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ASHAIXIM
Posts: 2,611
4/14/13 6:58 P

Tiffany, you are working out which means you are building muscle which, spacewise, weighs more than fat... so have you measured yourself lately? you may find you have lost inches without weight. also, if you are working out too much or eating too little that can cause stalls in your loss. You may also be reacting to something in your diet... are you eating something a lot (frequently)? Or something maybe new? I can't eat a lot of things and lose weight and there may be a trigger for you... maybe power bars, breakfast shakes, too much dairy... just some things to consider. :)



KIM___
Posts: 278
4/14/13 2:10 P

Tiffany,

I feel oftentimes people don't notice weight loss. I think it's because they like/love you regardless and the weight isn't something they find noteworthy. You are you to them no matter what.

I don't always notice co-worker's weight loss quickly. Usually when I do finally notice it's after a significant amount of weight. I feel bad for not saying something nice sooner, but then I don't like saying, 'I notice you lost weight. You look really good,' b/c I feel it implies I didn't think they looked good before.

I wouldn't take your family's lack of 'notice' as a bad thing. They just love you no matter what.



SEATTLE58
Posts: 4,734
4/14/13 10:32 A

I hear you, I feel that my story is alot like yours. I've lost 67 pounds with SP and before and since November, I've put 12 pounds back on! And since November, I've started on first one strong med. for my Rheumatoid Arthritis and then another strong med. because the first one wasn't working and now this one hasn't kicked in either and yet I've been gaining weight. One gal here on SP said that she was gaining a pound a day on the strong RA med., and I've done some research and people say that they're gaining weight on it, so yippee! It IS so frustrating and yet I know that I can't give up. That would be the worst thing to do! I've done that in the past and all I've done is gain more and more weight! We will perservere and we will overcome this! We can with all the help we can get here at SP! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon



BECCAAPPLE
SparkPoints: (7,529)
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Posts: 33
4/13/13 5:18 P

Please don't give up.... YOU CAN DO THIS!! all of us here on Spark have had struggles of some sort or another . Your story is similar to mine I too was on repo provera and had weight issues I went to see my endo after years of not being able to lose weight and found that I had developed cushings syndrome and through doing researched have discovered that MANY MANY MANY women whom have used repo as a means of birth control now have cushings. I would suggest that if you continue to struggle go see an endo there just may be a reason for all the issues. WE are all here for you please don't hate on yourself... you have so many good things that YOU HAVE ACCOMPLISHED such as those beautiful children... and nothing ugly or any other negative term could create those precious children RIGHT?



SMANISMELL
SparkPoints: (62,052)
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Posts: 724
4/13/13 4:26 P

I have also hit a plateau. Last year I did well and lost 48 pounds. Then I lost my job at the end of the year and gained back about 9 pounds. I am struggling to lose this weight. It is just not coming off. I joined the YMCA and signed up with a personal trainer and I have added 30 minutes of cardio to my basic 30 minute cardio routine. I weigh in next week and I hope to see some results. When they did my initial measurements, I was told that I am 49% fat. That is extremely disheartening. I am trying to remain positive, but there are times when I too feel fat and ugly, which in turn makes me feel unwanted. I am in a good place with the exercise, but I need to work on my eating. I am not eating healthy and I have not been tracking everyday, so if I have not lost any weight, I will know why. I have learned that if you are doing things right, with time you will see results. Just do not give up on yourself.



NANADEE44
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4/13/13 3:51 P

Plateaus happen to all of us and some of those plateaus seem to last much longer than others. With every weight loss attempt I ever in my life made, I could almost predict the exact weight that my body would "come to rest" for a while, before it would adjust and a few more pounds would suddenly drop off.

I almost always found that it was when I made slight changes that the weight came off. I exercised at a different time of the day, or I did something totally out of the "norm" for my exercise. If my body was accustomed to our daily walks, I would dance around the kitchen for 15-20 minutes to a favorite CD, or pop an exercise DVD in and shake up my routine.

I watched carefully what I was eating, but not always writing everything down and not always weighing and measuring everything. 1/2 cup after a while looks pretty familiar, but is it truly 1/2 cup two weeks later when I fail to measure it? Not always, so that habit is one that I'm not breaking this time around. I measure everything!

Put your scale on the highest shelf in the house and don't look at it for at least a week. Weighing myself every day, sometimes like you, more than once a day is one of the biggest mistakes I was making. My psyche was affected much more than my body, because that scale was not reading like I wanted it to read. Now I weigh only once a week, but only because I'm involved in a challenge where I MUST weigh myself once a week to stay in the challenge. Before that, I had a promise to myself not to weigh for 2 weeks! It was hard at first, but after several successful losses, I found that putting the scale away and getting it out only once every 2 weeks was so much more rewarding. I may not have lost a lot of weight, but each time I stepped on the scale, my weight was down! I had never before experienced consistent losses in any other weight loss attempt.

