I've heard alterations/tailors can bring dresses down 2 sizes and if you buy a dress with a corset back then you probably don't need to worry at all. (I love them corset dresses).
I hated dress shopping-- I don't like that the stores I went to had sample sizes that were 6's and 8's and I am an 18 in wedding dress sizes (whoever said it below me-- you're right! You'd think they make every thing 2 sizes smaller to make us feel good. Lol). ANd I didn't find much i liked in 3 stores....
BUT I FOUND MY CROWNING GLORY! Hallelujah! I tell ya' once you find the one it's like finding your soul mate again! I am so excited for my dress. It's just motivation to get healthy/sexy (not for the wedding; for the honeymoon. My handsome loves me no matter what and being healthy and ready to live with him is what matters-- the sexy is all for me though. Let's not lie).
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1/26/12 2:28 P
I agree with the previous poster: try on a lot of different syles of dresses. There are so many beautiful dresses out there; find the one that makes you feel beautiful and confident.
I am not completely comfortable with my body, and wanted to lose weight before I went dress shopping, but I didn't have too much time. I made appointments at three different places, and went. At all three places, I found at least 2 dresses that completely flattered me. The hardest part was deciding which one I like the most. Totally not what I expected to happen.
And I also agree to order the dress the size you are that day. You never know what will come up or how your body will be shaped after losing weight/where it will come off. It's easier to take a dress in (and I've heard they can typically be taken in up to two sizes...but I don't know that from experience, just rumor) than to try to work yourself silly trying to get down another size(s) by a certain date.
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1/18/12 11:55 A
Finding the perfect wedding dress is hard for anyone and I know how hard it can be when you are not comfortable with your body. From personal experience and experience with my wedding photography clients, the one thing you don't want to do is order a dress that is too small. Even though you want to lose weight before the wedding, each one of our bodies react differently to the stress of planning a wedding and the idea that you are about to get married. I have seen more than a few brides have to purchase last minute gowns because they ordered too small and the alterations can't be made. It is a lot easier for a seamstress to take a dress in and very difficult for them to let one out.
Go in and be confident in the love that your fiance has for you. Find a dress that you feel beautiful in, it sounds scary but it is possible!! Find a dress that shows your curves in all the right places and hides what you are self concious about. Take time and try on different styles. It is often a style you thought you wouldn't like that looks amazing! Whatever you do have fun with the experience.
"Decide that you want it more than you are afraid of it" ~ Bill Cosby
I think that if you go now and find the style that looks good on your body and can ignore the size when you go in, then you could hold off ordering if possible.
But again, if you order it at that size, and then lose weight, no big deal. Think about how happy you'll be when the alterations person says we have to take it in here, and here, and here! So what if the little tag says a bigger size? You know that they made it smaller to fit your body!
Truthfully you need about 8 months to make sure the dress comes in and can be altered. Also don't worry about the size believe me. I worried about the size and I was a 16 ordered a size 18 because they told me it would only be too small in the waist at that size and I should have ordered a 20 because the 18 didn't fit. I felt huge when I knew I wasn't because wedding dresses run a 2 size difference. I said that it should be 2 sizes smaller then bigger to make women feel better about themselves not worse. Don't worry you will be beautiful and it will be a wonderful day.
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1/6/12 4:45 P
I'm in the same boat! My fiancÚ and I got engaged over the holidays and I am not looking forward to dress shopping. I am not happy with where I am at with my weight and just want to look and feel my best for one of the happiest days of my life. I am trying to see the light at the end of the tunnel and stay positive and motivated. Good luck we WILL be gorgeous!
I'm so glad I'm not the only one with this fear. I've been dreading going into the store. I'm going to put it off for as long as I can (maybe a month more) and work out every day/eat right/all that stuff. Hopefully by then I'll at least be down a dress size so I won't look so huge in this big white thing.
I'm not giving up. I want to look as hot/gorgeous/stunning to everyone else as my SO thinks I am.
