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GLINDAGOODWITCH
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11/26/12 1:12 P

Hi! Maybe you are trying to change too many things at once. If you are used to eating and doing things a certain way for years and years you can't change things all at once. Try setting small closed ended goals. These goals have a means to an end. Like, how about drinking 3 glasses a day for lets say 5 days. This is very easy to accomplish. I know it doesn't seem like much but you will be surprised how empowering it will be once you accomplish it.

Try and avoid open ended goals. These goals are complex and there is basically no means to an end. For instance, lets say that you want to "Live a healthy Lifestyle". Take a look at this and think of all the things you will need to do in order to accomplish it. Stuff like, eating healthier, exercising, resting and so on. If you simply focus in on "eating healthier" think about how much you will need to do to accomplish it. You will have to eat fruits and veges, drink 8 glasses of water a day, exercise at least 3 days a week, eat certain foods in moderation. Now that you have this example think about how long you have been eating and doing things for years and years...... That's a heck of a long time to change things all at once.

Most of all, be good to yourself. Cut yourself some slack. You can't change it all in one day. Live in the moment. This isn't a race.

ALSO, REMEMBER TO SPARKLE YOUR BRIGHTEST SPARKING SPARKINESS!!

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DIDS70
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11/26/12 12:48 P

first question and the most important one i can ask-- why do you want to get healthy? Note, i did not specifically say lose weight. On this site that is a given. Now once you truly answer that question you will have the motivation and willpower that you need.

I have a 8 month old nephew and a new one on the way. he is my motivation. he is my willpower. I want him to know his aunty. I want him to remember an aunty that could play in the yard with him, twirl him around, ride bikes with etc. If i give in and have that bottle of coke my "friend" bought, then I am not seeing him as important and having something that is unhealthy and makes me feel guilty after consuming is more important than him. NOTHING is more important than my family.
If you can give into having a bottle of coke so easily, then you haven't really answered the question as to why you are on this journey.

Forgive me if I sound rude or mean. My doctor posed it exactly this way to me. We decided that I can't do it for myself because it just doesn't work. but if i bring in someone who needs me and I need them just as much, I can actually do it. So now when I am faced with a decision that contradicts my healthy lifestyle, I think of that adorable little face and me not being a part of his life. That is usually enough for me to do 5 more squats or put down the cookie or bottle of coke.

Throwing up is the worst thing you can do. Get that suggestion out of your head. Lived with a family member that did that and it messed that person up almost beyond repair. You make a mistake like that, suffer the guilt, then don't do it again. If you do, then you didn't learn anything in the first place and aren't ready to do this journey.

Sorry for sounding harsh, but I know you got it in you. You just need to tap into it and find it. I am not saying it will be easy and sometimes the junk will win out, but if the good stuff wins out more and more, you will be better for it.





FINDINGMYWAY5
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11/26/12 11:51 A

Each day I wake up and each day I tell myself this is the day I will have the motivation and the willpower to do this. I start off strong and do great until about three in the afternoon and then I try to eat everything in the kitchen and I seem to become this food crazed monster. I know I am not hungry yet I feel like I have to eat it! I do great all day about not drinking sodas until my boyfriend shows up with a bottle of coke and I suck it down like water. Then I am miserable, feeling like a failure, and want to make myself go throw up. I NEED HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I need a friend who will help to keep me motivated and help talk me out of these binges.



 
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