this past weekend. so its crazy.

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10/5/08 11:01 A

You know, although that it's been bad etiquette to put the registry info in the invitations, it seems that almost everyone now is doing it. Yes, it can be offensive to some, but can you imagine work of mouth? That just puts lot more pressure on your guests to have to search around trying to find out who knows where you're registered at, etc, etc.

I think what we might do is just add it onto a little card that we'll have directions printed on. We're only registered at one place so I don't think it'll be like listing a bunch of places and begging for gifts. I think it just makes it easier on everyone.

I definitely don't want to be tacky though, so hopefull this works well.

As for when to register, you can really do it anytime before your shower. From experience (we're 3.5 months out right now) I'd do it sooner than later just to get it done with. It's something that doesn't take researching, etc and you can just go and do it. It's just one more thing to get out of the way because the sooner you get to your wedding the more you're going to have to get done that is WAY more important than gift registry.

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9/29/08 12:47 P

true....i know that a few of my relatives dont nkow how to use a computer or dont have one. i can always do both. i love the knot website. that is where i used for my one friend who got married back in august. ill still put notes in the invitations....i heard of that oriental trading. they have some cute stuff there. i got some ideas from that site.....ill have to check that out again and also google them....thanks bcoop!!! one last ?, when should we like start? i was thinkin bout doing it in something in october....wonder if should get me, my h2b, moh, and one bm to come along?......ill have to keep that thought in mind.

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9/29/08 9:31 A

Registries are a really tough issue for a lot of people. Instead of putting a note in the invitation saying where the registries are (a lot of older guests will find this really offensive), put in a note directing people to your wedding website (you can make one through the knot or other similar sites pretty easily) where you can list all of your registry info. It's also great for out-of-town guests and people who lose invitations.

As for favors and escort cards, take a look at the oriental trading company (just google it), they have a huge amount of little toys and gifts that you can get pretty cheaply to match any theme.

Best of luck!

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9/28/08 11:09 A

TURTLECML04 instead of putting the registry information on the invitations why don't you put a note in the invites so that people know where you are registered. Since I live in Bermuda my registry will be here, all my family and a lot of my close friends will be flying in for the wedding. My wedding shower will only include the people that live here so the others will not be able to attend the bridal shower. I know they will want to take care of the wedding gift before they arrive on the island so like TURTLECML04 I will be putting the registry information in the invites for my overseas guests. They'll have more things to think about while they are here I don't want anyone feeling they have to run around the island trying to get their gifts sorted. I want them laying on the beach and drinking before and after the wedding.

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9/27/08 9:30 P

One is not supposed to send the registry information with the invitation. Registry information is supposed to be by word of mouth.

The person that hosts your bridal shower, can put the registry information in the shower invitations. Since the purpose of that party is to shower you and you FH with presents.

In the invites is an absolute etiquette no-no!

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9/27/08 11:40 A

I can't imagine waiting until a few months before the wedding. I'm sending the information for my registry with my invitations so that I can ensure all of the guests receive it in advance notice.

I love the horseshoe idea and there's tons of places to order wedding favors with a horseshoe theme. It'd fit in really well with your wedding theme and it has a good meaning.

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9/26/08 7:24 P

thats what i thought six months, the lady that i talked to at kohls seemed snooty and she was like it doesnt matter u can do it anytime as long as its few months before your wedding. hmm the horseshoe idea sounds cool.

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9/26/08 3:53 P

I think you should start to register about 6 months in advance or prior to whenever you send the invitations. It's easiest to let people know where you are registered when you send the invites. As for wedding favors, you could do something based on horse shoes since they signify good luck :)

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9/26/08 2:38 P

hellos i just have two ?s i am having a western theme wedding and have no clue what to give out as favors. i nkow that we are putting disp. cameras with our nicknames and wedding date on table so that people can take pics when our photographes cant take anyone have any ideas? also when should we start doing the gift registrys? i know kohls is one registry, but would like to do linen and things but with the way the stupid economy is going i heard that linen and things might go under. idk if the last one is true or not. when would be a good time to start? our wedding six months and idk how many days. (4-25-09). also what are some good gift ideas to give to the person who would be passing out the programs and the bubbles? i have a idea on what to give the flower girls....debating back and forth on the bms. a part of me wants to give them necklaces with there first name engraved, but two of them are my best friends......plus they both like scrapbooking stuff and idk if that would be retarded giving them that stuff. my moh loves lab stuff so idk bout that.....arghh! also who would buy the bride to be stuff? (for me would be a robe and also a cowgirl bride to be hat( is that me or does someone else do that? ok i feel retarded for asking these questions hope someone can help a frazzled lil bit bride to be help!