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12 1/2/12 11:56 A
Hey I am in a similiar situation as you as I am engaged to be married on the 3rd August 2013 and the one part I am dreading and not looking forward to is dress hunting, I have had issues with my weight since I was ten (now I am 31) and really worried that people are right who say i will only let myself down if i don;t lose the weight for the wedding. Before falling ill I weighed a healthy 8st 12 lbs - 4 months later after being in hospital for ten weeks following a nervous breakdown I pilled the weight on and went to just over 15st and uk size 24 which was big for my 5ft 1 frame. Prior to this i had always been between a uk 10 -12 and had a tiny of waist of 24 inches when I wore a specially made corset for my graduation ball. I remember feeling the most amazing that night of the graduation ball and would love to feel that amazing on our wedding day especially when I am going to marry the man of my dreams. I have lost some weight in the past 6 years and I now currently weigh 13stone however, in the past 2 years I have not really put my mind to it and now my weight has stayed stuck at the same weight for a while. I would love to lose just over 4 stone in time for the wedding, however I am very nervous and scared about how I will achieve this succesfully in time for the most special day. It is very daunting and a challenge that I am scared of if i am honest as it seems like a lot of lbs to lose. I really hope I do not let myself down in this challenge and hope that this time next year I will have ordered my dream dress, whatever it may be and looking forward to spending the rest of our lives together
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12/19/11 11:33 A
Just wanted to see how you were doing.
Personally I would not recommend ordering a dress in a smaller size. Weddings are so stressful. (Helped a couple friends and family plan their wedding.) When it is coming down to the wire, the last thing that you need to worry about is that your dress doesn't fit. And you have to get it altered. Which is expensive. Or that you will have to get another dress that you don't like as much as the first one you picked
I just bought my wedding dress a couple weeks ago. I plan to still drop another 25 lbs before my wedding so what I did was try on dresses and pick one that suited me and then bought it one size smaller. The other option was to find the dress I love and then wait until I dropped a few more pounds and then buy it then at my current size. Your body type will not change, only your size. So if it suits you now, it will suit you then.
12/3/11 2:11 P
Congrats!! Don't worry about your dress. The size doesn't matter, you will find something that makes you sparkle! Just find something that makes you feel confident.
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11/30/11 2:20 P
all the comments here are helpful...my wedding will be in May and im renting my dress becuase we really dont have the money for me to spend....keeping the dress for me isnt a big deal so this option is ok for me...because of this factor about renting my dress i cant alter it with sawing or anything so im having to wait until end of march beging of April to get my dress....it will be picked out but the size is what im worried about...i have went and tried on dresses and at that time i was a size 16 in the dress but iv gained weight since then...im also afraid of the bigger size and the way it will look....i want a strapless dress and iv noticed that because of my weight gain i look bigger around the shoulders...
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11/10/11 1:52 P
Hello everyone! I'm so glad I found this forum. I am new on Sparks, and my boyfriend and I are starting to talk on wedding plans. I am happy and worried at the same time. I really want that day to be the best! but i don't want to buy a size 18 wedding dress. I need to lose 20 k (45 pounds).
PumpkinSparks first of all congratulations for your wedding! I'ld recommend to wait a little. Set a short goal like loosing a size, so you can go and try on your first dresses as a prize.
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We've been married civilly for 7 years and will be doing a Church wedding on Oct 27, 2012 on our 8th wedding anniversary. I haven't started looking for dresses either, but was planning to start in January after the holidays and by everyone's comments, that seems about right and hopefully I'll loose a few more lbs from now until then.
I went shopping for my dress 8 months prior, dress came in 3 months prior & is completely altered 2 months out. How do you feel about clothes shopping now? I found it really wasn't different than that; you try on a size and it may be too big, some will look great, others won't look right. If you're okay with shopping now, no worries on the wedding dress shopping. You have time though to lose some weight prior to dress shopping. The other thing to remember is that the dress is ordered for your biggest measurement and then taken in and hemmed as needed. Order for the size you are when you order your dress; don't go smaller. It's easier to take a dress in as needed and it will ease your worries about losing cause you know it'll fit.
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9/26/11 4:04 P
I bought my gown from a seller on eBay and found that it was 4 sizes too small (thankfully as it motivates me to get into it) and it is a beautiful gown. This is already a stress filled time so try to enjoy this one part of it. I hope you find something that you life and will not need much alterations.
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384 9/26/11 11:26 A
If you want to gain some momentum with your weight loss before you start shopping, you've got plenty of time. I bought my dress in January for a May wedding, and that left me plenty of time for alterations. Congrats on your engagement! :)
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9/25/11 10:43 P
I am engaged to be married Next Oct. 2012. and today is the first day I logged onto sparks. I was wondering when I should consider going wedding dress shopping? I am so scared that I will go and be disappointed at what I see in the mirror that I won't want to go back and will have ruined the whole experience. I know I have some time to loose and reach my goal and search for the dress...but the fear is there and I was hoping someone had some advice.
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