Keep using the support system that you have here at Spark. I find that having other people experiencing some of the same highs and lows that I have experienced, gives m the encouragement I need to keep on "keeping on", track, that is!

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ARCHIMEDESII
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4/11/13 6:29 P

Tiffany !!

There is always hope ! I can't tell you how many years I was a yo yo dieter. Every single member of Spark has gone what you're going through. We're all experts at gaining, losing and regaining the weight. Well, that was the past. You can't change the past, but you can influence and change the future.

I give all new members one piece of advice and it's this,"Don't look at good health with an all or nothing attitude". if the only healthy thing you did for yourself was to drink 8 glasses of water today, that's still a step in the right direction.

Start with some simple changes first. Don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated. remember, you're trying to change habits learned over a life time. that's not going to happen overnight, a week, a month or even a year. Change takes time. That's why it's important to start with those simple changes.

Set some simple goals. Example, if you're not eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. If you're not drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. If you're not logging your food choices, start by logging your breakfast each day for one week. Once you've achieved these goals, then you set new ones.

People have a tendency to set goals which are too ambitious when they start out. Perhaps if you tried creating more reasonable goals, you may feel less overwhelmed. You should give yourself more credit for making good progress so far. I do feel you're being much too hard on yourself.

Change really does take time.





TIFFANYMARMON
Posts: 3
4/11/13 4:53 P

Nancy,

I'm doing cardio 50 min 3 times a week and 30 min strength training twice a week..i was only doing until my calories were done on the tracker but since my plateau I upped it. I would say they are both moderately intense..my heart rate gets on the higher side of my range. If I've changed anything so far its that I don't eat nearly as much or as frequently which is nice to be able to look at a plate and figure out if its too much or not as well as I've stopped my overeating. Which was probably a huge factor to start with. Sparkpeople suggested that with my calories in/out that I would be down to my goal by June..I don't see that happening. Would LOVE for it to but it won't. I've already made the healthy changes in my diet and cut out the junk food. And I've been able to play with my kids at the park and on the trampoline and going for walks and things that I couldn't do before in addition to my daily workouts.



BLUEEYESCANADA
Posts: 1,185
4/11/13 4:41 P

Please try not to get down on yourself. I know how hard it is to keep positive thoughts.

I would suggest you go back to the start. Measure & weigh your food again and keep a journal of what your eat. I find that this helps me when I have a bad week. I will go over what I ate and look at a week when I had a good loss and compare. Sometimes it is just hormones or that time of month gain for some.
I also found that exercise will sometimes add a pound or 2 and that is why measurements are so important.

Join a team's challenge and work with them (that is really helping me right now). Most teams will have some kind of challenge.
Most important is to keep in contact with your Sparkfriends. We are all here for the same reason. emoticon emoticon emoticon



SP_COACH_NANCY
SparkPoints: (158,833)
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Posts: 46,222
4/11/13 4:37 P

Hi Tiffany,

Hope is not lost. Weight loss, but more importantly fat loss, takes time. A few things I would recommend off the bat and that is to dump the diet pills and invest in a new scale--or at least get this one calibrated.

That being said, you don't mention what type of exercise you are doing, how long, how frequently and how intensely? Remember though regardless of when you reach your weight loss goal, you are always going to have to follow a healthy diet and participate in some form of exercise. So using this time to find healthy foods that you can live with for the rest of your life, in addition to finding an activity that you love is what this is about. It's not about depriving ourselves, it's about making diet and exercise upgrades.

Be strong and hang in there!

Coach Nancy



TIFFANYMARMON
Posts: 3
4/11/13 4:27 P

I don't know how these things work but here's my story:
I started trying to lose weight in January. I was soo motivated and really ready to finally lose the weight that I've struggled with since my daughter was born in '05. I gained 50 pounds on the depo shot after she was born. All my efforts seemed useless as nothing changed. I had my son in '10 and lost some weight with him but it all came flooding back. I decided that this was my yr. I was gonna buckle down and get rid of all this nasty excess. As I said I started in January. Things were going great!! I actually lost some weight and kept it off for awhile!! I lost 15 pounds and 15 inches! I was stoked! Well last month I hit my plateau. And I've been stuck ever since. I still have at least 20-25 pounds to go and despite my efforts, changing routines, adding more weight, and even adding diet pills into my body, I've only lost 2 more pounds. It was just falling off in the beginning and now its taking weeks to lose the smallest amount. I'm frustrated and I look in the mirror and see a smaller person but when I see family for the first time since I started they don't say anything, don't notice. And I've been having problems with my scale. One day it says 1 thing and later that night it says i'm 10 pounds heavier! I just feel so defeated and frustrated and it seems impossible, like i'm supposed to be fat forever. Then I try and turn my attention to something else I can't fix, stretch marks. I've never had self image issues but today I absolutely cannot stand to look at myself. I feel disgusting and I don't know what to do.



 
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